Punishment

[Ms_Lilith]

What was the last thing you did (if you're submissive) or your submissive did (if you're Dom/me) that really made you/them deserve punishment? What kind of punishment did you receive?

 

[AnelizeDarkEyes]

In general, it's the same thing I always do to get in trouble.

I mouthed off. Forgot my place. A hazard of being in an LDR.

I got lectured, followed by ignored. Followed by a short lecture. Followed by forgiven.

Doesn't sound like much?

He pulls out what I call his "Marine" voice. *cringes*

I would do anything to avoid getting lectured in that voice.

Getting ignored AFTER that....

*sigh*


Let's just say, I think you subs who get a beating are getting off light LOL!!

I'm kidding....each to their own.

~anelize

 

[Luna_Wolf72]

I have found that making my boy feel like a piece of furniture works well...a stool, a table, a chair. Then, there is the corner...ahhh the joy of corners..where one gets placed and then talked about as if one is not there.

As for me...my last physical punishment was an asswhippin..from my ex owner over Samhain weekend..for disrespect.. LONG story.
I think he got more from it then i did...after all...I am a masochist...pain is not really punishment.

pet

 

[landcruisergal]

If I forget to use the right response, and he tests me frequently to gauge this, I have to explain where I went wrong, and what the correct response should have been, why he wants me to respond that way, and how my attitude errodes our relationship. Its hard and on the spot and I end up just mumbling "I dunno" like a fool and he ignores me until he gets the response he wants.

 

[redelicious]

I was really and truly punished just the once. For wearing panties. I know, stupid, stupid, stupid. See, I thought I had a good reason, but of course I was wrong.

I was flogged with a bootlace flogger. Maybe not a big deal to some, but very effective for me.

 

[Ms_Lilith]

I got punished last night. I really wanted to be whipped. I had just spent an hour massaging His back with Tiger balm. I begged for a whipping, and He just didn't move. He didn't want to move. So in desperation, I grabbed the flogger, and thwacked his back three times with it, on the Tiger-balm. He flew off the bed, wrestled the flogger from me, and slapped me across the face for my insubordination, and then whipped me harder than I've ever had. I collapsed twice, but He kept saying "hey, YOU wanted it. You asked for this".

Most painful whipping I've ever had.

 

[AnelizeDarkEyes]

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[landcruisergal]

Sadly my master knows I am a pain slut so physical punishment is no punishment, and any attempt to "top from the bottom" evokes the same response as my previous post. *sigh*

 

[slvjenn]

Last thing I did to be punished was bounce a rent check....

It really wasn't totally my fault though i swear. (it was but the rent was paid) Ended up that I had paid the rent with our online bill pay service, then forgot about it and mailed in a regular check as well. The second one bounced.

My punishment was that he didn't have any vaginal sex with me until the entire situation was straightened out. I dont' like pain at all. Hate it in fact, but he also spanked me with his hand and then his belt while over his knee.

It was a severe punishment for me, both the spanking and not having sex. I am 100% sure I'll never do that again.

 

[ethereal~minx]

I got punished last night. I really wanted to be whipped. I had just spent an hour massaging His back with Tiger balm. I begged for a whipping, and He just didn't move. He didn't want to move. So in desperation, I grabbed the flogger, and thwacked his back three times with it, on the Tiger-balm. He flew off the bed, wrestled the flogger from me, and slapped me across the face for my insubordination, and then whipped me harder than I've ever had. I collapsed twice, but He kept saying "hey, YOU wanted it. You asked for this".

Most painful whipping I've ever had.

I've often wondered how & when I'd be slapped, if ever... to plan such an even or to even imagine that part of the d/s dynamic was just beyond me but this! is something I can imagine!!!

wow!!! I wonder if he could do it....hmmmm
makes my stomach turn all sortsa a wondrous ways..
thanks for sharin vix

 

[ethereal~minx]

What was the last thing you did (if you're submissive) or your submissive did (if you're Dom/me) that really made you/them deserve punishment? What kind of punishment did you receive?

dealing w/ someone that considers dominance and submission~ nature---it is, for me, difficult to realize punishment because it is not something that is mentioned verbally, it is felt.

the last thing I did was question again something he said and the punishment was no contact~ no response to email...

 

[Quint]

Whenever T's back is turned, I grab his cell phone and switch the settings to Spanish. He normally catches this pretty immediately, but this time he didn't until he was on an important call and needed to quickly retrieve a phone number from his address book in the cell phone...and couldn't find the directory. He was rather pissed with me. I got a well-deserved hurtfest for that, which had been heralded ahead of time, so really, it was pain on top of terror.

 

[AnelizeDarkEyes]

I got punished last night. I really wanted to be whipped. I had just spent an hour massaging His back with Tiger balm. I begged for a whipping, and He just didn't move. He didn't want to move. So in desperation, I grabbed the flogger, and thwacked his back three times with it, on the Tiger-balm. He flew off the bed, wrestled the flogger from me, and slapped me across the face for my insubordination, and then whipped me harder than I've ever had. I collapsed twice, but He kept saying "hey, YOU wanted it. You asked for this".

Most painful whipping I've ever had.

This has been bugging me for days.

If I had pulled a stunt like this I would not have got the whipping I had wanted. More than likely, I would have been out the DOOR.

I so do not get this dynamic.

She abuses her Dom, by HITTING him after giving him a nice massage, and then gets what she wants?? Someone give this dude a wakeup call.

*shrugs*

The whole brat thing just makes no damn sense to me whatsoever. Never has. Never will I guess. It totally clashes with my/His style of D/s.

Which in a nutshell is....It ain't about YOU babe. It's about Him.

As always, my humble opinion, of course.

~anelize

 

[A Desert Rose]

There is a big difference between domestic violence/abuse and a D/s relationship.

When one starts hitting with anger or out of anger... it's no longer a D/s relationship.

 

[Johnny Mayberry]

No offense, but is anyone surprised that vixenshe would be in an unhealthy relationship?

 

[James G 5]

I have found that making my boy feel like a piece of furniture works well...a stool, a table, a chair. Then, there is the corner...ahhh the joy of corners..where one gets placed and then talked about as if one is not there.

As for me...my last physical punishment was an asswhippin..from my ex owner over Samhain weekend..for disrespect.. LONG story.
I think he got more from it then i did...after all...I am a masochist...pain is not really punishment.

pet

On the other hand, being tickled till you wet yourself or strapped to a cross and publically gang-analed....

hello little wolf girl, I am back after a week's break from Lit

 

[ghosst_K&H]

my punishment for bad behavior will either be total withdraw by my Dommes, or me out the door.

i don't get spanked for being a brat, i get rewarded for being good

if i really crave a flogging, i am extra good, and may request this as a reward.

i tease my Dommes about Domination 101, reverse psycology

do any other Dom/mes practice this? i am curious

 

[serijules]

Last thing I was punished for was mouthing off. I can be mouthy.

 

[Ms_Lilith]

To explain to the couple who are bitchy and rather insulting, let me say this: I asked for a flogging. Not for a whipping more painful than anything I could imagine or anything I could even take. He gave me what I wanted, but he tainted it with force and a brutality I've never seen. So in essence, it wasn't REALLY what I wanted.

Yes, I am a brat. And no, he DOESN'T always punish me with pain. I've had to hold pennies up to walls with my nose, I've been denied touch, and sex, and orgasm, and certain clothing choices. I've been denied computer time etc.

And who is to say that my relationship is unhealthy? Just because it doesn't conform to YOUR brand of D/s? Just because He and I live a little differently than you and your partner? Fuck you.

 

[Luna_Wolf72]

DAMN!!!

Vixie, what makes you happy is what matters in this instance. Would i or anyone i personally know have gone about things the way you did? NO...but that is our choice and our way. I know for a fact that you are exceedingly happy with your relationship. That is all that should matter, dear heart...not what others think of your submission or your partner.

To those who don't know you and your relationship, it smacks (alot) of physical abuse..on both sides. Please don't be upset over something that..if the situation was stated by another person..you might very well see as abusive. I see all the sides of every statement here...but since i know you...well i know where that particular thing came from.

Don't stress over words said here. It's your life you are living and no one else can do it for you.

pet

 

[Ms_Lilith]

It strikes me how judgemental some people can be, even when they're fully involved with a kink lifestyle. What makes their choices right, and mine wrong? What makes their lifestyle better than mine? Are He and I happy? Yes. Nothing else should matter to anyone else, but some people get so hung up on the details.

 

[Johnny Mayberry]

And who is to say that my relationship is unhealthy? Just because it doesn't conform to YOUR brand of D/s? Just because He and I live a little differently than you and your partner? Fuck you.

Fuck me? You are mentally unbalanced, and you have been since you were a little kid getting head from the famliy dog.

 

[AnelizeDarkEyes]

It strikes me how judgemental some people can be, even when they're fully involved with a kink lifestyle. What makes their choices right, and mine wrong? What makes their lifestyle better than mine? Are He and I happy? Yes. Nothing else should matter to anyone else, but some people get so hung up on the details.

You, my dear are not reading my post, or rather you are reading more into it than is there.

I never said your choice was wrong. I said I don't understand it.

I never said my lifestyle was better than yours. I simply stated HOW my lifestyle works for me.

Don't put words into my mouth, and don't infer things that aren't there.

If you are going to put your stuff out here, you need to expect people to talk about it and discuss it, possibly in ways that you may not like or agree with. That's what this Board is all about, and guess what, free speech is part of that. If you don't WANT people to talk about your stuff then DON'T put it out here for the world to see.

~anelize

 

[Ms_Lilith]

You, my dear are not reading my post, or rather you are reading more into it than is there.

I never said your choice was wrong. I said I don't understand it.

I never said my lifestyle was better than yours. I simply stated HOW my lifestyle works for me.

Don't put words into my mouth, and don't infer things that aren't there.

If you are going to put your stuff out here, you need to expect people to talk about it and discuss it, possibly in ways that you may not like or agree with. That's what this Board is all about, and guess what, free speech is part of that. If you don't WANT people to talk about your stuff then DON'T put it out here for the world to see.

~anelize

I was responding more to Johnny's post than yours. I did read a certain attitude in your post, and I apologize if I read it wrong.

Johnny, on the other hand, is the mentally unstable one.. He not only cannot accept that some things are different for different people, but then he has to drag up other issues that have nothing to do with this one, hoping to somehow discredit me with it. Nice.

Johnny, I may not be perfect.. in fact, I'm rather far from it, but I'm a person, and I have feelings. I work hard, I love hard, and I am happy with my life. Just because you cannot understand my lifestyle doesn't mean that I am unbalanced, or whatever other insult you'd chose to throw at me. It means that you don't understand my lifestyle. Will you ever? Probably not, because certain parts of my life have led me to the person I am today. You don't know those parts of my life, and therefore cannot understand my motivations, my inherent reactions to things, and my leaps and bounds of growth I've accomplished in the last few years. You don't understand my sorrows or joys, and therefore any judgement you wish to place on me is merely a reflection of your own closed mind.

 

[Johnny Mayberry]

I was responding more to Johnny's post than yours. I did read a certain attitude in your post, and I apologize if I read it wrong.

Johnny, on the other hand, is the mentally unstable one.. He not only cannot accept that some things are different for different people, but then he has to drag up other issues that have nothing to do with this one, hoping to somehow discredit me with it. Nice.

Johnny, I may not be perfect.. in fact, I'm rather far from it, but I'm a person, and I have feelings. I work hard, I love hard, and I am happy with my life. Just because you cannot understand my lifestyle doesn't mean that I am unbalanced, or whatever other insult you'd chose to throw at me. It means that you don't understand my lifestyle. Will you ever? Probably not, because certain parts of my life have led me to the person I am today. You don't know those parts of my life, and therefore cannot understand my motivations, my inherent reactions to things, and my leaps and bounds of growth I've accomplished in the last few years. You don't understand my sorrows or joys, and therefore any judgement you wish to place on me is merely a reflection of your own closed mind.

Just because you choose a lifestyle, that doesn't mean it is sane, or healthy. Your posts show a history of instability, bad judgment, and various traumas that set you up for future harmful situations. You need therapy, and probably some serious meds.

What you described in your post is borderline abuse...on YOUR part. Last time I checked, you signed up for the hitting, not your 'Master'. You hitting him because you are a spoiled little cunt who didn't get her way...you describe that as healthy?
BTW, you drove the final nail into your own coffin with the 'close minded' comment. That is always the last refuge for people who cannot defend their behavior or ideas with logic.