Hi all! My girlfriend and I are rather inexperienced regarding (almost) everything BDSM, but have recently begun exploring and learning quite a bit about our likes and dislikes.
Our tastes are very complimentary--she is a shy submissive that gets off on bondage, objectification, and being "forced" to do things she wouldn't normally do, and I enjoy the role play behind treating her like my slutty plaything, all the while knowing she likes it just as much as I do (neither of us is much into the sadist/masochist aspects of BDSM, though we are quite turned on by the pyschological, role play, mindfuck games). We are not interested in 24/7 simply because I couldn't bear to not be able to treat her as my equal--while our sexual play is not "confined to the bedroom" (public play, for example), it does have a designated place in our lives. Extended play, however, does have a lot of appeal to both of us.
In that vein, I have been putting together a punishment list, though I hesitate to call it that. I am not of the mindset that I have to "train her to be a good submissive" (ie. this is not a list of punishments intended to correct "bad behavior" but rather a brainstorm of ideas for both of us to enjoy that fall on the more extreme end of our turn-ons).
A few of the ideas that we have discussed include...
1.) Sex toy: She (the submissive) is bound, gagged, and blindfolded before being thoroughly used and objectified--fondled, spanked, and fucked for as long as the dominant(s) wish. Can (and most likely will) included a trusted third party.
2.) Exhibitionist: She is displayed and used by her dominant in front of an audience of my choosing (anywhere from complete strangers to acquaintances). Can also include a trusted third party.
3.) Sex slave: This is an over-arching, longer-term, point-based idea where I get to use her in any way I please, limits withstanding, until she accumulates enough points to "earn her freedom" (100 points). Points are earned by engaging in certain acts, with the more severe netting more points.
Examples include...
-Self-masturbation in front of dominant: First 4 sessions give zero points, every time after that gives 2 points.
-Extended penetration, day: submissive is must wear a dildo all day. 3 pts/day.
-Extended penetration, night: submissive must wear a dildo to bed. 2 pts/night.
-Enforced availability: she must make herself available during a specific period of time (ie. a particular day of the week). Keeping herself available and well-lubricated is her responsibility. 2 pts/day.
-Public play, upscale restaurant: Well-dressed night out for dinner--she must go to the restroom and bring herself to orgasm, then bring her panties back to the dominant. 4 points.
-etc. (many more ideas, still need to take the time to write them all down)
(Some of these I gathered from googling "BDSM punishment ideas" so I can't take too much credit for creativity ^_^)
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In closing, I am interested in more ideas (particularly those that fit our interests), and advice from the more experienced members, but everyone is welcome to post and share!
cheers
Our tastes are very complimentary--she is a shy submissive that gets off on bondage, objectification, and being "forced" to do things she wouldn't normally do, and I enjoy the role play behind treating her like my slutty plaything, all the while knowing she likes it just as much as I do (neither of us is much into the sadist/masochist aspects of BDSM, though we are quite turned on by the pyschological, role play, mindfuck games). We are not interested in 24/7 simply because I couldn't bear to not be able to treat her as my equal--while our sexual play is not "confined to the bedroom" (public play, for example), it does have a designated place in our lives. Extended play, however, does have a lot of appeal to both of us.
In that vein, I have been putting together a punishment list, though I hesitate to call it that. I am not of the mindset that I have to "train her to be a good submissive" (ie. this is not a list of punishments intended to correct "bad behavior" but rather a brainstorm of ideas for both of us to enjoy that fall on the more extreme end of our turn-ons).
A few of the ideas that we have discussed include...
1.) Sex toy: She (the submissive) is bound, gagged, and blindfolded before being thoroughly used and objectified--fondled, spanked, and fucked for as long as the dominant(s) wish. Can (and most likely will) included a trusted third party.
2.) Exhibitionist: She is displayed and used by her dominant in front of an audience of my choosing (anywhere from complete strangers to acquaintances). Can also include a trusted third party.
3.) Sex slave: This is an over-arching, longer-term, point-based idea where I get to use her in any way I please, limits withstanding, until she accumulates enough points to "earn her freedom" (100 points). Points are earned by engaging in certain acts, with the more severe netting more points.
Examples include...
-Self-masturbation in front of dominant: First 4 sessions give zero points, every time after that gives 2 points.
-Extended penetration, day: submissive is must wear a dildo all day. 3 pts/day.
-Extended penetration, night: submissive must wear a dildo to bed. 2 pts/night.
-Enforced availability: she must make herself available during a specific period of time (ie. a particular day of the week). Keeping herself available and well-lubricated is her responsibility. 2 pts/day.
-Public play, upscale restaurant: Well-dressed night out for dinner--she must go to the restroom and bring herself to orgasm, then bring her panties back to the dominant. 4 points.
-etc. (many more ideas, still need to take the time to write them all down)
(Some of these I gathered from googling "BDSM punishment ideas" so I can't take too much credit for creativity ^_^)
___________________________________
In closing, I am interested in more ideas (particularly those that fit our interests), and advice from the more experienced members, but everyone is welcome to post and share!
cheers
