Question For The Lit Men

[TN_Vixen]

How many of you take offense to women directing your actions in the bedroom? I remember (unfortunately) my exhusband getting so offended when I would try to (gently) guide his actions so that they would actually be effective. heh

This isn't so uncommon. Many women feel the need to pacify the fragile male ego and hesitate to speak up in bed in order to get the stimulation they need.

Are men really as sensitive as we have been led to believe?

 

[Dillinger]

Not at all... hell, express yourself!

 

[Rick DeVille]

Are men really as sensitive as we have been led to believe?

Nope

 

[Cloak38]

I would rather the woman be honest with me and say what she needs.

Wanna direct me, TN_Vixen ?

 

[EvilBrat74]

How many of you take offense to women directing your actions in the bedroom? I remember (unfortunately) my exhusband getting so offended when I would try to (gently) guide his actions so that they would actually be effective. heh

This isn't so uncommon. Many women feel the need to pacify the fragile male ego and hesitate to speak up in bed in order to get the stimulation they need.

Are men really as sensitive as we have been led to believe?

I can't speak for all the lit men,but i think that talkin about sex alot help's to understand what each need's when your in the bedroom havin sex.It could mess up the mood tho if ya try to instruct and direct too much(Too often).

Guess it all depend's on the man or woman and the situation.

 

[StondTmplPilot]

It's never bothered me when a partner has suggested trying things a little differently. I think it adds to the fun, and I think it has helped me to become more atuned to the ladies desires. It has also, in my opinion, made me a better lover

 

[WriterDom]

Yes, cause I know what you want

But seriously, everyone is different. I try to find out what makes a new lover tick before we meet. Guys will get their pleasure no matter what.

 

[TN_Vixen]

WD

very good answer (Vanna clap) heh

Seriously, to realize that every woman is different and to take the time to pay attention to what they want, what they like, is commendable.

Like you said, men will always find a way to get off.

 

[YogiBare]

Tell me how to make you hot.

When you give me that power, this is a true gift.

 

[patient1]

input

is great!

Criticism & Nagging sucks!
(but in a bad way )

So try to come across as either a suggestion, or begging,
and follow up with compliments.

 

[Draco]

Well...I love it when the girl takes control. I'm game for almost anything when it comes to 'bedroom aerobics". If she likes it a certain way, all the better that she tells me about it, rather than sitting on her hands, not saying anything and then getting frustrated or annoyed coz I'm not giving her what she needs. My main focus is about her pleasure, not mine.

And I have to agree with STP, because of that, its made me a better lover too.

 

[Rhys]

I ask...

I ask questions... in fact, I have been told that I talk too fucking much during sex

But, I can take direction.

 

[JazzManJim]

Well, of course! If doing something a certain way makes you cum a half-dozen times, then I'm all for it. Direct away!

Hell, you can wear the goofy beret, monocle, and have the collapsible Director's Chair, too, for all that!

 

[Phoenyx]

I got no problem...


If a woman wants to direct me go right ahead.

 

[notenufsx4me]

I said SPEAK UP DAMNIT!

If i am not doing something the best way for you... please let me know!

I admit i'm good at reading a womans body in bed, But i'm not infallible! They are lot's and lot's of different likes and dislikes to have and if i learned one thing it is every woman is different in some respect when it comes to sex.

Tell me what you really want. Ask for what you have never asked anyone for before, what you would never ask your Husband, Boyfriend or Lover for because for whatever reason you would not.

But be careful, I have turned sexual monsters loose on the world before. You may find that your are someone you did not know.

 

[Cyberguy]

Vixen, if you want to express what you want a man to do to you in bed, we're all ears (and, um, other appendages) here!

Seriously though, I am all for a woman telling me what she is craving and what turns her on. If it comes across as criticism though, then it can be a turn-off. For example, suppose your guy kicks it into high gear before you are ready:

Wrong: Jesus, slow down! I'm not a friggin rabbit!

Right: Stop for a second baby, I want to feel your hard cock buried deep inside my pussy... Mmmmm, now stroke it in and out really, really slow!

 

[EvilBrat74]

Well that got blowed outta the water too.
LOL
I meant that you can talk outside the bedroom about sex...
I don't have to talk much during sex,but she likes me to.
I like to plan ahead of time somethin that she will like.
Takes all the fun outta it if ya just ask while your beside her"How do you want it tonight?"Were open about sex tho.We talk about it all the time.But i like to suprise her.Makes it more erotic for her.
My opinion only.

 

[doctor_insanus]

Personally, my credo is "Give the lady what she wants."

If she wants to take charge, I'm fine with that.

 

[cymbidia]

Personally, my credo is "Give the lady what she wants."

If she wants to take charge, I'm fine with that.

You are here!
One of my all-time and very favorite Literoticians.


I mean... hi, DI.
I've been away on a Lit break.
It's good to see you.

b.

 

[Jack Schitt]

Well, if she barks orders like a member of the Gestapo, then it would be a turn-off. But, if she acts like a normal, sweet, hot, horny babe, then I'm all for doing whatever she suggests.

 

[doctor_insanus]

*gulp*

Hi, cym!

Sorry I missed recent events... I've been kind of sporadic recently, myself. I've been thinking about you, though.

Hope you're doing well...