"Pretty Intelligence"

[Melody_lane]

Basically, I'm cute with a good head on my shoulders-and fuck, it's hard! I don't exactly understand it either because these are qualities people 'say' they like. I know, I know...I'm being naive, taking people at their word. And I think I have a good head on my shoulders!?!

I guess the thing that really bothers me about it all, is that I am a nice girl and I don't flaunt my intelligence or attractiveness. Yet, I am still resented for these things I have had very little control over.

So, is there anything more disliked than someone who is attractive and intelligent?

 

[Ezzy]

So, is there anything more disliked than someone who is attractive and intelligent?

Yup you could be like me unattractive, some say intelligent and to have a big mouth. LOL.

EZ http://smilecwm.tripod.com/cwm2/sleep.gif

ps Only joking, I dont have a big mouth.LMAO

 

[Latina]

I sympathize, babe. Check out my I Lost My Virginity
thread, I showed my self to still be smart and pretty
and sexy and funny at age 50 and took no end of grief
over it. But I just kept remembering I have a rock-solid
(pun intended) love with my hubby, and suddenly I didn't
CARE about all the static they were giving me. You gotta
love yourself and your SO (significant other), and then
all the envy, resentment, hostility, etc., won't matter
a damn to you! Find your strength and validation inside yourslf and in a nurturing relationship, and life can't
knock you down--when two become one, and you love
yourselves and each other, you are INVINCIBLE.

-- Latina

 

[Miranda Reigns]

Cute and intelligent?

Sweetheart .. why are you hiding? ... flaunt it, sista! Women, yes, they can be intimidated by other women with beauty and intelligence ... Men ... yes, they can be intimidated by beauty and intelligence ...but, if you truly are beautiful and intelligent, you will attract just the right one ... but sometimes it just takes a little longer to find him .... it's worth the wait ... don't rush it.
xxxooo
Miranda

 

[Guest]

I sympathize, babe. Check out my I Lost My Virginity
thread, I showed my self to still be smart and pretty
and sexy and funny at age 50 and took no end of grief
over it. But I just kept remembering I have a rock-solid
(pun intended) love with my hubby, and suddenly I didn't
CARE about all the static they were giving me. You gotta
love yourself and your SO (significant other), and then
all the envy, resentment, hostility, etc., won't matter
a damn to you! Find your strength and validation inside yourslf and in a nurturing relationship, and life can't
knock you down--when two become one, and you love
yourselves and each other, you are INVINCIBLE.

-- Latina

You showed yourself to be an egomanic.

 

[Guest]

Melody...from what I have seen you are beautiful and intelligent---- fuck, dammit Latina pull in that ego it is pushing me out of this thread, sorry, can't fight my way anymore, damn woman would you please reel it in just a bit

 

[Dixon Carter Lee]

Melody --

Oh hell, you know how I feel about brains, black hair, glasses, and that sweet expression. Forget the boys, ask the men what they like, and the cerebellum is always in the Top 3 sexiest organs.

 

[Gingersnap]

Melody I guess I do not understand. What's the problem here?
There are lots of bright intelligent pretty women out there and yes all the boys will say "we want that" but they are boys and they do not like competition. You will meet boys of all ages your whole life. You will meet men too who are not threatened by you and do want a bright honest mate. Seems to me you have the start of your fan club already if the drool marks on the board are any indication. (Here's a towel DCL).

You are not going to like this but in a lot of ways we are alike. You do not give up easily. You are stubborn. You are opinionated. You will argue sometimes just to argue. And I may be wrong but I think you like to dance the edge. I admit to all those things and more.

Bottom line is that if you have a strong personality and are an honest and no nonsense kind of person it's great. Just do not expect the world to be happy about it. You are young and pretty and you use it to your advantage. Nothing wrong with that but remember that those gifts were just that gifts. Rather like the "I do not want to be a member of any club that will have me" mindset. I do not know if it makes sense but it is late and the day was a hard one. You make me laugh and pissed,sometimes you even make me think too. You have never made me resent you. I like you Melody you are okay in my estimation. Even if you are pretty and intelligent too.

 

[Mortto56]

Hi Melody_lane

I would like to say this to you.
Beauty is only skin deep,

Intelligence is only mind deep.

A connection between heart & soul is what makes a person.
If you are happy with your self,and you have that connection between your heart & soul,than it shouldn't make any difference how other people look at you.

Thats the shitty part about life.We are all programed to perceive people in our own image.
Anybody that is "DIFFERENT"than ourselves,we seem to judge,ridicuel,put down.

I don't really know you,but from some of the post I have read of yours,you seem like a humble person.Yet witty & smart.

I have my own simple philosophy.This is what I say to people that don't like me,or says something negitive about me.
"THERE IS 360 DEGREES IN A CIRCLE,AND I TAKE UP 10 DEGREES OF THAT CIRCLE,SO IF YOU DON"T LIKE WHAT I SAY,OR LIKE WHAT I LOOK LIKE,THAN THERES 350 DEGREES LEFT IN THAT CIRCLE TO GO FUCK YOURSELF!"

And another thing,I've always had the hots for the "Librarian Look" anyways.

To answer your last question,YES paying taxes.

 

[Melody_lane]

Melody I guess I do not understand. What's the problem here?

The problem. I'm in school right now-with all women. I happen to do well in my classes. Okay,okay-I'm the one who gets the questions right that everyone else in the class gets wrong. I fuck the curve, I'm the class president and the representative for Hosa. I'm just a little bit of a go-getter, but it has nothing to do with anybody else. I'm really driven to succeed in this program, and I want to do everything I possibly can to make me stand out on job applications. It's more than that, though. I know I am capable of doing well and what it comes down to is I am going to. I have other things in my life that keep me busy at home, so I have to take the time during school hours to study-so, I can't be the little social butterfly. I guess it might make me seem like I snobby bitch.

Oh well, what it really comes down to is I'm not there to make friends. It was just a long week and I needed to have a little whine, yesterday. Thanks for your input everyone!

Oh, and Dixon dear...you can check me out cranium to inferior phalanges(and please-everywhere in between) anytime! (damn, I knew going into the medical field would come in handy sometime)

 

[Gingersnap]

You are dealing with the herd thingy. Put a group of people together and let one of them declare themselves and the others ask when the gun went off and start to run. You seem to like the head of the pack position and if you are going into the medical world...... Well you have my sympathy and I hope that your peers can step back and appreciate your efforts. Just don't drive yourself too crazy Melody but hey if you ever want to vent I will listen. Been there done that and make sure you have lots of backrub volunteers lined up.

 

[Ian1]

So, is there anything more disliked than someone who is attractive and intelligent?

Yeah, someone who is attractive and intelligent and won't go out with me. That is usually worse.

 

[Oliver Clozoff]

I totally agree with Gingersnap on this one. You could even view this as a blessing in disguise if you think about it. Beautiful women always get a lot of attention, but they intimidate many guys as well. If the woman is beautiful and intelligent a whole extra layer of intimidation is added and even more guys are left by the wayside.

But the blessing is that what's left are the confident men who appreciate an intelligent woman. Consider it a built-in screening process. Of course there will be exceptions, e.g. guys that will hit on anything that moves, etc. but I think a lot of women would trade places with you in the blink of an eye if they could.

As far as pursuing a career in the medical field, I can tell you that it will require sacrifices (more or less depending on the particular field, of course). The study load and later patient care/studying will put a dent in social life and dating. In medicine, only the very rare genius can emerge with his/her social life unscathed.

ask the men what they like, and the cerebellum is always in the Top 3 sexiest organs.

As the resident anatomy dork, I'll just point out that the cerebellum's function is balance and coordination of movements, not the kind of "brains" I think you're talking about. Conscious thought, personality, problem-solving abilities, language, and all the other "higher brain" functions are located in the cerebrum.

In fact, the reason they're called "higher brain functions" is because the cerebrum is the large bihemispheric structure located at the top of the brain. The cerebellum is a structure just below and posterior. Tiny and wrinkled, it actually looks like an upside-down scrotum wedged between the brainstem and cerebrum.

Still, though, I agree with you. An intact cerebellum is a must on a woman. Otherwise she'll walk like stumbling drunk and be unable to perform all but the simplest motor tasks. But she'd be fully "mentally" intact in terms of intelligence, communication, etc... all of the things that make us "us".

whew. I've gotta find something better to do on a Saturday.



[Edited by Oliver Clozoff on 09-30-2000 at 10:41 AM]

 

[Cheyenne]

Oh well, what it really comes down to is I'm not there to make friends. [/QUOTE]

I'd say if one of your goals during your college years isn't to make friends, you're missing a golden opportunity. Some of my best friends in life are people I met in college who were suffering through the same classes as I was. That was more than 20 years ago, and we're still all friends. All work and no play makes you a dull person. Get out and have fun after you've worked hard- you deserve a break.