Relationship Deal Breakers

[juicylips]

When do you know that a relationship just isn't going to work out?

Is there something that just happens and you automatically recognize it and get out?

Or is it something gradual where you wake up one morning and go..WTF???

It can be online or r/l experiences.


Cassidy

 

[riff]

This is part of my problem, juicylips.

I either run like hell because I cannot control or I kill with kindness in an effort to control.

It all stems from fear- deep rooted fear from childhood.

I am trying to learn, with the help of someone I trust, that sometimes I do not need to control all the time. Sometimes it is good to control and sometimes it is not. But that is a decision for an adult, and for my entire life I have never made this decision based on reality, rather I based it on my response to feelings I felt a very very long time ago.

On-line/off-line makes no difference. This is not as simple a matter of "What movie are we going to watch tonight?" I am perfectly at ease with letting someone else drive the car. But as to driving the relationship?

I am learning to let go... I am trying to learn to let go. It requires trust, something that on a deep level is very difficult for me. This is why a focus on friendship (in my relationships) is so important.

I guess I really don't know much about relationships. I have had some very bright experiences, but so far as long term sexual relationships are concerned- my record speaks for itself. I have failed myself. I have failed my partners.

Maybe one day.... maybe one day, I'll have one that last longer than a year before I fuck it all up. I need a friend with benefits. And the friend part is the most important part of all. I am learning.

Now, it's morning. I need to be silly!

 

[juicylips]

This is part of my problem, juicylips.

I either run like hell because I cannot control or I kill with kindness in an effort to control.

I am learning to let go... I am trying to learn to let go. It requires trust, something that on a deep level is very difficult for me. This is why a focus on friendship (in my relationships) is so important.

I guess I really don't know much about relationships. I have had some very bright experiences, but so far as long term sexual relationships are concerned- my record speaks for itself. I have failed myself. I have failed my partners.

Maybe one day.... maybe one day, I'll have one that last longer than a year before I fuck it all up. I need a friend with benefits. And the friend part is the most important part of all. I am learning.

riff,
It sounds as if you DO know a lot about relationships! You know why they don't work out and you are a control freak (same here).

Trust is always a huge issue in everyone's relationship. I like your idea of a friend with benefits. You are definitely on the right road.

Kisses....Huggs...Licks,
JL

 

[MissTaken]

The first and biggest red flag that a relationship is over is, for me, when I roll my eyes and say, "Him again?" when he phones!


Not a good sign!

 

[riff]

The first and biggest red flag that a relationship is over is, for me, when I roll my eyes and say, "Him again?" when he phones!


Not a good sign!

LMAO



Love the new AV. It's sooo PRB. PM me about it if u know anything.

 

[Fly_On_Wall]

When do you know that a relationship just isn't going to work out?


Hopefully never

 

[freescorfr]

When do you know that a relationship just isn't going to work out?

Is there something that just happens and you automatically recognize it and get out?

Or is it something gradual where you wake up one morning and go..WTF???




Cassidy

I imagine a relationship to be like a connection, a conduit between to people in which messages are sent and exchanged, and like any conduit, over time it gets clogged up with shit. This happens in all relationships.

When the messages your receiving are more full of crap than nourishment you quit.

If any relationship is to last, both partners have to clean out their relationship from time to time.

Of course another sign is when the fucking begins to be at intervals which escape the memory.

 

[Black_Bird]

It can be online or r/l experiences.

LOL!

I asked out a girl that was working with my mother, except she didn't know it was my mother. I asked her out and then she ended up blabber-mouthing that she suspected that her BF was cheating on her, that this was the FIRST boyfriend she hadn't cheated on, and that she was going to give him a piece of his own medicine. I guess that was me. I stopped talking to her for a while after that.

Then, just after Christmas, I decided not to hold grudges, so I started talking to her again on a regular basis, because she was easy to talk to... And she showed me the ring and necklass that her boyfriend got her for Christmas. "That's nice," I thought. Then... she asked if I wanted to try going out again. I had to laugh at her stupidity.

Yeah - that was the deal breaker. If I can't trust a girl to be honest with me, then I don't want anything to do with her.

 

[juicylips]

BB

Do you ever have any luck with girls??

jl

 

[Black_Bird]

Re: BB

Do you ever have any luck with girls??

jl

*slowly shakes head* Nope, except on here.

 

[Spinaroonie]

I won't put up for Genocide after the first 6 months.

 

[juicylips]

Re: Re: BB

*slowly shakes head* Nope, except on here.

So is that what keeps you cumming back here?

JL

 

[Black_Bird]

Re: Re: Re: BB

So is that what keeps you cumming back here?

To remind myself that there *are* beautiful single genuine ladies out there, yes.

 

[Rambrat]

When do you know that a relationship just isn't going to work out?

Is there something that just happens and you automatically recognize it and get out?

Or is it something gradual where you wake up one morning and go..WTF???

It can be online or r/l experiences.


Cassidy

Well...at first Juicylips was attentive...then I notied that she was only having sex with me 4 or 5 times a day...

then one morning, I wake up and she is....

two weeks after my sisters funeral, I go to place a picture of her on the entertainment center...my then wife said...oh, are you going to build a shrine now...

that pretty much destroyed what little respect I had eft for her...

 

[OldAllisWD45]

I never did see the end coming....... I always got dumped and then stood there afterward wondering WTF.

 

[bluespoke]

Re: Re: Relationship Deal Breakers

two weeks after my sisters funeral, I go to place a picture of her on the entertainment center...my then wife said...oh, are you going to build a shrine now...

that pretty much destroyed what little respect I had eft for her...

Sheez, some people are all heart!

Your sister deserved more respect.

 

[Zamdrist]

I knew the relationship was over when she couldn't admit that she had some part in her previous marriage ending in divorce.

Short of habitual abuse, well no abuse is OK, but everyone has some part to play and should accept at least some blame.

That mind set was a warning flag for me...3 years later here I am single again.

 

[juicylips]

Re: Re: Relationship Deal Breakers

Well...at first Juicylips was attentive...then I notied that she was only having sex with me 4 or 5 times a day...

I wanted to fuck you more, but you just kept saying "Let me rest, will ya??"


JL

 

[Rambrat]

Re: Re: Re: Relationship Deal Breakers

I wanted to fuck you more, but you just kept saying "Let me rest, will ya??"


JL

I WAS IN THE HOSPITAL AT THE TIME!!!

and thanks bluespoke...
believe me...that wasn't the worst...

 

[lavender]

 

[Weevil]

If, at any time, the word "guestimate" is used.

Yeesh.

 

[Wiggles]

Wow, you guys are tough cookies!

I would have to say, any sort of cheating would be a deal breaker. They've got to go if they don't give me the respect I deserve, or the attention I crave.

Most importantly, if you can't take the heat get out of my bedroom. I can't stand boring, uncaring, three-minute men.

 

[juicylips]

Most importantly, if you can't take the heat get out of my bedroom. I can't stand boring, uncaring, three-minute men.

BINGO!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I just knew we thought alike, W

JL

 

[Zamdrist]

[BMost importantly, if you can't take the heat get out of my bedroom. I can't stand boring, uncaring, three-minute men. [/B]

You women are blessed with different plumbing

Nevertheless I for one can certainly last longer than 3 minutes and I would hope most men here could.

Though there are times when it doesn't take long at all...but I've always dipped into the squeeze-box for a good while prior to, uh...insertion.

 

[ksmybuttons]

Deal Breakers

The first lie.

When I say, "I am not comfortable with that yet." and he persists.

When he wants to change me.

When he doesn't make my life better.

When he embarasses me in front of others.

When I put my finger in his bottom and he says "NO!"

When he refers to a TV show for his point of reference.