Riding your guy

[sexi-n-thick]

I know this might sound lame , but could somebody give me some pointers on "riding my guy"? I mean I mount up on him and like just freezes up. My guy seems not to care that he has to do the work but I'm just self-conscious about it. Any pointers??

 

[bisexplicit]

So, the real question is, why do you freeze?

Do you feel self concious? Are you afraid you might hurt him if you move too much in a certain direction?

 

[TBKahuna123]

Bi's right, that is the big question. Why do you freeze up?

I gotta tell ya, there's nothing sexier than a woman on top, taking charge, looking into your eyes with fiery lust and that "I'm gonna rip you apart" stare. If you are subconscious about being in control, don't be. We like it! If your boyfriend didn't, he wouldn't let you get on top in the first place.

If it's a question of "I don't know what to do", that's easy. Just use whatever movements make YOU feel good. This position really is all about the woman, IMNSHO, at least when it comes to physical sensation. For us guys I think it's more the view we appreciate. Plus just about anything feels good to us.

 

[ggoof]

hi sexi,

well this is probably better answered by some of the girls here on lit, but here are the 2 cents from a male point of view.

I think you should just try different ways of moving and see what you like best. There is really no "right" and "wrong" here. Straddeling him and moving up and down is an easy one to start. While this is fun it's probably not going to give you much clit stimulation. If you want more action on the clit you can try to tilt your pelvis towards him while moving. That increases the pressure one the clit, but here you've got to see how bendable his family jewels are. It can start to hurt if you bend it too much, but hell most likely let you know before. Circular motions can also be fun.

Basically just try it out. If you're afraid to hurt him ask him to give you feedback.

Good luck and have fun

 

[chinalady]

Hi there. I know how you feel. My fiancee is my first. I used to get self conscious too because I was worried about how I might look (i.e. what if he thinks I'm fat or my breasts are too small...stuff like that) or that I might not be doing it right.
But that changed...and riding my guy is one of my favorite positions now. I guess it took time.
Everything TBK said is right. My guy thinks it's sexy when he sees me on top of him.
Sometimes when I move up and down on top of him, I ask him to play with my clit. That usually feels good. But I usually like it when I lie on top and rock my hips slowly.
I don't really know what you prefer but it helps to try out any movement that makes you feel good and decide which is best for you.
Good luck. Hope this sorda helps.

 

[SaraClarisse]

It might help to lean forward so you're on all fours part of the time. (Your hands on the bed near his shoulders, and your calves to either side of his hips and thighs.) Then you can rock backward and forward or up and down on his cock as it pleases you.

This will take a lot of the strain off your legs if you don't have Thighs of Steel. And your clit might rub against him more easily, which could be arousing for you. And guys often find it sexy to have your breasts brush their chest, or for you to lean down while you're riding them so your nipple is at their lips for sucking.

If you ride him in a more upright position, you'll both have easy access to your clit...don't be afraid to touch yourself while you're riding him. See if that helps you go wild.

In an upright position you can also grab the headboard above him to steady yourself, and give yourself more leverage for riding. And it can feel sexy when your breasts bounce.

I'm not sure what you mean about him doing the work. In this position, I think the woman does a lot of the work. But one of the advantages is that she can do it in a way that pleases her in terms of speed, angle, and depth of penetration.

Which isn't to say that he might not grab your hips when he gets excited, to help you ride him harder and faster.

 

[blondi84]

So, the real question is, why do you freeze?

Do you feel self concious? Are you afraid you might hurt him if you move too much in a certain direction?

I have that same problem, and for me I think that I am just self concious about how I move. Also he is tall, like 6' something, and I am 5'4", so there is an awkwardness if I try and lean over to kiss him, ect. Any advice would be great here too.

 

[ravenous_os]

I know this might sound lame , but could somebody give me some pointers on "riding my guy"? I mean I mount up on him and like just freezes up. My guy seems not to care that he has to do the work but I'm just self-conscious about it. Any pointers??

I'd like more details. Is he too large that you're afraid to move? If so, then I would lean closer to his chest while riding. Have him grab your ass and help you move up and down or do some grinding. God, that feels good!

 

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[ravenous_os]

This is my new favorite thread

Oh, do explain why. I like a lot of details. You know, a lot of dirty talk.

 

[ggoof]

And guys often find it sexy to have your breasts brush their chest, or for you to lean down while you're riding them so your nipple is at their lips for sucking.

Oh boy are you right about this. It is so haawwwtt!!!!!

 

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[slipfreak46]

It might help to lean forward so you're on all fours part of the time. (Your hands on the bed near his shoulders, and your calves to either side of his hips and thighs.) Then you can rock backward and forward or up and down on his cock as it pleases you.

This will take a lot of the strain off your legs if you don't have Thighs of Steel. And your clit might rub against him more easily, which could be arousing for you. And guys often find it sexy to have your breasts brush their chest, or for you to lean down while you're riding them so your nipple is at their lips for sucking.

If you ride him in a more upright position, you'll both have easy access to your clit...don't be afraid to touch yourself while you're riding him. See if that helps you go wild.

In an upright position you can also grab the headboard above him to steady yourself, and give yourself more leverage for riding. And it can feel sexy when your breasts bounce.

I'm not sure what you mean about him doing the work. In this position, I think the woman does a lot of the work. But one of the advantages is that she can do it in a way that pleases her in terms of speed, angle, and depth of penetration.

Which isn't to say that he might not grab your hips when he gets excited, to help you ride him harder and faster.

I love it when you take charge. I love it when you talk like that.

 

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[TBKahuna123]

And ladies, if you have long hair let it fall all over him.

OK I'm now convinces. Scalywag and I are twins seperated at birth!

 

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[slipfreak46]

I like to hold his arms back and take control but then I also like it when he's grabbing every part of me. It all depends on my mood.

God, I'm getting all excited just talking about this. I can't wait to see him! I'm ready to attack!

Sometimes my wife pins my hands between her thighs and mine. Leaves her hands free to roam and I am totally at her mercy (and hoping she shows none)

 

[Eilan]

Good suggestions here. I know it's easier said than done when you're nervous and inexperienced with something like this, but try to relax. Pretty much anything you do will feel good to your guy. Just try to make sure that there's some kind of rhythm to what you're doing, though you can change pace.

A note of caution, though: don't get overzealous and start bouncing too roughly.

I like being on top, but sometimes I have to change the position of my legs because it hurts my knees. My hubby goes crazy when I put my feet up over his shoulders (almost like I'm sitting). I like pinning his wrists to the bed with my hands and then leaning over so that my breasts are just out the reach of his mouth. Of course, that usually gets me in trouble.

 

[SaraClarisse]

Sometimes my wife pins my hands between her thighs and mine. Leaves her hands free to roam and I am totally at her mercy (and hoping she shows none)

Hmm...now there's an intriguing idea...will file it away for one of my more "dominant" days.

 

[TBKahuna123]

I like pinning his wrists to the bed with my hands and then leaning over so that my breasts are just out the reach of his mouth. Of course, that usually gets me in trouble.

See my wife likes to try and smother me with hers until I'm gasping for breath and tapping out like a wrestler in crossface chickenwing.

not that I'm complaining, mind you.

 

[human_male]

Ya'll shouldn't worry or be self conscious about how you look. You'll look awesome. Just get up there and let yourself go. No guy in the world is going to be laying there while you're bouncing up and down on him, tits in his face and say "no sorry, this just isn't working for me. You just look silly."

 

[covariant]

Good suggestions here. I know it's easier said than done when you're nervous and inexperienced with something like this, but try to relax. Pretty much anything you do will feel good to your guy.

You said it! Just relax and do whatever feels good to you, he'll cum sooner or later (probably sooner). I like it when my woman arches her back and sticks her tits out, but maybe that's just me

Fun stuff!

 

[blondi84]

So my newest trick is to lean way back when on top, and hold onto his legs behind me. Sometimes I go to far back though. My husband is not mr. bendy.