Question for the straight men of this board.

[Queen_Vicki]

Does your sexual experience with a woman, dictates if you will end up in a relationship or not with them? Say, for instance the best pussy you ever had was from some hot blonde chick, with blue eyes, but she might be a shitty girlfriend. But a meek, and sweet brunette that don't have much sexual experiences,actually she's a VIRGIN, but she could be a perfect catch when it comes to relationships.


Also, question #2. Do you like giving or receiving more? Pick only ONE

 

[CharlieGG]

I don't really think your question is quite that simple. Obviously there's a lot that goes into a relationship, sex is just one of the key elements.

For me, the sex could be mind-blowing, but if she's a shitty girlfriend, she's a shitty girlfriend and I'm not staying in that relationship.

If the aforementioned "Virgin brunette" was someone interested in exploring her sexuality and learning then that's great... if she "doesn't like sex, not interested" then yes, that's probably a deal breaker too.

Definitely prefer to give

 

[eye_see_me]

My 2 cents

Does your sexual experience with a woman, dictates if you will end up in a relationship or not with them? Say, for instance the best pussy you ever had was from some hot blonde chick, with blue eyes, but she might be a shitty girlfriend. But a meek, and sweet brunette that don't have much sexual experiences,actually she's a VIRGIN, but she could be a perfect catch when it comes to relationships.


Also, question #2. Do you like giving or receiving more? Pick only ONE

#1 I for one have never judged a relationship completely on sex. I know I am in the minority as although I appreciate good looks and good sex I much prefer a great conversation, wit, an open intelligent mind "coupled" with sexual curiosity.

However, if there is no passion or interest in sex (think of just "laying there") that would be a deal killer. I also do not share the desire to have a virgin though I am not opposed to it.

#2 I actually prefer giving over receiving.

 

[Carnevil9]

I've had girlfriends who were great girlfriends but lousy in the sack. Those never last.

I've had girlfriends who were she-devils in the sack, but lousy in every other way. Those never lasted either. Well, not too long.

It's worth holding out for a person that is the whole enchilada, plus a bag of chips. They are out there, and I (and you) deserve them.



As for Question #2, I reject it as a false dichotomy. In a real relationship, you are neither giving nor receiving; you are sharing.

 

[chargergirl]

I've had girlfriends who were great girlfriends but lousy in the sack. Those never last.

I've had girlfriends who were she-devils in the sack, but lousy in every other way. Those never lasted either. Well, not too long.

It's worth holding out for a person that is the whole enchilada, plus a bag of chips. They are out there, and I (and you) deserve them.



As for Question #2, I reject it as a false dichotomy. In a real relationship, you are neither giving nor receiving; you are sharing.

this.

 

[irishblade]

Does your sexual experience with a woman, dictates if you will end up in a relationship or not with them? Say, for instance the best pussy you ever had was from some hot blonde chick, with blue eyes, but she might be a shitty girlfriend. But a meek, and sweet brunette that don't have much sexual experiences,actually she's a VIRGIN, but she could be a perfect catch when it comes to relationships.


Also, question #2. Do you like giving or receiving more? Pick only ONE

I'm a natural giver so for me its simple. If she was phenomenal in bed but a terrible girlfriend......give me the meek virgin brunette. You can learn and grow together sexually but you can't fix bitch.

 

[HoldYouDown]

Yeah, the world isn't binary. I would rather have a woman who is sweet and caring and respectful and good at being a girlfriend; I can teach her how to be a good lover. Sexual "experience" is overrated in females in my opinion. She doesn't need to be a virgin necessarily, but I'm not going to go all-in for a woman who's diminished her own sexual value. A man can turn ALMOST any woman into his personal hellcat in bed if he puts in the effort himself. I've learned that most women are flexible (heh) and will go along with what I want as long as they feel safe.

Great sex is not worth being treated like crap the rest of the time. Most men, unfortunately, are so desperate they will gladly trade in their dignity for "great sex" (or any sex). They cede their self-respect and get walked over by the woman. It goes both ways - people do not respect someone who does not respect him/herself. What most men don't realize is that while women are the gatekeepers of sex, men are the gatekeepers of commitment. As a man, my exclusivity is my personal prize. Why would I give it away to a woman who doesn't deserve it? You have to have more going on than acting like a porn star in bed. Any woman can do that. Are you courteous and supportive? Are you attractive?* Can you cook? Do you take care of your body, mind, and soul? Would you be a good parent? If I can say yes to these questions, so should you. Sexual compatibility counts, but like I said for the right Man most women will make themselves compatible.

As for question #2, men and women are complementary. They give and receive differently.

*I.e., do you give me a boner. Your job title is not a source of attraction to me.

 

[lovecraft68]

No because when I was single I pretty much had decided what I wanted before hand.

If it was a simple pick up/hook up the sex could be mind blowing and not saying there may not be another encounter, but if I was in "stand" mode all I ws looking for is sex.

If I had taken a woman out a couple of times and was interested in her I wouldn't be put off if the sex was not the greatest the first time out. A lot of times sex improves with familiarity and comfort level and of course emotion.

So it has nothing to do with my decision.

 

[YoungNSexy1]

I'm a natural giver so for me its simple. If she was phenomenal in bed but a terrible girlfriend......give me the meek virgin brunette. You can learn and grow together sexually but you can't fix bitch.

^^^^^
THIS

 

[~Haze~]

Sex and relationships are two different things.

They're not mutually exclusive. They can go together but don't have to. In fact, in my experience, the best sexual chemistry commonly occurs with those who I'm not in a relationship with. ::shrugs:: But ya never know what can happen.

Oh...yes.... And without any hesitation I can tell you that I prefer to give so much more. SO MUCH MORE.

 

[~Haze~]

No because when I was single I pretty much had decided what I wanted before hand.

I never understood this. In my experience, it never works. It almost feels like trying to hire from a resume and has....in my opinion....a very superficial feel.

For me, it is a simple matter of finding and enjoying a connection I feel with someone.

 

[perrafuker]

personally i'd rather have a girlfriend that is sweet and caring than someone that is super hot but shallow and doesnt have any concern or care for others.and no i dont think that the perfect woman exists out there.women like us men have flaws.some maybe physical others intellectual and others emotional.the perfect hot woman is just a fantasy made up by hollywood...btw,i will tun around this question and ask the ladies.if you know a man that has a good physique and money but is a total ass and a lousy lover will you take him over a guy that probably is a virgin but has good feelings but doesnt have much money and what have you?who would you choose,lets be honest here....

 

[FGB]

Does your sexual experience with a woman, dictates if you will end up in a relationship or not with them? Say, for instance the best pussy you ever had was from some hot blonde chick, with blue eyes, but she might be a shitty girlfriend. But a meek, and sweet brunette that don't have much sexual experiences,actually she's a VIRGIN, but she could be a perfect catch when it comes to relationships.


Also, question #2. Do you like giving or receiving more? Pick only ONE

Huh.

I have had hot sex with...blondes, brunettes as well as redheads and some I'm not real sure what color they were.

I have dated some who were not as good as would have liked even had wives for that matter, but would not date someone who was just not worth a damn in bed.

I have never had a Virgin but I did have the privilege of teaching a "only had sex once and it was pretty much raping event" young lady about sex and I would DAMNED sure do that again!

I like giving and receiving...I find the best sex is when both parties are into giving and receiving.

 

[Eriger4U]

people change and grow

Does your sexual experience with a woman, dictates if you will end up in a relationship or not with them? Say, for instance the best pussy you ever had was from some hot blonde chick, with blue eyes, but she might be a shitty girlfriend. But a meek, and sweet brunette that don't have much sexual experiences,actually she's a VIRGIN, but she could be a perfect catch when it comes to relationships.


Also, question #2. Do you like giving or receiving more? Pick only ONE

Ahhhhhh a trick question....good I like that.

Since niether will remain as they are, the correct answer is both.

The blond, whom I as a man must tame, first by proper sexual satisfaction, shall become my faithful lover and whose attitude will be corrected in secondary manner by spanking or other physical punishments as required....and will then behave..or else.

The change of course will be her breaking and taming, and who freely desires me over others, and wishes only to please me in every way.



The brunette, who will be taught to behave sexually as I desire, shall become my lover through a teacher / pupil model, and whose lessons may include an occasional other sexual partner or partners for comparison to fully round her experiences and skills. Such secondary encounters will reinforce her knowledge of my superior sexual methods and endowments.

The change of course will be her transformation from unknowing virgin to a fully sexually experienced woman, who freely desires me over others, because she knows I make her feel like no other can.


Giving is the prelude to receiving.

 

[HoldYouDown]

If she was phenomenal in bed but a terrible girlfriend......give me the meek virgin brunette. You can learn and grow together sexually but you can't fix bitch.

Well said.

 

[sunandshadow]

I met a straight man once who wasn't into giving or receiving. His model was more like, if two people are in bed, each is like a sex toy for the other; each person is primarily involved with giving themself pleasure, not the other person.

 

[Prasa]

see u again

Does your sexual experience with a woman, dictates if you will end up in a relationship or not with them? Say, for instance the best pussy you ever had was from some hot blonde chick, with blue eyes, but she might be a shitty girlfriend. But a meek, and sweet brunette that don't have much sexual experiences,actually she's a VIRGIN, but she could be a perfect catch when it comes to relationships.


Also, question #2. Do you like giving or receiving more? Pick only ONE

vicki!

1) it is irrational to expect a greatest beauty queen can be such a greatest catch on the bed and it is also very very irrational to expect a fair girls can be worse in bed and so on ..
as far as my experience , sex in bed and beauty of body are really poles apart .
so , we can't forge relationship with anyone based on these two aspects only. it takes time to decide .

2) it is also my own preference that i love giving my best to my partner !

 

[quietlylooking]

What most men don't realize is that while women are the gatekeepers of sex, men are the gatekeepers of commitment. As a man, my exclusivity is my personal prize. Why would I give it away to a woman who doesn't deserve it?

A very interesting thought. And true, I think, in general.