Please help me

[SwEeTbAmAcHiK]

Hello everyone. I am new to this site, and I was hoping I could get some advice on a few things... first off I am a 21 married female. My husband and I have dated since I was 15, and got married as soon as I was 18. He is the only person I have ever had sex with, and I am the only person who he has had intercourse with (he has went down on 2 other girls, 1 was before we ever met). When I was 16 he asked me and my best friend to have a 3some. I hesitated and she hesitated but we said yes. About 10 minutes into it, he started going down on her, and I got jealous and stopped everything. Luckily everything was fine, we are still very very best friends, and as you can see everything was fine between me and my boyfriend-- he is now my husband. Anyways that was quite a few years ago, and now I am really interested in trying to do it again. I guess back then I was hesitatant on doing it because I was scared he would leave me for her, and I would lose my best friend and my boyfriend all in one instant. But now I am very confident in our relationship and I know he would never leave me for anyone else.

My question is though, how can I bring this up to him and get him interested in doing this again? We have only talked about this a few times since then and I don't know if he would want to go through with it again... also if we did, the person who I would want to do this with would be my best friend (the one we started the other one with) or someone else we know.

So what I want to know is how do I bring it up to my husband? How do we bring it up to my friend or whoever, if my husband agrees. and also I would like to know if any of you has had successful 3somes, or unsuccessful 3somes. Almost all I have heard about was the unsuccessful ones, that was one of my draw backs the first time, but I am very interested in trying a 3some now, and being with another woman, and I know I wouldn't dare stop it now if I had the chance.
I wanna kick myself now for stopping the first 3some.

Please help, any feedback would be great.

Thanks a bunch.

 

[blueyedheartbandit]

the way my wife got me into to it was while we were making love she asked me if i wanted to watch a women eat her pussy. this turned me on big time. we have had 1 3some and it all worked out great.


best of luck

bandit

 

[SupaStyles]

Id start making suggesting about how you are turned on by this person or that person (girls) then start talking about fantasies of what you want to do with women and then with a woman and him and judge how you push by his reaction to you advances. Start it up during sex and then you can see first hand (pun intended) what he thinks and then say you have fantasies about surpriseing him with it some time and see how he feels then do it if he's for it. Since you are the one who stopped it last time all his hesitation is probably based on you so the more open you are about it the more at ease he will be about gettin into it. Id start off light and put some distance between conversations and gradually build up the conversations till it seems like it is really playing on your mind and that he has been with you on the build up to it not you secretly wanting it and he has no idea.

just a few tips I thought I could give

 

[wideeyedgrin]

First you need to realize that you have grown up. It may not seem like it to you, but there is a world of difference between the girl you were at 16 and the woman you are now at 21.
Talk this over with your girlfriend or whomever you want to do this with to make sure they would like to. Remembe, two girls and a guy mean that the girls are going to be playing with each other as well as with the guy. You might want to consider trying a little girl-girl intimacy to see if you like that before you bring your husband into it.
When you are sure that you want to continue, then it is time to talk to your husband. Bring up the memory of that threesome and explain the way you were feeling at the time, that you weren't sure of what you wanted and that you were extremely jealous at the time because you were afraid of losing him. He should understand that. Then tell him that you WERE interested back then, but couldn't overcome the jealously.
Set this up with your girlfriend over for dinner and drinks and you probably won't have to do much more explaining. Just be prepared for those jealous feeling to come back and be ready to deal with them at that time, and not later. Have both of them hug and hold you until you are comfortable. Then relax and enjoy.

 

[SupaStyles]

Another good starter is going to a club and getting a little tipsy there. Playing around on the dance floor witha lil dirty dancing etc between the three of you can maybe help you feel out what might come later. if he is dacing nasty with the girl and you are just getting excited by it then continue ahead but if that site makes you uncomfortable I cant imagine him fucking her will make you feel any better so do some harmless play first that can get everyone in the mood but dont commit to anything. Base it on how you feel so if everything goes well and you get home or on the way home go for it.

The last time the three of us went to a club they started 69'in in the car and we ended up pulling off the road and the a nature observatory area and doing it there.. I would recommend that for your first time but it gives you an idea of where things can lead!

 

[Lust Engine]

After being together for so long now; practically growing up together- you should be able to communicate very openly & honestly about these kinds of things. Explain to him that it is a fantasy you still harbor even though you might not have felt comfortable the first time around.

Swallow your pride & admit that you were a wee bit immature the first time. I don't think if he were a truly caring man, he'd have any objections to try fulfilling your wishes on having a threesome. But realize who you want to have the threesome with MIGHT be a bit more difficult now. They've grown & matured too so that could be a little more difficult but again, be open with your husband.