Question for the BBWs and fellas that love them.

[Dragonfire76]

Had a thought to start a thread to ask of the BBW's and guys that love them.

To the Ladies..Would you either gain or lose weight if a man you loved asked you?And why?

And to the fellas.

Would you dump a BBW if she lost or gained the weight? And why?

Just a question to get some interessting discussion going. So lets see the answers..

 

[peachesmelba]

I have spent many more years slender than I have as a BBW and this is the biggest this BBW has ever been - but I once broke up with a man who told me that "It's a good thing you lost all that weight before we met or I'd have never looked twice at you!" I said, "Excuse me - but I was exactly the same person THEN as I am now - there was just more of me to love and to love you with!" And although I was not really that 'big' when I was first married I lost weight after being married - my husband hated it but I always thought the reason he hated it so much was that so many more men looked at me when I was 5'7" and 120 than did when I was 5'7" and 150... And he liked keeping me all to himself. My current SO loves me - thinks I'm beautiful, hot and incredibly sexy and likes showing me off (while still keeping me all to himself). The ONLY reason I would ever want to lose or gain weight would be for my own personal health and not because of what some man (or society) says..........

 

[elusive_buttrfly]

I would never gain weight for anyone. Being healthy is wonderful. I recently lost weight but I consider myself still a bbw. If someone likes me they'll like me for me. Not my body size.

 

[babyjane20011]

My Answer

Had a thought to start a thread to ask of the BBW's and guys that love them.

To the Ladies..Would you either gain or lose weight if a man you loved asked you?And why?

And to the fellas.

Would you dump a BBW if she lost or gained the weight? And why?

Just a question to get some interessting discussion going. So lets see the answers..

I wouldnt loose weight for a mam only for me

Nancy

 

[helomech1234]

I agree with the ladies. You like them for them not for the apperrance on the outside. Don't get me wrong i love big boobs and bigger gals know how to please alot better than others and they arent really even tring hard to prove anything.

 

[helomech1234]

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[TexasWife25]

I would neither gain or loose weight for anyone else. If I didnt like how I looked, I would change it. If my SO didnt like how I looked, I would dump him.

I think he's entitled to his opinion, and it wouldnt be wrong of him if I gained or lost a bunch of weight to say that he isnt attracted to me anymore. However, once that line is crossed, I would never feel comfortable in his affection. What if when I get old I lose all my hair, or he doesnt like the way I age?

If I changed my appearance to suit him, I would always worry about him rejecting future me.

 

[PleasePeesMe]

What amazes me

is the obsession we have in the West about how women look. Is she too fat, too thin, too this, too that. Rarely happens with men.

 

[LooselipsSub]

In RL I'd be extremely resistant to, and probably extremely offended by, any type of suggestion from my SO about weight gain or loss. I don't make any demands about my partner's body size and expect the same in return.

Having said that, I find the idea of my dom forcing me to eat or alternatively depriving me of food, as part of fantasy play, to be very erotic.

Here's an interesting Wikipedia entry about fat fetishism: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Fat_fetishism.

 

[TorontoBoyWest]

Not to get all " Oh I see you just visited your therapist. Good Talk?" but the idea of asking someone to change their physical appearance for you just smells sooo selfish. If your S/O wants to change for themselves, go for it. You can't change anything for anyone. Gotta be for you.

I'm sorry. I can't even imagine having the conversation. I am far to protective of my balls to let them come to any harm by saying anything like that

 

[Boundlife]

No, I wouldn't lose weight for someone else...but if my SO came to me worried about my blood pressure, ect...I would alter my lifestyle if we did it together...if that caused me to lose weight it would be a side effect

 

[RedButterflySlut]

I'm not a skinny girl, I probably qualify as a BBW. I'm working hard on losing the weight, but I get very uncomfortable when men imply it's a necessity for me to change my physical image if I want to be with them. It feels controlling and seem to put too much emphasis on me as a pretty trophy instead of as a whole package. If they can't be attracted to me when I'm bigger, then I'm uninterested in pleasing them when I'm smaller. There's nothing wrong with men who only want to be with skinny girls (or big girls,) but I personally find it to be a big turn off.

That said, I would lose weight if my partner wanted me to but made it clear it wasn't a deal breaker in the relationship. I wouldn't gain weight, I find the notion too unhealthy and I'm dealing with a few medical problems as it is. LooselipsSub I relate with you on that fetish. :O Even though I'm very turned off by the idea of weight loss being a necessity, there's something really hot about that idea.

 

[sunandshadow]

I have been approximately the same weight for 12 years, through periods of intense physical labor and total loafing, an periods of being cooked for by others and cooking for myself. So I think it would be quite difficult for me to either lose or gain weight on purpose. For my health I would probably have negative consequences from gaining weight. For my personal happiness I don't want to attempt to lose weight because enforced dieting and exercise make me miserable and angry. So for all those reasons, no I would neither gain nor lose weight if a lover wanted me to. However if it were possible to gain and lose weight easily with no health problems, then I would have no problem doing so recreationally, might be fun to look different.

is the obsession we have in the West about how women look. Is she too fat, too thin, too this, too that. Rarely happens with men.

I sometimes wonder if women just disagree more (thus not presenting a culturally unified obsession) about the strict standards each one personally _does_ have for what makes a man attractive.

 

[bullus]

No, I wouldn't lose weight for someone else...but if my SO came to me worried about my blood pressure, etc...I would alter my lifestyle if we did it together...if that caused me to lose weight it would be a side effect

Agreed. If it were a life or death situation, then I would encourage it. But I also agree with TW above. Anyone who gets with someone and dumps them for weight gain is pretty shallow. Those people get what they deserve. I've found that women who are less obsessed with how fat/thin they are, generally are a lot more fun to be around.

 

[Dragonfire76]

Well my thread so I'll respond,I think we are who we are.I'm shorter and skinnier then most men so I know the flip side. I can't change who I am so I have to live with it.And I don't think we should change because someone told or asked us to.Barring Health concerns,they should love you for you and that's that.

 

[TexanAngel]

I wouldn't lose weight for any man. if he couldn't except me as i am then its his lose. I'm a fun, loving, caring, passionate woman. if he's so shallow that he can't see beyond my looks to see the inner me then he's not worth my time. Right now i'm trying to lose weight for myself and only myself. (and yes i know i shouldn't have had that piece of "Better then sex" cake earlier lol)

 

[SEVERUSMAX]

Would you dump a BBW if she lost or gained the weight? And why?

Just a question to get some interessting discussion going. So lets see the answers..

Wouldn't dump her for none of that crap. She's not getting rid of me that easily.

 

[sweet_secrets4u]

If a man only loved a woman for what she look like, then he don't know the meaning of love.

And if a man wanted a woman he was with to loose or gain weight, ... then she can do better than the douche bag she is with.

 

[LordofBlackbirds]

Well, my wife is a BBW and I love that about her. If she lost the weight, I can't say I'd leave her unless she was rail thin, like those models you'd see on TV where you can count their ribs.

 

[Drewzie]

Had a thought to start a thread to ask of the BBW's and guys that love them.

To the Ladies..Would you either gain or lose weight if a man you loved asked you?And why?

And to the fellas.

Would you dump a BBW if she lost or gained the weight? And why?

Just a question to get some interessting discussion going. So lets see the answers..

I would like to think that I wouldn't, but who knows. The desire to be wanted can be strong and demanding. I've never had a man that wanted me to slim down (thank goodness). But I'm a pleaser, and if a man I wanted said something to me about slimming down, if I'm being really honest, I'd probably consider it.

 

[SEVERUSMAX]

I'm frequently attracted to heavier women, but not exclusively. I can see the appeal of BBWs as well as others.


But, most of all, I love my wife/slave far too much to give her up for something as petty as that. If she lost weight, I'd assume that it was for health reasons and applaud that. If she gained weight, I'd worry about it a bit, because she is already a BBW, but I would focus more on encouraging her to keep her diabetes under control and things like that. Weight gain with diabetes is a serious health issue. I wouldn't enable, but I refuse to just drop someone because of flaws, even if they make me worry about her.

All in all, she's quite beautiful as she is and there is nothing aesthetically displeasing about her (try convincing her of that, of course). I'm not the sort to make weight gain or loss a dealbreaker. There are much bigger issues to worry about. If she treated me like crap, then I'd leave, whether she weighed a hundred or five hundred (though I'd be very fearful for her life in the latter case).

Life's too long to live with a malicious woman, no matter how she looks.

 

[peachesmelba]

I'm frequently attracted to heavier women, but not exclusively. I can see the appeal of BBWs as well as others.


But, most of all, I love my wife/slave far too much to give her up for something as petty as that. If she lost weight, I'd assume that it was for health reasons and applaud that. If she gained weight, I'd worry about it a bit, because she is already a BBW, but I would focus more on encouraging her to keep her diabetes under control and things like that. Weight gain with diabetes is a serious health issue. I wouldn't enable, but I refuse to just drop someone because of flaws, even if they make me worry about her.

All in all, she's quite beautiful as she is and there is nothing aesthetically displeasing about her (try convincing her of that, of course). I'm not the sort to make weight gain or loss a dealbreaker. There are much bigger issues to worry about. If she treated me like crap, then I'd leave, whether she weighed a hundred or five hundred (though I'd be very fearful for her life in the latter case).

Life's too long to live with a malicious woman, no matter how she looks.

SeverusMax you sound like my SO - your wife/slave is a fortunate woman (as am I) - congratulations and good fortune to you both.

 

[ben10hollis]

as much as i love a bbw, i would never dump a girl because she gained or lost weight! I would hope that i had more of a connection than just what she looked like. if not, if i was only after her for her looks, then we would not have a very good relationship to start with.

 

[goodgirlmn]

I am who I am

I guess I am who I am and if you don't like me for what is inside then you know were the door is. I have always been a BBW and unless for health reasons I most likely will always be one. I know my husband loves me for who I am not my size...

 

[soflabbwlvr]

Absolutely not. I would emphatically do my best to convince her that she need not lose weight or change her shape on my account, but ultimately, she has to do what will make her feel good about herself, and I would support her decision. Unless it was a matter of health, I might gently dissuade her from undertaking the endeavor.