We have had sex about 5-6 times and everysingle time she is in pain. I am the first to admit i am average or a little above in size, so its not that. Sex is seriously becoming tedious and annoying and not worth doing. Is there something that can be done?
Prob with my gf?
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browncow said:
Absolutely. Knock her out, fuck her, go to bed.
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Let me rephrase that a bit. The reason it gets tedious is because she is in pain everytime so i hafta be extremely cautious. Its kinda like that kid on every block who's house was like a museum, all you wanted to do was play in there but you couldnt cause you might break something. Any insightful info?
Let me rephrase that a bit. The reason it gets tedious is because she is in pain everytime so i hafta be extremely cautious. Its kinda like that kid on every block who's house was like a museum, all you wanted to do was play in there but you couldnt cause you might break something. Any insightful info?
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Re: Re: Prob with my gf?
And there you have it, less than sound advice from someone you should not take seriously.
There could be a number of reasons as to why she's having pain. And she should probably talk with her GYN about it if it continues.
Its certainly not normal, and unless she's confusing pain with orgasm (my ex did this I'm sure), then problem should be brought to the attention of her doctor.
Italian Goddess said:
And there you have it, less than sound advice from someone you should not take seriously.
There could be a number of reasons as to why she's having pain. And she should probably talk with her GYN about it if it continues.
Its certainly not normal, and unless she's confusing pain with orgasm (my ex did this I'm sure), then problem should be brought to the attention of her doctor.
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As a female, I've not experienced that before, so I could only make a few blind suggestions.
Utilize your fingers first to open her up a bit more and get her more comfortable with you. Otherwise, try sex toys - a smaller dildo might help to stretch her a little and if you are getting frustrated, it could be more enjoyable, too. But, I'd imagine you've already done the above....
With you saying you have a normal-sized cock, could she possibly have Endometriosis or something similar? Shot in the dark, but worth checking out with her OB/GYN.
Utilize your fingers first to open her up a bit more and get her more comfortable with you. Otherwise, try sex toys - a smaller dildo might help to stretch her a little and if you are getting frustrated, it could be more enjoyable, too. But, I'd imagine you've already done the above....
With you saying you have a normal-sized cock, could she possibly have Endometriosis or something similar? Shot in the dark, but worth checking out with her OB/GYN.
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Re: Re: Re: Prob with my gf?
Deep breath; I was being facetious.
Bobmi357 said:
Deep breath; I was being facetious.
browncow said:
Are you the first person she has had sex with? If not, did she have this problem with her other partner(s)?
If you are her first partner, there could be several things coming into play. Perhaps she isn't able to completely relax, and that is making her tense up. She might be worried about disappointing you or have concerns over accidentally getting pregnant that are interfering with her ability to let go and enjoy the moment. You might want to try addressing these subjects with her to put her at ease and make sure you are both on the same page.
Once that is out of the way, make sure you have enough time to take things slowly. Give her a sensual massage to help her relax, and spend lots of time on foreplay to ensure that her body and mind are completely ready for you. Then spend even more time on foreplay. Only once you have her squirming and begging to feel you inside of her should you make the attempt to do so. If it still is uncomfortable for her, then try adding a little lube.
If all this fails, then I'd say it is time for her to be checked out by a doctor to screen out any serious problems.
Good luck and please keep us updated.
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Try some painkillers. Hydrocodone works wonders. Does she drink? Maybe a drink or two will numb the pain.
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Be sure she is well lubricated. Try KY or Astroglide or something of the sort, and be sure to keep it in bed with you for whenever she starts to dry up. Also, foreplay is key. She should be good and ready for you to penetrate.
Having her check with her doctor is probably a good idea. I also fully endorse the ideas about creating a more relaxed atmosphere. Stress can be a MAJOR sex-killer. Lots of patience and foreplay are key. And as with all things sexual, you can never use too much lube!
I want to caution you about using alcohol in sexual situations. One or two drinks CAN be beneficial in helping people relax, but don't overdo it. If she's drunk, you may run the risk of facing sexual assault charges-- a drunk person cannot give consent. Also, alcohol (or drugs, or desensitizing creams) should never be used to numb an area for sexual purposes. Pain is a good thing-- it warns you when you are causing physical damage. Besides, if she's numb, sure it won't hurt, but it won't feel GOOD either.
I want to caution you about using alcohol in sexual situations. One or two drinks CAN be beneficial in helping people relax, but don't overdo it. If she's drunk, you may run the risk of facing sexual assault charges-- a drunk person cannot give consent. Also, alcohol (or drugs, or desensitizing creams) should never be used to numb an area for sexual purposes. Pain is a good thing-- it warns you when you are causing physical damage. Besides, if she's numb, sure it won't hurt, but it won't feel GOOD either.
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put a bag over your face and everything will be fine.
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Uhh well I wouldnt give her drugs or alcohol first off...
second get her to go to a doc. This could be a numer of things, some that could need medical attention.
second get her to go to a doc. This could be a numer of things, some that could need medical attention.
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Re: Re: Re: Re: Prob with my gf?
No,, not you, facetious,, never hehe
Seriously, I had the same problem with my first wife, with me it was due to size, she had an affair with my buddy, dumped me and married him, later told a mutual friend sex was much better with a guy more suited to her as far as size went, her friend thought she was nuts, got me drunk and seduced me (gee that was tough) and told me my ex was crazy, but it did turn out later that she did indeed have some problems and I was long enough to aggrevate them, so I would really suggest she talk to her doctor about it.
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Italian Goddess said:Deep breath; I was being facetious.
No,, not you, facetious,, never hehe
Seriously, I had the same problem with my first wife, with me it was due to size, she had an affair with my buddy, dumped me and married him, later told a mutual friend sex was much better with a guy more suited to her as far as size went, her friend thought she was nuts, got me drunk and seduced me (gee that was tough) and told me my ex was crazy, but it did turn out later that she did indeed have some problems and I was long enough to aggrevate them, so I would really suggest she talk to her doctor about it.
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