Potential dates - do you google them?

[Debbie]

http://www.nzherald.co.nz/lifestyle/news/article.cfm?c_id=6&objectid=11190367

"More than a third of single men use social media to spy on potential partners - some using what they find online to cancel the first date, a survey has found.

Single men are more likely than single women - 35 per cent of men surveyed, compared to 20 per cent of women - to use Facebook and Twitter to check out a date, with 65 per cent of those men saying they would read the 'about' section and posted comments before going on a date.

Around 15 per cent of those confessed to cancelling dates because of something they had seen on a person's social media profiles."

 

[StrangeLife]

I'm not single at present, but when I was the answer was "nope." I've alway had the philosophy that anybody I date starts with a clean slate as far as I'm concerned. If I want to know something, I'll ask her. So I'm not one of that 35 percent.

Yeah I know - Dr Phil claims that the best predictor of future behaviour is past behaviour, but I think he had gotten his moustache on the wrong way the day he came up with that one...

 

[Super-Surprise]

http://adultsonlyblog.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/01/photo-Amateur-Funny-Hot-Panties-472196968.jpg

 

[dg]

I don't use social media to spy on dates, but I do use social media to see when dates are using fucking messaging boards and not answering my emails LIKE FUCKING BITCHES.

 

[Noor]

I do a search on my or my friends' potential dates if requested. I don't look at it as spying, I look at it as due diligence.

I don't tend to look at Facebook pages because what I am concerned about would be unlikely to be posted there or it would be a private page anyway. In hindsight, there were probably times when knowing who our mutual friends were would have been helpful and informative.

 

[Debbie]

I do a search on my or my friends' potential dates if requested. I don't look at it as spying, I look at it as due diligence.

I don't tend to look at Facebook pages because what I am concerned about would be unlikely to be posted there or it would be a private page anyway. In hindsight, there were probably times when knowing who our mutual friends were would have been helpful and informative.

I don't think it is a weird type spying thing either.

In fact I think it is a good idea. There are some real whackos out there.

 

[subdued_passion]

I'm really surprised at the numbers. In my experience I've seen that women are more enthusiastic about doing a background check whereas men will be willing to go with the flow and are just so glad that you've agreed to go out with them.

 

[Porkwarrior]

What if you are more attracted to whacko's than people that appear "normal"?

I'll snoop a bit, but more to find obscure interests they have, or whether they are allergic to shellfish before I make a reservation at an oyster bar.

Cancelling a date for just one or two posts & comments is just as silly as basing your opinion on a Litster because of one or two topics they started.

 

[subdued_passion]

Why would a man cancel a date? That is so weird I've never heard of it. Guys chase down women (in person or online) and beg them to go out. So why would they cancel when they've finally fixed a date.

 

[bronzeage]

What if you are more attracted to whacko's than people that appear "normal"?

I'll snoop a bit, but more to find obscure interests they have, or whether they are allergic to shellfish before I make a reservation at an oyster bar.

Cancelling a date for just one or two posts & comments is just as silly as basing your opinion on a Litster because of one or two topics they started.

I can't imagine what a woman might have posted on facebook that could make me break a date. I suppose discovering she was a member of a pit bull fighting group, would be a turnoff.

It's unlikely I would know her username on other social forum, such as Lit. If I do know her Lit identity, I probably know her quite well at that point. In that case, the real question is whether or not she knows my lit name.

 

[bronzeage]

Why would a man cancel a date? That is so weird I've never heard of it. Guys chase down women (in person or online) and beg them to go out. So why would they cancel when they've finally fixed a date.

She knows his wife.

 

[JAMESBJOHNSON]

Why would a man cancel a date? That is so weird I've never heard of it. Guys chase down women (in person or online) and beg them to go out. So why would they cancel when they've finally fixed a date.

I discovered the lady next door operating a cathouse...all the traffic to her house was my first clue.

 

[chillywilly2]

I discovered the lady next door operating a cathouse...all the traffic to her house was my first clue.

So she was a Cat Lady...see, that would make me cancel a date with her...I'm not a real fan of cats

 

[subdued_passion]

I discovered the lady next door operating a cathouse...all the traffic to her house was my first clue.

Isn't it to compliment to the guy that he's being considered for a freebie?

 

[Liar]

When I get as far as "dating" status with someone, there's nothing Google could tell me that I don't already know.

 

[Porkwarrior]

Why would a man cancel a date? That is so weird I've never heard of it. Guys chase down women (in person or online) and beg them to go out. So why would they cancel when they've finally fixed a date.

That's what you women like to believe.

I can't imagine what a woman might have posted on facebook that could make me break a date. I suppose discovering she was a member of a pit bull fighting group, would be a turnoff.

Posting pics of her modelling the wedding dress she's had in her closet for years might scare me more.

 

[RobDownSouth]

I'm really surprised at the numbers. In my experience I've seen that women are more enthusiastic about doing a background check whereas men will be willing to go with the flow and are just so glad that you've agreed to go out with them.

Bingo. I went out on a first date last summer, just dinner at a Mexican restaurant, and my date was telling me alll this stuff she'd found out about me on Google. Twas a bit uncomfortable actually.....

 

[subdued_passion]

Bingo. I went out on a first date last summer, just dinner at a Mexican restaurant, and my date was telling me alll this stuff she'd found out about me on Google. Twas a bit uncomfortable actually.....

I know what you mean. During a second date I happened to mention some personal incident to a guy and he goes yeah I know and finishes the story. It was weird because the incident was 2 years old at that time and the only way he would've known was if he'd gone that far back into my FB posts. When I teased him about how he'd once claimed he never bothered with FB he confessed that he'd read each and every post of mine.

 

[bronzeage]

That's what you women like to believe.



Posting pics of her modelling the wedding dress she's had in her closet for years might scare me more.

That wouldn't bother me a bit. A current pic in maternity clothes might be a problem.

 

[Porkwarrior]

That wouldn't bother me a bit. A current pic in maternity clothes might be a problem.

If she's already knocked up you don't need to worry if she's lying about being on the pill or not.

Now if you happen to find the wedding register list she already has made out...

 

[bronzeage]

If she's already knocked up you don't need to worry if she's lying about being on the pill or not.

Now if you happen to find the wedding register list she already has made out...

I've been married 3 times and have lived with a woman, married or not for almost all if my adult life. Marriage doesn't frighten me. I've survived much worse.

 

[richard_daily]

I prefer to diddle them.

 

[richard_daily]

Why would a man cancel a date? That is so weird I've never heard of it. Guys chase down women (in person or online) and beg them to go out. So why would they cancel when they've finally fixed a date.

I've canceled lots of dates. If I'm not feeling it, I tell them so pretty clearly, but try to give at least a day's notice.

If you've never had a date cancel on you, then you must be attracting pretty desperate men.

 

[Debbie]

What if you are more attracted to whacko's than people that appear "normal"?

I'll snoop a bit, but more to find obscure interests they have, or whether they are allergic to shellfish before I make a reservation at an oyster bar.

Cancelling a date for just one or two posts & comments is just as silly as basing your opinion on a Litster because of one or two topics they started.

Some whackos might be amazing in the sack but there are some real crazies
out there. I wouldn't want to see you dismembered and stored in a metal
drum.

http://newsfeed.time.com/2013/01/25/woman-sues-match-com-after-date-tries-to-murder-her/

http://www.theawl.com/2012/03/online-dating-horror-stories

Luckily there are also some lovely stories about people who have found
love and live happily ever after.

 

[StrangeLife]

Bingo. I went out on a first date last summer, just dinner at a Mexican restaurant, and my date was telling me alll this stuff she'd found out about me on Google. Twas a bit uncomfortable actually.....

Exactly. It's creepy. Soon you'll be able to wear Google Glasses and get reports on everybody you see in real time - kinda like in Daemon.

I prefer to show up unbiased and use my personal Sherlockian skills to assess my date. Thus I will walk away with my own opinion and not some amalgamated judgement of an internet tribunal. And maybe she's not comfortable with me knowing too much about about her too soon anyway.

If I get a bad vibe from her, I can always pull out my mad James Bond skillz later.