Poly + LDR = our crazy whirlwind

[EmpressFi]

It's really nice

 

[Homburg]

It's really nice

My fingers were not made to work on this stuff, so the jewelry construction is always exciting. At least in this case it was a matter of finding the right barbell, then the right letter charm, then producing a a chain of jump rings. Shopping for charm size was the toughest part actually.

 

[intothewoods]

Huh, I normally don't like belly jewelry, but that's nice. I like that there's not much dangling.

It still looks a little pink. Are you using Hibiclens (sp?)? I had a belly piercing when I was 20, and it worked wonders.

 

[myinnerslut]

Huh, I normally don't like belly jewelry, but that's nice. I like that there's not much dangling.

It still looks a little pink. Are you using Hibiclens (sp?)? I had a belly piercing when I was 20, and it worked wonders.

the red is from a few sources. the most obvious is that it had just been changed for the first time since being pierced so it was irritated. also the new barbell is half a guage bigger then the old one. and the redness around is is from a bandaide. im allergic to adhesive but i wanted to cover it up so id didnt get rubbed during more strenous activities"

to clean it i use (used, i just ran out. ill get more later today if i get a chance) a product called H2Ocean.

 

[Homburg]

Huh, I normally don't like belly jewelry, but that's nice. I like that there's not much dangling.

That was the intent. We looked through hundreds of web-pages trying to find the proper piece, and it was all horribly blingy. This is why I decided to just make what I was looking for.

 

[intothewoods]

the red is from a few sources. the most obvious is that it had just been changed for the first time since being pierced so it was irritated. also the new barbell is half a guage bigger then the old one. and the redness around is is from a bandaide. im allergic to adhesive but i wanted to cover it up so id didnt get rubbed during more strenous activities"

to clean it i use (used, i just ran out. ill get more later today if i get a chance) a product called H2Ocean.

But is H2Ocean just salt water, basically? I swear, check into Hibiclens. It rocks.

That was the intent. We looked through hundreds of web-pages trying to find the proper piece, and it was all horribly blingy. This is why I decided to just make what I was looking for.

That's a lot of navel gazing. Ba dum dum.

 

[Homburg]

But is H2Ocean just salt water, basically? I swear, check into Hibiclens. It rocks.

H2Ocean is a bit more than salt water. Still, it is very well reviewed and rated, and is the product that the reputable piercing shops that I've been in (admittedly not a huge sample) carry for aftercare. Most importantly, it works, and it is available locally to her.

That's a lot of navel gazing. Ba dum dum.

You missed your calling. You should've scabbed during the writer's strike.

 

[intothewoods]

H2Ocean is a bit more than salt water. Still, it is very well reviewed and rated, and is the product that the reputable piercing shops that I've been in (admittedly not a huge sample) carry for aftercare. Most importantly, it works, and it is available locally to her.

Right. If it's all healed, that's good. Actually, now that's coming back to me (it was years ago that I had a piercing there), the two can be used together. Hibiclens helps with the healing.

You missed your calling. You should've scabbed during the writer's strike.

True dat.

 

[unpredictablebijou]

My fingers were not made to work on this stuff, so the jewelry construction is always exciting. At least in this case it was a matter of finding the right barbell, then the right letter charm, then producing a a chain of jump rings. Shopping for charm size was the toughest part actually.

Specialized pliers. That's the trick. I suspect you'll be doing more of this.

If your bead store's any good, they'll have a set you can use there, and be able to sell you a set if you want one.

heh heh. I'll turn you into a bead fiend yet. Grrrls like shiny things.

bj

 

[Homburg]

Specialized pliers. That's the trick. I suspect you'll be doing more of this.

If your bead store's any good, they'll have a set you can use there, and be able to sell you a set if you want one.

heh heh. I'll turn you into a bead fiend yet. Grrrls like shiny things.

bj

Hmm, more hand-tools....

No! I will resist! I am strong, and need no more bizarrely over-specialised hand-tools. (So what do you do with the funky assymetrical ones anyway?)

 

[Kajira Callista]

Hmm, more hand-tools....

No! I will resist! I am strong, and need no more bizarrely over-specialised hand-tools. (So what do you do with the funky assymetrical ones anyway?)

pinch skin?

 

[Homburg]

pinch skin?

*blink*

FUCK. I am turning into a bead fiend. I was trying to figure the bloody things out and ddn't even stop to think about the perversions they would be capable of.

I am deeply ashamed of myself

 

[myinnerslut]

i hate packing.

and i have a tendency to overpack when im excited.

just the other day i had to be reminded that they have a washing machine and i didnt need to bring 20 shirts.

nervouse. excited. nervoue. excited.

still hate packing for the trip.

 

[Millificent]

this sucks.

that's all


*talking about the LDR aspect, not the relationship itself*

 

[SweetGigi]

*snuggles her beautiful friend*


its alll oooootay, sug.

 

[unpredictablebijou]

pinch skin?

*blink*

FUCK. I am turning into a bead fiend. I was trying to figure the bloody things out and ddn't even stop to think about the perversions they would be capable of.

I am deeply ashamed of myself

Oh, it would have occurred to you soon enough.

but BWAHAHAHAHA anyway.

Here ya go - a nice little summary of the various sorts of pliers.

You need some smooth chain nose pliers, a bent chain pair for those hard-to-reach areas, flat nose, round nose, and with those hands you're going to benefit from a jump ring set as well.

Nipples, honey. Think nipples. And other small protruberances.

And of course jewelry.

bj

 

[Millificent]

Oh, it would have occurred to you soon enough.

but BWAHAHAHAHA anyway.

Here ya go - a nice little summary of the various sorts of pliers.

You need some smooth chain nose pliers, a bent chain pair for those hard-to-reach areas, flat nose, round nose, and with those hands you're going to benefit from a jump ring set as well.

Nipples, honey. Think nipples. And other small protruberances.

And of course jewelry.

bj

He doesn't need any help from you, BJ

 

[unpredictablebijou]

He doesn't need any help from you, BJ

heh heh.

No indeed, that's true. But it's such fun to patronize him. Makes him all growly.

So what's the dom equivalent of Sammy, anyway? SAS for sadist? Smart ass top? Smart ass dom?

bj

 

[myinnerslut]

heh heh.

No indeed, that's true. But it's such fun to patronize him. Makes him all growly.

So what's the dom equivalent of Sammy, anyway? SAS for sadist? Smart ass top? Smart ass dom?

bj

so does that mead a amart ass dom is acting sad?

 

[unpredictablebijou]

so does that mean a smart ass dom is acting sad?

Yeah, the abbreviations aren't as good no matter what you pick.

And maybe being a smart ass is just inherent with doms.

Color me SASS: Smart Assed Sadistic Switch.

bj

 

[Homburg]

I'm going to read up on pliers and ignore eeeverything else that has gone on in this thread for the past few posts =P

 

[SweetGigi]

Ok so with the blessings of dearest Hommie *waves at homburg* I would like to ask for some opinions. Bear with me if this gets a bit long winded, I'll try to keep it short.

I have NEVER thought of myself as a poly sort of person. In fact, I've even gone so far as to speak out against it in the past. However, in my current situation I have had a mirror held up to my past relationships and been forced to acknowledge that I am indeed poly and really always have been.

For instance: as some of you know when I first started posting here I was in a 7 relationship with a DOM where I was also required to keep a Guardian since my DOM was 3 hrs away. About two months after that ended, I started casually dating a boy here in town, but quickly lost interest because he is strictly monogamous. (I didn't realize this was why I left him until just recently, though.) Afterwards I began seeing Jim, a long time friend, but we all know how that ended, right? Now I am seeing Carlos, and while we are not labeling things between us there is still that looming 'how do we handle this' question that begs to be answered.

Carlos is VERY poly and has no intentions of ever trying a monogamous relationship. After several lengthy discussions on the issue, and my self realization, I am open to the idea of openly and consciously being poly with him. While it is all very exciting, I am a bit worried my past insecurities will come into play. I am curious as to how other poly couples beat the jealousy and insecurities to make their relationships fruitful and mutually beneficial.

Thanks in advance, y'all.

 

[Netzach]

Ok so with the blessings of dearest Hommie *waves at homburg* I would like to ask for some opinions. Bear with me if this gets a bit long winded, I'll try to keep it short.

I have NEVER thought of myself as a poly sort of person. In fact, I've even gone so far as to speak out against it in the past. However, in my current situation I have had a mirror held up to my past relationships and been forced to acknowledge that I am indeed poly and really always have been.

For instance: as some of you know when I first started posting here I was in a 7 relationship with a DOM where I was also required to keep a Guardian since my DOM was 3 hrs away. About two months after that ended, I started casually dating a boy here in town, but quickly lost interest because he is strictly monogamous. (I didn't realize this was why I left him until just recently, though.) Afterwards I began seeing Jim, a long time friend, but we all know how that ended, right? Now I am seeing Carlos, and while we are not labeling things between us there is still that looming 'how do we handle this' question that begs to be answered.

Carlos is VERY poly and has no intentions of ever trying a monogamous relationship. After several lengthy discussions on the issue, and my self realization, I am open to the idea of openly and consciously being poly with him. While it is all very exciting, I am a bit worried my past insecurities will come into play. I am curious as to how other poly couples beat the jealousy and insecurities to make their relationships fruitful and mutually beneficial.

Thanks in advance, y'all.

Is any part of you genuinely interested in "this is a new and interesting way to formulate my relationships" versus "to be with Carlos, I have to accept this?"

If the former, your prognosis is better. The latter isn't impossible, but it's going to be a lot harder on both of you.

And you never "beat" jealousy, really. The person feeling it has to weigh it - it's either something you find in yourself that you can jettison because the relationship is so much bigger than that issue, or some weird people like M seem to be born without it, or you can give it a little compartment and allow it to be, but when it starts spilling over emotionally into the whole of the rel. well - as they say you are probably not cut out for this.

Jealousy, for me, is a yardstick. Whenever I'm feeling it, it usually means there's some very basic, simple reassurance of my relevance that I need - when I have that, the other person can go off on their dirty weekend and things are fine.

 

[SweetGigi]

Is any part of you genuinely interested in "this is a new and interesting way to formulate my relationships" versus "to be with Carlos, I have to accept this?"

If the former, your prognosis is better. The latter isn't impossible, but it's going to be a lot harder on both of you.

I considered this before I posted and have been thinking on it since he left. I really don't think that it is me bending myself to fit into a mold he created- rather it is me finally coming to knowledge of something in myself I've long denied. It never really occurred to me to parallel my own life to that of other typical poly folks before now, but looking back at my past relationships, the proof is written all over the walls. Whether i admitted it or not, I have always been poly and now I am interested in how the conscious knowledge of this will effect my relationship with Carlos.

 

[SweetGigi]

And you never "beat" jealousy, really. The person feeling it has to weigh it - it's either something you find in yourself that you can jettison because the relationship is so much bigger than that issue, or some weird people like M seem to be born without it, or you can give it a little compartment and allow it to be, but when it starts spilling over emotionally into the whole of the rel. well - as they say you are probably not cut out for this.

Jealousy, for me, is a yardstick. Whenever I'm feeling it, it usually means there's some very basic, simple reassurance of my relevance that I need - when I have that, the other person can go off on their dirty weekend and things are fine.

Yeah I really don't know how to label my jealousy. Sometimes it is there... others it is non-existent. I suppose it is a little like your yard stick- so long as I have my reassurance, (and I mean real reassurance, not this 'there there, now now' crap) I am good to go.