Punishment Methods?

[tkitty0992]

What kind of punishment does Everyone use? Physical, emotional, mental methods? What kind of tools do You use? What determines the severity, and where do you draw the line between punishment and just discipline?

my Master wants me to find out more about punishment, so i might be better prepared and know what to expect. Anything and everything You can share, i'll greatly appreciate!

 

[MeekMe]

What kind of punishment does Everyone use? Physical, emotional, mental methods? What kind of tools do You use? What determines the severity, and where do you draw the line between punishment and just discipline?

Not everyone uses a punishment system. In my relationship, we decided punishment doesn't work well. We talk about it and come to a solution.

Discipline to me is explaining/showing what went wrong and explaining/showing how to correct it in the future.

Punishment is something to be used after repeat offenses.

That's just what I think. I don't use any of this, so my opinion may not be worth much here.

In terms of punishments, the usual: write a letter of apology, corner time, take away something loved (TV time, chocolate, etc.), if not a masochist maybe a spanking or something. Whatever works for you.

my Master wants me to find out more about punishment, so i might be better prepared and know what to expect. Anything and everything You can share, i'll greatly appreciate!

I think it's better for you to talk to him. He should be discussing this with you and you should both be talking about what is expected. The only way for you to be better prepared and know what to expect is to talk to him. Strangers in a forum can't know what it's like between the two of you.

In your other thread you talked about what didn't work and it seems you've both come to a solution. Take that and continue talking with him about it.

 

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[Kim_Burly]

Sir gives me what he jokingly refers to as "non-judicial punishments" most of the time. Which normally means a non-erotic punishment. Kneeling on rice for 15 minutes, holding a sheet of paper to the wall with my nose for a hour and so on. The few times that he has had to actually punish me, well even as a masochist, I dread that.

 

[KoPilot]

We don't do punishments. He doesn't ask much of me, so there's really not anything I can fuck up enough to warrant one. In fact, being completely blunt, he probably fucks up (benignly) more than I do :V

 

[tkitty0992]

Sir gives me what he jokingly refers to as "non-judicial punishments" most of the time. Which normally means a non-erotic punishment. Kneeling on rice for 15 minutes, holding a sheet of paper to the wall with my nose for a hour and so on. The few times that he has had to actually punish me, well even as a masochist, I dread that.

Can i ask what you did to deserve the punishments?

 

[tkitty0992]

In terms of punishments, the usual: write a letter of apology, corner time, take away something loved (TV time, chocolate, etc.), if not a masochist maybe a spanking or something. Whatever works for you.

I think it's better for you to talk to him. He should be discussing this with you and you should both be talking about what is expected. The only way for you to be better prepared and know what to expect is to talk to him. Strangers in a forum can't know what it's like between the two of you.

In your other thread you talked about what didn't work and it seems you've both come to a solution. Take that and continue talking with him about it.[/QUOTE]
Well, i still don't have any idea what the usual is. XD Also, i'm a masochist, so the spanking won't work. From what i can tell, and what Master has been teasing me with, he wants me to find out what the usual might be, and get more ideas that might spur my imagination. He seems to focus on me finding out lots on my own, sharing what i've learned and my opinions on them, as well as where my imagination has gone with it, before He and i discuss it in depth. He wants me to see everything from the mundane and gentle to the extreme.

 

[LucyCanyon]

I don't think there is a usual, agree with others. In reality it's about what Spurs a sub to make the choices they do for their Top, Dom or whatever. When that is clear then agreement around what happens if the sub fails or transgresses in some way can be reached.

For one sub the punishment was spanking because this was not something that turned them on but does me. For another, who loved to be tested to her spanking limit and find subspace, a transgression out of her agreed rules was met with really boring tasks.

It's about the dynamic, we don't always get it right especially when a lot is remote or online

 

[CutieMouse]

Also, are you talking about punishment (correction of behavior, etc) or funishment (gee gosh golly, please don't spank me with that thing I really actually want you to spank me with)?

 

[KoPilot]

Well, it appears that I spoke too soon. He expressed some sort of interest last night in making me kneel on a broomstick someday. (I guess one of his favorite musicians is said to have been forced to do the same thing as a kid.)

I am... cautiously curious. xD

 

[Kim_Burly]

Can i ask what you did to deserve the punishments?

No, I'll keep my misdeeds to myself.

 

[butterfly_flip]

JUst a thought, but even for a masochist, some form of pain infliction can still be used as punishment, IMO. It's the intent behind the act, not the act itself that defines it's purpose.