Question of the day: Does size or skill matter more

[SexuallyGifted]

1st post here but some of you may have seen my pics thanks to my love "midnight angel" and my question of the day is Which matters more directly concerning oral/anal/vaginal sex size or skill?

 

[lovetoread]

Its nice to meet you, and my choice would be skill.

But hey if it is attached to a fella that happened to be on the larger size...

Oops forgot to add...VERY nice pics they were.......

 

[MidnightAngel]

Well......

My answer would be.......

Hold out till you find someone with size AND skill......I did.

PS - Hi Honey!

 

[MysticSwing]

Skill.... Definitly skill.

 

[SexuallyGifted]

Hi Babe

 

[SexuallyGifted]

Babe,

I am gonna set the record straight about your answer to the Q of the day: you found someone with a big cock and trained him well, I think everyone should know that you took my virginity

 

[MidnightAngel]

God, you're embaressing me..........

 

[xzchief]

Babe,

I am gonna set the record straight about your answer to the Q of the day: you found someone with a big cock and trained him well, I think everyone should know that you took my virginity

Oh! So that explains why Gifted is a "virgin" and Angel is "experienced". Congratulations, dude.

 

[curleyann]

Does size or skill matter more

Skill matters more. Of course the ultimate is to find someone with size AND skill.

 

[MizTabby]

Never thought of it before but..

I'd have to say skill, nothing like a man who knows his ins and outs but then there are also all sorts of surprises in different sizes!

 

[Dryfus3368]

my $.02

Well, being a male that isn't greatly endowed, I would opt for talent. But that's me. I don't think I'm a sex god or anything, but I think the imprtant thing is to learn the partner you have rather than trying to have as many partners as possibale to learn how to be good at sex. Well thats my $.02






Dryfus

 

[LookingForYouToo]

Ok, I have heard all my life..."It's not the size of the ship...it's the motion of the ocean.." right..well there is a difference between a dingy and a cruise ship.

My biggest problem is not to act like a ski boat....

 

[luv2tvl69]

Well in my life I have had small, medium and large sized penis'
and the size really didnt have too much to do with the pleasure they could or could not give. It was if they knew what to do with it, to me that made the difference between ohhh and OHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH
As well as making a difference between 1 and 6 orgasms

as quoted by Dryfus3368 Well, being a male that isn't greatly endowed, I would opt for talent. But that's me. I don't think I'm a sex god or anything, but I think the imprtant thing is to learn the partner you have rather than trying to have as many partners as possibale to learn how to be good at sex. Well thats my $.02

You are absolutely right, if you are intuned to your partners turnons, desires and reactions to different stimulous you will go much farther than if you didnt have a clue and had a 10 inch penis. Oh, and by the way...I see you have 69 posts....you do realize that is my favorite position....hmmmmmmmmmmm is that fate or what....

 

[Mae13]

My vote's for skill!

Course this is based solely on my personal experiences, but skill is the kicker! To be honest, the most satisfying lovers I've had all rated in the average scale, usually on the lower side of that scale as well. However, be it their rhythm, their movement, or for the fact that one could just always seem to intuit *exactly* what it was I REALLY needed at the moment, they were the best lovers by far! Definitely the difference between that "are you done yet?" experience and one that has you coming so hard and so often that you really do pass out

Part of it seems that some fellows that are well endowed think that's all they need. Everyone will be so impressed with their 8/9/10/whatever inch penis, that they need to have no creativity, no style, no staying power, etc! It's like they've been trained by bad pornos or something, just some mindless pumping and it will keep a blissful smile on any girls face...yeah right! You could be built like a beer can and that attitude still wouldn't do a damn thing for me. Actually, that attitude wouldn't even get you in my bed (or in my shower, on my dining room table, on my floor...) in the first place

Related to the oral issue, obviously the larger he is, the more practice and work it takes to be able to swallow him completely, but that's not a bad thing at all, just means you have to make sure you practice a LOT. I would never complain about that homework!

Ach, enough babbling, I need to go to bed! Bad Mae, bad Mae! (Yep, I'm self-punishing, heehee!)

MK

 

[Sabineteas]

Question of the Day

Skill, please...guys take note and practice, practice, practice.

I have had one large lover. Unless I was really worked up it hurt at the start and I never got comfortable after that with him. Average is just peachy!

 

[kotori]

related to oral issues. . .

from the other perspective (i.e., male mouth / felmale sex organ), skill is everything! (And making sure my chin is shaved--or so I've been told.)

 

[kotori]

Carnegie Hall

Sabine, if you'd like to help me get there, I'd be more than happy to practice, practice, practice with you.

 

[MidnightAngel]

I have had one large lover. Unless I was really worked up it hurt at the start and I never got comfortable after that with him.

Hmm...That brings up an interesting point. If you have a lover who is overly 'well-endowed', perhaps that makes skill even more of a necessity. Yes, having sex with someone who is huge *does* hurt unless they are skilled and concerned enough to take the time to help you get totally 'in the mood'.

Get over here, SG....this thread is starting to give me wicked thoughts.

 

[Sabineteas]

Kotori

Sabine, if you'd like to help me get there, I'd be more than happy to practice, practice, practice with you.

Would you? Could you? Where are you?

God knows that I need the practice.

 

[Elizabeth]

Skill. My ex was huge and it was not plesant. After the kids, it was really painful unless I used tons of lube.

 

[Astroboy]

Okay I understand that skill is more important but what exactly constitutes skill?
Is it staying power, rhythm, ability to multiple orgasm?
And with size what are the thoughts on penis thickness or vaginal length/tightness?

 

[lovetoread]

Okay I understand that skill is more important but what exactly constitutes skill?
Is it staying power, rhythm, ability to multiple orgasm?
And with size what are the thoughts on penis thickness or vaginal length/tightness?

Okay to me, skill is the ability to make sure I am ready/lubed before he gets busy. Not a ram it in,hope it fits type.

The other things <rhythm,staying power> are great,but if he knows what he is doing, size and or how long it takes doesnt matter much with me.

Being multi orgasmic isnt the highest priority for me. I mean there have been really relaxing times that didnt involve toe curling big orgasms that made me scream....<although when I have them I never complain.>

The tightness is where I get into problems. After a week, I am tight as a virgin. Great for my partner, but not so much fun for me. If I had a fella that was really wide, we'd have to have sex alot or he'd kill me.

But of course all of this is my 2 cents worth of opinion....

 

[Astroboy]

Okay, foreplay is always good. Dinner, aromatherapy & a hot bath, massage is something I enjoy...
...the details of the massage?
and yes lube is good...
but LTR, when you say "...if he knows what he's doing..."

? hmm I guess this is hard to articulate?
Rocking? grinding? pumping?
pubic bone to clit?
kiss while you grind? moan while you pump?

 

[lovetoread]

Okay, foreplay is always good. Dinner, aromatherapy & a hot bath, massage is something I enjoy...
...the details of the massage?
and yes lube is good...
but LTR, when you say "...if he knows what he's doing..."

? hmm I guess this is hard to articulate?

Why yes it is. How do you describe feelings that vary from person to person?

Rocking? grinding? pumping?

All three please. In all seriousness, just pumping isnt gonna do it. You must have some finesse while moving.

pubic bone to clit?

Oh god,I love it, rarely happens though. Usually a lover will reach down and touch that spot just to make sure that the partner will have an orgasm.

kiss while you grind? moan while you pump?

I'm not into kissing while in the actual act of moving,but loud groans, moans, oh god's, and yes yes yes are all good to me. But you are going to have someone say they dont like noise while they screw. I also like lots of dirty words to be spoken.

Sorry I wasnt clearer before.

 

[Pee-Jay]

Size or Skill??

Here's my own very personal opinion on the subject.

I really don't think size is too important, and I'm lucky that most of my partners have thought me reasonably well endowed!

Skill helps, but I really think that consideration, respect and mutual enjoyment make sex really great.

Even a one nighter can be made far more enjoyable if you give a little thought to your partner, doesn't mean that you want to make it into any more than a fun night!

One of my most enjoyable nights was with a girl who was so tight and scared of being hurt (bad experience with a former partner) that I couldn't even get inside her.
She had orgasm after orgasm with my fingers and tongue and ended up sucking me off.
Great night, fantastic sex and no penetration at all. Size is not important really!!

Just care about your partner..