Prom queen treatment of single women at munches/kink groups

[BlondGirl]

The "prom queen" treatment of unescorted females is one thing I have noticed in the public kink occassions I have experienced. Single females tend to be surrounded, complimented, given a great deal of attention, flirted with, and teased.

If there is someone on the other side of the crowd that you are trying to physically get to, it is like swimming upstream.

I have read about this and experienced it--is it this way everywhere?

 

[Lancecastor]

Don't hate me just because I'm beautiful.

Rula Lenska

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I try to stay away from organized stuff, but yes, I've seen it...hence my distancing from same.

Lance

 

[Ebonyfire]

The "prom queen" treatment of unescorted females is one thing I have noticed in the public kink occassions I have experienced. Single females tend to be surrounded, complimented, given a great deal of attention, flirted with, and teased.

If there is someone on the other side of the crowd that you are trying to physically get to, it is like swimming upstream.

I have read about this and experienced it--is it this way everywhere?

LIke I said before, I started at a munch, and I did not have that experience. MIne was just lunch with a nice group of folks.

Eb <YMMV>

 

[WriterDom]

The "prom queen" treatment of unescorted females is one thing I have noticed in the public kink occassions I have experienced. Single females tend to be surrounded, complimented, given a great deal of attention, flirted with, and teased.

If there is someone on the other side of the crowd that you are trying to physically get to, it is like swimming upstream.

I have read about this and experienced it--is it this way everywhere?

That's the way it is at my gym.

 

[BlondGirl]

WD, do the overweight, stringyhaired, just-got-of-work-and-looking-it types also get treated that way?

Do they get cornered by couples?

Do women hit on them agressively and follow them into the bathroom initiating hand-size discussions?

Are they constantly told how attractive they are?


I could believe ya if I had ever been to a gym where guys fall over themselves to talk to the average girl, but that has not been my experience. I have seen it at kink groups though.

 

[NemoAlia]

Gosh, BlondGirl, it doesn't sound all that bad to me! After all, haven't we all been trying to convince people that 'average girls' are worth pursuing?

Still, I'm not sure that you're quite average enough to count, darlin'. Maybe if you were a little less wonderful, we could take what you say at face value. Instead, we have to take it with a grain of salt until someone who's really and truly average comes along and tells us it's so.

 

[Lancecastor]

Single females tend to be surrounded, complimented, given a great deal of attention, flirted with, and teased.

Is there a hint of Green Monster in this for you?



I've joked for some time that there's a serious world-wide shortage of single, horny, 5'7 bisexual blondes with 38C/24/36 measurements everywhere....except on the Internet.

A single grrl in a crowd of sexually experimental people is likely to receive more than her fair share of attention.

What's your point? Does this surprise you?
Lance

 

[Sandia]

What are hand size discussions?

 

[Rubyfruit]

I went to a few parties after my D/s relationship ended, but always with friends who sort of took charge of me for the evening.

It seemed to me that a truly single female was a very threatening thing at these events.

Silly really.

 

[Guest]

The "prom queen" treatment of unescorted females is one thing I have noticed in the public kink occassions I have experienced. Single females tend to be surrounded, complimented, given a great deal of attention, flirted with, and teased.

If there is someone on the other side of the crowd that you are trying to physically get to, it is like swimming upstream.

I have read about this and experienced it--is it this way everywhere?

WTF is this got to do with BDSM?

 

[WriterDom]

WD, do the overweight, stringyhaired, just-got-of-work-and-looking-it types also get treated that way?

Not at the gym. They have to go to a bar and wait for closing time.

 

[zipman]

Not at the gym. They have to go to a bar and wait for closing time.

LMAO !!!!!!!!! That's absolutely hysterical WD!!

 

[BlondGirl]

Re: Re: Prom queen treatment of single women at munches/kink groups

WTF is this got to do with BDSM?

I thought it was obvious.

The KINK GROUPS I was referring to are meetings/munches/bars/events/etc that are SM themed. I realize that there are many varieties of us out there so I was trying not to alienate any particular one by referring only to "munches" or "meetings" or whatever.

Perhaps I did not describe it as well as I should have. I, personally, was swarmed. I damned near had to swim through the crowd to get out. I learned very quickly not to go unescorted and to always sit in the back close to the door.

When My current lover and I first met at a kink meeting, I was late and took the only chair left. Of course it was the farthest from the door and I had to walk through the crowd. It was after church, I was in my regular church-lady-wear. When I sat down, I saw him sitting at the edge-near the door. I had not recognized him from the back. I decided then and there to go and greet him since we were aquainted from work. It was very frusterating. I could NOT get through the crowd. And I am not the type to tell people to get the fuck out of my way.

Later, he and I discussed this. He said I appeared very frusterated and he just stood there annoyed while waiting for each "attack" on me to finish.

The regular folks don't seem to be the ones who are so aggressive. But the ones that fall into the genuinely wierd do. The couple who always showed up with their adult daughter to everything together. Yeah...they were very aggressive. The guy who had two subs that were so far from reality that it was truly frightening...yeah...they were aggressive. Those weren't all, but those were the most memorable.

My sweetheart had commented on how he had witnessed that time and again. How at any type of event single females tend to be swarmed.

This is not to frighten anybody, but just a warning to be prepared for it. If you are a single female--especially of the submissive mindset, expect to be wooed like you have never experienced before. Don't be suckered in by someone who has become an expert at getting new playthings.

As I interracted with the public scene for the duration that I was involved, those expecially aggressive people were the ones who seemed to chew-up-and-spit-out their "extras". I know that I, personally, was seeking something long-term, monogamous, and based on trust. These folks appeared to be seeking the thrill of the moment. I actually foudn myself considering having a bit of play time with one of the most aggressive groups but was warned to be patient, that they would always be around and I could always play with them later. The warning was correct.

 

[UCE]

You're not alone, blondgirl. It happens where I live too. Everything you've described in your message and more are things I've observed at bdsm events. It helps a little to go with a girlfriend--you two can watch out for each other, and pull the other one away from a weirdo with a good excuse.

The sort that bother me the most are the ones who, even after you flat out tell them you're not interested and besides that you are already owned, still continue to hit on you if your master isn't present.

Someone earlier in the thread said that available women in a sexual environment always get treated like this, no matter what they look like. I think he's right, both because I've observed it going on in non-bdsm sexual contexts and because I think there are usually fewer single women at such events than single men.

An "average" woman I knew for years spent at least a decade in the bdsm scene playing, and a very intense masochist she was, too. Although she was very vehement about wanting to be someone's permanent slave, I think now that bdsm socializing was mostly just something she did because it was so easy to get sex that way. The reason I think this is because she eventually met and married a totally straight man who hates bdsm, and she seems perfectly content.