I am curious. How many people here have sadistic or masochistic desires/tendencies? I don't mean those who like a mild spanking or heavy nipple stimulation, but those who crave/desire pain, either receiving or providing?
I am also interested in whether those of you who have this desire, still deal with guilt about your desires, and if you do, how do you deal with the guilt?
I am aware that, although my s/m desires are mild, I still want deniablity. In other words, I like being able to say that I don't need s/m in my sex life, it just adds spice occasionally. I am interested in learning how those of you who need pain in your sex lives deal with the guilt that must, surely, hit sometimes.
My partner is not a masochist, and sometimes I wonder if my s/m desires would grow stronger if I were with someone who was.
I am also interested in whether those of you who have this desire, still deal with guilt about your desires, and if you do, how do you deal with the guilt?
I am aware that, although my s/m desires are mild, I still want deniablity. In other words, I like being able to say that I don't need s/m in my sex life, it just adds spice occasionally. I am interested in learning how those of you who need pain in your sex lives deal with the guilt that must, surely, hit sometimes.
My partner is not a masochist, and sometimes I wonder if my s/m desires would grow stronger if I were with someone who was.