please help: dirty talk

[shymeghanf]

This should be a no-brainer, I am a bit of a nymph and have an extremely dirty mind but whenever I am having sex and my boyfriend wants me to talk dirty to him, my brain goes completely and absolutely blank. Nothing comes to mind. Does anyone have any suggestions? What do boys want to hear? Help me please!!!

 

[Henry808080]

That all depends on his interests. Don't think you are the only woman that does not know what to say. There are plenty out there. Send me a pm and I can be more specific.

 

[simplegirl]

Ahhh, dirty talk. Keep it simple. Just tell him how what he's doing is making you feel, how wet you are for him, how turned on, how you like him to touch you, how much you love his body and various parts of it. Just get descriptive about what's going on.

Men love to hear what effect they're having on you, how much you're enjoying what they're doing and how much you enjoy HIM.

 

[PertPerth]

I'm the same as you, Shymeghanf. I can think dirty...but actually getting the words out is so much harder!
My only suggestions are to just start simple - tell him what you like done to you, and what you like doing to him. Maybe even talk dirty to yourself while no one is around? That way you can hear what you sound like and not feel so shy in front of your boyfriend.

 

[Jackotheshadows]

I agree with Pert, simple is good. Otherwise, you could end up sounding like the voice-over for a porn movie. Passion makes up for words, any day of the week!

 

[starlightqueen]

Hey, I had the same issue - it's so hard to get the words out, even if you're thinking something kinky!

First of all, I found writing erotica really helped. I come from a science background, and can devastate a mood in an instant by being overly clinical. Getting used to talking about a "cock" or a "pussy" was important. It also helped me come up with a variety of ways to verbalize sexual pleasure. In the past, I'd pretty much stuck with the vowel sounds.

Another thing that helped was the distance factor - if we're feeling amorous but can't be together, we'll talk dirty over IM. It's easier than in person, because you can blush and your partner will never know. He'll imagine the sultry serious face you wished you could (and eventually will be able to!) wear when saying it. If you're describing the things you'd do, and how you'd feel, it's like a baby step on the way to describing how you're feeling while you're really doing them.

That said, in practice in person, I don't have to be that creative. Saying the same thing repeatedly sounds a little dumb outside of the moment, but when you're there it seems to do the trick.

Good luck! It totally gets easier. You'll be great

 

[gagginforit]

If you can't come up with anything else, there's nothing wrong with keeping it simple. Nothing's sexier than "fuck me" anyway. "Fuck me. Fuck me. Yeah fuck me baby" And "Fuck that pussy. Fuck my little pussy." You're not going to go wrong with that.

And try putting a hyphen in pussy here and there. "Pus-sy". For some reason it's sexier when they say it like that.

 

[Carnevil9]

Just say "cock" a lot. There's nothing dirtier or more exciting. It's all those "K" sounds, they go right to the gonads. "I love your COCK." "Fuck me with that COCK of yours." "I need your big fucking COCK inside me."

That's all it takes......Carney

 

[gagginforit]

Just say "cock" a lot. There's nothing dirtier or more exciting. It's all those "K" sounds, they go right to the gonads. "I love your COCK." "Fuck me with that COCK of yours." "I need your big fucking COCK inside me."

That's all it takes......Carney

Yes indeed. Cock. Pussy. Fuck.

Can't go wrong.

 

[Earthgoddess]

Oh come on

Just let yourself engage and let your mind flow into your voice.
That little purr of,"Ohhhhh yes."
The moaned, "Oh my Gid, oh God please fuck me."
The babygirl voice asking oh, so sweetly,"Do you like the way I am sucking you?"
The same voice whispering," Am I a good girl?"
Sometimes it is easier to whisper, soft and low. But I am a huge raunch talker-really, but then again I was in theater for years and worked one semester of phone sex(hey the mall seemed trite and this way I practiced my accents for voice class.)

I also think telling him how it feels, "God, stretch me, I love the feel of you inside me,"
all serve to keep you present. Sounding like a script is bad, awkward and self defeating, it sounds like you have all the words you need, just let yourself say them.

My rule is never say anything you don't mean-honesty is passionate.

 

[Mansa Musa]

This should be a no-brainer, I am a bit of a nymph and have an extremely dirty mind but whenever I am having sex and my boyfriend wants me to talk dirty to him, my brain goes completely and absolutely blank. Nothing comes to mind. Does anyone have any suggestions? What do boys want to hear? Help me please!!!

We like to hear about your "filled up pussy", your need to have us "right there, yes, right there!" and we like to hear about how "it´s feels so good, just... please... keep on going!" And throw a moan in there, for sound effects. and when you come, you don´t need to yell. A couple of hard bites on the shoulder are all the thanks that we need.

 

[subwannabe]

You may be trying to make it too complicated. The easier words listed above usually work just fine.

 

[lili_fromtx]

Just say "cock" a lot.

I agree. And tell him how big and good he is.

"Fuck I love your big fucking cock inside me."

"God you're so fucking huge."

"Oh yeah, fuck me just like that. I love your cock baby."

"I wanna see your cock cum. Cum wherever you want to baby."

Wasn't that easy?

 

[FurryFury]

This should be a no-brainer, I am a bit of a nymph and have an extremely dirty mind but whenever I am having sex and my boyfriend wants me to talk dirty to him, my brain goes completely and absolutely blank. Nothing comes to mind. Does anyone have any suggestions? What do boys want to hear? Help me please!!!

Maybe it's just not your thing. Maybe you're are a lady that way and he should treasure this cute little quirk of yours?

OTOH, I have been through this, heck, I am still going through this. Rarely can I let dirty talk fly in the bedroom, in the act. I have once or twice and the impact was electric. I had to think about it a lot, work myself up to it and then it just slipped out shocking us both.

*chuckles*

 

[RockHardKP]

My wife doesn't talk dirty very often, but ocassionally she is in the right mood. She knows I love it. One time that stands out in my mind, she was starting to get into it......"Fuck my Pussy!" ......then she started really getting into it..........."Stick your fucking cock in my cunt! Fuck my hole!!"...........and then she looked into my eyes and said ..."Don't you dare cum in me, I want every drop in my mouth!!!" Awesome

 

[his_lil_secret]

Talking dirty

is something that always seems so effortless in porn and then becomes sooo hard- all puns intended- when the right moment arises.
I know I always wondered in the back of my mind what my partner would think of me if I ever actually SAID any of those raunchy things. Would that make me a whore in his eyes? Would it sound so silly coming out of my mouth that he'd be turned off? All these things and more would keep me silent as the grave in bed and then one day I was with my partner and he was taking me places I'd never been before. I was so totally caught up in the pleasure that I dropped my guard and what I was saying inside my head actually came out of my mouth.
He was going down on me and I was so into I didn't think, I just reacted. When he started to pull away from my pussy I held his head in place and in dark whisper that I could barely believe was my voice purred, " Don't you dare fucking stop. I want you to eat my pussy til I cum. I want to hear you slurp every fucking drop and then I want you to fuck me."
I turned every shade of crimson imaginable but you know what, he never saw a bit of it. He was back devouring my pussy like a starving man in a split second and with even more enthusiasm then before. That was all I needed to let me know I hadn't said anything "wrong' and in fact said something VERY right!
Dirty talk isn't an every time thing, but now I know that something as simple as, " Ahh God, yes! Fuck me! Yes baby, fuck me harder, make me cum. Make me cum for you!" can push him right over the edge. Personally he likes it better when I purr verses screaming out, but some guys and girls like it loud.
Don't rehearse it to much, it'll sound like porn dialogue. Just tell him how his cock feels as he's fucking you, or how it tastes in your mouth. Tell him exactly how hard, fast, slow, deep etc you want him and when in doubt let your body language say what your mouth cannot!

 

[WriterDom]

"Are you in? You have a toothpick dick. Maybe we should paint the ceiling."

 

[rthnck]

be careful what you wish for

I like when my partner makes with the dirty talk but she knows she has to time it right because when she really starts getting into it, I go right over the edge. It's like a pavlovian response. I hear the words, I cum.

 

[Indulge Yourself]

I have a hard time talking dirty too, even though I know my partner enjoys hearing it. I can say anything in my head, and often do, but to get it past my lips is nearly impossible.

A lot of this advice is great, but you still have to get over that last hurdle; actually saying it.

 

[FurryFury]

I dislike dirty talk in the bedroom. I can type it but usually not say it.

He loves to say it. It's part of my service to him that I withstand it and still manage to come. I just want to say please shut the hell up and fuck me. Thank you. I can't. That would be rude.

He thinks because I smile and turn my face away from such talk I like it. I've told him when we are not in bed that's not true. Those are signs of embarrassment not being turned on.

 

[Tzah]

When I'm getting it from behind:

*whimper*Oh, GOD! Fuck that pussy! Yeah... yeah, Oh *moan* PLEASE don't stop fucking me, I'm so wet! God, can you feel how wet- Oh- OH, I'm coming! Harder! Beat that pussy up with your big cock, tear that shit up, Baby! *unintelligible, highly-pitched moans, whimpers, and shrieks that aren't a bit fake because my man knows how to curl my toes.

If missionary: Eye-contact, a snarling glare, "Yeah, you *like* that pussy, don't you? You like that tight little cunt? Fill it up, go on, you FUCK that pussy, you MAKE that bitch yours, Augh, don't stop, come on... come for me... I want to feel that come inside me..." And I rub my clit with my first two fingers so that we can both watch it swell and redden, then he hits it so deep that he actually smashes my clit, too. God, it's paralyzing, it's so good. Things (only if you mean them, of course,) like "bite my neck," or "pinch my titties" or "spank my ass/clit" (or "fuck my ass" always seems to work on mine) seem to get the "job" done.

When my partner talks dirty to me, I thoroughly enjoy it. In fact, I think I prefer "you dirty little slut" hissed in my ear through gritted teeth better than "an angel given form, a goddess, a ... sparklefluffyrosescentedcandypuss" and a feather-light touch so ambiguous and flighty that it's more a tickle than a tease.

I have to say ballroom dancing REALLY makes a difference in our stamina, flexibility, confidence, intimacy with one another, and fuck ME we've gotten to be some FREAKS for some reason. I don't know why. I think that because we have to be both independent of each other AND reliant upon one another simultaneously to achieve the disciplinary and technical results combined with semi-artistic and musical cohesion that it's filtered over into a lot of other aspects of our life.

On the other hand, if you DONT like something, instead of saying "Don't play with my nipples", think of what your lover's hands would be better off doing, like "Grab my hips and fuck me" or something, or "kiss my neck" instead of wherever their tongue is at the time. Be specific. "touch my breasts" can mean a lot of things, but "rim my nipples with your tongue" specifies. "fuck my pussy" is ambiguous (and fun to say), but "slide that big cock in all the way, and fuck me slow and deep-OOH*shudder*yeah..." is different from "just pound my snatch until I gush all over your balls".

... If you don't like something, why would you do it or put up with it? This flummoxes me. We can vote, drive cars, sip sodas in public, etc... we "have" to put up with dirty talk if we don't want it? *headquirk*

In the end, if you don't like it, I think- unless your partner is just a complete and uncaring shit (unless you're roleplaying something, and in that case, it's fake but fun? out of my jurisdiction to comment for sure), it cheapens the overall experience for them. Sex should be enjoyable. ... right?

(SO not qualified for this kind of advice. Don't you LOVE internet forums? Every moron like me in the world has a voice and an opinion to share, and they pick HERE to do it. That's GOT to be sad.)

 

[PassionateStars]

Yes

Yes to dirty talk.

 

[CurlyWurly]

I think there is something in the above emails that will work for you! Some more extreme than others!

Just think what you like to hear, isn't it great when a guy tells you how good you feel, how warm and soft you are?

I guess it's the same thing with guys....but remember their insecurities with what you say but keep it realistic!!

Personally, I still find it difficult and embaressing. I actually find it far easier with someone new than someone I've known a while!

 

[M's girl]

I just want to say please shut the hell up and fuck me. Thank you. I can't. That would be rude.

He thinks because I smile and turn my face away from such talk I like it. I've told him when we are not in bed that's not true. Those are signs of embarrassment not being turned on.

How typical. Do men ever really listen? I wonder if it would be affordable to have tailor-made neon signs with a remote control to switch the most appropriate one on at times, just so that I don't have to say the thing I have said a thousand times before... AGAIN

 

[M's girl]

I like when my partner makes with the dirty talk but she knows she has to time it right because when she really starts getting into it, I go right over the edge. It's like a pavlovian response. I hear the words, I cum.

Yeah, that's holding me back too. Although I have less 'trouble' thinking those words or writing them down... during sex it's different. Plus knowing that it will add more to his excitement than mine which makes him cum even quicker. I have a hard time keeping up with him anyway and I know there will be no chance I can keep up with him at all if I would start to talk the way he likes it.