cascadiabound
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Food for thought
One size does not fit all!
I read a lot of bullshit on this site. An opinion piece I read awhile back appeared to describe exactly what you should expect from every Dominant male, really got me thinking. This piece has been reblogged and liked by many, including some bloggers who’s overall opinion on matters pertaining to D/s I value highly. Frankly, this piece not only sat uncomfortably with me, I also found some of its ludicrous generalizations absolutely laughable.
The piece in question talked about how outwardly confident a Dom would be. How successful he would be in his chosen profession. Even going so far as to state that a Dominant man will not be desperate for a woman’s attention, as he can get dates or get laid anywhere, by finding women any place, including at the store (paraphrased).
Whilst I accept that there are some genuine behaviors and personality traits that will be evident in most Dominant men, and some of the informative pieces that float around the Tumblrverse, are very helpful to highlight what behaviors a good Dom will exude (as opposed to a narcissistic fuck boy); trying to pigeonhole every Dom into a set of exact characteristics is ridiculous.
Dominant men might not hold court and be enthusiastically confident in every setting. There is just as much chance that they could be more reserved in social situations. Dominant men may be averagely successful in their careers. They don’t necessarily have to be ground breakingly successful, run a multi-million pound/dollar business venture, or wear a Rolex.
Now, for the money shot. A Dominant man does not necessarily have the ability to get dates or get laid whenever and wherever he chooses. What utter codswallop! I still get nervous approaching women. I used to hate approaching women in bars, when I was a younger man. If I start to build a connection with a woman, I do want her attention, I do like speaking with her. I don’t believe I can have any woman whenever I choose, nor do I want to be able to.
To conclude, Dominant men are human. We can, and do sometimes, suffer with anxiety, depression, sadness, and all the other plethora of emotions. We are not Gods walking among lesser men. We do struggle sometimes, we do fuck things up, we are not perfect. Being a Dom, does not give me, or any other man for that matter, superpowers. Nor does it make us any less individual.
One size does not fit all!
Copyright 2018 @fantasies-of-a-dominant
One size does not fit all!
I read a lot of bullshit on this site. An opinion piece I read awhile back appeared to describe exactly what you should expect from every Dominant male, really got me thinking. This piece has been reblogged and liked by many, including some bloggers who’s overall opinion on matters pertaining to D/s I value highly. Frankly, this piece not only sat uncomfortably with me, I also found some of its ludicrous generalizations absolutely laughable.
The piece in question talked about how outwardly confident a Dom would be. How successful he would be in his chosen profession. Even going so far as to state that a Dominant man will not be desperate for a woman’s attention, as he can get dates or get laid anywhere, by finding women any place, including at the store (paraphrased).
Whilst I accept that there are some genuine behaviors and personality traits that will be evident in most Dominant men, and some of the informative pieces that float around the Tumblrverse, are very helpful to highlight what behaviors a good Dom will exude (as opposed to a narcissistic fuck boy); trying to pigeonhole every Dom into a set of exact characteristics is ridiculous.
Dominant men might not hold court and be enthusiastically confident in every setting. There is just as much chance that they could be more reserved in social situations. Dominant men may be averagely successful in their careers. They don’t necessarily have to be ground breakingly successful, run a multi-million pound/dollar business venture, or wear a Rolex.
Now, for the money shot. A Dominant man does not necessarily have the ability to get dates or get laid whenever and wherever he chooses. What utter codswallop! I still get nervous approaching women. I used to hate approaching women in bars, when I was a younger man. If I start to build a connection with a woman, I do want her attention, I do like speaking with her. I don’t believe I can have any woman whenever I choose, nor do I want to be able to.
To conclude, Dominant men are human. We can, and do sometimes, suffer with anxiety, depression, sadness, and all the other plethora of emotions. We are not Gods walking among lesser men. We do struggle sometimes, we do fuck things up, we are not perfect. Being a Dom, does not give me, or any other man for that matter, superpowers. Nor does it make us any less individual.
One size does not fit all!
Copyright 2018 @fantasies-of-a-dominant
Hope all is the same in your corner of the interwebs.
