Pmann's thoughts on Lit and High School Stereotypes

[Lord Pmann]

High School...

I had a very interesting thought about high school earlier. Whenever anyone mentions what group they were in, nearly everyone says, "Oh, I hung out with everyone. I was friends with every group."

I'd believe that if it wasn't such utter horse shit. I mean, there were those people. But there were like two. Yet every person here says that. Am I to believe that ALL of those nice people who hung out with all groups and were loved by everyone ended up being pervy horndogs and came here to Lit? Certainly not. Because you fuckers aren't lovable now! So I doubt you were likable in high school.

But who will be honest about who they were in high school? Who was Regina George? Who was Biff? Who will own up to it?

In high school I was pretty nice. Well liked mostly. Not the most popular guy. A bit aloof. Okay, a lot aloof. I did make fun of people, but usually the popular kids who thought their assholes were rainbow coloured. I wouldn't make fun of people who were just dorks. I went to a prep school so everyone was rather smart and my experience is that high school wasn't quite as awful of a caste system as I have heard from others. On the scale of asshole... 0 being Mother Teresa and 10 being Alec Baldwin, I was a 6.5. I am probably a 7.5 or an 8 now.

Come on peeps... Who were you? Who will admit to being a huge asshole?

 

[hotwords229_A]

I didn't hang out with anyone and nobody was beating my door down to hang out with me. I was a bit of a George Mcfly, only nobody really bothered to notice. I wasn't really picked on because why waste your time on me when there were other/better losers to beat up? It wasn't really that bad, but it was kind of like that. BUT it was entirely my own making. I avoided people so they avoided me.
I'm different now, but I can pretty much guaruntee very few people from high school remember me. Their loss, but mine too.

 

[JerseyJade]

I probably shouldn't even comment on this topic because most of you graduated high school way before I did, but there was no such thing as "groups" while I was in school. The only thing I can think of that would be considered a group would be the boys that devoted most of their time in playing sports; and we would refer to them as jocks. But other than that, I can't think of any reason why we would put a kid in a certain group. I mean maybe if there was someone that was really smart and acted geeky, we might have called him or her a dork, but then again we would sometimes call kids dorks even if they weren't so smart.

As for me, I was nice to those who were nice to me. To those who weren't, I was a bitch and didn't take their shit. I wouldn't say I was really popular, although I did become more popular in my Sophomore year while I was pregnant. Maybe not a good reason to become popular, but it was what it was. I did have my group of friends that supported me and stuck with me through it all, so I'm not complaining.

During my Junior and Senior year, I was more focused on just passing my courses so I could graduate and being a mom; so for the most part, I just minded my own business. At that time, I lived close to Rutgers University, so most of the people that I hung out with were from there anyway. Good times!

 

[Lord Pmann]

I probably shouldn't even comment on this topic because most of you graduated high school way before I did...

So now you're part of the group who makes fun of us for being old.

 

[JerseyJade]

So now you're part of the group who makes fun of us for being old.

You said it, not me.

 

[catherinewheel77]

Perhaps I should’ve clarified that I never quite felt I belonged to any of the various groups. Yeah, weep for me.

Then my skin cleared up, the braces came off and I discovered tank tops. And things ch-ch-changed.

 

[Sexybritches69]

I hung out with swim team people because I was with them all the time. Before school. After school. On the weekend. Whether I liked them or not, that’s who I was with all the time. We were like a weird little family. Then I had my 3 best friends that I’d known since elem school. So, idk what I’d call that. I wasn’t friends with everyone but I don’t have any huge problems with anyone either.

 

[lovetopleasewomen]

What about those who attended high school with just the singular goal of graduating. Early on I decided if all I did in life was graduate high school, that's one thing I could say. Having grown up around outlaw bikers, I had nothing much in common with the kids in school. The guys who thought they were tough I just kinda laughed at. The girls, even tho I liked a few of them, could never hold a candle to the women I knew who associated with the clubs. The couple school dances were so lame compared to a biker party. I didn't even bother going to our senior prom. So I was there but not really.

 

[TANSTAAFL58]

I was an unrepentant nerd. I took tech classes like drafting and electronics and science and math, with just enough English, History and Geography to graduate.

That was my circle of friends. Outcasts. Science Nerds. Math Team. Chess Club. We even had "the gay guy". We all assumed he was gay, because he was a walking stereotype. I had a car. My buddy had a pool table. Another guy had a pool. I lòoked eighteen when I was fifteen, so I bought the booze. We had a steady trade in hash pipes made in the machine shop. We all ended up as Engineers, Accountants, Architects, Computer Professionals of various kinds, and High Tech Tradesmen.

And never had a date...nerds were not cool.

 

[EmpressJosephine]

I was an unrepentant nerd. *snip*

And never had a date...nerds were not cool.

Now nerds are sexy....

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[TANSTAAFL58]

Now nerds are sexy....

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And as happy as I am with that, a little "sexy" back then would have been nice...

 

[Lord Pmann]

Did anyone just have a shitty high school experience? (And would be willing to admit it?)

I’m curious to hear how later life has treated you. I know kids can be super cruel. Especially high school kids.

 

[barefootgirl69]

Did anyone just have a shitty high school experience? (And would be willing to admit it?)

I’m curious to hear how later life has treated you. I know kids can be super cruel. Especially high school kids.

No. As a military brat, you kinda learn to get along with a lot of different people.

 

[lurkingguy1978]

Did anyone just have a shitty high school experience? (And would be willing to admit it?)

I’m curious to hear how later life has treated you. I know kids can be super cruel. Especially high school kids.

Absolutely. Awful high school life. I was the kid who was always considered the über-nerd even though I never owned that...it was part of me, but I was hugely into sports, even though I wasn't a good athlete - I was on two teams.

But that didn't matter. I was always the short, kinda chunky nerdy dude that was never going to fit in. Was never going to be accepted. I was the smartest kid in school, and everyone knew it, and got abused for it daily. To the point where I started blowing questions on tests intentionally to NOT be at the top of my class. (Stupid, huh?)

I fit in so badly. I was saved by two girls that knew me a little, and pulled me aside after school one day. They knew just enough of me to be concerned I was going to hurt myself. Which I was going to. They pretty much saved my life...and I'm still friends with them 25 years later.

But all of that mess prepped me for college, and for life. No more hiding. No more pretending. I'm just me now - the same awkward, empathetic, loving man I always was. I just never have to worry about anyone making fun of me for actually giving a fuck about people anymore.

So yeah...high school wasn't "the greatest years of my life". Fuck that.

 

[Lord Pmann]

Absolutely. Awful high school life. I was the kid who was always considered the über-nerd even though I never owned that...it was part of me, but I was hugely into sports, even though I wasn't a good athlete - I was on two teams.

But that didn't matter. I was always the short, kinda chunky nerdy dude that was never going to fit in. Was never going to be accepted. I was the smartest kid in school, and everyone knew it, and got abused for it daily. To the point where I started blowing questions on tests intentionally to NOT be at the top of my class. (Stupid, huh?)

I fit in so badly. I was saved by two girls that knew me a little, and pulled me aside after school one day. They knew just enough of me to be concerned I was going to hurt myself. Which I was going to. They pretty much saved my life...and I'm still friends with them 25 years later.

But all of that mess prepped me for college, and for life. No more hiding. No more pretending. I'm just me now - the same awkward, empathetic, loving man I always was. I just never have to worry about anyone making fun of me for actually giving a fuck about people anymore.

So yeah...high school wasn't "the greatest years of my life". Fuck that.

Congrats on taking a shit situation (a shituation, as it were) and turning it into a better way of life.

I've never understood people making fun of the smart kids. Like... They'll be your bosses one day. When your cheerleader tits sag and no one gives a fuck how far Uncle Rico can throw a football, you're left with your brains and your wit, not your brawn and your tits.

It is such a shame that people treat others this way. Kudos to you for overcoming it and being who you are. That's a lovely story about those two girls. That's amazing and how kind of them to take notice. As well, it is great that you are still friends.