Phone sex: Frolic or intimacy

[MissTaken]

There are a number of posters who post openly about their preference for phone sex.

I know for some, phone sex is something personal and intimate.

For others, it is play time and the quality of the sex outweighs the quality of the friendship.

Just wondering what different perspectives we have on the board and would like to discuss phone sex as a tool toward intimacy in an LDR.

 

[peachykeen]

Personally I find it just a bit of sexy flirty fun, safe and silly. But I can see how it could lead to more for others.

 

[*bratcat*]

 

[MissTaken]

Thanks, *bratcat* for posting.

IT was one of your recent threads that made me begin thinking about this topic.

I will share my own views and possibly experiences later after a few more responses.

(I am such a tease!)

 

[*bratcat*]

 

[bknight2602]

It is both, you can't separate the two thoughts.

It is intimate sharing part of your persona with someone else, sharing an orgasm or two with a partner.

It is also very playful, just to see who you can get to do it with you. Maybe like how partners you can have, as often as you can have them.

 

[*bratcat*]

 

[sexy-girl]

what is phone sex .... is it being on the phone while one or two of you masturbate

or does it mean describing in detail about having sex and pretending that you are having sex ?

 

[MissTaken]

what is phone sex .... is it being on the phone while one or two of you masturbate

or does it mean describing in detail about having sex and pretending that you are having sex ?

Good question.

Sometimes, I am told what to do until I achieve orgasm. (of course, that is one of my kinks )

Other times, it is a bit of fantasy, if we were together....

IT can be rife with emotion in either circumstance.

 

[sexy-girl]

i've only done the former with sprinkles of the latter

but mostly it just is masturbating togehter which i love to do anyway

 

[*bratcat*]

 

[MissTaken]

Yes, when you can feel there presence, it does make it special.

Do you ever find yourself frustrated when it is over?

That there is no one there to snuggle you while you catch your breath or talk silly sweet things with?

 

[bknight2602]

Ok, now I disagree with you here. I know that many people feel that way...each phone call is a notch on the cord...but for me, that isn't why I have participated in phone sex. For me, it is a conscious decision to take a relationship to the next level. Mind you, I feel the same way about cyber sex. I have a buttload of people whom I have IMd with or talked to on the phone...but just cause you get added to my IM list or hear my voice doesn't give someone the right to expect naked pics, phone or cybersex. But to each their own.

You take it that I have that feeling? I was expressing an opinion that can/does exist with those that I communicate with. I wasn't speaking on what I believe phone sex is to me, nor will I share those views on the general board.

 

[*bratcat*]

 

[bknight2602]

blk knight...I understood that you weren't saying that you were like that...but I did sort of wonder, cause it almost sounds as tho you were. Now...if you are that shy...you could just PM your response to me.

LMAO Moi shy? No just somewhat private, flirt openly up to a point, and then it's time to take it to PM's or IM's or Phones!

 

[J.B.]

I’m choosy about my phone sex buddies. I have to have actually had a real conversation get to know the person, yada, yada, yada

 

[T.H. Oughts]

It is intimate sharing part of your persona with someone else, sharing an orgasm or two with a partner.

BK not only has burgers but phone sex also....

 

[Nicki19]

I think phone sex can be either. All depends on the person and the mood. Either way, I like it.

 

[PepperminTrish]

For me, it's both frolic and intimacy plus it's been a learning experience also. I've only had a very few partners and with each one I've been very lucky to learn a little more about myself and what is arousing to me. I can't just have phone sex with anyone, I need to feel some kind of connection and that usually means that I've been communicating with them for some time prior.

 

[ma_guy]

What? People have phone sex? I'm shocked!

 

[QuickDuck]

There are a number of posters who post openly about their preference for phone sex.

I know for some, phone sex is something personal and intimate.

For others, it is play time and the quality of the sex outweighs the quality of the friendship.

Just wondering what different perspectives we have on the board and would like to discuss phone sex as a tool toward intimacy in an LDR.

For me, it is actually both.

Especially now, when I speak to her on the phone, the intimacy of the whole conversation... the openess, the ability to trust each other, means so much.

At the same time, the conversation is full of laughs, giggles, chuckles and wonderful converstion.

It is to me, a very intimate and special thing, but that does not mean it isn;t a fun frolic as well

 

[Bandit58]

My lover and I make love on the phone regularly. It's a way of affirming our love for each other because we can't be together IRL yet. We met online, we've known each other for six months now and we have met and made love for real during that time, but he lives 5 hours drive away and we can only do this about every 4-6 weeks.

the intimacy of the whole conversation... the openess, the ability to trust each other, means so much.

At the same time, the conversation is full of laughs, giggles, chuckles and wonderful converstion.

It is to me, a very intimate and special thing, but that does not mean it isn;t a fun frolic as well

That's it exactly......it's such an intimate thing, and it's helped me to lose a lot of my inhibitions. I had only had one other sexual partner before him, and we used the phone to find out what each other liked. We have sometimes been on the phone for over two hours, talking and laughing and making love with our voices.....we built up our relationship for two months before we met for the first time. After we have both cum we will talk and just "feel" each other on the line for ages after. I know the feeling of not wanting to hang up.....I have 3 different toll providers - depending on the time of the day and whether I call his cellphone or not, I can spend up to $100 a month on toll calls But it's definitely worth every cent

 

[MissTaken]

brat was good enough to quote for the hell of it

MissT...there are times that I hate to hang up...when I could just lie there in peace and hear him as he breathes, just on the verge of napping...the "pillow talk" that takes place afterwards is just as intimate if not more so than what was just shared.

So, a question for everyone, how often do you ahve phone sex with a special person?

Everytime you talk?
Every other time?

A couple of times a week?

How do you feel when you expect a call that could lead to some special time?

 

[bknight2602]

BK not only has burgers but phone sex also....

LMAO TH you can call be BK, or you can call me burger, just call!

hehehe

 

[Angelofsex]

Phone sex to me is also getting to know the person, not only playing with them....There are many conversation besides sex being talk about..either before or after the intimate part. One just don't have sex just with anyone even on the phone.