rantings of a willful sassy submissive

[bad kitty]

Ok, I know many don't do this and most real dominants don't do this, but I am so sick of someone noticing that you are a sub and then they think they can talk to you any damn way they want. I may be submissive, but I'm not a door mat. On the contrary, I'm more likely to put a boot up your ass for derogatory comments than most people.

Now, playing around and joking/ teasing is all fun and good, but these fools who actually think they can tell me what to do without even considering that I am in complete control until I choose to submit are just aching for a hurting.

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Please discuss and share rantings.

 

[FurryFury]

Ok, I know many don't do this and most real dominants don't do this, but I am so sick of someone noticing that you are a sub and then they think they can talk to you any damn way they want. I may be submissive, but I'm not a door mat. On the contrary, I'm more likely to put a boot up your ass for derogatory comments than most people.

Now, playing around and joking/ teasing is all fun and good, but these fools who actually think they can tell me what to do without even considering that I am in complete control until I choose to submit are just aching for a hurting.

end rant

Please discuss and share rantings.

Ouch! I know how that goes. Some idiot PM's you? Or are you talking RL?

Fury

 

[rosco rathbone]

And how about that "collarme"!

 

[mlady_france]

And how about that "collarme"!

Grrr! actually had a couple of "doms" tell me how they would be interested in my if I lost like 50lbs. What assholes!

I promptly informed them that I am not interested in wether they are interested in me or not.

 

[Rrrosyn]

First, I agree. I aclso cannot stand PYLs who demand to be called by title, etc.

R/L I've had one kiss me uninvited and I am not even a sub! In fact, I had brought my sub to the gathering and the guy made sure my sub was watching when he "assaulted" my lips.

Second, mini-rant on my part. I hate being told I am not Domme-enough because I am more into D/s than BD or SM. Or because I chat-it-up with subs and don't demand to be titled. Or because I am totally, 100% in love with my sub. Or because I think j's job and schooling are more important than his servitude or the few scenes we do have. Although I do demand respect at all times. Not asking how my day was does result in punishment. Still. You get the gist.

 

[Rrrosyn]

Grrr! actually had a couple of "doms" tell me how they would be interested in my if I lost like 50lbs. What assholes!

I promptly informed them that I am not interested in wether they are interested in me or not.

I've actually had "pyls" say the same. LOL The idea!

 

[Recidiva]

Well, manners are really key.

I think people really have to get that you have to gain permission first to be a raging asshole. Then it's fine.

 

[FurryFury]

Well, manners are really key.

I think people really have to get that you have to gain permission first to be a raging asshole. Then it's fine.

LMAO!

Ain't that the truth!

Once I give a damn what you think and have a certain level of trust with you then you can be an ass hole!

*snickers*

Fury

 

[Recidiva]

LMAO!

Ain't that the truth!

Once I give a damn what you think and have a certain level of trust with you then you can be an ass hole!

*snickers*

Fury

I am a raging bitch.

My best friends are complete unrepentant assholes.

We're good people.

However, look at me funny and you will lose something important.

 

[bad kitty]

IRL and PMs and yahoo. Heh, I like ripping them a new one and handing it to them on a platter. I'm sassy that way. Guess that part of me makes many think I am actually Dominant.

Ok, somewhere along the line I completely missed the memo on what PYL is.

 

[bad kitty]

I am a raging bitch.

My best friends are complete unrepentant assholes.

We're good people.

However, look at me funny and you will lose something important.

I think you and I might get along juuuuuust fine.

 

[graceanne]

I think just about everyone's met someone like this. When I first joined collarme.com (I only joined so I could look at dolf profile and I said so on my profile) I got tons of guys saying things like 'On your knees slut, I'm your REAL master'.

Now I send emails like that to Killi.

And if you want a really funny story ask shy what happened to her on her first munch.

 

[Recidiva]

I think you and I might get along juuuuuust fine.

That would be great Then we could look funny at each other all day long and nobody would have to lose anything important. Unless we wanted to. Then we could give it back. Or play "Keep Away With My Important Stuff"

 

[graceanne]

IRL and PMs and yahoo. Heh, I like ripping them a new one and handing it to them on a platter. I'm sassy that way. Guess that part of me makes many think I am actually Dominant.

Ok, somewhere along the line I completely missed the memo on what PYL is.

PYL is pick your label. In capital letters is a dom/me, mistress, master, top, etc. In lower case (pyl) it's a sub, slave, bottom, etc.

 

[FurryFury]

I am a raging bitch.

My best friends are complete unrepentant assholes.

We're good people.

However, look at me funny and you will lose something important.

I LOVE it and you Recidiva!

I've had guys insult me, I think to make me want to prove them wrong, sorry, no, I don't even know you yet, ass wipe.

I've had guys demand "proof" that I'm female. Riiight I'm going to send a pic to someone I just met that "shows" I'm female cause what, I give a heck what you think or want yet? Even if I did how would you know it's "me?"

Oh the things these guys think, expect and hope for. It's just not happening if you don't take the time to build a relationship first. Though I do long for certain online things...

Fury

 

[Recidiva]

I LOVE it and you Recidiva!

I've had guys insult me, I think to make me want to prove them wrong, sorry, no, I don't even know you yet, ass wipe.

I've had guys demand "proof" that I'm female. Riiight I'm going to send a pic to someone I just met that "shows" I'm female cause what, I give a heck what you think or want yet? Even if I did how would you know it's "me?"

Oh the things these guys think, expect and hope for. It's just not happening if you don't take the time to build a relationship first. Though I do long for certain online things...

Fury

Mostly if people try to jerk me around they dislocate something.

If they are intelligent enough to have nerves attached to the thing they dislocated, they notice.

 

[Rrrosyn]

Well, manners are really key.

I think people really have to get that you have to gain permission first to be a raging asshole. Then it's fine.

Of course. Once permission is granted, by all means...

 

[FurryFury]

I think just about everyone's met someone like this. When I first joined collarme.com (I only joined so I could look at dolf profile and I said so on my profile) I got tons of guys saying things like 'On your knees slut, I'm your REAL master'.

Now I send emails like that to Killi.

And if you want a really funny story ask shy what happened to her on her first munch.

I know what you mean beautiful Graceanne!

Shy! Where are you???

I love funny stories.

Fury

Mostly if people try to jerk me around they dislocate something.

If they are intelligent enough to have nerves attached to the thing they dislocated, they notice.

*smiles*

You keep doing that.

Fury

 

[Recidiva]

Of course. Once permission is granted, by all means...

Well, I get bored if people are nice all the time.

Besides, what's the point of a sharp tongue if I can't use her?

 

[FurryFury]

Well, I get bored if people are nice all the time.

Besides, what's the point of a sharp tongue if I can't use her?

*GRINS*

"...what's the point of a sharp tongue if I can't use her?"

LOVE, LOVE, LOVE the things you write!

Fury

 

[bad kitty]

That would be great Then we could look funny at each other all day long and nobody would have to lose anything important. Unless we wanted to. Then we could give it back. Or play "Keep Away With My Important Stuff"

A nice game of keep away could prove to be interesting.

 

[Recidiva]

A nice game of keep away could prove to be interesting.

I like interesting things.

Someone slightly taller than me saying they're my master and doing so in a slightly deeper voice...not interesting.

 

[FurryFury]

A nice game of keep away could prove to be interesting.

I've never encountered a "nice" game of keep away. *smile* I'm cool with that.

Fury

 

[CorsetLvr]

OK, my turn to rant.

The simple fact is that most of these "Doms" are no more a Dom then my pet cocker spaniel. It takes a lot more to be a Dom then proclaiming yourself as one. That is a serious down side to the the role that the internet plays in BDSM. Unfortunately way to many newbie subs are taken in by this sort of wanna-be Dom, in RL and online. If they are truly interested in the BDSM lifestyle they need to spend a lot less time hanging out in places like here and in chat rooms like a stalker and more time on resource type websites learning how a real Dom treats a sub with love and respect. Being a Dom is not just about using a willing victim to live out their sick fantasies. A sub is never a victim, but rather someone that willingly gives control to someone to cares for and respects.

Fortunately, I learned my way around the lifestyle in the days before the internet and through people I met in Munches and leather clubs. I started off as a sub and through that discovered my Domme side. I have served, and been served. I know both sides of the power exchange equation. Unfortunately to many of these wanna-be's have absolutely no idea what makes a sub tick. One thing I have learned is that being a good Dom/me requires the skills of a psychologist to understand the needs, desires, and motivation of a sub. You can never assume anything. I can only shiver at the thought of how some of these newbie subs are being introduced to the lifestyle at the hands of clueless Doms that have no idea of the difference between use and abuse.

In the "old days" there was a sort of mentor system that helped new Dom/me's learn the skills they needed to be succesful. Now all it takes is a computer and the barest minimum of computer skills to proclaim yourself as a successful Dom/me. In my humble opinion, there has been a definite dilution of the term Dom/me as a result.

As if the misunderstanding we have to endure from the vanilla world wasn't already bad enough, we now have to deal with the additional lack of understanding that is a direct result of stories in the press about some predator stalking (or worse) someone they met in a BDSM chat room. The legitimate practioners of the lifestyle get cast in the same light as these predators do.

OK, I'm climbing off my soap box (for now.)

 

[Recidiva]

OK, my turn to rant.

The simple fact is that most of these "Doms" are no more a Dom then my pet cocker spaniel. It takes a lot more to be a Dom then proclaiming yourself as one. That is a serious down side to the the role that the internet plays in BDSM. Unfortunately way to many newbie subs are taken in by this sort of wanna-be Dom, in RL and online. If they are truly interested in the BDSM lifestyle they need to spend a lot less time hanging out in places like here and in chat rooms like a stalker and more time on resource type websites learning how a real Dom treats a sub with love and respect. Being a Dom is not just about using a willing victim to live out their sick fantasies. A sub is never a victim, but rather someone that willingly gives control to someone to cares for and respects.

Fortunately, I learned my way around the lifestyle in the days before the internet and through people I met in Munches and leather clubs. I started off as a sub and through that discovered my Domme side. I have served, and been served. I know both sides of the power exchange equation. Unfortunately to many of these wanna-be's have absolutely no idea what makes a sub tick. One thing I have learned is that being a good Dom/me requires the skills of a psychologist to understand the needs, desires, and motivation of a sub. You can never assume anything. I can only shiver at the thought of how some of these newbie subs are being introduced to the lifestyle at the hands of clueless Doms that have no idea of the difference between use and abuse.

In the "old days" there was a sort of mentor system that helped new Dom/me's learn the skills they needed to be succesful. Now all it takes is a computer and the barest minimum of computer skills to proclaim yourself as a successful Dom/me. In my humble opinion, there has been a definite dilution of the term Dom/me as a result.

As if the misunderstanding we have to endure from the vanilla world wasn't already bad enough, we now have to deal with the additional lack of understanding that is a direct result of stories in the press about some predator stalking (or worse) someone they met in a BDSM chat room. The legitimate practioners of the lifestyle get cast in the same light as these predators do.

OK, I'm climbing off my soap box (for now.)

Yes, what is seen from the outside means you can play dress up and be one, right?

Just like wearing lots of black and silver makes you a Wiccan.

Well, no.

Many people who want to play around with...playing around...that might be all they want and that's all it will ever be and they'll find someone who might also want to play at looking like something.

And even experienced people who think they are dominant can run across people who make their brains ache and they may not understand at all why their head hurts.

So proclaiming yourself to be anything in particular really depends completely on your company and what you're willing to experience and learn.