Random thoughts on penises!

[tonitits]

Re: he will figure it out

I hate to sound like a college professor but, oops, I am. Men discover self pleasure naturally.
As was said on here before, their penis is out in the open and they touch it when they urinate. Boys are also more likely to admit masturbation to other boys and even masturbate with other boys. If you sat him down to talk about it, he might clam up. However, if a chance to say something does come up, just be positive in affirming the pleasure and naturalness of masturbation.

Also, I think the Boston Women's Health Collective has an "Our Bodies Our Selves" for kids. Reading that might spark some questions from him. And it is a good time to start talking about accepting his body and respecting other's bodies and not being judjmental.

We are talking about penis size and most of the problem is men not liking their penises instead of women not liking them. Women have a much more complex sexuality than just wanting something big in their vaginas--and as we have seen, there are vegetables that can serve that purpose. Young girls also are self conscious about their genitals too and that makes them have trouble letting go.
When I was young, in a sexual situation I said to a girl off handedly, "you have such a pretty pussy." She started to cry!!! Not bad though, she had never heard anyone say that or even use the word "pussy" and she was mortified that her genitals were ugly. She was transformed into a little exhibitionist in the very best sense of the term. Much fun followed.

The bottom line is support your partner. Sex is a team sport, not an opportunity to be judged as adequate or not.

Sorry to be long winded.

Steve

Thank you so much both of you...this is so hard not having a man around...My mom never knew how to talk to me about sex..she still gets embarassed when someone starts to talk about sex...When I asked how babies are born, she bought me a book...
looking back at it, it was pretty funny, it showed how all the different animals fucked to get babies, but when it got to the humans, it just showed the man and woman laying side by side in bed, under the covers! Well I knew it was through sex, but I wanted to know HOW!!!! LOL. We already had some what of a talk about sex when he was younger and I really got in too deep, it went over his head...he asked me how he got in my stomach and I told him God put him there and he said yea, but how did God put him in there. So I told him that we had sex and that is how babies get in the woman's stomach...he said ok. and then after had a few minutes to digest it. He said "YOU HAD SEX!!!!" I thought I was going to die!

 

[enjoyingitall]

Toni..I have two sons..I've had discussions sex with both of them. Early on I explained it in almost a methodical manner. They only had a few questions. As they aged, they would come back and ask more. When they hit puberty, I had the real "OK..this is what sex is really about talk" with them. They were inquisitive and receptive. Never did I feel the need to discuss masturbation with them, though. Some things can be done through self discovery I think. The most important thing I would tell you is to make your son feel comfortable talking about sex with you. Don't push more on him than he wants to know before he is ready.

 

[tonitits]

Toni..I have two sons..I've had discussions sex with both of them. Early on I explained it in almost a methodical manner. They only had a few questions. As they aged, they would come back and ask more. When they hit puberty, I had the real "OK..this is what sex is really about talk" with them. They were inquisitive and receptive. Never did I feel the need to discuss masturbation with them, though. Some things can be done through self discovery I think. The most important thing I would tell you is to make your son feel comfortable talking about sex with you. Don't push more on him than he wants to know before he is ready.

Thanks E..that really helps..that is how I have pretty much always done, if he asks me a question about something I answer him truthfully but only to the extent that I think he will understand...and I let him know that he is free to come to me with anything and I hope he always will...however, I have a feeling for something like this he might go to my nephews or maybe my younger brother, however my brother kind of teases him and makes fun of him sometimes so he may not feel comfortable enough to go to him

 

[cg_allstar]

<evil grin>
Of course, if you really want to help him concerning masturbation, buy him a bottle of Astroglide. To think of all those years of doing it dry. I mean what kind of folks give you the Playboy desk calendar for your 16th birthday but forget to ever mention lube?Guess I'm a little bitter.

 

[tonitits]

<evil grin>
Of course, if you really want to help him concerning masturbation, buy him a bottle of Astroglide. To think of all those years of doing it dry. I mean what kind of folks give you the Playboy desk calendar for your 16th birthday but forget to ever mention lube?Guess I'm a little bitter.

LOL, I think I will wait a few years for that, thank you!

 

[Bug Eyed Monster]

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[tonitits]

Re: My $0.02

Background:
I came up in a sexually repressed family. I amd the younges of three by 5 years. When I was younger and playing Doctor with the girls I would get long boring lectures which influence me to this day (and not in a positive manner). My parents had try to be really open with my two older brothers but botched it badly, so they clamed up with me.

I learned about puberty and maturing through the book "What's happening to me?" Which I borrowed several times from the library. It actually explained maturing for both sexes.

When I went to boarding high school in my Junior year, my parents gave me a pamphlet on "What every teenager should know."

I actually figured out how to masturbate by reading a Penthouse? book that had a story where a guy uses a vacuum cleaner to jack off and that was the first way I did it. I eventually figured out I could stroke it.

In answer to your question:
The first time I started to feel anything and get an erection was when I would shimmy up a pole or climb a rope in gym class. This is probably similar to riding a horse for a girl. I asked my parents and my brothers about it and got ZILCH. No information no feedback. -- I'm still bitter.

So I guess my advice would be if you see him clibming poles or ropes and just stopping there (especially if he is smiling) he is probably enjoying himself.

I hope you continue to be open and honest about it. Please let him know how you feel and your morals about sex in general (only you can teach those). Growing up as I did, I can tell you it hurt with a strong feeling of abandonment. It still affects me today at 34.

One possible suggestion, read through some of the "First time" stories on lit and elsewhere and see if you feel any are appropriate to help him learn. If you have any male friends that can help, maybe even e-mail someone on lit, that may help.

You have gotten some good advice in response to this question (besides mine). Keep loving your son; let hime know you love him, and let him know that he can discuss anything with you.

Good luck,
Bug Eye

Thank you BEM you gave some very good points, and yes I grew up pretty much the same....I do love him very much and he knows it...I hope he will always come to me and I will probably be turning to male friends, if they let me, when the time comes when he needs a man's touch, so to speak. I was 40 the first time I masturbated, I always felt something down there, but never acted on it....that was too tabu...

I just want to thank all the men who have responded and helped me with this very difficult question.

 

[lovemetender]

Re: Re: My $0.02

Thank you BEM you gave some very good points, and yes I grew up pretty much the same....I do love him very much and he knows it...I hope he will always come to me and I will probably be turning to male friends, if they let me, when the time comes when he needs a man's touch, so to speak. I was 40 the first time I masturbated, I always felt something down there, but never acted on it....that was too tabu...

I just want to thank all the men who have responded and helped me with this very difficult question.

see Toni we're much more then just a penis!

 

[tonitits]

Re: Re: Re: My $0.02

see Toni we're much more then just a penis!

sweetie I knew you were! Thanks.

 

[Mountain Man]

Toni,

Just saw your question and read many of the responses...all very good.

I have to say that my experience was very similar to cg's..timing, place where it happened...

I know that i never really talked to my parents about masturbating, I kinda figured it out by myself. It felt good, (still does) and left it at that.

My parents were pretty open about discussing sex...but never really pushed the "talk" on me. They always answered my questions when asked, and never made sex a Taboo thing.

My suggestion would be to just let things happen as they will. You seem to be a loving parent and open to your son. Keep it up.

to you sweety

 

[Bug Eyed Monster]

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[tonitits]

Toni,

Just saw your question and read many of the responses...all very good.

I have to say that my experience was very similar to cg's..timing, place where it happened...

I know that i never really talked to my parents about masturbating, I kinda figured it out by myself. It felt good, (still does) and left it at that.

My parents were pretty open about discussing sex...but never really pushed the "talk" on me. They always answered my questions when asked, and never made sex a Taboo thing.

My suggestion would be to just let things happen as they will. You seem to be a loving parent and open to your son. Keep it up.

to you sweety

thanks MM, I can use all the help I can get.

 

[tonitits]

Re: Re: Re: Re: My $0.02

Yeah were men who are pissed because every women in our lives didn't bend down to worship our penises. - LOL


Seriously, I hope it helps Toni.

Five will get you ten that half of the men on Lit would volunteer to let you demonstrate on them. - LMAO

I am sorry, I am in a crazy perverted mood, but this is what you get when you rear a kid the way I was reared.

LOL...that's ok...I'll keep that in mind!

 

[Bug Eyed Monster]

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[stargirl32]

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[stargirl32]

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[Ladybird]

Well how about some famous ones then stargirl?

http://www.geocities.com/disturbing_universe/funny/famouspenis.jpg

 

[Don K Dyck]

Phallic Phantasies

Well how about some famous ones then stargirl?

http://www.geocities.com/disturbing_universe/funny/famouspenis.jpg

Hey LB, check out the fabulous "Random Phallic Images" that Stargirl has got. It's really great!!! Does it make you think of . . .

 

[Ladybird]

I don't know where stargirl gets some of her images from Don. She's so clever.

This one is particularly good.

And yes, it does make me think of....

 

[Ladybird]

Well.. I've searched and searched, and this is the best I could find.

http://www.geocities.com/disturbing_universe/funny/hand_lotion.jpg

 

[Mr. Kathy Andrews]

Interesting stuff

The one below my belt may not be soo bad according to you lovley ladies and your candid thoughts,,,,,,,,,,,,,ITS THE GREAT BIG ONE ON MY SHOULDERS THAT SEEMS TO CAUSE ALL THE PROBLEMS.

 

[yknow]

penis question

A question for men and women ...

I've been reading posts and stories on here and whether it's coincidence or not, I don't know ... but I've run into quite a few references lately to men having "pre-cum" I've heard about precum ... I'm sure health class mentioned it in Jr. High ... but I've never experienced it myself.

Is this something common amoung men? Is it more common NOT to leak pre-cum? Does it just mean that if I was a woman I'd be dry?

I'm thinking it's an advantage not to wet my pants when I'm dancing ... But the references on here make it sound like a big turn on for a woman ...

Curious curious ... any thoughts ?

 

[stargirl32]

Well how about some famous ones then stargirl?

http://www.geocities.com/disturbing_universe/funny/famouspenis.jpg

what about the

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[stargirl32]

Re: penis question

A question for men and women ...

I've been reading posts and stories on here and whether it's coincidence or not, I don't know ... but I've run into quite a few references lately to men having "pre-cum" I've heard about precum ... I'm sure health class mentioned it in Jr. High ... but I've never experienced it myself.

Is this something common amoung men? Is it more common NOT to leak pre-cum? Does it just mean that if I was a woman I'd be dry?

I'm thinking it's an advantage not to wet my pants when I'm dancing ... But the references on here make it sound like a big turn on for a woman ...

Curious curious ... any thoughts ?

pre cum is defienied as the small amout of clear liquid that flows from the penis just before ejacuation,, its job ,, to kill of bacteria and clear out the uretha ,,* ok not a great thought if like me you love the stuff lol*

its prettty common for a guy not to notice it cos it mostly happens moments before he comes ,,,,,, iam sure if i have got thses facts wrong some one will tell me ,,,, i know i spelled some things wrong ,,, hee hee

 

[psyche]

Re: penis question

A question for men and women ...

I've been reading posts and stories on here and whether it's coincidence or not, I don't know ... but I've run into quite a few references lately to men having "pre-cum" I've heard about precum ... I'm sure health class mentioned it in Jr. High ... but I've never experienced it myself.

Is this something common amoung men? Is it more common NOT to leak pre-cum? Does it just mean that if I was a woman I'd be dry?

I'm thinking it's an advantage not to wet my pants when I'm dancing ... But the references on here make it sound like a big turn on for a woman ...

Curious curious ... any thoughts ?

I can't speak for other women, but the turn on for me is that precum is associated with a hard cock and the fact that my partner is sexually aroused. It's an indication that he is hot, and that I have caused this condition. He will also remedy the situation by fucking me!