People callng you by your first name. Is it an age thing?

[FlamingoBlue]

For sure, Expertise....

You're not talking about FlamingoBlue. I live in Michigan, not Florida. Florida is where old flamingos go to die. I'm not even close to that point.

blue

 

[CreamyLady]

Excellent idea, Blue.

Heading for the front porch with a copy of Gaudy Night . . .

 

[Expertise]

Appologies FlamingoBlue I was sure you lived in Florida.

 

[Bliss]

Shitorama, disturbin the Shit.


What are Republicans doing in your email abode? I guess I really will have to draw the kohl around my eyes and wrap my ankles in gold. Sheesh, A Lamb's work is never done.

"Oh ye unmoralled heathen conservative moderates there! Get thee out of Expertise's dwelling before I smite thee with the explosive wrath of my Father, The Lit Bull God!"

So it shall be written, so it shall be done. I am the Payne. Don't smoke Camels.

 

[Bliss]

Re: Howmany times do I gottat tell ya,

The pink guy is a distant cousin. I am the elegant blue flamingo, not the spindly lawn ornament. (We flamingos prefer that to yardbird).

blue

See what I mean by watching the feathers fly? I'll bet the NAAPP doesn't appreciate all this differientiation between pink and blue. Can't we all just stand around on one leg?

 

[Endlessly]

Creamy, I know EXACTLY how you feel. Just because in the baby books, my first name has two pages of nicknames doesn't mean that's what I prefer to be called, for crying out loud. I tell someone my name's Elizabeth; their reply is quite often, "A pleasure to meet you, Liz."

I'm sorry, but did I SAY my name was Liz? Noooooooooo. Liz is retained for those who knew me when I was in elementary school and was still called that.

Or sometimes, it's Beth. That one boggles my mind-- I've NEVER in my life chosen to be called Beth. So where the hell do they get it?

Elizabeth is my name, and it suits me. It's old and plain and doesn't draw attention. I don't use nicknames because I don't need to change my name to fit me. People seem to have problems understanding that.

I have a habit of calling people I know and respect by their full names; my last two boyfriends were named Joshua and Christopher, and I never once called them Josh or Chris, even though everyone around us did. From what I've noticed in doing that, most people appreciate it when I've called them by their full names.. It shows I care for and respect them, and Joshua even told me it made him feel special.

The little things we can do for a person's happiness if only we address them correctly!

 

[Lethal_beauty_27]

i have always been raised to resect others and use there full name..ie Mr Mills or in some cases if they were close to my family ie uncle charlie could be used. Now as a dealer i always use Mr, sir or madam. It shows respect.

 

[Bonnie Wee Lassie]

I don't think it is right to call someone by thier first name expecially at an office. So I agree it is a form of disrespect.

Bonnie

 

[FlamingoBlue]

NAAPP? So, Payne, what is that organization? Or do you mean the NACF, The National Assn. of Colored Flamingos?

This is much more fun than working!!!\


blue

 

[Bliss]

National Association of Aggreived Pink Phlamingoes

They changed the spelling to distinguish themselves from their Blue cousins

 

[RonG]

I am somewhat guilty of encouraging this behavior due to a last name that is missing way too many vowels and is basically unpronounceable to all but my immediate family. I even tell little kids that I am coaching to call me by my first name or Coach G.

The oddest thing for me was living in the Deep South and being addressed as "Mr. Ron". I could never get the idea of mixing the mister with my first name. I learned that this was a common habit among those who really want to sell something so being addressed this way caused a Pavlovian reaction of my grabbing my wallet to prevent my pocket from being picked.

However, what I actually do with others in a business setting or what have you is to presume the more formal address and work from there.

 

[Jade]

Re: My wife is a Ph.D

She handles men who call her"sweetie" by saying," Its Dr. Sweetie, to you."
As to you, simply say "I am not your sweetie" but do it as sweetly as possible. Delivery is everything.

blue

Well, once I am a doctor... I am really really going to enjoy that!

And I wish I had the guts to do it now... thanks for the advice "darling."

 

[CreamyLady]

Endlessly, I know where "Beth" comes from. One can always tell a fan of Little Women. (I'm not one of them, myself.)

Elizabeth is a beautiful name. I've always liked it. I had to grow into Patricia; it's an uppity type of name, in itself, and almost everyone tries to use a diminutive.

As for the "sugar" and "Sweetie" form of address, I only allowed that from some of the guys in the Contracts section of the Corps of Engineers, and only because they were the first employees of any government agency to not give me any grief when I was asking for information.

And, to be fair, one of them had a really sexy voice, and had a great way of calling me "Sugar."

 

[*Eve*]

I know how you feel, since I'm only 23, I really don't care if people call me by my first name or not even if it's a little kid. I guess it's just the world that we live in, but I work in customer service and I never call anyone by their first name. It's always yes ma'am no ma'am. Yes sir, no sir. I always refer to my elder by their last name unless instructed otherwise, not because it's the thing to do but because that's how I was raised. I will teach my kids the same thing if I am every blessed with any.

One the flip side, I think that sometimes people take their titles too seriously. I sent a customer a document and I was reamed because left out one of his titles in my letter. The Honorable, Doctor, Officer, Etc Etc Esquire. I must say the guy was a bit psycho.

[Edited by *Eve* on 08-10-2000 at 03:25 PM]

 

[FlamingoBlue]

Eve, he wasn't psycho,

just very insecure.

blue

 

[KillerMuffin]

My first name is Daniele (they didn't know how to spell it). I don't like it. Whenever I meet a male (generally speaking, there are some wonderful guys who DON'T do this) and they hear my first name their gazes immediately drop to my chest and they speak to it. They get an OOooOOOoo tone in their voices and they linger over my name. Dannnnyeeeelllll. Then they compliment my name, as if I had something to do with it. And no, my middle name isn't much better, it's Alexandria. After the place where Eristothenes first calculated the circumfrence of the earth using trigonometry with 20,000 leagues. We all know he was off cause the earth isn't round. Big boobs and an exotic name get OVER it. Just cause my name is Daniele doesn't mean I'm going to throw my clothes off and beg you to take me.

GRRRRRRRR I'm steamed cause a moron did this to me today.

 

[Bliss]

Or just still paying off student loans!

 

[Siren]

I'm with you Blue, er, um Mr. Blue

 

[FlamingoBlue]

Everyone here, except that Ara guy....

can call me blue. That's me.


blue

 

[Siren]

blue bleu i like the color blue

 

[Aranian]

Bah. Enough 'respect' to make you gag. Eh, Flammie?

 

[Bliss]

Blue,

At least he didn't call you Mr. Flamin'

 

[Cheyenne]

Either I'm really the oddball on this one, or only people who are formal to the extreme are posting to this thread.
I'm much more comfortable if someone uses my first name than if they try to call me Ms or Mrs. something.

The above applies to both personal and professional life. Where I live in the Mid-west, it is much more common to be introduced to someone using their first name. It would sound like this:
Associate: Cheyenne, I'd like you to meet Flamingo Blue.
Cheyenne: Hello, Flamingo. Nice to meet you.

I spent many years in public accounting. Everyone was known by their first name, whether you were the first year person just starting your career or you were the managing partner. All on first name basis. To call someone Mr. or Mrs. would have sounded strange. Same for companies I've worked at since leaving public accounting. Executives, admin assistants, receptionist, etc. are all known by their first name. No Mr. Ms. or Mrs. Even the presidents in every company I've worked for have been addressed by first name only. I can't imagine calling any of them Mr. so and so. Way too formal for me!

 

[Aranian]

Finally another voice of reason!

 

[Washingtonian]

It's disrespectful to call another person you do not know particularly an older person by their first name unless they say 'call me soandso'. That's how I was raised and I still find it highly offensive when i'm called by my first name withour permision.