Sanctuary.

[Guest]

When I was on campus I participated heavily in this organization.

Take Back The Night

 

[she_is_my_addiction]

This thread was inspired mainly by the Earl's "dirty little secret" thread.
It has become a sounding board for many to release some painful things in their lives. It is repentent, atonement and revelation unleashed.

I have seen the signs of many here who suffer from deeper pains.
Abuse at the hands of others or themselves.

This is not a thread to bring anyone down but to be a source of knowledge. We cannot heal alone.

We call ourselves 'writer's of smut' and we can take a lighthearted view of things and express ourselves sexually here...and that is wonderful in itself.
Truth of the matter is that there is a rampant amount of physical, sexual and emotional abuse that people deal with daily and some find no sanctuary.
Rape, incest, repression, vilolence, pornography....these are all realities that involve someone becoming a victim.....I wish to see them become survivors.


This is not a place for confession but information. Knowledge is power and the more we know the stronger we become.
If anyone has anything to share, please post it here.

I'm enclosing a link I find to have a vast amount of information to help people who have dealt with or are dealing with abuse.

Every human on this planet has the right to happiness and a life worth living. No one person should ever be allowed to take that away from you.

Sanctuary

Peace to all, in mind and body and soul.
Sam.

My mother has Narcicisstic Personality Disorder (among other things) and I've been misdiagnosed so many times....

 

[mismused]

delete

 

[AchtungNight]

Thanks to those who understood my feelings. I too give my sympathy to all here. Abuse is a terrible horrible thing I've dealt with many times in my writings and my life. It comes in many varied forms and is often like the hydra. It can also be what Nietszche was talking about when he mentioned fighting monsters and looking into the abyss. It is a great and terrible thing, one that is always bad. Yet good can be found in it if you react appropriately. Everything leads to growth. The task of the abused is to find that growth in themselves and then show it to others.

Great films for abused people: The Accused, Jay & Silent Bob Strike Back, Mortal Kombat, Eye For an Eye, and every film that has inspired my stories. I'd list the latter, but it's one heck of a long list you can just as easily see by reading. Trust me, there are better films on that list than the four I named here.

 

[Aurora Black]

When I was on campus I participated heavily in this organization.

Take Back The Night

When I was finishing college (the first time), I did my internship here.

HAVEN

 

[Nirvanadragones]

I offer a poem

Sanctuary `Anon

Below the moonlit pearls,
nature sings its song.
He dances,
She dances
To the music of the stars.
To the music of Sanctuary.
They are both in flowing white
like clouds drifting in the sky.
The angels of the celestial skies.
He is a white butterfly.
She is sea foam.
White lilies under the rainbow stars.
The wind,
the stars,
the quasars,
the cosmos.
Male with hair like honey pouring from a jar.
Eyes of sapphire horizons.
A marble statue created by a god.
Female with hair like a bushel of crimson roses.
Eyes like trees in a dark forest.
They are pure white gold.
They are stars that shine forever.


Thank you for your gentle compassion, and understanding, Sam... we will heal together

 

[ABSTRUSE]

Bumps.

 

[Samandiriel]

Thanks Abs.

 

[arienette]

When I was on campus I participated heavily in this organization.

Take Back The Night

That is an amazing organization. I went to the last one they had here in town and it was a very empowering evening. I got up the courage to talk and while yes, it was insanely scary, especially knowing some of the people around me who knew of nothing I had went through years ago when they were going to school with me, I felt so much better after it. Like I had been given a piece of my life back.

 

[Samandiriel]

Love tap.

 

[ABSTRUSE]

Bumping

 

[Nirvanadragones]

National Domestic Violence Hotline

For whomever might need it

 

[Guest]

 

[cloudy]

Something all of us can do.

Donate a used cell phone to Call To Protect.

I just got a new phone last week...printing out the mailing label right now.

 

[ABSTRUSE]

things we must not ignore

 

[English Lady]

A list of webrings on survuiving abuse

 

[arienette]

After the Silence
A forum for survivors of rape and sexual abuse.

I used to be a heavy poster on that forum, but haven't posted there in quite some time; I do, however, still read it. It has helped me in more ways I can explain and if you find yourself in need of a few caring ears, you should try that place out. There's also categories for silly stuff, because life after sexual abuse doesn't have to revolve around it anymore.

 

[Samandiriel]

For men

 

[Samandiriel]

for the S/M community

 

[rgraham666]

For men

I was prepared to like this one, having been smacked a couple of times when I was married.

Unfortunately, on scanning it, it strikes me as an example of 'What you resist, you become'.

It seemed to be mostly men bitching about how feminism is responsible for men being battered. Much like 'feminists' blame the 'patriarchy' for men battering women.

Neither is true. The causes in both cases are deeper and more complex than this.

 

[Samandiriel]

I was prepared to like this one, having been smacked a couple of times when I was married.

Unfortunately, on scanning it, it strikes me as an example of 'What you resist, you become'.

It seemed to be mostly men bitching about how feminism is responsible for men being battered. Much like 'feminists' blame the 'patriarchy' for men battering women.

Neither is true. The causes in both cases are deeper and more complex than this.

Hmmmm, didn't really look through it but wanted to let the guys know they are included.

 

[SEVERUSMAX]

Only physical abuse, and only at the hands of a teacher as a child in my case. I have alluded to that already in the other thread. Other pains dwarf mine and make me reluctant to mention it too much, not wanting to compare mine with theirs.

Well, actually, there was one bizarre incident that may have been a subtle form of molestation. A teacher had me sit on the floor with my head facing his crotch. It might not have been deliberate, but it made me more than a little uncomfortable. I was 10 years at the time, I think. Since this was the same teacher who physically abused me, that is another factor that makes me wonder about it.

 

[arienette]

Other pains dwarf mine and make me reluctant to mention it too much, not wanting to compare mine with theirs.

After speaking with my therapist about this topic in particular she gave me some very valuable advice.

Do not think like that at all. You were abused in some form or another and it has affected your life and it takes time to heal from that. Don't compare your pain to others because you will never really heal completely if you continue to demean your own feelings. Know what you have been through, think about it - "shit in your shit", as she likes to put it and then go from there about how you can heal from it completely, to where your life is no longer affected by it on such a dramatic level. Then and only then will you have personal freedom.

I don't know how much of that applies to you, but you get the point and I hope it has helped at least a little bit.

 

[Huckleman2000]

My mother has Narcicisstic Personality Disorder (among other things) and I've been misdiagnosed so many times....

NPD is such a horrible thing to deal with in someone you're bound with. I worked for an employer with it for nine months before I got fired, and it was the most bizarre working experience of my life. One of my colleagues had a stock explanation for his behavior - "Up is down and green is blue."

 

[SEVERUSMAX]

After speaking with my therapist about this topic in particular she gave me some very valuable advice.

Do not think like that at all. You were abused in some form or another and it has affected your life and it takes time to heal from that. Don't compare your pain to others because you will never really heal completely if you continue to demean your own feelings. Know what you have been through, think about it - "shit in your shit", as she likes to put it and then go from there about how you can heal from it completely, to where your life is no longer affected by it on such a dramatic level. Then and only then will you have personal freedom.

I don't know how much of that applies to you, but you get the point and I hope it has helped at least a little bit.

I appreciate that. I just felt like it was mild and I wasn't sure that it should have been mentioned. Perhaps I needed a swift kick in the ass about that self-doubt.