Questions-

[Alley Cat]

I have this fantasy...
Its pretty much that i want to be forced by my significant other into a gang bang situation.

So here is the question.

How does one tell this to their person?
When do you bring it up in a relationship?
And- If this is allowed to happen once, what do i do if i want to do it more?

Is it irresponsible to get into a commited sort of relationship with these thoughts going through one's head?

What i would like to know, Is your take. What would you do?

 

[Zamdrist]

You want the appearance of being forced right, like the other guys, minus your SO wouldn't be any wiser until the actual moment...?

I would suggest dropping hints on him. I guess it depends on how well you know him and if he's open to the idea. Hell I know I would but suprisingly a lot of men are not into sharing.

What's worked for me in the past is to use e-mail...but agree upon not speaking about it in the open or face to face. That leaves a certain mystery about it.

I don't think it's irresponsible to have these thoughts. It would do no good to supress them for the sake of another. You are who you are and nothing is going to change that, you can only put it off. Gawd I've learned that one the hard way.

Zamdrist

 

[Alley Cat]

But...

This is only one thing. Do i put a relationship into jepordy by asking this? I do realize that most men don't want to share... And the fact that i asked.. That could make some men, well a lot of them insecure about the sexual satisfaction, and my commitment.
I mean, theoretcially, if this never happened in my life, I suppose i would survive.

men never want to share me.
bleh

 

[Zamdrist]

But...

This is only one thing. Do i put a relationship into jepordy by asking this? I do realize that most men don't want to share... And the fact that i asked.. That could make some men, well a lot of them insecure about the sexual satisfaction, and my commitment.
I mean, theoretcially, if this never happened in my life, I suppose i would survive.

men never want to share me.
bleh

Yeah, you would survive, but at what price? Do you supress one of your greatest fantasies for the sake of the relationship? That's a decision only you can make of course.

I'm 31, not a great many years under my belt, but I think it's very important to not supress your dreams nor fantasies. It will only fester.

Another point...he has to want to do it, and not just for your sake but because he'd enjoy it too.

Besides, I imagine many people here, including myself would love to hear all the wonderful details

Zamdrist

 

[Alley Cat]

I do need more story material....

one thing though...
is it possible for one to find someone who loves, and respects you, and is still willing to follow through on this?

I mean. I can imagine certain past SO's that would have done it.. possibly. But then I know the relationsjip would never be the same.

I have this need to be treated in an old fashioned way. Then used. and abused. lol.
and. Most people don't get the extremes done for me in a relationship. They do one or the other.

 

[Zamdrist]

I do need more story material....

one thing though...
is it possible for one to find someone who loves, and respects you, and is still willing to follow through on this?

Well, I hope someone else also jumps in here, I'm no expert on relationships...but is anyone?

Is it possible...surely it is, but you have to hang with the right crowd...exactly why I'm here

My next SO, if there is one, will be just as excited about erotic literature, pictures, and what not as me, and will also be bi-sexual...that's a requirement, I know now.

But I digress, this thread is about you...I think it's definately possible. I for one wouldn't have a problem with sharing, and I think there are a number of men here and elsewhere that are like that.

Matter of fact, love & respect would have to include at least entertaining the idea of your fantasy...and then discussing how you might go about fullfilling it. That would be most loving and respectful.

Zamdrist

 

[Alley Cat]

this thread is about me, but also about you. and you! and yeah. you over there.

I do agree with what my next SO will have to have...
-must like lesbian porn.
-must like Literotica
-Must like bondage
-must treat me nice
-Must be willing to try anything.


I know.
Long list.

But one can dream, eh?

 

[Zamdrist]

Well that's not asking much

Yeah, lesbian porn is the only porn I'm even interested in...it's absolutely delicious. The image of another female face between the thighs of a woman just sends me through the roof.

I'm not just saying this either My past threads will prove that

This place has really become a home for me I fear...

Zamdrist

 

[Alley Cat]

It doesn't seem like such a bad place to call home.
I just can't keep up with all the different subject lines.