Sanctuary.

[Samandiriel]

This thread was inspired mainly by the Earl's "dirty little secret" thread.
It has become a sounding board for many to release some painful things in their lives. It is repentent, atonement and revelation unleashed.

I have seen the signs of many here who suffer from deeper pains.
Abuse at the hands of others or themselves.

This is not a thread to bring anyone down but to be a source of knowledge. We cannot heal alone.

We call ourselves 'writer's of smut' and we can take a lighthearted view of things and express ourselves sexually here...and that is wonderful in itself.
Truth of the matter is that there is a rampant amount of physical, sexual and emotional abuse that people deal with daily and some find no sanctuary.
Rape, incest, repression, vilolence, pornography....these are all realities that involve someone becoming a victim.....I wish to see them become survivors.


This is not a place for confession but information. Knowledge is power and the more we know the stronger we become.
If anyone has anything to share, please post it here.

I'm enclosing a link I find to have a vast amount of information to help people who have dealt with or are dealing with abuse.

Every human on this planet has the right to happiness and a life worth living. No one person should ever be allowed to take that away from you.

Sanctuary

Peace to all, in mind and body and soul.
Sam.

 

[AchtungNight]

I can't say too much here, I'm afraid. Many times in the past I've told truths about abuses I have suffered and not had them believed. Trust me, there is no greater way to make things worse.

 

[English Lady]

I hope some of these links will provide comfort

Note: links in this post are Christian links.

Bibleinfo.com:Abuse

Bible verses for comfort

 

[S-Des]

I can't say too much here, I'm afraid. Many times in the past I've told truths about abuses I have suffered and not had them believed. Trust me, there is no greater way to make things worse.

Agreed. Not being believed is the worst thing I can think of to do to someone.

 

[Matadore]

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Peace to all, in mind and body and soul.
Sam.

Thank you, Sam

 

[matriarch]

Women's Aid

Shelter - women's refuge

Women's Refuge UK

Battered Men

Women Empowered Against Violence

Leaving abusive relationships

The Samaritans

Rape Crisis

 

[Samandiriel]

I can't say too much here, I'm afraid. Many times in the past I've told truths about abuses I have suffered and not had them believed. Trust me, there is no greater way to make things worse.

This is one of the sad truths about abuse, the "abuser" sometimes becomes the victim because the manipulation is so good that no one would believe he/she is capable of doing such a thing.

This is why people need to understand abuse better so victims stop being victimized repeatedly.

One of the best books around is "Why does he do that" by Lundy Bancrofft. It brings light to how abusers think and why victims/survivors sometimes stay with them.

Please don't give up!

Thank you EL and Mat.

 

[Recidiva]

Hello Sam

Excellent idea.

 

[Samandiriel]

Hello Sam

Excellent idea.

Thank you.

We can no longer be silent.

 

[Recidiva]

Thank you.

We can no longer be silent.

Mm.

I haven't been silent, but I am definitely a pariah for it.

 

[Samandiriel]

Mm.

I haven't been silent, but I am definitely a pariah for it.

People need to know that some of us "get it".

 

[Recidiva]

People need to know that some of us "get it".

I definitely get it

You've always been one of the safest people for me to be with, your ability to get it is unsurpassed.

Sanctuary couldn't have a better caretaker.

 

[Samandiriel]

I definitely get it

You've always been one of the safest people for me to be with, your ability to get it is unsurpassed.

Sanctuary couldn't have a better caretaker.

Thank you Diva.

Its about being open and seeking answers and finding proper help. Its helping one to move on and up.

 

[English Lady]

abusedwomen.org(US site)


safe4all(US Site)

For abused men(US site)

abuse helpline numbers (UK)

Bullying advice (UK)

battered men(international)

I hope some of these links can help people

 

[ABSTRUSE]

abusedwomen.org(US site)


safe4all(US Site)

For abused men(US site)

abuse helpline numbers (UK)

Bullying advice (UK)

battered men(international)

I hope some of these links can help people

You rock.

 

[arienette]

People need to know that some of us "get it".

Thank you for this thread.

 

[mismused]

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[Recidiva]

Mismused, it made sense to me.

The core issue and the first step, for me, is almost always "trust" and "faith that someone will help you."

I didn't have any of these things for most of my life, so how do you do that for someone who has never had it?

That's the hardest part. How do you get someone to trust, first themselves?

Trust they way they feel, that they can change, that someone will help them?

 

[BlackShanglan]

It's not a resource in the traditional sense, and yet ... it's excellent in its own way.

Roddy Doyle: The Woman Who Walked Into Doors. It's a novel written from the first-person perspective of Paula, a woman who has lived in an abusive marriage. It's harrowing at times, but very powerful, deeply insightful, and ultimately uplifting.

As for me - I don't want to see them survive. I want to see them triumph. They will.

 

[mismused]

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[Recidiva]

Thank you, mismused.

My path is luckily well on her way. My husband is the person I trust above anyone I've ever met, but the road here wasn't easy. Third marriage. Luckily, charmed.

 

[soakersue]

my daughter

My daughter has found the womens center here where we live has one on one coundseling and group counseling available at no costs. It has helped alot in that the women there seem to have more specifically the same issues or are dealing with the same issues.

In our family counseling many things have come out.
1) It is normal for her to lash out, and subconsciously to blame me for not protecting her. I had to learn where the anger and attitude was coming from.
2) You have to decided to get on with what ever happiness you can find in life.
3) Others can not make you happy.

The mother of a surviving child abused by her Uncle.

 

[Samandiriel]

My daughter has found the womens center here where we live has one on one coundseling and group counseling available at no costs. It has helped alot in that the women there seem to have more specifically the same issues or are dealing with the same issues.

In our family counseling many things have come out.
1) It is normal for her to lash out, and subconsciously to blame me for not protecting her. I had to learn where the anger and attitude was coming from.
2) You have to decided to get on with what ever happiness you can find in life.
3) Others can not make you happy.

The mother of a surviving child abused by her Uncle.

women's centers are a blessing for so many women.
Thank you for sharing.

 

[mismused]

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[Samandiriel]

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As I said before, you have a lot in you. Now here is a place for you to give to someone else, you lucky girl. You're better suited to it, you know.

ETA: No response required so as not to threadjack. Let the thread do its work.

Thank you mismused for sharing and being so sweet.