Phonesex Lessons..

nh23

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I am in the beginning of a LDR. My partner enjoys phonesex, while I'm not opposed to the idea.. I don't have any idea what to do. I'm horrible at it actually. I freeze up, I get the giggles, I change the subject. Can any of you give me some advice on how to overcome my nervousness, and some hints on what I can say?
 
on the rare occasion when I have chosen to engage in phone play I have found a few things that make it easier...

1) Don't try to set a mood. It'll happen naturally.

2) If you can't think of what to say..describe what you are doing to yourself or what you wish your s/o was doing to you.

3) Have fun. Being giggly isn't bad, it's natural shyness and sometimes you feel a bit silly. Just think of it as talking about what your next skin to skin will be like...then it will seem like you are planning for next time.. ;)
 
When i was in college, i was a professional phone sex operator, and actually did very well at it. However, i have discovered it is COMPLETELY, UTTERLY different doing it with someone i know...and especially with someone i care about or love. i care about what they think of me, i worry about what i am saying..etc... i also get embarrassed very easily, and get the giggles. When i did it as a job, i wasn't nikki...i was a character...a complete person made up in my own mind...so i didn't feel like i was speaking for myself...

Hmmm...as far as advice... Can you let the other person take the lead at first? That might help you gauge what they are looking for. Make sure you know their likes/dislikes beforehand and be VERY VERY descriptive... Try to subtely find out what slang terms they like...for example, say the word cunt to me and i love it...call it a twat and i'm immediately turned off... i would imagine some guys would be the same with cock vs. dick vs. schlong...etc... And EVERYONE has "hot-button" words/phrases...things that will bring them to the edge quicker than anything else. When you discover one of those, it's wonderful.
 
Luna_Wolf72 said:
on the rare occasion when I have chosen to engage in phone play I have found a few things that make it easier...

1) Don't try to set a mood. It'll happen naturally.

2) If you can't think of what to say..describe what you are doing to yourself or what you wish your s/o was doing to you.

3) Have fun. Being giggly isn't bad, it's natural shyness and sometimes you feel a bit silly. Just think of it as talking about what your next skin to skin will be like...then it will seem like you are planning for next time.. ;)

Thank You! :rose: I think #3 will be the most helpful to me. It's easy for me to think in my mind what I want to say. I have a much harder time articulating it. If I can just ponder in my mind what I want to happen in person, where I feel much more comfortable, then maybe I can spit it out in a halfway coherent manner...lol
 
HottieMama said:
When i was in college, i was a professional phone sex operator, and actually did very well at it. However, i have discovered it is COMPLETELY, UTTERLY different doing it with someone i know...and especially with someone i care about or love. i care about what they think of me, i worry about what i am saying..etc... i also get embarrassed very easily, and get the giggles. When i did it as a job, i wasn't nikki...i was a character...a complete person made up in my own mind...so i didn't feel like i was speaking for myself...

Hmmm...as far as advice... Can you let the other person take the lead at first? That might help you gauge what they are looking for. Make sure you know their likes/dislikes beforehand and be VERY VERY descriptive... Try to subtely find out what slang terms they like...for example, say the word cunt to me and i love it...call it a twat and i'm immediately turned off... i would imagine some guys would be the same with cock vs. dick vs. schlong...etc... And EVERYONE has "hot-button" words/phrases...things that will bring them to the edge quicker than anything else. When you discover one of those, it's wonderful.

He does take the lead, it's just really hard for me to go with it. I do know a few of the slang words that he likes, but I do need to work on getting to know more of them, and the "hot-button's". Thank You very much! :)
 
I don't need a phone girl to be very involved. Other than to cum hard and fast. Fast if possible. I know not all women are quick.
 
nh23 said:
He does take the lead, it's just really hard for me to go with it. I do know a few of the slang words that he likes, but I do need to work on getting to know more of them, and the "hot-button's". Thank You very much! :)


No problem...and the longer the two of you are together the more "hot buttons" you will discover...

Above all else, Enjoy!!!!! :rose:
 
WriterDom said:
I don't need a phone girl to be very involved. Other than to cum hard and fast. Fast if possible. I know not all women are quick.

Now that...Is something I don't have a problem with.. :p
 
Now I like to make them say things. Especially if they are into penetration. Have them insert the fucktoy of choice all the way in. And have them repeat "It's your pussy, Sir"

And each time they say Sir they fuck themselves. I love to hear them drool over "Sir" when that happens.
 
I hardly ever do phonesex. It's just not me. But when I did on rare occasions, I'd always request in advance to wear my ball gag. The other person thinks it's hot to hear my muffled noises, and I'm happy because I don't actually have to SAY anything. :p
 
BiBunny said:
I hardly ever do phonesex. It's just not me. But when I did on rare occasions, I'd always request in advance to wear my ball gag. The other person thinks it's hot to hear my muffled noises, and I'm happy because I don't actually have to SAY anything. :p

That is a really good idea..lol. Not sure if I have that option though.
 
Every bit of phone sex is mental visualization. If you can visualize the two of you in your mind, then just expressing your desire is all that's left.

Visualize the two of you together, then...
Where are his hands? Where do you want them to be?
Find a way to tell him how it feels to have his hands caressing your body.

The two of you are both naked, standing together. He is behind you, encircling your body with his arms. His strong but sensitive touch, as his hands slowly slide down your body to your clit, then he slide one finger inside of you, and he rubs his palm hard against your clit at the same time.

He licks your neck and nibbles on your ear and you can feel his breath hot against your skin. Then he bites your shoulder while at the same time his fingers are still playing with your pussy and clit.

He slowly moves both hands up your body to your breasts and he cups them both in his strong arms and pinches both of your nipples at the same time. You shiver at what this does to you. You moan in pleasure as his hands hold you there, as he leans down and nibbles on your nipples...first one, then the other. They both immediately become hard and sensitive.

You walk together to the bed, where he instructs you to get on your knees. He sits down on the bed and takes your head in his hands, directing your mouth to his hard cock. Its purple velvet texture feels hot and sexy, as you accept it into your mouth.

You tease his shaft with your tongue, and listen to his moans of pleasure. You open your throat as he pushes your head down on it, and it causes a deep guttural groan from him. He shoves your head down hard, pleasuring himself with your hot mouth. You do your best to give him what he demands, because you want to please him.

Just think of the two of you together and how it would be. Think of how it would feel and express those feelings to him. Be as detailed as you can, because it's those little details that make the difference. If something would make you whimper, tell him so. If there is something he sometimes does that you fine very sexy, tell him so, and remember those details as to why you find it so sexy.

The idea is to paint an image in his mind, so he can visualize the same thing. It will seem like you are both there in the same room and your fingers will become his fingers and his hand will become your mouth, etc.

Details! Paint an image in his mind. Be expressive with your words. And, if he says something that would make you whimper in real life...visualize that in your own mind, and maybe you will whimper from just the thought of it happening.

At first it can be difficult, but you said he starts the conversation, so hopefully, his first words will help you get into the mood and that will also help you to find the words that satisfy him.

Oh, and if the phone line starts to smoke...you're on the right track. :p
 
DVS said:
Every bit of phone sex is mental visualization. If you can visualize the two of you in your mind, then just expressing your desire is all that's left.

Visualize the two of you together, then...
Where are his hands? Where do you want them to be?
Find a way to tell him how it feels to have his hands caressing your body.

The two of you are both naked, standing together. He is behind you, encircling your body with his arms. His strong but sensitive touch, as his hands slowly slide down your body to your clit, then he slide one finger inside of you, and he rubs his palm hard against your clit at the same time.

He licks your neck and nibbles on your ear and you can feel his breath hot against your skin. Then he bites your shoulder while at the same time his fingers are still playing with your pussy and clit.

He slowly moves both hands up your body to your breasts and he cups them both in his strong arms and pinches both of your nipples at the same time. You shiver at what this does to you. You moan in pleasure as his hands hold you there, as he leans down and nibbles on your nipples...first one, then the other. They both immediately become hard and sensitive.

You walk together to the bed, where he instructs you to get on your knees. He sits down on the bed and takes your head in his hands, directing your mouth to his hard cock. Its purple velvet texture feels hot and sexy, as you accept it into your mouth.

You tease his shaft with your tongue, and listen to his moans of pleasure. You open your throat as he pushes your head down on it, and it causes a deep guttural groan from him. He shoves your head down hard, pleasuring himself with your hot mouth. You do your best to give him what he demands, because you want to please him.

Just think of the two of you together and how it would be. Think of how it would feel and express those feelings to him. Be as detailed as you can, because it's those little details that make the difference. If something would make you whimper, tell him so. If there is something he sometimes does that you fine very sexy, tell him so, and remember those details as to why you find it so sexy.

The idea is to paint an image in his mind, so he can visualize the same thing. It will seem like you are both there in the same room and your fingers will become his fingers and his hand will become your mouth, etc.

Details! Paint an image in his mind. Be expressive with your words. And, if he says something that would make you whimper in real life...visualize that in your own mind, and maybe you will whimper from just the thought of it happening.

At first it can be difficult, but you said he starts the conversation, so hopefully, his first words will help you get into the mood and that will also help you to find the words that satisfy him.

Oh, and if the phone line starts to smoke...you're on the right track. :p

Ok..now that I've had a minute to cool off. :D Thank You so much! That was extremely helpful..and extremely hot.. :devil:
 
HornyBabe1965 said:
DVS do you have a working phone? :p :D
Unfortunatly, I had to give up phone sex. The phone company charges a lot to replace those wires. The first few times, they didn't say anything. But after a while they got the idea and well, it ain't cheap! :rolleyes:
 
After 2.5 years of a LDR I have become quite comfortable with phone sex. Many times it starts out with me telling him what I had fantasied about earlier in the day while masturbating and then it goes on from there.

Other times we both read a story somewhere and then talk about it as a starting point.

Since we do get together in real life also sometimes we sort of relive a scene or a special evening over the phone. For about the past 18 months or so we have added camming to. Cams are wonderful not just for sex but also so we can actually see each other. :)
 
ecstaticsub said:
After 2.5 years of a LDR I have become quite comfortable with phone sex. Many times it starts out with me telling him what I had fantasied about earlier in the day while masturbating and then it goes on from there.

Other times we both read a story somewhere and then talk about it as a starting point.

Since we do get together in real life also sometimes we sort of relive a scene or a special evening over the phone. For about the past 18 months or so we have added camming to. Cams are wonderful not just for sex but also so we can actually see each other. :)

When you use your cam, are chatting on the net or on the phone? I've used a cam before and didn't really have any problem with it. It seems so less personal to me. On the phone I know all of his attention is focused on me and the noise I'm making. When on cam he doesn't hear me. I know that sounds kind of crazy, just a mental block I guess.
 
nh23 said:
When you use your cam, are chatting on the net or on the phone? I've used a cam before and didn't really have any problem with it. It seems so less personal to me. On the phone I know all of his attention is focused on me and the noise I'm making. When on cam he doesn't hear me. I know that sounds kind of crazy, just a mental block I guess.


Have him call you and see you on cam at the same time...Yeah...that's HOT!
 
I'm the same way Nh..

I only get to see Master about every 2-3 months.. and while we talk almost every night.. we dont always have phone sex...

I always think that I'm too quiet.. too shy... He says I take the lead, when I feel like he's the one in control the whole time...

but I will say.. one of the hottest ones, in my mind.. we neither one said anything .. well it started with him whispering, "god, I want you..." and then just the sound of our breathing and moaning while we touched ourselves..
 
LittleJade said:
Phone me. We'll play. You'll learn.

While I appreciate the offer..lol. Knowing me I would get so used to talking to you that I may say something to him about his pussy.. :eek:
 
nh23 said:
While I appreciate the offer..lol. Knowing me I would get so used to talking to you that I may say something to him about his pussy.. :eek:
*snicker*
 
Phone sex doesn't do much for me. I have, however, had numerous conversations where I am nattering on about something, and I hear a soft moaning on the other end of the line. I ask what's wrong and get asked to just keep talking. I keep on talking and, suddenly, loud moaning and obvious orgasm.

This has happened to me multiple times. *shakes head*
 
nh23 said:
When you use your cam, are chatting on the net or on the phone? I've used a cam before and didn't really have any problem with it. It seems so less personal to me. On the phone I know all of his attention is focused on me and the noise I'm making. When on cam he doesn't hear me. I know that sounds kind of crazy, just a mental block I guess.


We usually use voice chat along with the cam. That way we can hear, talk and see. We can also share pics and videos. I will often record (with my camera, not cam) when we have cam/voice sex and send it to him to enjoy again later.
 
BiBunny said:
I hardly ever do phonesex. It's just not me. But when I did on rare occasions, I'd always request in advance to wear my ball gag. The other person thinks it's hot to hear my muffled noises, and I'm happy because I don't actually have to SAY anything. :p

You crack me up. Fucking brilliant. :p
 
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