Pet peeves
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This isn't really a pet peeve of mine so much as an etiquette question, but is it considered rude to not answer a PM right away? I was online earlier today and I got a couple of PMs from a guy wanting to chit chat. Anyway, I didn't feel much like getting into a conversation just then so I let them sit intending to answer them later. I went about my Lit business and I got another one from him about a half hour later apologizing for "bothering" me. This has happened to me on a couple of other occasions, but most of the time when I get a PM that I don't feel like answering right away I just let it sit until I feel like replying (usually about half a day or so). Is this rude? Are PMs supposed to be like IMs? Should I have told him as soon as I got his first two PMs that I was busy and didn't feel like conversing just then but maybe later?
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Lorali82 said:
Well, a little "I'm kinda busy right now" wouldn't have hurt....but it sounds like the person in question was a little over-sensitive about the situation. I wouldn't worry too much about it.
Now, if you had responded to a couple of PMs, and then just suddenly went silent, without even so much as a "fuck off" or anything.... that would have been kinda rude
Lorali82 said:
PMs aren't IMs. I for one would prefer a considered response rather than a rushed one.
As for etiquette, yes, a "no thanks right now" may have put an end to it (depending on their state of mind), but surely consideration goes both ways. Anyone (naming no names) who's stated that they don't IM can't be made to feel guilty by someone misusing PMs as an IM substitute.
...maybe there should be an "Absolution" thread where people could post the cause of life's little niggling guilty feelings and the good people of Lit could explain why "it wasn't really your fault in the first place"?
ROM said:Well, a little "I'm kinda busy right now" wouldn't have hurt....but it sounds like the person in question was a little over-sensitive about the situation. I wouldn't worry too much about it.
Now, if you had responded to a couple of PMs, and then just suddenly went silent, without even so much as a "fuck off" or anything.... that would have been kinda rude
bartrules said:
Well thanks for the reassurance/validation. I've always kind of viewed my PMs as a form of email. However, it seems like some people look at them as a form of IM. I guess it depends on how you set your options, like whether or not you use that little pop-up window or use invisible mode.
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Lorali82 said:
PM means "private" message, not "instant" message. The only reason to use a PM is so that no one other than the recipient can read your message. It is not for instantaneous chit chat. I will sometimes leave a message until the next day before replying, or I'll reply right away.
Of course, I don't have a bunch of losers waiting with bated breath for my every post and reply. In your case, you might be feeding into their delusional fantasies by responding at all: "Oh, she replied! I knew she cared for me more than the others!"
Ugh.
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MsTexas
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People who have a sig line thats bigger than the post they make. When you scroll the page its nothing but their damn sig line.
Is there a rule for how big a sig line should be? If not, there needs to be one
/rant
Is there a rule for how big a sig line should be? If not, there needs to be one
/rant
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If everybody kept their signatures simple, like I do with mine, I would have them turned on as well. But I'm annoyed with all the images and flashing things, and sometimes huge sig lines, so I've turned them off.Ekserb said:
It's a free world, and people can do what they do. I think it's fair that it's possible to turn them off, but I do leave it up to the posters to decide if they want to read them or not.
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ShyGuy68 said:
I dont have mine turned off cause I have found some really good threads that I have missed in others sig lines
Is there a way to turn off just certain posters sig lines? Or do you have to totally ignore that person, which by the way is a wonderful feature
Rant #2 for the New Year ...
Men who scratch themselves in public ... its just gross and disgusting, cant you guys at least wait till you're alone or where no one can see you?
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Time to crush skulls
Maybe they do think their scratching is unseen.
But being seen or not, "the boys" come first, eh?
It's all about the comfort.
Major pet peeve: When someone else in my house parks in my parking space.
The space that I pay for, deserve, and am entitled to by all the rights and privileges of the universe!
I'm going overboard here, but that's the point, dammit!
Maybe they do think their scratching is unseen.
But being seen or not, "the boys" come first, eh?
It's all about the comfort.
Major pet peeve: When someone else in my house parks in my parking space.
The space that I pay for, deserve, and am entitled to by all the rights and privileges of the universe!
I'm going overboard here, but that's the point, dammit!
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Lorali82 said:
For me, it depends on the content of the PM.
Longish letter-like PMs from people I "know" already sometimes wait a few days until I can write a similar response. Sometimes I quickly PM back to say, "Thanks for the message. I want to respond in kind so it may be a few days."
Short PMs that say things like, "I enjoyed your stories" get an immediate response that says, "Thanks!" and sometimes a bit more if I'm intrigued in some way.
Short PMs that ask me if I want to be a guy's slave or if I am up for some hot chat on Yahoo get an immediate response that says, "No, thank you," unless the original PM was too poorly-written to comprehend, in which case I delete it without responding. Similarly, a PM that says nothing but "Hi" usually gets a brusque reply such as, "Hello, why are you PM-ing me?"
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MsTexas said:
I blame professional athletes, specifically baseball players. How many times per minute does the pitcher have to play with himself while standing on the mound in front of millions of people watching from the stands and on TV? What the fuck? Do uniforms nowadays fit less comfortably than they did forty years ago? You never saw this kind of display until the last few decades. I agree; it is gross and disgusting.
(My brother does this. I think he's adopted.)
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Lorali82 said:
Yeah - that's me too. I hate people who spit in public. It's just damn nasty.
Somehow, the sound of someone hawking up a gob and spitting goes in my ear and activates the bundle of nerves that controls my gag reflex. Ick. Even thinking about that sound makes me choke a little.
Living where I do, with the people in the area, this is something I have to deal with on a daily basis. I've almost come to blows over it before.
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I loathe the "I know this question's been asked a zillion times, but I'll ask it anyway" threads, usually found in the "How to" forum.
Their awareness of what they're doing speaks of an arrogance and laziness too annoying to abide or indulge. (Protest, I say!) I would think it's a bigger effort to start a thread on an old and crusty topic than to do a search on said topic.
Another: People who think the word "please" is the magic mind-changer. I've already said "No;" you saying "please" is not only annoying, but also all the more reason for me not to change my mind.
Their awareness of what they're doing speaks of an arrogance and laziness too annoying to abide or indulge. (Protest, I say!) I would think it's a bigger effort to start a thread on an old and crusty topic than to do a search on said topic.
Another: People who think the word "please" is the magic mind-changer. I've already said "No;" you saying "please" is not only annoying, but also all the more reason for me not to change my mind.
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ROM said:
I'll go one better....people who chew tobacco and then spit into a container of some sort that they hold on to to continue chewing & spitting. This so unnerved me one day that I had to leave the room I was waiting in and go outside and get some fresh air, even though it was raining. I realize this may offend the tobakky chewers but I'm sorry...I consider this act foul.
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Daizie said:
Last month, at the monthly poker game at my house, one of my friends started chewing tobacco. I explained my problem to him, and he kept it quiet (basically I threatened to throw up on HIM if he made me sick with the spitting).
Then, the fucking retard left the bottle he was spitting into on the table when he left for home at 7am. It was capped, but still....
...next time he came over, I punched him in the stomach and made a new rule: No chewing tobacco in the house.
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MsTexas
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People who say one thing then turn around and do another.
I honestly don't get this. Why would you do this? Is it some kind of a way to make someone believe that you will do something when you know damn well that you aren't even gonna do it? Regardless of what it was, if you say your gonna do something, do it!!
There I've said my peace!
I honestly don't get this. Why would you do this? Is it some kind of a way to make someone believe that you will do something when you know damn well that you aren't even gonna do it? Regardless of what it was, if you say your gonna do something, do it!!
There I've said my peace!
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