Reinforcement

[00Syd]

I guess that doesn't make me submissive to some but to the one who matters I am considered such.

And that's all the matters.

 

[YourCaptor]

Yeah, but think how good you'd look wearing beautiful new shoes whilst giving said blow job.

See, that’s how it’s done! Full circle, back to the top.

If only our recycling program worked so well.

 

[DeepGreenEyes]

Yeah, but think how good you'd look wearing beautiful new shoes whilst giving said blow job.

She has new shoes. They're very sexy.

 

[karma9]

We all know you punish em black and blue, but what do you do to reinforce good behavior?

And don't give me any of that my punishment is my reward mushy stuff.

Speaking as a dominant male who appreciate the beauty of female's body, I would reward her with an erotic massage followed with a long fuck

 

[submit62]

In reading this thread, I think I just had one of those weird epiphanies where I now understand something about myself that had always baffled me before.

All my life, I've always felt like I've had to earn every scrap of love and attention and affection I've ever gotten. This belief, like most beliefs, is based partly in reality and partly in my own fears. I honestly believe that all love directed toward me is conditional, whether it really is or not.

So that's why I need to be rewarded. If I weren't, I'd be convinced that I was a horrible person, that everything I did sucked, and that everything that happened around me was my fault. I'm already that person who thinks that if someone around me is upset, it's me they're upset with.

So, basically, if you're not telling me I'm doing things right and well, I assume I'm doing them wrong and badly. And the more lavishly I'm praised/rewarded, the more secure I feel in what I've done. If I don't get that, I get so upset with what I perceive to be the "wrongness" of my actions or existence that I become completely useless for anything.

/screwed up person

Must chirp in here..... enjoy reading this thread. I can totally relate with bibunny's epiphany...
that decribes me to a T!! I hope I did the quote correctly so you all
can see what I am referring to..... if my man does not express s Yah or nay....I get confused. I so want to please him. He has s difficult time with praise...but not criticism. That comes freely. it is disturbing to me. it makes me feel he does not have feelings for me at all. except for neg...so I must do better. But what is better?? He never explains....just says...you should be able to figure that out urself.