Punishment

[1lonelyangel]

Hey...
I dunno if this thread has been already made but I've been searching and cant seem to find something like this.

My Master loves it when i'm cheeky so it gives him an excuse to vent anger on me through punishment, the thing is though everything he's tried somehow I've enjoyed. Even the hardest of canings/spankings/paddling I seem to end up screaming for more by the end.
Is there any ideas on unusual punishments that he might not have tried? Or humiliation tactics?

Thank you... and sorry if this has already been asked.

 

[FurryFury]

Generally speaking anger is not looked upon as a good thing to be used in BDSM by most. Speaking for myself, I know my husband would never scene in anger or by channeling anger because he doesn't want it to get out of hand and he knows himself well enough that he suspects he could go to that place of no return.

If you are into pain/sensation of that type, there is rarely anything that will truly qualify as punishment. Please note that to me, it sounds like y'all have set up a game whereby he can do things to you that you enjoy as "punishment." Would he feel guilty about what he does if he didn't get you to "act cheeky?" If it's just an excuse to do what you both want, then it may be fine as it is. Is this really something he enjoys doing or does he simply like your reaction to it?

Punishment should be something you truly dislike. The worst of these for me would be when I was shut out. I can't stand that.

There have been other threads on this topic at least one was fairly recent. I will look for them in a bit. I have to run right now though.

I hope this helps somewhat in the meantime. I'm sure others will be along shortly to give you other varied POVS.

Fury

 

[CutieMouse]

Hey...
I dunno if this thread has been already made but I've been searching and cant seem to find something like this.

My Master loves it when i'm cheeky so it gives him an excuse to vent anger on me through punishment, the thing is though everything he's tried somehow I've enjoyed. Even the hardest of canings/spankings/paddling I seem to end up screaming for more by the end.
Is there any ideas on unusual punishments that he might not have tried? Or humiliation tactics?

Thank you... and sorry if this has already been asked.

It might be a bit more emotionally (and physically) healthy, to sit down and discuss your dynamic. There is nothing wrong with you being a masochist, and him being a sadist... one does not necessarily need an "excuse" to deliver pain, nor to ask for it. (BDSM done in anger, is usually seen as a not so safe way to do things...)

If you enjoy receiving pain, and he enjoys giving pain, why not be honest about that, enjoy playing with pain, and save "punishment" for times when you really do screw up in a way that deserves an unhappy lesson?

If you enjoy pain, then "punishment" would need to involve everything expect pain, in order to correct the behaviour and teach you to not repeat it. Research projects, writing lines (I will not ...), standing in a corner holding a penny to the wall with your nose, being ignored, etc, are all punishments, that do not involve pain.

 

[catalina_francisco]

Ditto on what CutieMouse said except pain can still be used for punishment even if you are a masochist, as long as the mindset is correct and the behaviour for which you are being punished is truly regretted by you. For some it means finding a level or type pain that is not enjoyable, for me the fact punishment is required is enough to remove any pleasure from the pain. Usually punishment is disliked ( as opposed to enjoyed) by both submissive and Dominant alike.

Catalina

 

[myinnerslut]

i agree with everyone above me.. BDSM in anger just doesnt seem safe.

if you want ideas for punishment that are non physical:
he could tell you to write out lines or an essay saying what you did wrong.
he could restrict your behavior, like sleeping in the same bed as him or sitting with him at dinner.
he could have you stand in a corner and think about what youve done wrong, then have you tell him.
he could tell you that you are not allowed to cum for a certian time period, be it hours, days, or weeks (this is a favorite non physical punishment of my Sir's).
since you seem to be a masochist who loves pain, perhaps telling you that you arnt allowed to experience any pain would be a harsh punishment.

 

[rosco rathbone]

BDSM in anger just doesnt seem safe.

Eh. I love punishing in anger. That's what this whole lifestyle is about , to me. If I can't work my anger off with the strop, forget it. Seriously. Just takes self-control.

 

[FurryFury]

Eh. I love punishing in anger. That's what this whole lifestyle is about , to me. If I can't work my anger off with the strop, forget it. Seriously. Just takes self-control.

So you are comfortable with your level of self control even if anger is part of your dynamic in a scene?

Fury

 

[FurryFury]

Reading on this thread might be helpful. I know there are more but I can't seem to find them. This would be a good catagory for the library.

https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=463369

Fury

 

[rosco rathbone]

So you are comfortable with your level of self control even if anger is part of your dynamic in a scene?

Fury

Yup. I'm about the most self-controlled person I know.

 

[FurryFury]

Yup. I'm about the most self-controlled person I know.

*nods*

Good for you. My husband feels differently and that is one reason we don't mix anger and scenes but hey, each to their own, I always say.

Fury

 

[rosco rathbone]

Sounds like wise and prudent self knowledge on his part.

 

[MrCrave]

Punishment is Something You Don't Like

Ask yourself, "What do I like?" For punishment, have your master take that away from you.

Do you like a certain television program? If so, he should blindfold you throughout the duration and have you suck his toes, or dance wantonly, or face away from him while spreading your butt cheeks.

Do you like eating chocolate? No chocolate for a month.

Do you like light makeup? For x days, you must apply lots of makeup.

Do you like comfortable shoes? Then wear 5" heels to work for a week.

Do you like masturbating with a finger or vibrator? Then your next 10 self induced orgasms will be by rubbing yourself with a heavy hardcover book.

Do you like to sleep late and relax on Sundays? Next Sunday, you're up at 5am to begin preparing for an all day football party with 10 of your husband's friends. You supply the beer, chips, barbequed steaks and the rest all day long. Your job is to keep the beer cold, the plates full, and the faces smiling.

For punishing a guy who gets turned on by spanking is easy. You just force him to cum 2 or 3 times immediately before the punishment begins. It hurts a lot more that way.

 

[shy slave]

lonelyangel ~Are you talking about play punishment or punishment?

It sounds like play punishment to me, knowing you are being cheeky and knowing there will be a potenially fun consequence to your cheek(s) (excuse the pun).

Play punishment is very different to being punished for going against your PYLs rules or agreements.

Punishment is not good, fun or nice.

Play punishment is part of the overall scene.

As for ideas, I need some sleep and to think about it, as well as to understand what type of punishment you are seeking.

 

[Evil_Geoff]

Hey...
I dunno if this thread has been already made but I've been searching and cant seem to find something like this.

My Master loves it when i'm cheeky so it gives him an excuse to vent anger on me through punishment, the thing is though everything he's tried somehow I've enjoyed. Even the hardest of canings/spankings/paddling I seem to end up screaming for more by the end.
Is there any ideas on unusual punishments that he might not have tried? Or humiliation tactics?

Thank you... and sorry if this has already been asked.

Punishment = something to make you reconsider your errant ways.

Thus the mathematical formula:
1 Hot sun
+ 1 scrub brush
+ 1 bucket
+ 1 box soap powder
+ 1 hose for water
+ 1 driveway
+ 2 knees
+ 2 hands
1 Punishment

 

[shy slave]

Punishment = something to make you reconsider your errant ways.

Thus the mathematical formula:
1 Hot sun
+ 1 scrub brush
+ 1 bucket
+ 1 box soap powder
+ 1 hose for water
+ 1 driveway
+ 2 knees
+ 2 hands
1 Punishment

 

[callinectes]

EG, you have a knack for thinking up the punishments. Yowza!

 

[Evil_Geoff]

EG, you have a knack for thinking up the punishments. Yowza!

Why thank you! My thought is always, "Why in the name of heaven should _I_ work to punish someone?" If I make THEM do the fracking work, next time they'll think long and hard before acting out again.

Besides, I ought to do something every now and then to reinforce the impression that I really am an evil, twisted, sadistic bastard.

 

[CutieMouse]

Why thank you! My thought is always, "Why in the name of heaven should _I_ work to punish someone?" If I make THEM do the fracking work, next time they'll think long and hard before acting out again.

Besides, I ought to do something every now and then to reinforce the impression that I really am an evil, twisted, sadistic bastard.

Okay... is it really sick of me, to have read your mathematical formula for punishment, nodded, then sat here for about 5 minutes thinking about hand scrubbing the hardwoods, before I remembered I have too much work to do, to spend an entire afternoon hand scrubbing the hardwoods? (They really do need attention... sigh.)

 

[FurryFury]

Sounds like wise and prudent self knowledge on his part.

I agree. This is one of the things about him that I love. He has more self knowledge that any other man I've ever met or fucked.

*smiles sweetly*

Ask yourself, "What do I like?" For punishment, have your master take that away from you.

Do you like a certain television program? If so, he should blindfold you throughout the duration and have you suck his toes, or dance wantonly, or face away from him while spreading your butt cheeks.

Do you like eating chocolate? No chocolate for a month.

Do you like light makeup? For x days, you must apply lots of makeup.

Do you like comfortable shoes? Then wear 5" heels to work for a week.

Do you like masturbating with a finger or vibrator? Then your next 10 self induced orgasms will be by rubbing yourself with a heavy hardcover book.

Do you like to sleep late and relax on Sundays? Next Sunday, you're up at 5am to begin preparing for an all day football party with 10 of your husband's friends. You supply the beer, chips, barbequed steaks and the rest all day long. Your job is to keep the beer cold, the plates full, and the faces smiling.

For punishing a guy who gets turned on by spanking is easy. You just force him to cum 2 or 3 times immediately before the punishment begins. It hurts a lot more that way.

Noooo! I'll be good, I promise. Hell, I (almost) always am anyway. *looks angelic*

Punishment = something to make you reconsider your errant ways.

Thus the mathematical formula:
1 Hot sun
+ 1 scrub brush
+ 1 bucket
+ 1 box soap powder
+ 1 hose for water
+ 1 driveway
+ 2 knees
+ 2 hands
1 Punishment

Ahhh! Get the fuck away from me you freak!

LOL.

That's some horrible shit from my POV, for sure.

Okay... is it really sick of me, to have read your mathematical formula for punishment, nodded, then sat here for about 5 minutes thinking about hand scrubbing the hardwoods, before I remembered I have too much work to do, to spend an entire afternoon hand scrubbing the hardwoods? (They really do need attention... sigh.)

Perhaps not sick for you.

If I did that though? I'd expect my family to check me into the looney bin. Unless I was really pissed or upset, and/or getting ready to leave, that's when I go into a cleaning frenzy.

Fury

 

[chris9]

The library section on punishment (it's under 'discipline', so rather hard to find): https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?threadid=298005

A thread Marquis started a short while back (or so it seems) on non-corporal punishments: https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=446759

A thread started by me a shorter while back on punishment: https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=448258


You'll find that there are two different views on punishment which clash frequently and lead to heated discussion and fights. One is the rather traditional approach to punishment. It's something that's done for disobeying whatever rules. It's for learning not to do it again, thus negative consequences are used, like jail, confinement of kids to their own room for a period of time, writing lines, etc.
The other BDSM-tinted version is to call pain-play punishment. Maybe building a sort of role-play around it, taking one tiny thing that's not done properly (like too much salt in the pasta, the towel being on the wrong hook) and using it to be punished for. This can develope into a game on both parts. It sounds that this is what you and him are doing. You are cheeky, because you know he gets mad, and both of you want him to get mad and dish out a punishment. Now if this is what you both want, go with it. There are many who scorn this way of 'punishment', but there are also many who enjoy this way of doing things. On the other hand if both of you really want to stop this circle of you willfully misbehaving, him getting angry and punishment, you both can find other ways to make you stop. Either he becomes more disappointed, sad, that you misbehaved which can make you stop, because you don't want him unhappy, or other types of punishment that you want to avoid. Since it seems that pain is important at least to you, if you go that way make sure you both talk about satisfying this desire in a non-punishment way, pain just for fun.

 

[saw_man1]

Eh. I love punishing in anger. That's what this whole lifestyle is about , to me. If I can't work my anger off with the strop, forget it. Seriously. Just takes self-control.

Are you saying that to you, the essence of this lifestyle all boils down to anger?

 

[Kajira Callista]

Are you saying that to you, the essence of this lifestyle all boils down to anger?

lol i guess you dont know uncle rosco well.

 

[A Desert Rose]

lonelyangel ~Are you talking about play punishment or punishment?...
... As for ideas, I need some sleep and to think about it, as well as to understand what type of punishment you are seeking.

I don't have any ideas. I just know I hate being punished, it was never a "play" thing and in my case, it usually involved a cane.

I'm just not that big of a pain slut.

 

[CutieMouse]

To each their own and all that... play-punishment always struck me as being one of those things that could easily mess with my mind (in the not fun way)-I have waaaaaaaaaaaaaay to much "delicate brain chemistry" and "conditioning" from childhood, to ever even think of approaching punishment as a game. (She says as she notices her shoulders getting tense at the mere idea of it... *laughing*)

 

[Sensual_Caveman]

I will warn you, being bratty to garner a punishment might backfire.

Read here to see what could happen:
http://english.literotica.com/stories/showstory.php?id=279839

Be well.

Sir J.