Personal observation open to advice/discussion

[Silverluna]

When I just mutter to myself ," Maybe if straight men were more compassionate or something I'd have better luck dating them."


*laughs*

Then I realized they do exist but most of them aren't straight or even quasi interested....


So...

I am slowly but surely venturing into more female waters. (yes I am bisexual...but I never have been very open talking or dealing with this issue publicly before...)
There are other factors, but while I am attracted to some men now, its just quite doing the job I guess.

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Ok now, I guess most of you might be wondering why I am airing out these thoughts on here....why not in a journal? Well, I guess because here I keep some level of "obscurity" yet, I get the much desired "feedback" from a discussion board that I really don't get with other stuff.
I thought that I might get some insight from the women who might have ventured into this part of themselves more. As some of you know, my parents are very anti-gay, " its not ok for our kids but its ok for someone else's..." or sometimes its percieved as worse than murder...So I can't really broadcast my problem to the general population of this tiny backwoods city...

I am asking for maybe a bit of understanding....insight...or anything positive. Heckles and flames will be handled ! ::cracks whip::

 

[John Doe]

No offense, but I think you aren't giving the straight men you haven't met yet much credit. There are a lot of compassionate straight men, they just have to be comfortable enough to show it to you.

 

[SweetErika]

Silverluna, maybe I'm just slow on the uptake today, but I'm not understanding what you'd like discussion, insights, and advice on exactly (men? realizing you like women? why we like women? what to do? etc.). Could you maybe narrow it down and give a more specific topic to start for me and the other "slower" folks here?

 

[geishaGirl]

Maybe it is just the "right time" for you to be moving more towards women as far as your sexuality goes at this point in time. Just a thought...

 

[sexy-girl]

i wish i could offer advice ... but i don't know anything about straight men and probably less about bisexual women ... good luck though

 

[Little Bird]

Not all nice men are gay!



... there are also some bisexuals among them.

 

[Silverluna]

forget it..

i get in these unnatural good moods so i post thinking I should share my wonderful and sunshiny attitude...

and I just end up making an ass out of myself....whee.

 

[kbate]

When I just mutter to myself ," Maybe if straight men were more compassionate or something I'd have better luck dating them. I am asking for maybe a bit of understanding....insight...or anything positive. Heckles and flames will be handled ! ::cracks whip::

Well, I obviously agree with everything you have ever said or thought (please put the whip down).

I spent many years playing at "bisexual" thinking I would find a man that would allow me to please my family, live a normal life, and still be happy. If he exists, I missed that appointment.

I wouldn't give up until you are sure that a lifestyle of being unacceptable to nearly everyone but the woman you love is what you really want.

But if you are ready to admit you are a lesbian, then welcome to our hell and our heaven.... :heart emoticon:

 

[sexoholic]

No offense, but I think you aren't giving the straight men you haven't met yet much credit. There are a lot of compassionate straight men, they just have to be comfortable enough to show it to you.

exactly.Luna, maybe it is your attitude that discourages straight men from approaching you. Just a possibility. Get to know someone before giving up on the whole gender.

 

[Silverluna]

Re: Re: Personal observation open to advice/discussion

Well, I obviously agree with everything you have ever said or thought (please put the whip down).

I spent many years playing at "bisexual" thinking I would find a man that would allow men to please my family, live a normal life, and still be happy. If he exists, I missed that appointment.

I wouldn't give up until you are sure that a lifestyle of being unacceptable to nearly everyone but the woman you love is what you really want.

But if you are ready to admit you are a lesbian, then welcome to our hell and our heaven....

really i am unsure about everything right now. I go through periods of identity problems...heh.

I've met some people that give me hope for finding the "right" person for me. But I always have this doubting voice that says, " give up while you have some dignity left.."

Gender really doesn't matter much to me...but all I was trying to express is that there really are days that it feels very hard to know which side my bread is really buttered.

I don't think I'm alone in this feeling, but like most difficult times, the person going through this difficult time feels very alone.

 

[Silverluna]

i wish i could offer advice ... but i don't know anything about straight men and probably less about bisexual women ... good luck though

you're sweet just for wishing me luck.

 

[kraziekat]

It's a difficult thing. I really do feel for you, having been there in my own way.

I think you should try to keep an open heart on the matter and keep looking at both men and women.

Ultimately it comes down to a person who clicks for you, and not a category.

Be comfortable inside your own skin, and I believe that good things will come to you.

Try to smile while life works itself out.

 

[Silverluna]

actually...

it is about feeling comfy with myself.

Which unfortunatly is nearly impossible somedays....

Ideally it is about the person inside and not the parts/plumbing that matter.