Restraints And Old Injuries

[BiBunny]

I did a search on this topic and didn't really come up with anything in particular, but if it's been covered before, I apologize. (/end disclaimer)

Let me give you just a little background first. I show horses, and last June, I managed to take a flying leap from the back of a very tall, quickly moving horse. Needless to say, the landing was quite painful, and I dislocated my right shoulder. Since then, I've had an ungodly amount of trouble with it, as it likes to jump around in the socket and partially dislocate with only the slightest pressure on the wrong part of it.

Anyway, there is a point to this story! I met a very interesting man recently, and we've decided to play together. It'll be the first scene I've done since the initial injury. I've told him about it, of course, and we've been trying to think of ways that I can be restrained safely without causing more injury to this shoulder of mine. I tend to struggle when bound, and I'm afraid that I might accidentally hurt myself. We've decided that tying my hands behind my back will probably work pretty well, since my shoulder comes out forward and down instead of backward and up. Other than that, though, I haven't been able to think of anything else that would work well, although, admittedly, I don't know nearly as much about restraint as he does, or as all of you do! So that's why I'm asking for everyone's help. Got any advice for me? Thanks.

 

[Kierae]

I have had both shoulders replaced and re-replaced and have found the safest way for restraints is to have the arms restrained to your sides tucked next to your body. You can figure out a way to rig up a waist type restraint (versus buying them). If you are wiggler type, having them bound behind or away from the body will be more prone to difficulties. If you are having any type of pain, being told not to move by your Dom/me is pretty damn effective too.

~kierae

 

[incubus'_sub]

Good on you for being so sensible. Nothing, I repeat, nothing, will turn you off faster than unwanted pain from an old injury & most of us have them. Trial & error will determine what you can tolerate comfortably. The positions mentioned are a good start.

It's best that you're honest about such things with your partner, as you have been. My Master loves gags, unfortunately due to previous injury, I have pins in my jaw which makes it prone to easy further damage. He accepts this restriction. It's not my fault & has nothing to do with my submission so it's not an issue in any way.

BTW, I know about horse inflicted injuries, having bred & shown them for 30 odd years. Life wouldn't be worth living without horses, damn, but they smell GOOD !

 

[@}-}rebecca----]

I had a very badly fractured right wrist and a sweet Dom went to a great deal of trouble to actually design a cuff/wrist brace that protected me . I felt much more confident knowing there was no way that wrist was going to in any way be further damaged. I personally like the idea that you wear something on your body that inhibits further injury. I know nothing really of your condition though it does sound quite serious. Have you an open minded chiropractor or someone who deals in alternate therapies that may be more approachable for advice .....if that was the case I would be speaking with them. Sports medicine web sites may even advocate things used for slightly different reasons but duplicate the range of movement you might envisage in conjunction with similar personal damage as you have acquired. Best of Luck @}-}rebecca----

 

[chelseachained]

safe restraint

I did a search on this topic and didn't really come up with anything in particular, but if it's been covered before, I apologize. (/end disclaimer)

Let me give you just a little background first. I show horses, and last June, I managed to take a flying leap from the back of a very tall, quickly moving horse. Needless to say, the landing was quite painful, and I dislocated my right shoulder. Since then, I've had an ungodly amount of trouble with it, as it likes to jump around in the socket and partially dislocate with only the slightest pressure on the wrong part of it.

Anyway, there is a point to this story! I met a very interesting man recently, and we've decided to play together. It'll be the first scene I've done since the initial injury. I've told him about it, of course, and we've been trying to think of ways that I can be restrained safely without causing more injury to this shoulder of mine. I tend to struggle when bound, and I'm afraid that I might accidentally hurt myself. We've decided that tying my hands behind my back will probably work pretty well, since my shoulder comes out forward and down instead of backward and up. Other than that, though, I haven't been able to think of anything else that would work well, although, admittedly, I don't know nearly as much about restraint as he does, or as all of you do! So that's why I'm asking for everyone's help. Got any advice for me? Thanks.

they also make thigh straps which have attached cuffs for your wrists made in a variety of materials so you could be able to find your comfort level. i would like the idea of this for you since it pretty much imobilizes the shoulder no matter how you squirm and by the way wicked grins, wishing you great squirming with your new play partner.

 

[jadefirefly]

If you are having any type of pain, being told not to move by your Dom/me is pretty damn effective too.

Extremely effective! And a damned hard command to follow, too. Which just makes it all the more fun!

 

[BiBunny]

Thanks for all the advice and suggestions! I'll be sure to put them to good use tomorrow.

 

[DVS]

I have had both shoulders replaced and re-replaced and have found the safest way for restraints is to have the arms restrained to your sides tucked next to your body. You can figure out a way to rig up a waist type restraint (versus buying them). If you are wiggler type, having them bound behind or away from the body will be more prone to difficulties. If you are having any type of pain, being told not to move by your Dom/me is pretty damn effective too.

~kierae

i'm probably a little late with this post, but I agree with Kierae. If you want little stress on the shoulder, have the arms bound to your sides. That way, if you do want to sturggle, you are more likely to wiggle your whole upper body, instead of just your arms, which could result in harming your shoulder.

and, although I LOVE when the woman has her hands bound behind her back, it might be best to have them bound in front, if at all. I'd advise to look into getting some velcro straps at your local Home Depot store and then putting the two parts together into one, or several long straps. Then, have your partner wrap them around your upper body,in a way to keep your arms tight against your sides.

i've got a couple boxes of the two inch wide velcro and it worlks great as bondage restraints. The soft side goes against your body and it's quick, easy, and when you try to get away...you can't.

It's sold in boxes that are for construction use and you can cut it into various lengths and make use of it in any way you want. You could cut it into several smaller lengths of about 2 feet and wrap them around your arms in a couple place (maybe below the elbow and above the elbow...and maybe your wrists). Then, have two longer lengths for wrapping around your whole upper body a couple times, making sure to wrap around the areas of your arms that have the shorter velcro wrapped around them.

This sort of anchors it all together so not only are your arms secured at your sides, but they are also attached to the velcro going around your body in such a way that moving your shoulders are next to impossible.