PSA: If she doesn't want to fuck you again

[InsatiableDsire]

chances are the sex wasn't very good. To all the guys we have let down easy, if she's been in your bed and doesn't want to come back, she may not have actually come at all.

This is a generalization, and there are extenuating circumstances ending many a relationship, but if the sex was great you would have heard about it among her regrets for why she can't see you again.

I, for one, just have trouble telling a perfectly nice guy he sucks in bed, but I thought it might be helpful to put the comment out there in the ether.

 

[cunnilingual2]

chances are the sex wasn't very good. To all the guys we have let down easy, if she's been in your bed and doesn't want to come back, she may not have actually come at all.

This is a generalization, and there are extenuating circumstances ending many a relationship, but if the sex was great you would have heard about it among her regrets for why she can't see you again.

I, for one, just have trouble telling a perfectly nice guy he sucks in bed, but I thought it might be helpful to put the comment out there in the ether.

Ok, now this has never happened to me, but it has happened to a FRIEND of mine once............

Seriously though. There are some instances where the sex can be too bad to try and salvage. I can think of the following categories;

Hygeine: I'd elaborate, but really, is there a need?

Technique: If you ask him to fuck the back door and he bangs the closet door instead; if he thinks the clitoris is something mythical along the lines of bigfoot, etc.

Creepiness: The Seinfeld episode comes to mind. "You mean the ones your mother laid out for you?"

Aside from the above categories, you just have to guide us a little. If you're not enjoying the sex, just say so. Our egos aren't that fragile. Sure, it might sting a little but if you tell us what you want, we're more than happy to oblige.

Happy sexing!

 

[blulilacgrl]

I don't know. There are some guys who are great in bed, the problem lies outside of the bedroom. I can handle and even enjoy a good dick for a few hours, but when I have to deal with a dick 24/7... fuck that. sooooo not worth it.

 

[bluegypsy]

I don't know. There are some guys who are great in bed, the problem lies outside of the bedroom. I can handle and even enjoy a good dick for a few hours, but when I have to deal with a dick 24/7... fuck that. sooooo not worth it.

Would I be a dick if I said that was kinda hot?

 

[singledad68]

chances are the sex wasn't very good. To all the guys we have let down easy, if she's been in your bed and doesn't want to come back, she may not have actually come at all.

This is a generalization, and there are extenuating circumstances ending many a relationship, but if the sex was great you would have heard about it among her regrets for why she can't see you again.

I, for one, just have trouble telling a perfectly nice guy he sucks in bed, but I thought it might be helpful to put the comment out there in the ether.

If he is a perfectly nice guy, isn't sex something worth trying to work out? Us nice guy's have a bad enough rap as it is, but to be the nice guy and shot down because we didn't perform well one time, sorry that seems kind of harsh? Unless it's a size thing I would think a lady would want to communicate to help make it better.

 

[NotHisLady]

I don't know. There are some guys who are great in bed, the problem lies outside of the bedroom. I can handle and even enjoy a good dick for a few hours, but when I have to deal with a dick 24/7... fuck that. sooooo not worth it.

This gets an AMEN from me. well said

The flipside is also true, I can overlook a lot of (ahem) shortcomings for a guy who's really into me and is great in a bunch of other important ways.

Is it worth tossing out someone great over sex? Especially if there is some enthusiasm there?

 

[blulilacgrl]

Would I be a dick if I said that was kinda hot?

[laughs]
As long as you're only a dick for a few hours, we're all good.

 

[InsatiableDsire]

I know this is an oversimplified statement and there are many shades of grey. I didn't mean to imply all women feel this way or all relationships end this way--not by a long shot.

Just something to think about when a new relationship ends quickly.

 

[cowslinger64]

I know this is an oversimplified statement and there are many shades of grey. I didn't mean to imply all women feel this way or all relationships end this way--not by a long shot.

Just something to think about when a new relationship ends quickly.

I find that my relationships end when I first see her head spinning around, or I get tired of her bullshit, or tired of supporting her.

Usually the sex is great...especially with the crazzee ones, its like an orgy!!!!

 

[lovetopleasewomen]

Hygeine: I'd elaborate, but really, is there a need?

cleanliness, or the decided lack thereof, would adversely affect my performance....

 

[cunnilingual2]

[laughs]
As long as you're only a dick for a few hours, we're all good.

I'm all for being Mr. right now.......as long as that's understood up front. Nothing worse than feeling something and finding out you're a human rabbit toy.

 

[blulilacgrl]

I'm all for being Mr. right now.......as long as that's understood up front. Nothing worse than feeling something and finding out you're a human rabbit toy.

Ugh! I hate it when people can't be upfront. There is nothing wrong with wanting something casual and there is nothing wrong with wanting something more cemented. The problem is when neither party shares that information.

 

[cunnilingual2]

Ugh! I hate it when people can't be upfront. There is nothing wrong with wanting something casual and there is nothing wrong with wanting something more cemented. The problem is when neither party shares that information.

I agree. There's no need to lie or omit things. Just be a real about it. The more info, the more fun this whole thing can be.

 

[blulilacgrl]

I agree. There's no need to lie or omit things. Just be a real about it. The more info, the more fun this whole thing can be.

And the sooner you can realize that perhaps you two aren't a great match for a sexual relationship but function better as friends.

 

[damn_right]

chances are the sex wasn't very good. To all the guys we have let down easy, if she's been in your bed and doesn't want to come back, she may not have actually come at all.

This is a generalization, and there are extenuating circumstances ending many a relationship, but if the sex was great you would have heard about it among her regrets for why she can't see you again.

I, for one, just have trouble telling a perfectly nice guy he sucks in bed, but I thought it might be helpful to put the comment out there in the ether.

Same can be said for guys but we generally give it another go to be certain. Communication and paying attention are keys to finding what your lover desires. After a second coupling you should have a good idea if the chemistry is there to continue. Good fucking that ends in total exhaustive bliss while never a basis for a relationship, is necessary ingredient.

 

[GiggLeGasm]

chances are the sex wasn't very good. To all the guys we have let down easy, if she's been in your bed and doesn't want to come back, she may not have actually come at all.

This is a generalization, and there are extenuating circumstances ending many a relationship, but if the sex was great you would have heard about it among her regrets for why she can't see you again.

I, for one, just have trouble telling a perfectly nice guy he sucks in bed, but I thought it might be helpful to put the comment out there in the ether.

While I do remember one relationship (we were young.. he was moving) ending with.. "I think I'll miss kissing you".. I don't know that recall giving lists of things I'll regret when a relationship ends. I guess it might happen if it was just a fling that I was tired of dealing with and I couldn't figure out any other way to rid myself of the guilt. In a real relationship though, I think we've both known what was good and why it didn't work. It didn't need the mixed message of potential longing.

"eh.. listen.. we can't see each other anymore. I'm tired of dealing with your toothbrush that you can't seem to put in the holder.. I don't know how you never figured out that I like the toss pillows on the bed in a certain order.. what saddens me the most is that I loved sucking your cock so much.. but listen, we're done"

hahahaha.. on second thought.. maybe that would be way funner