Peregrinator, Rest in Peace

[LukSkyFokker]

The jealousy is bizarre.
Wherever Perg might be, I hope he looking down with a big smile on his face.

He's laffing at lil lace with the rest of us.

 

[silver gurl]

I was wondering if that would be the response…so it’s cool to fool around on your spouse as long as you don’t lie about having one?

Not for me.
But people have different styles of relationships. What works for them, is their business.
Lying about a relationship status is scum.

 

[silver gurl]

He's laffing at lil lace with the rest of us.

I hope so!

 

[Adre]

Grown ups with open relationships. What’s your fucking problem?

 

[rockcasbah]

Not for me.
But people have different styles of relationships. What works for them, is their business.
Lying about a relationship status is scum.

Agreed!

Perg was an Honourable Philanderer.

 

[LukSkyFokker]

I hope so!

I'm sure he is. Watching lil lace wail and flail over the death of his obvious hero has all of the angels laffing.

 

[Saint_Ann]

I was wondering if that would be the response…so it’s cool to fool around on your spouse as long as you don’t lie about having one?

That's certainly her paradigm.

 

[silver gurl]

That's certainly her paradigm.

How so?

 

[spacekowboy]

How so?

He's grasping at straws.

 

[silver gurl]

He's grasping at straws.

Always does.
Trolls are going to troll

 

[rockcasbah]

Grown ups with open relationships. What’s your fucking problem?

I don’t know if Perg was/wasn’t in an open relationship… and I think you’re the first to type those two words in this thread.

And to be clear; i haven’t said anything i consider uncomplimentary about Perg … the trolls have tried to suggest I have, no surprise there.

He banged a lot of very attractive gb girls… i salute his swordplay!

 

[Noor]

Did Des and small Pete, hide the fact that they were married?
Perg did not. He spoke often about his wife.

Agree Pete did hide, but Des was quite clear in his first incarnation that he was married and with a small child. Perg also did not hide his marriage, once he was married.

 

[patient1]

Really sorry to learn this. I was missing him recently.

 

[bg23]

This is devastating. He was a genuinely good person and a genuinely good friend. You're going to be missed, Perg.

 

[bg23]

I first met Peregrinator almost two decades ago, right here in this lovely little pocket of the Internet, an on-line community that was filled with engaging, brash, earnest, passionate, compassionate, very real characters. The very concept of "meeting" people, entirely virtually, challenged my notions and boundaries of what it takes become friends. Peregrinator was one of the best. He lived an extraordinary life, and a simple life. And in a community based on anonymity, he shared freely and openly of himself. He offered insight and wisdom, borne of experience and rare intelligence. He sought to learn and be better. He was a friend.

As Peregrinator shared his real-life tales of exploration and adventure and aid, I too shared his stories among my off-line friends. He was quickly dubbed the Most Interesting Man of Vermont. Our virtual friendship migrated to another platform, and we stayed in touch over the years. And when I announced that I was moving to New York last summer, suddenly it became a possibility that I could finally meet, in person, my long-time on-line friend and his lovely wife. I had hoped this summer to make that happen. One short road trip away.

Peregrinator, you will be missed. You were loved, and are loved, by so many souls. I am happy that I could call you a friend. My deepest sympathies go out to his wife, family, and other friends, for this life cut short too soon.

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I used to post as Mischka, but hell if I can remember the password or email I used to log on back in the day. It seemed fitting to return, to eulogize our friend here, where we all first met.

This was a beautiful eulogy. I had the same thought - this is where I met Perg, more than a decade ago, and was lucky enough to make a pretty amazing friend, even if it's been a long while since we talked. It seemed fitting to come back here to remember him.

 

[MsMischka]

Mr Mischka and I are heading to Vermont this weekend to attend the memorial for Perg. Another mutual friend can’t make it, but we’re going to meet them in Massachusetts on the way back. I think Perg would be happy to know the connections he made in life will continue to branch and grow.

 

[silver gurl]

Me Mischka and I are heading to Vermont this weekend to attend the memorial for Perg. Another mutual friend can’t make it, but we’re going to meet them in Massachusetts on the way back. I think Perg would be happy to know the connections he made in life will continue to branch and grow.

 

[Lorilei]

Me Mischka and I are heading to Vermont this weekend to attend the memorial for Perg. Another mutual friend can’t make it, but we’re going to meet them in Massachusetts on the way back. I think Perg would be happy to know the connections he made in life will continue to branch and grow.

Give Lady P a hug for me.

 

[IrezumiKiss]

Me Mischka and I are heading to Vermont this weekend to attend the memorial for Perg. Another mutual friend can’t make it, but we’re going to meet them in Massachusetts on the way back. I think Perg would be happy to know the connections he made in life will continue to branch and grow.

Give Lady P a hug for me.

Same.

 

[Not Normal]

Me Mischka and I are heading to Vermont this weekend to attend the memorial for Perg. Another mutual friend can’t make it, but we’re going to meet them in Massachusetts on the way back. I think Perg would be happy to know the connections he made in life will continue to branch and grow.

I'm glad to know that something is happening. I'll be there in spirit.

 

[Dribble]

Me Mischka and I are heading to Vermont this weekend to attend the memorial for Perg. Another mutual friend can’t make it, but we’re going to meet them in Massachusetts on the way back. I think Perg would be happy to know the connections he made in life will continue to branch and grow.

This made me smile

 

[thør]

........

Fantastic.

 

[MsMischka]

We gathered under a big tent as the sky gently cried. Family and friends shared stories of Perg's remarkable life, of a man equal parts gentle soul and obstinate ass. I hugged Lady Perg. One of his lifelong friends penned this eulogy, and I wanted to share it with you:

Things I Learned From [Peregrinator]

Learn greedily, and teach generously.

Feeling sad? Go outside.

Take a long walk, observe nature carefully, and be filled with wonder and gratitude.

Listen to music. Not as the background to some chore, but as a prayer, a meditation on humanity's ability to create transcendent beauty.

Read, broadly and deeply, as a way to better understand the world and yourself.

Be kind. Be honest, too, but kind first and last.

Travel. Travel more. Keep traveling.

Remember that if things aren't quite going your way, you're having an adventure.

Embrace being a work in progress.

Above all, forgive yourself, and let regret be the most fleeting of emotions.

 

[sigh]

thank you

 

[butters]

goodbye, mr. P