Problems falling over the edge...

[Rosamund]

Lately when hubby and I are in our favorite 69, I have a problem tumbling over the peak. I get right up to the edge of orgasm...but it just doesn't come. Any ideas?

 

[Ezzy]

Lately when hubby and I are in our favorite 69, I have a problem tumbling over the peak. I get right up to the edge of orgasm...but it just doesn't come. Any ideas?

Sounds like performance anxiety issues to me, perhaps when you get nearly to the point of orgasm you should switch to a different thing and a different position, take away the “must cum” in 69 and you may well peak like a roller coaster, wave after wave of O’s

Try not to get caught in the “I must cum while we are doing this”, or the whole thing turns into a vicious circle and you will never cum again in that position.

Just my opinion.

 

[fabricator]

Medications, fatigue, stress, sleep patterns, job worries, time of day.........they can all affect your ability to orgasm. My wife has a difficult time climaxing in the morning, evenings are pretty good for her, mid afternoon is her peak time, she can 'o' several times in rapid succession. Unfortunately, mid afternoon doesn't happen often with our work schedules and children! HTH, David

 

[crazybbwgirl]

I never could cum from 69 - too much going on!

 

[Lynxie]

As Ezzy said, it could be that you're getting stuck in a bit of a rut. I'm not saying your sex life is boring, by any means! It just sounds like you may be accustomed to 69ing and climaxing every time, and now you're worried if it's not happening. Maybe you just need to break out of that mindset and start thinking about some different things that might help push you over the edge. Maybe introduce toys or a little anal play into your favorite 69 routine. Personally, I know if my hubby and I repeat the same position for a number of sex sessions, I start to get a little desensitized to it...after a while it's just not as thrilling as the first time. We've found that keeping things varied and trying new positions works best to prevent what you've described.

Additionally, are you on any new medications or dieting? Or has anything else in your life changed currently? I know certain birth controls and anxiety/depression meds have messed with my sex drive in the past (ranging from total lack of interest, to exactly what you described - an apparent inability to cum).

If it keeps up and you feel it's becoming a problem, it couldn't hurt to talk to your doctor about it.

 

[Quoll]

I never could cum from 69 - too much going on!

*putting hand up* me too.

 

[Vixandra]

*putting hand up* me too.

I'd like to third the motion. I can't cum from 69 either and just barely from oral sex.
Doesn't mean you have to stop doing it though. Orgasm isn't everything (though it is nice).

 

[LadyJeanne]

I'd like to third the motion. I can't cum from 69 either and just barely from oral sex.
Doesn't mean you have to stop doing it though. Orgasm isn't everything (though it is nice).

I'll make it a quorum. I can't concentrate enough during 69 to be able to come. It's a fun way to get me going, but if orgasm is the goal, I need to focus.

 

[intelligencenazi]

I'm a fifth. I like sixty-nine occasionally b/c it is fun and there's something insanely sexy about going at each other at the same time, and I adore oral both giving and receiving. But for me sixty-nine is useless for orgasm. I can't concentrate on how good what my partner's doing feels b/c I'm trying to do a good job with my mouth. And b/c I'm distracting him, he's probably not doing his best anyway. Meanwhile, I'm distracted from doing my best b/c of what he's doing and that bugs me b/c I think about how I'm not doing a good job and it's just a big mess. That's me, though. For you, I agree with what's been posted. It could be any number of things such as new medication, stress, etc. And it could just be that you need variety. Also try to relax. I know from experience that the more you want to orgasm and the more you focus on it, the harder it is to actually do.

 

[FinePhilly]

I'll make it a quorum. I can't concentrate enough during 69 to be able to come. It's a fun way to get me going, but if orgasm is the goal, I need to focus.

Ditto!

 

[Dstorage]

Bwahaha, I read it and said, "Hmm, I can't cum from a 69 either, too much going on!" and was going to post it, then I have to scroll past everyone else saying the same thing!

 

[crazybbwgirl]

So apparently Rosamund - you were the exception to the rule in the first place! hehehe