Question for those leaving personals ads

[Pashenry]

Promotion.

I have never posted a personal on this site.

I have had some VERY Personal exchanges on this site.

That was only accomplished on the principle of arttraction rather than promotion.

I have had very interesting conversations with 3 "women". Two were . It's not hard to figure out. when one is not.

If your honest in what you post and it's interesting. The interested will contact.

I met my better half on Plenty of Fish a free dating site. The BS is unreal. I wasn't attempting to be anyone but myself. And so was she. It only works if you do it that way.

Doing that way took 3 years. So overnight sucess well ......dreams never die just the dreamer.

I'm in sales . Rejection based on truth is no big deal to me.

 

[SassySheDevil]

I've heard that sweet voice. It makes me excited. :*

haha no, you've heard my normal voice. The sweet voice is often used for calls to strangers. They don't already know I'm a devil, so I can fake it.

I've been off and on on Lit for about 4 yrs, and never placed an ad. Why? Because the odds of me meeting someone, even if was just for sex, are up there with Powerball odds. So, I chat, and post, and write dirty little PMs, and hope to meet people of like minds. I have meet someone from here, and she was a wonderful person. But time and distance ended that. So, I keep coming back, and hoping to make new friends...

Those I have met were not from an ad either. It was socializing out in the open mostly.

I have never posted a personal on this site.

I have had some VERY Personal exchanges on this site.

That was only accomplished on the principle of arttraction rather than promotion.

I have had very interesting conversations with 3 "women". Two were . It's not hard to figure out. when one is not.

If your honest in what you post and it's interesting. The interested will contact.

I met my better half on Plenty of Fish a free dating site. The BS is unreal. I wasn't attempting to be anyone but myself. And so was she. It only works if you do it that way.

Doing that way took 3 years. So overnight sucess well ......dreams never die just the dreamer.

I'm in sales . Rejection based on truth is no big deal to me.

Honesty is always best
I'm too forgetful anyway and would forget my lies.

 

[Chris_Michael]

So you claim - IME that's not always true - it's a product of social conditioning etc.

No, it's not. That's complete and utter bullshit and feminist dogma. To say otherwise is like saying "Oh well the clitoris and the penis are one in the same, but we think of them differently due to social conditioning." That's silly. They are biologically different, but the hormones at conception dictate whether this organ becomes a penis or clitoris.

Let me introduce you to Sargon of Akkad.
Video - Everything is Sexist
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tJ4tXdY_du8

Men and women are different. And it is NOT sexist to say that. It's also not due to how society has trained me to think. If anything, society has made me NOT want to date any woman at all because I'm constantly being accused of misogyny. The Patriarchy! Everything is problematic because of the Patriarchy!

"Frankly, misogyny is the air that we breathe." - MSNBC
"Misogyny is ingrained from birth." -Taylor Swift

Let me introduce you to Milo Yiannopoulos. He is a very brilliant man, and discusses this topic thoroughly.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wiESisEL43c

And finally, feminism has set men free. This is a wonderful thing.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RPETpCVrH9Y

 

[JasonGuitar]

I usually post in the Yahoo and Kik threads when work is slow. I don't specify whether I'm looking to chat with M or F. If an M contacts me, sometimes we chat, sometimes they try to turn it sexual and I'm not into that because I'm straight. Every now and then I'm contacted by an F, and sometimes it turns sexual, other times it doesn't. I usually have no expectations when I post other than to kill time.

 

[Blase]

If an M contacts me, sometimes we chat, sometimes they try to turn it sexual and I'm not into that because I'm straight.

I've had that happen a couple times. It's the reason I finally put "male" in my bio, because some guys would read one of my posts and not bother to read any of my other posts before making contact.

 

[SassySheDevil]

I've had that happen a couple times. It's the reason I finally put "male" in my bio, because some guys would read one of my posts and not bother to read any of my other posts before making contact.

This made me laugh because this is why I made the picture I did on the first post, which Vincess was kind enough to admit he didn't see the words at first (which also made me laugh)
I can say in big letters that I am not looking for PMs, or anyone to send me their messenger names etc and someone will ALWAYS send me a message saying "Hey, add me, here is my user name..."
I like to call it "selective reading until boobs appear" and since my posts don't always have boobs in them, some just "forget" to read all together.

 

[Dreamer74111]

This made me laugh because this is why I made the picture I did on the first post, which Vincess was kind enough to admit he didn't see the words at first (which also made me laugh)
I can say in big letters that I am not looking for PMs, or anyone to send me their messenger names etc and someone will ALWAYS send me a message saying "Hey, add me, here is my user name..."
I like to call it "selective reading until boobs appear" and since my posts don't always have boobs in them, some just "forget" to read all together.

I had a similar experience to Blase, prior to putting male in my profile too.

 

[Paul_Chance]

I've enjoyed reading this thread and I would have been curious to hear from someone who posts those type of ads to see there response.

My observation is this - it's very similar to the guy who walks into a bar and proceeds to hit on every woman he can. They're simply playing the odds. If you're going to get a bite for 1 in 10, then you have to be willing to hit all 10 sometimes to get that one. The 9 who don't respond can't figure it out - but the 1 who does respond knows the name of the game.

The straight up request with minimal detail, in it's own way, makes clear what the poster of the personal wants. I think that's way that type of ad has been around for a long time. No conversation, no relationship, no getting to know you - straight up cyber without dancing around.

In any major city there are places where it's well known within the community that folks who go there have one thought on their mind and then the ruthless game of picking a partner is played in a relatively short time. In the eighties they called in zipless sex. The internet just made it even easier.

 

[coacheric]

I like to call it "selective reading until boobs appear" and since my posts don't always have boobs in them, some just "forget" to read all together.

You got boobs?

 

[Penuche]

No, it's not. That's complete and utter bullshit and feminist dogma. To say otherwise is like saying "Oh well the clitoris and the penis are one in the same, but we think of them differently due to social conditioning." That's silly. They are biologically different, but the hormones at conception dictate whether this organ becomes a penis or clitoris.<snip>

Calm down dear, you're getting shrill.

Conflating physical difference with mental and emotional difference is a mistake - there are plenty of aspie women who think and percieve the world in a way far more akin to the patriarchal type of masculine thought and perception. Next you'll be telling me that all women are nurturers by inclination and all men are hunters/fighters. Again, it's down to conditioning far more than hormones.

BTW don't bother posting clips - my mobile broadband data allowance won't allow me to view them.

 

[SassySheDevil]

I've enjoyed reading this thread and I would have been curious to hear from someone who posts those type of ads to see there response.

My observation is this - it's very similar to the guy who walks into a bar and proceeds to hit on every woman he can. They're simply playing the odds. If you're going to get a bite for 1 in 10, then you have to be willing to hit all 10 sometimes to get that one. The 9 who don't respond can't figure it out - but the 1 who does respond knows the name of the game.

The straight up request with minimal detail, in it's own way, makes clear what the poster of the personal wants. I think that's way that type of ad has been around for a long time. No conversation, no relationship, no getting to know you - straight up cyber without dancing around.

In any major city there are places where it's well known within the community that folks who go there have one thought on their mind and then the ruthless game of picking a partner is played in a relatively short time. In the eighties they called in zipless sex. The internet just made it even easier.

So do women often want this as well? And you just don't see it spoken about?

You got boobs?

I hide them well, they are pretty small after all.

 

[SassySheDevil]

No, it's not. That's complete and utter bullshit and feminist dogma. To say otherwise is like saying "Oh well the clitoris and the penis are one in the same, but we think of them differently due to social conditioning." That's silly. They are biologically different, but the hormones at conception dictate whether this organ becomes a penis or clitoris.

Let me introduce you to Sargon of Akkad.
Video - Everything is Sexist
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tJ4tXdY_du8

Men and women are different. And it is NOT sexist to say that. It's also not due to how society has trained me to think. If anything, society has made me NOT want to date any woman at all because I'm constantly being accused of misogyny. The Patriarchy! Everything is problematic because of the Patriarchy!

"Frankly, misogyny is the air that we breathe." - MSNBC
"Misogyny is ingrained from birth." -Taylor Swift

Let me introduce you to Milo Yiannopoulos. He is a very brilliant man, and discusses this topic thoroughly.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wiESisEL43c

And finally, feminism has set men free. This is a wonderful thing.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RPETpCVrH9Y

Calm down dear, you're getting shrill.

Conflating physical difference with mental and emotional difference is a mistake - there are plenty of aspie women who think and percieve the world in a way far more akin to the patriarchal type of masculine thought and perception. Next you'll be telling me that all women are nurturers by inclination and all men are hunters/fighters. Again, it's down to conditioning far more than hormones.

BTW don't bother posting clips - my mobile broadband data allowance won't allow me to view them.

I see some angry sex brewing here .

 

[Blase]

So do women often want this as well? And you just don't see it spoken about?

Well, you do see it spoken about: Certainly some of the "Come do me now!" ads are ostensibly posted by females. Are they all really women? Of course not, but doubtless some are.

And I have also seen women talking about their experiences with casual, even anonymous sex in discussion threads on Lit and occasionally in other places.

Uncommon? Yes, especially compared to the number of males seeking such encounters. But not unheard of.

 

[thaneofcawdor]

I have tried

Various approaches, with some limited success.
Typically, the more detailed ad, the better the response, although the Lit Skype conference was the most successful.

 

[coacheric]

I hide them well, they are pretty small after all.

I'm horny! Send me pictures of your tits and let's chat while I cum all over them!

wrong thread??

 

[Pink_Milkmaid]

So do women often want this as well? And you just don't see it spoken about?

I think women can want anonymous, same as men, but I think their definition and expectations may be slightly different. Women seem to crave conversation and some modicum of seduction whereas men may not, and the "horny right now" posts are good at conveying that the poster is not up for the will-we-or-won't-we dance. Which is fine. At least they are honest, but they may not get as many replies as they'd hope because what they want isn't how a lot of women operate. And it's not that women don't want cyber--they just have different needs and expectations than the one line posters can typically meet. Just IMHO.

 

[thaneofcawdor]

I think women can want anonymous, same as men, but I think their definition and expectations may be slightly different. Women seem to crave conversation and some modicum of seduction whereas men may not, and the "horny right now" posts are good at conveying that the poster is not up for the will-we-or-won't-we dance. Which is fine. At least they are honest, but they may not get as many replies as they'd hope because what they want isn't how a lot of women operate. And it's not that women don't want cyber--they just have different needs and expectations than the one line posters can typically meet. Just IMHO.

I agree

 

[Penuche]

I think women can want anonymous, same as men, <snip> it's not that women don't want cyber--they just have different needs and expectations than the one line posters can typically meet. Just IMHO.

Agreed - if I wanted to go from normal level of arousal to 10 in as few seconds, I'd settle for a vibrator and enough lube to prevent friction burns, and no cybering. I don't take kindly to being expected to work (or play) to somebody else's schedule when I don't have to!

Even anonymous no strings sex is difficult to quickly get in the mindset for if, up until then, you've been partly concentrating on more mundane and less enjoyable things.

 

[Pink_Milkmaid]

Agreed - if I wanted to go from normal level of arousal to 10 in as few seconds, I'd settle for a vibrator and enough lube to prevent friction burns, and no cybering. I don't take kindly to being expected to work (or play) to somebody else's schedule when I don't have to!

Even anonymous no strings sex is difficult to quickly get in the mindset for if, up until then, you've been partly concentrating on more mundane and less enjoyable things.

Exactly this. I also wanted to add that I think that a lot of men have zero reservations about pictures, voice, or cam, but women *have* to be more cautious about that stuff. You see horror stories all the time about pics being shared without permission and worse. "Anyone want to cam tonight?" is nice and to the point for the horny dudes posting, but a lot of women simply don't have the luxury of flipping that switch instantaneously.

 

[coacheric]

Exactly this. I also wanted to add that I think that a lot of men have zero reservations about pictures, voice, or cam, but women *have* to be more cautious about that stuff. You see horror stories all the time about pics being shared without permission and worse. "Anyone want to cam tonight?" is nice and to the point for the horny dudes posting, but a lot of women simply don't have the luxury of flipping that switch instantaneously.

Totally agree with the pictures, cams and video. Guys are a lot more willing to share face and other body parts without a lot of, well, anything! Women tend to be and need to probably be much more cautious with who and what they share. Lots of guys don't respect or even care about the woman's feelings when they get a picture.

 

[Penuche]

Exactly this. I also wanted to add that I think that a lot of men have zero reservations about pictures, voice, or cam, but women *have* to be more cautious about that stuff. You see horror stories all the time about pics being shared without permission and worse. "Anyone want to cam tonight?" is nice and to the point for the horny dudes posting, but a lot of women simply don't have the luxury of flipping that switch instantaneously.

And then we're back to "because patriarchy": Men come home from a day at work and can typically feel free to relax - women come home from work and (even in the 21st century) still feel the expectation that they'll be responsible for the evening meal, supervising children, getting any housework done etc.

If/when I'm on Lit, this is part of the notional down time I've carved out for myself: Anyone (male or female) expecting even a fragment of it to be given over to them for more than one short PM had better be pretty damn special. And some of them were/are.

 

[SassySheDevil]

Well, you do see it spoken about: Certainly some of the "Come do me now!" ads are ostensibly posted by females. Are they all really women? Of course not, but doubtless some are.

And I have also seen women talking about their experiences with casual, even anonymous sex in discussion threads on Lit and occasionally in other places.

Uncommon? Yes, especially compared to the number of males seeking such encounters. But not unheard of.

I think this is my thought. If I see a woman saying this, my first thought is to question if it's really a woman. I also then look at post count because if it's a low post count, I assume they haven't experienced the consequence of posting such an ad. Lastly I just think "oh well"

Various approaches, with some limited success.
Typically, the more detailed ad, the better the response, although the Lit Skype conference was the most successful.

I don't use Skype that much. It is nice to hear peoples voices though.

I'm horny! Send me pictures of your tits and let's chat while I cum all over them!

wrong thread??

lol yes. Wrong girl too.

 

[Paul_Chance]

Yes, there are women who want the same thing as men - and sometimes take that same approach. "You, me, now".

I think you simply don't see it as often because generally when a woman takes that approach she has a list of suitors quickly lining up and...

I also think that when a woman takes that approach she is more likely to catch flack from other women and the men she doesn't pick. Again, just from my experience - and one size doesn't fit all.

Lit is kind of a strange place because it's sort of a "half sex" place. Half the crowd is looking for sex (or cyber/cam/online) actively and the other half is talking about sex (and may occasionally indulge).

 

[Kinkenglish]

"...oh well..."

Sniggers ... Master (mistress?) of the understatement

 

[SassySheDevil]

I think women can want anonymous, same as men, but I think their definition and expectations may be slightly different. Women seem to crave conversation and some modicum of seduction whereas men may not, and the "horny right now" posts are good at conveying that the poster is not up for the will-we-or-won't-we dance. Which is fine. At least they are honest, but they may not get as many replies as they'd hope because what they want isn't how a lot of women operate. And it's not that women don't want cyber--they just have different needs and expectations than the one line posters can typically meet. Just IMHO.

You make a very good point. I would agree with this.

Agreed - if I wanted to go from normal level of arousal to 10 in as few seconds, I'd settle for a vibrator and enough lube to prevent friction burns, and no cybering. I don't take kindly to being expected to work (or play) to somebody else's schedule when I don't have to!

Even anonymous no strings sex is difficult to quickly get in the mindset for if, up until then, you've been partly concentrating on more mundane and less enjoyable things.

I've never done the anonymous sex, but often wished I could detach enough to. But I can agree with the rest

Exactly this. I also wanted to add that I think that a lot of men have zero reservations about pictures, voice, or cam, but women *have* to be more cautious about that stuff. You see horror stories all the time about pics being shared without permission and worse. "Anyone want to cam tonight?" is nice and to the point for the horny dudes posting, but a lot of women simply don't have the luxury of flipping that switch instantaneously.

I have actually found the opposite (unless it's strictly dick pics) At least the ones here on Lit, I have had a harder time getting anything the resembles personal. Pictures (face or non dick) or personal information.

Totally agree with the pictures, cams and video. Guys are a lot more willing to share face and other body parts without a lot of, well, anything! Women tend to be and need to probably be much more cautious with who and what they share. Lots of guys don't respect or even care about the woman's feelings when they get a picture.

Then there is me who probably posts more face pics lol