Play Rape: Amusing Oxymoron, or Huge Turn on?

[FurryFury]

I never thought it could be true .... but I am becoming fascinated by the "genre " both in reading and in ......
.......... another proof of the rightness of the " never say never " motto !

Thanks Fury for the bump, it came just apropos

*grins*

I'm just trying to do my part! *winks*

Yeah it is cool when you become fascinated by something you would have never thought would turn you on.

Fury

My wife recently disclosed her wish to be "raped", or "taken" - and we have since tried it very successfully.

Marquis is spot on, and articulate as always.

TRUST is a huge factor, as is being able to push through "the wall" to make things real enough.

I'd also add that INTUITION is absolutely critical. Having an existing safeword is important to both parties. The "victim" needs a way to opt out... and the "perpetrator" needs the freedom in knowing that they can push the limits ... that there is a "failsafe". He has to know that she will actually USE the safeword if it turns bad.

Comunication and detail discussion is something I find helpful. Is face slapping a deal killer? Or is it something that is specifically desired? Is knife play something that would make things bad? Or would that be a particularly exciting turn-on?

On one hand, it seems like it would ruin things to do a "checklist"... but I think it is important to work in.

I love to be able to make this erotic and extremely powerful fantasy come true for my wife. I'd hate to actually harm her or give her a bad experience.

When done well... it is extremely powerful, cathartic, emotional, erotic, and HOT!

At first, I was surprised at how easily I got past my own uneasiness and how much I really enjoyed it. It can be very scary and powerful for both parties involved.

However, if you can maintain just the right balance... it is SO incredible.

You guys really got me thinking... hmmmm.... someone might be in for a surprise at my next opportunity.

Yeah... Mr. Mann is gonna have to take him some!!!
:wicked laugh:
:evil hand wringing:
:maniacal chair rocking:

Yesssss!

*grins*

Good for you and your lovely lady! *sighs*

Fury

 

[Stegral]

would like it

Ever actually attempted this with a partner? Were you able to keep a straight face? Would you do it again?

I don't think I could actually go through with it and not giggle. It seems like it would defeat the whole thrill behind the fantasy to stage a rape with a trusted partner, but at the same time I would love to be proven wrong.

Please post experiances, reactions, as well ideas to heighten the authenticity factor, without breaking any laws (if that is even possible.)

Also, for all you writer types out there, feel free to create potential short play rape scenarios even if you have not yet tried them. The more realistic, the better!

Being actually raped at 12 I would love to have this memory replaced with a roleplaying memory by someone I trusted...Unfortunately I would need someone skilled in martial arts or police restraint as I am a fairly husky & strong woman... add into the equation that I could slip back into the actual rape memory & freak out does add the probability of someone getting hurt.
I have dropped a blackbelt backwards on his back with me on landing on top, in a self defense course because he grabbed me from behind (after asking him implicitly NOT to) as I went straight into flee mode...My past is full of abuse & the rape have made it very hard for me to be touchy feely without jerking away or feeling constrained..I am not sure if I could keep the "safe word" at the front of my mind so whomever I was doing this with would need to be watching me as well to see if I do need space without using the safe word.
But again... I would love to do this to see if it could replace the bad memory with a good one.

 

[babiesmiles]

*grins*

I'm just trying to do my part! *winks*

Yeah it is cool when you become fascinated by something you would have never thought would turn you on.

Fury

So absolutely true hon !!

 

[raven2]

Being actually raped at 12 I would love to have this memory replaced with a roleplaying memory by someone I trusted...Unfortunately I would need someone skilled in martial arts or police restraint as I am a fairly husky & strong woman... add into the equation that I could slip back into the actual rape memory & freak out does add the probability of someone getting hurt.
I have dropped a blackbelt backwards on his back with me on landing on top, in a self defense course because he grabbed me from behind (after asking him implicitly NOT to) as I went straight into flee mode...My past is full of abuse & the rape have made it very hard for me to be touchy feely without jerking away or feeling constrained..I am not sure if I could keep the "safe word" at the front of my mind so whomever I was doing this with would need to be watching me as well to see if I do need space without using the safe word.
But again... I would love to do this to see if it could replace the bad memory with a good one.

Sorry to hear about the problem. I think you are quite correct in feeling that you would need someone you trust implicitly. But I am not sure you could ever replace the original trauma associated with the real rape with pretend good memories. You might have something else to focus on but something that affects you that profoundly probably can't be covered over.

 

[FurryFury]

Being actually raped at 12 I would love to have this memory replaced with a roleplaying memory by someone I trusted...Unfortunately I would need someone skilled in martial arts or police restraint as I am a fairly husky & strong woman... add into the equation that I could slip back into the actual rape memory & freak out does add the probability of someone getting hurt.
I have dropped a blackbelt backwards on his back with me on landing on top, in a self defense course because he grabbed me from behind (after asking him implicitly NOT to) as I went straight into flee mode...My past is full of abuse & the rape have made it very hard for me to be touchy feely without jerking away or feeling constrained..I am not sure if I could keep the "safe word" at the front of my mind so whomever I was doing this with would need to be watching me as well to see if I do need space without using the safe word.
But again... I would love to do this to see if it could replace the bad memory with a good one.

*HUGS*

Fury

 

[ets42]

I've been active with rape scenes for around five years(ish) now. I was lucky for quite a while in that I had a play partner I've been good friends with since I was 17, and in whom I have absolute faith.

We always played hard; it wasn't a deliberate choice or anything we negotiated beforehand, it was something we naturally fell into together. The first time we ever played, it took almost two months before the last of the marks faded, but the only reason I could happily let him push me so hard was because of the depth of trust I had in him. With that having been said, our sessions were nasty and realistic.

Two years ago I fought off a genuine rape attempt (prick jumped me on my way home from work one night), and once I'd finished dealing with the police the first thing I did was call that play partner and arrange a session for the following night. I didn't tell him until after we were done about the attempted rape, because I needed to know that I could still do the things I loved. I have no doubt that the fact the attempt was unsuccessful made a huge difference to that, but my sexuality has never been negatively affected, just my ability to be outside without constantly looking over my shoulder! I take an extra sense of pride away from my rape scenes now.

Sadly he and I no longer play together, although we are still friends and still discuss our activities with other people, which has left me with a hell of a void to fill. That level of trust is really hard to find, especially for a cynic like me! While I don't play to the extremes I did with him with anyone else currently, I do have a rather new one at the moment who seems to suit me very well, although his approach is vastly different. He's unreasonably good at different methods of restraint by hand, as opposed to bondage, and the filth that spews from his mouth while he abuses me really ought to be recorded so everyone else can enjoy it as much as I do. He likes fairly violent anal too, which I became so accustommed to with my former lover I don't think I could do without it anymore!

We have some variations planned for the future, I'm especially looking forward to the stalking scenario we've discussed - apart from it turning me the hell on, I figure it may well begin to help me overcome the fear I have now when I'm outdoors alone. We're also talking about the possibility of doing a gang rape scene with two of his friends, but I've not even met those two yet so that's very much just a suggestion at this stage, and even if it does happen it's a long way off yet. Fingers crossed though!

I'm rambling now so I'll shut up. Actually, I think I've rambled through this entire post!

 

[MechaBlade]

Ever actually attempted this with a partner? Were you able to keep a straight face? Would you do it again?

Yes, yes and no, I wouldn't do it without at least tying her up first. It's hard to chase and fuck.

 

[bluntforcemama]

Yes, yes and no, I wouldn't do it without at least tying her up first. It's hard to chase and fuck.

The chase it one of the best parts. It's his victory of catching me that makes me damp.

 

[Marquis]

I've been active with rape scenes for around five years(ish) now. I was lucky for quite a while in that I had a play partner I've been good friends with since I was 17, and in whom I have absolute faith.

We always played hard; it wasn't a deliberate choice or anything we negotiated beforehand, it was something we naturally fell into together. The first time we ever played, it took almost two months before the last of the marks faded, but the only reason I could happily let him push me so hard was because of the depth of trust I had in him. With that having been said, our sessions were nasty and realistic.

Two years ago I fought off a genuine rape attempt (prick jumped me on my way home from work one night), and once I'd finished dealing with the police the first thing I did was call that play partner and arrange a session for the following night. I didn't tell him until after we were done about the attempted rape, because I needed to know that I could still do the things I loved. I have no doubt that the fact the attempt was unsuccessful made a huge difference to that, but my sexuality has never been negatively affected, just my ability to be outside without constantly looking over my shoulder! I take an extra sense of pride away from my rape scenes now.

Sadly he and I no longer play together, although we are still friends and still discuss our activities with other people, which has left me with a hell of a void to fill. That level of trust is really hard to find, especially for a cynic like me! While I don't play to the extremes I did with him with anyone else currently, I do have a rather new one at the moment who seems to suit me very well, although his approach is vastly different. He's unreasonably good at different methods of restraint by hand, as opposed to bondage, and the filth that spews from his mouth while he abuses me really ought to be recorded so everyone else can enjoy it as much as I do. He likes fairly violent anal too, which I became so accustommed to with my former lover I don't think I could do without it anymore!

We have some variations planned for the future, I'm especially looking forward to the stalking scenario we've discussed - apart from it turning me the hell on, I figure it may well begin to help me overcome the fear I have now when I'm outdoors alone. We're also talking about the possibility of doing a gang rape scene with two of his friends, but I've not even met those two yet so that's very much just a suggestion at this stage, and even if it does happen it's a long way off yet. Fingers crossed though!

I'm rambling now so I'll shut up. Actually, I think I've rambled through this entire post!

Thanks for the great post.

 

[Blushing Bottom]

The art of being taken is intrinsic in a good submissive as is the art of taking in a good Dominant. I have been date raped, stranger raped, and erotically raped. Though never an easy target a target none the less from age 12 on. I have been kidnapped and nearly kidnapped, which was almost all in fun but that is another story.

If it fits within the guides of SS&C it's all good.

"bumps the thread hard just before bedtime and purrs*

Fury

 

[FurryFury]

I've been active with rape scenes for around five years(ish) now. I was lucky for quite a while in that I had a play partner I've been good friends with since I was 17, and in whom I have absolute faith.

We always played hard; it wasn't a deliberate choice or anything we negotiated beforehand, it was something we naturally fell into together. The first time we ever played, it took almost two months before the last of the marks faded, but the only reason I could happily let him push me so hard was because of the depth of trust I had in him. With that having been said, our sessions were nasty and realistic.

Two years ago I fought off a genuine rape attempt (prick jumped me on my way home from work one night), and once I'd finished dealing with the police the first thing I did was call that play partner and arrange a session for the following night. I didn't tell him until after we were done about the attempted rape, because I needed to know that I could still do the things I loved. I have no doubt that the fact the attempt was unsuccessful made a huge difference to that, but my sexuality has never been negatively affected, just my ability to be outside without constantly looking over my shoulder! I take an extra sense of pride away from my rape scenes now.

Sadly he and I no longer play together, although we are still friends and still discuss our activities with other people, which has left me with a hell of a void to fill. That level of trust is really hard to find, especially for a cynic like me! While I don't play to the extremes I did with him with anyone else currently, I do have a rather new one at the moment who seems to suit me very well, although his approach is vastly different. He's unreasonably good at different methods of restraint by hand, as opposed to bondage, and the filth that spews from his mouth while he abuses me really ought to be recorded so everyone else can enjoy it as much as I do. He likes fairly violent anal too, which I became so accustommed to with my former lover I don't think I could do without it anymore!

We have some variations planned for the future, I'm especially looking forward to the stalking scenario we've discussed - apart from it turning me the hell on, I figure it may well begin to help me overcome the fear I have now when I'm outdoors alone. We're also talking about the possibility of doing a gang rape scene with two of his friends, but I've not even met those two yet so that's very much just a suggestion at this stage, and even if it does happen it's a long way off yet. Fingers crossed though!

I'm rambling now so I'll shut up. Actually, I think I've rambled through this entire post!

Hi EST 42!

I don't think you were rambling at all. I really LIKED your post.

Fury

 

[Stegral]

*HUGS*

Fury

Thanks for the hugs Furry... Guess I will have to wait a bit longer again to build trust again before trying this...

 

[naughtygirl69s]

There are many mild forms of rape scening that don't really count, in my book

*snip*

could you elaborate on this?

I definitely have an interest in this type of play but I'm so far on lower end of extreme it probably doesn't count.

I like the idea of a rape "seduction" does that even make sense? More like he seduces her into it, more of a sensual thing, as opposed to violent.

I also like of forced "consentual" sex, and him being strong enough to not have to use restraints only his body.

I'm a fucking walking oxymoron so please forgive me.

 

[FurryFury]

Thanks for the hugs Furry... Guess I will have to wait a bit longer again to build trust again before trying this...

Anytime Sugah.

Let me just say this, when things are right, I have found the trust can grow as such a rapid rate it will surprise one.

*hug*

Fury

 

[naughtygirl69s]

I can usually boil the issue down to its essential facts pretty quickly, and I much prefer to deal with those.

men are good at this

 

[naughtygirl69s]

The chase it one of the best parts. It's his victory of catching me that makes me damp.

i agree, being chased....and also doing the chasing...depends on my mood...

I like to be lusted after, and I Like to tease....so that's how it would work for me....tease him into raping me? SOmething like...

"you little bitch, you're going to get it now, for flashing me your pussy all day"

"Yes, Daddy, I'll behave now."

 

[DVS]

...I like to be lusted after, and I Like to tease....so that's how it would work for me....tease him into raping me? SOmething like...

"you little bitch, you're going to get it now, for flashing me your pussy all day"

"Yes, Daddy, I'll behave now."

Actually, I like watching this sort of thing, where she is held down by either him or someone else...maybe another woman who's helped with his deception. I prefer another woman over another man. It seems sexier because she has been deceived by someone of her own sex...a trusted friend.

BUT, if I'm doing it, I prefer restraints. I like to take my time and make sure she knows all of the nasty things I'm going to do to her...and I make sure she knows I'm going to take my time and savor my bound captive.

 

[ets42]

Thanks for the great post.

*blush* Thank you. For my part, I must say what a pleasure it is to have come across a board with a bdsm section whose inhabitants do not appear to have their heads shoved up their collective arses. That's shockingly rare!

 

[ets42]

Hi EST 42!

I don't think you were rambling at all. I really LIKED your post.

Fury

Thank you! I could babble for my country when I get started, which is one of the main reasons why I mostly keep my mouth shut. Glad to have entertained you!

 

[naughtygirl69s]

Actually, I like watching this sort of thing, where she is held down by either him or someone else...maybe another woman who's helped with his deception. I prefer another woman over another man. It seems sexier because she has been deceived by someone of her own sex...a trusted friend.

BUT, if I'm doing it, I prefer restraints. I like to take my time and make sure she knows all of the nasty things I'm going to do to her...and I make sure she knows I'm going to take my time and savor my bound captive.

Yes daddy, tie me up and tease me into a fucking oblivion!

 

[FurryFury]

Thank you! I could babble for my country when I get started, which is one of the main reasons why I mostly keep my mouth shut. Glad to have entertained you!

That you did!

*c*

Fury

 

[DVS]

Yes daddy, tie me up and tease me into a fucking oblivion!

Well, I don't call it tease...maybe you do. I prefer to call it toment because that's closer to what you will think it is, after a while of being bound, naked, helpless to make me stop, whimpering for your sexual release.

Yes, it might seem like a rape at first, but after I've had some time with you, all you'll want is a good hard fucking. Oh, and that's what you'll get, but not until I'm ready. I enjoy watching you twitch when I poke and prod your helpless body...listening to you, as you express your need for my stiff cock.

Eventually, you'll tend to almost enjoy the punishment I give you...Even to the point of asking for more...anything to get some satisfaction...your clit smacked, your nipples pinched, your ass whipped, your ass filled with something big and hard.

You might want to stay, after I untie you. Most naughty girls do.

 

[naughtygirl69s]

Well, I don't call it tease...maybe you do. I prefer to call it toment because that's closer to what you will think it is, after a while of being bound, naked, helpless to make me stop, whimpering for your sexual release.

Yes, it might seem like a rape at first, but after I've had some time with you, all you'll want is a good hard fucking. Oh, and that's what you'll get, but not until I'm ready. I enjoy watching you twitch when I poke and prod your helpless body...listening to you, as you express your need for my stiff cock.

Eventually, you'll tend to almost enjoy the punishment I give you...Even to the point of asking for more...anything to get some satisfaction...your clit smacked, your nipples pinched, your ass whipped, your ass filled with something big and hard.

You might want to stay, after I untie you. Most naughty girls do.

Oooh, NOW you're just fucking with me

I think I could handle it

 

[In detention]

And, if she starts giggiling, I will just probablly gag her. Maybe shove her panties into her mouth and duct tape them in. That will stop any more giggiling, I'd think.

...

I'm into rough and forced anal sex, so I think this could be right up my alley. And, if someone ever asks me to play rape her, you can be sure I'm gonna fuck her ass, whether she expects it or not.

...

You know, I wouldn't stop with just a rape. I'd tie her up and do all sorts of things to her for my pleasure. Do you think that's allowed, in your defenition of play rape? I know it is, in mine.

*Passes out*
DVS will you be my friend?

 

[FurryFury]

In my opinion there are at least as many different permutations of rape (play or not) as there are of fucking.

Fury