Pegging

[Angellus426]

Need help
So long and short... I am a big burly tough man and my sex life with my wife has been non existent until recently. I have recently had the thought of my wife pegging me and trying it once. She has pegged her ex in the past an said she wasn't into it much. However she also at one point was engaged to a woman. I asked her the other morning if she wanted to and she said no emphatically. She asked me if I wanted her to and I played it off as a way for her to be dominant and I didn't want it. But honestly I do want to try it once and just ravage her after hearing her tits smacking her body with the thrusts. In secret I've used an old dildo of hers in my ass a few times. What should I do???

 

[Bluehands]

Goodmorning. Sit down together. Explain to your wife how you really want to try something different. Explain that once you have experienced your Pegging that in return you will agree on something your wife has wanted to do . Hopefully the two of you can come to enjoy eachothers sexy ideas . Many years ago my partner wouldn't ever entertain Pegging. Then after we sat and chatted it soon became agreeable and enjoyable bothways. But you must be kind. Thoughtful and respectful in the answer your wife gives you

 

[Angellus426]

So I've thought of that but she has done a million more things than I have and isn't really interested in anything crazy or different. I've asked. She was a pill party rave girl that got it out of her system and now we rarely have sex. Especially after she gave birth. It was over a year after that we finally did. I know I'm coming up with an excuse but I've tried that.

 

[LMWM321]

Sorry for the length but maybe my post from an earlier thread about "Butt Stuff" will help. Like you, I'm a very masculine, heterosexual guy...one who LOVES getting pegged.

Some ideas..

First, assure your wife that you will take all possible precautions against anything gross happening. Definitely make sure you're empty and clean "up there". ..And maybe consider a bit of manscaping the area to make it look nicer. Maybe she dreads seeing a nasty tangle of your ass hair. So tell her you'll take care of it first, and do it! ..If you're unwilling to do that for her, then you share in the blame of not getting the Butt Stuff you desire.

Secondly, your wife might harbor the outdated notion that you enjoying sensations "up there" somehow feminizes you, or is an indication that you're gay or bi-sexual and she might find such a revelation after years of marriage to be quite disorienting. So, sit-down with her and have a conversation about it. Help her understand that sexual orientation is about the gender of your preferred sex partner, NOT about what sorts of sensations you enjoy or what parts of your body you involve in your play. This point is asserted time and again by Sex Therapists in forums and podcasts.

Read my post below, copied from the thread "Finger in the Ass". Maybe show it to her. ..For years, I abhorred the idea of anything shoved up my ass. Nowadays, I freakin' love and crave it. And my wonderful wife enjoys doing it to me.

My post from “Finger in the Ass” thread;

15 years ago the idea of my wife sticking a finger up my butt would have left me cold. Like a lot of men my age I feared that letting her do it meant I was okay with being feminized, and if ended up enjoying it - yikes!! - it could mean that I'm bi-sexual.

But in recent years I've become more adventurous, owing to the (largely) sex-positive messages in our entertainment like Shameless, Fleabag, Real Sex (HB0), Sex Education, etc... And have read enough columns from the likes of Dan Savage, Cosmopolitan, Men's Health, etc.. to now understand and accept that Gay or Straight is a function of your preferred partner and NOT a function of what sensations you do or don't enjoy. Combine with that the fact that I suffer from a healthy amount of FOMO; when I hear of people enjoying something I don't do - like taking a Finger in the Ass - I want to try it.

So I finally asked my wife to do it, just a finger at first, and surprise, surprise - I instantly loved how it felt! A few times later, she did it with her dildo - again, I loved it. Oh, and it's not some smooth non-anatomical-looking phallus meant to feel like a dick without looking like one - no, no, no...it's a veiny silicone cock with balls at the base - quite realistic in size, shape and color. So what!...I love how it feels being pushed inside me while strapped onto my beautiful, sexy and very feminine wife. The feeling of being Pegged is so profoundly deep and pleasurable for me. And, psychologically, it's a rush being penetrated so deeply by the gorgeous woman who has allowed me to penetrate her thousands of times.

Has enjoying "butt stuff" changed my feelings about being with a guy, maybe nudged me a smidge toward bi-sexuality? Nope, not one iota. If it did, I'd have no problem admitting it on an anonymous forum. But it hasn't. ...With nothing but love and acceptance in my heart for LGBTQ, my own orientation remains 100% heterosexual.

So, after loathing the idea for most of my life, I am quite proud to now admit that that I unabashedly enjoy the occasional finger, thumb, but-plug or silicone cock shoved (slowly and gently!) up my ass. It's now a mainstay in our rotation of activities.

 

[drobert44]

Sorry for the length but maybe my post from an earlier thread about "Butt Stuff" will help. Like you, I'm a very masculine, heterosexual guy...one who LOVES getting pegged.

Some ideas..

First, assure your wife that you will take all possible precautions against anything gross happening. Definitely make sure you're empty and clean "up there". ..And maybe consider a bit of manscaping the area to make it look nicer. Maybe she dreads seeing a nasty tangle of your ass hair. So tell her you'll take care of it first, and do it! ..If you're unwilling to do that for her, then you share in the blame of not getting the Butt Stuff you desire.

Secondly, your wife might harbor the outdated notion that you enjoying sensations "up there" somehow feminizes you, or is an indication that you're gay or bi-sexual and she might find such a revelation after years of marriage to be quite disorienting. So, sit-down with her and have a conversation about it. Help her understand that sexual orientation is about the gender of your preferred sex partner, NOT about what sorts of sensations you enjoy or what parts of your body you involve in your play. This point is asserted time and again by Sex Therapists in forums and podcasts.

Read my post below, copied from the thread "Finger in the Ass". Maybe show it to her. ..For years, I abhorred the idea of anything shoved up my ass. Nowadays, I freakin' love and crave it. And my wonderful wife enjoys doing it to me.

My post from “Finger in the Ass” thread;

15 years ago the idea of my wife sticking a finger up my butt would have left me cold. Like a lot of men my age I feared that letting her do it meant I was okay with being feminized, and if ended up enjoying it - yikes!! - it could mean that I'm bi-sexual.

But in recent years I've become more adventurous, owing to the (largely) sex-positive messages in our entertainment like Shameless, Fleabag, Real Sex (HB0), Sex Education, etc... And have read enough columns from the likes of Dan Savage, Cosmopolitan, Men's Health, etc.. to now understand and accept that Gay or Straight is a function of your preferred partner and NOT a function of what sensations you do or don't enjoy. Combine with that the fact that I suffer from a healthy amount of FOMO; when I hear of people enjoying something I don't do - like taking a Finger in the Ass - I want to try it.

So I finally asked my wife to do it, just a finger at first, and surprise, surprise - I instantly loved how it felt! A few times later, she did it with her dildo - again, I loved it. Oh, and it's not some smooth non-anatomical-looking phallus meant to feel like a dick without looking like one - no, no, no...it's a veiny silicone cock with balls at the base - quite realistic in size, shape and color. So what!...I love how it feels being pushed inside me while strapped onto my beautiful, sexy and very feminine wife. The feeling of being Pegged is so profoundly deep and pleasurable for me. And, psychologically, it's a rush being penetrated so deeply by the gorgeous woman who has allowed me to penetrate her thousands of times.

Has enjoying "butt stuff" changed my feelings about being with a guy, maybe nudged me a smidge toward bi-sexuality? Nope, not one iota. If it did, I'd have no problem admitting it on an anonymous forum. But it hasn't. ...With nothing but love and acceptance in my heart for LGBTQ, my own orientation remains 100% heterosexual.

So, after loathing the idea for most of my life, I am quite proud to now admit that that I unabashedly enjoy the occasional finger, thumb, but-plug or silicone cock shoved (slowly and gently!) up my ass. It's now a mainstay in our rotation of activities.

Sounds great!

 

[Lucien_Al]

Sorry for the length but maybe my post from an earlier thread about "Butt Stuff" will help. Like you, I'm a very masculine, heterosexual guy...one who LOVES getting pegged.

Some ideas..

First, assure your wife that you will take all possible precautions against anything gross happening. Definitely make sure you're empty and clean "up there". ..And maybe consider a bit of manscaping the area to make it look nicer. Maybe she dreads seeing a nasty tangle of your ass hair. So tell her you'll take care of it first, and do it! ..If you're unwilling to do that for her, then you share in the blame of not getting the Butt Stuff you desire.

Secondly, your wife might harbor the outdated notion that you enjoying sensations "up there" somehow feminizes you, or is an indication that you're gay or bi-sexual and she might find such a revelation after years of marriage to be quite disorienting. So, sit-down with her and have a conversation about it. Help her understand that sexual orientation is about the gender of your preferred sex partner, NOT about what sorts of sensations you enjoy or what parts of your body you involve in your play. This point is asserted time and again by Sex Therapists in forums and podcasts.

Read my post below, copied from the thread "Finger in the Ass". Maybe show it to her. ..For years, I abhorred the idea of anything shoved up my ass. Nowadays, I freakin' love and crave it. And my wonderful wife enjoys doing it to me.

My post from “Finger in the Ass” thread;

15 years ago the idea of my wife sticking a finger up my butt would have left me cold. Like a lot of men my age I feared that letting her do it meant I was okay with being feminized, and if ended up enjoying it - yikes!! - it could mean that I'm bi-sexual.

But in recent years I've become more adventurous, owing to the (largely) sex-positive messages in our entertainment like Shameless, Fleabag, Real Sex (HB0), Sex Education, etc... And have read enough columns from the likes of Dan Savage, Cosmopolitan, Men's Health, etc.. to now understand and accept that Gay or Straight is a function of your preferred partner and NOT a function of what sensations you do or don't enjoy. Combine with that the fact that I suffer from a healthy amount of FOMO; when I hear of people enjoying something I don't do - like taking a Finger in the Ass - I want to try it.

So I finally asked my wife to do it, just a finger at first, and surprise, surprise - I instantly loved how it felt! A few times later, she did it with her dildo - again, I loved it. Oh, and it's not some smooth non-anatomical-looking phallus meant to feel like a dick without looking like one - no, no, no...it's a veiny silicone cock with balls at the base - quite realistic in size, shape and color. So what!...I love how it feels being pushed inside me while strapped onto my beautiful, sexy and very feminine wife. The feeling of being Pegged is so profoundly deep and pleasurable for me. And, psychologically, it's a rush being penetrated so deeply by the gorgeous woman who has allowed me to penetrate her thousands of times.

Has enjoying "butt stuff" changed my feelings about being with a guy, maybe nudged me a smidge toward bi-sexuality? Nope, not one iota. If it did, I'd have no problem admitting it on an anonymous forum. But it hasn't. ...With nothing but love and acceptance in my heart for LGBTQ, my own orientation remains 100% heterosexual.

So, after loathing the idea for most of my life, I am quite proud to now admit that that I unabashedly enjoy the occasional finger, thumb, but-plug or silicone cock shoved (slowly and gently!) up my ass. It's now a mainstay in our rotation of activities.

Great post. For me the most important part is making sure I clean up well before. Doesnt seem to bother her but it does bother me.

 

[robbiewillsucku]

September 2024, Hello wantabe cuckold(s). I am Robbie in Norman, Oklahoma, a bimale with a nice c*ck and nice tits.

If you want her to fuck other cocks then after you fuck her - start licking her pussy clean - do this every time you fuck her then after the 10th time - while you are licking her pussy - I am fantasizing that you fucked a cock earlier in the day and I am licking his cum from your pussy. It is all about pleasing you not my cock. I am OK being a sissy cuckold.

I want you to try this on your wife or GF - do this every time when you suck her tit. Suck her tit like a cock. Bounce or bobb your head on her tit just like you would if you were sucking a cock. Do this at least once a week. Third week, start sucking her tit then tell her that you are fantasizing. Hoping she says what are you fantasizing about. If not, suck her tit like a cock then just say -- I am fantasizing that I am sucking your tit like a cock. Don't wait - you say - tell me to suck your tit like a cock. When she tells you to suck her tit like a cock -- sucked harder and deeper.

Three more weeks -- start sucking her tit then you say - tell me to ask --- May I please suck your tit like a cock cause I am a sub sissy faggot cocksucker. Repeat it often to yourself and to her while you are sucking her tit. Yes I am a sub sissy faggot cocksucker - yes I am sucking your tit like a cock. Dry hump her while you are sucking her tit like a cock and you might just cum on her leg or in your panties.

Email me back (robbiewillsucku at gm ail) and tell me how she responded and what you are doing now to please her.

 

[kccasey]

Need help
So long and short... I am a big burly tough man and my sex life with my wife has been non existent until recently. I have recently had the thought of my wife pegging me and trying it once. She has pegged her ex in the past an said she wasn't into it much. However she also at one point was engaged to a woman. I asked her the other morning if she wanted to and she said no emphatically. She asked me if I wanted her to and I played it off as a way for her to be dominant and I didn't want it. But honestly I do want to try it once and just ravage her after hearing her tits smacking her body with the thrusts. In secret I've used an old dildo of hers in my ass a few times. What should I do???

Angellus, I am in the same boat as you. I too love to be pegged, and my wife has done it with me a few times. She however does not enjoy it like I do. Also, she has become uninterested in sex in general. We are both older. We have talked about this and the consensus is get what you need elsewhere, I just don't want to know about it. Hope you have better luck, because finding it elsewhere is not easy, and usually involves prostitutes.

 

[policywank]

Need help
So long and short... I am a big burly tough man and my sex life with my wife has been non existent until recently. I have recently had the thought of my wife pegging me and trying it once. She has pegged her ex in the past an said she wasn't into it much. However she also at one point was engaged to a woman. I asked her the other morning if she wanted to and she said no emphatically. She asked me if I wanted her to and I played it off as a way for her to be dominant and I didn't want it. But honestly I do want to try it once and just ravage her after hearing her tits smacking her body with the thrusts. In secret I've used an old dildo of hers in my ass a few times. What should I do???

It seems like you haven't been clear with her. Instead of telling her what you want you asked her if she wanted to then when she turned the question back to you - which is where it properly belonged in the first place - you dodged and denied. How is she supposed to interpret that? If you are the one who wants to be pegged you need to be the one to express that desire. Don't beat around the bush (no pun intended) and try to coax her into taking the first step in what obviously needs to be your initiative since you are the one who wants to be pegged.

 

[Lucien_Al]

I have sold it on the health benefits of prostate massage and really believe that it works.

 

[LMWM321]

I think PW nailed it. You need to directly tell her you want it instead of hinting at it in the hopes SHE'LL suggest it.

"Honey... after years of penetrating you with a part of me, I want to feel YOU penetrate ME. Pegging me isn't exactly the same of course, but it will give me an idea of how it feels - and I WANT to feel that. And if you think wanting that makes me gay, you need to do some research on your own - you'll find it's a normal desire for a great many people, including some heterosexual men."

See what she says...

As an added note. ..Before agreeing to peg me, my had wife used a finger. ..then a butt plug, then a dildo. THEN, finally, pegging me with the dildo mounted in a strap on harness.... all over the course of a few weeks. I'm not sure we would have been very successful or enjoyed it if we went right to the Pegging. Maybe approach it that way. ..Ask for a finger (wearing a surgical glove, if she prefers) first. Tell her you like it, then move on to a 2nd finger, a butt-plug, etc... Going right to a full size dildo mounted to a clumsy harness (they are) from nothing is pretty gutsy. ...I think most women who receive anal AND enjoy it probably worked up to it from a finger, then two.. etc..

These days, when my wife pegs me, it always starts with a finger, then two, then three.... then the dildo in the harness. And LOTS of high quality lube from the first finger on.

 

[Lucy_Lastic]

She asked me if I wanted her to and I played it off as a way for her to be dominant and I didn't want it.

When given an opportunity to be honest, don't lie.

How hard can it be? The very, very worst that could happen is that she says no.

 

[Lucien_Al]

I think PW nailed it. You need to directly tell her you want it instead of hinting at it in the hopes SHE'LL suggest it.

"Honey... after years of penetrating you with a part of me, I want to feel YOU penetrate me. Pegging me isn't exactly the same of course, but it will give me an idea - and I WANT that. And if you think wanting that makes me gay, you need to do some research on your own - you'll find it's a normal desire for a great many people, including some heterosexual men."

See what she says...

As an added note. ..Before agreeing to peg me, my had wife used a finger. ..then a butt plug, then a dildo. THEN, finally, pegging me with the dildo mounted in a strap on harness.... all over the course of a few weeks. I'm not sure we would have been very successful or enjoyed it if we went right to the Pegging. Maybe approach it that way. ..Ask for a finger (wearing a surgical glove, if she prefers) first. Tell her you like it, then move on to a 2nd finger, a butt-plug, etc... Going right to a full size dildo mounted to a clumsy harness (they are) from nothing is pretty gutsy. ...I think most women who receive anal AND enjoy it probably worked up to it from a finger, then two.. etc..

These days, when my wife pegs me, it always starts with a finger, then two, then three.... then the dildo in the harness. And LOTS of high quality lube from the first finger on.

We have not enjoyed the harness and she prefers to use her free hand to caress my balls and frenulum that just thrust. I will take it any way she likes most.

 

[LMWM321]

I will take it any way she likes most.

That's awesome of course..

..I think my wife like's the pegging harness b/c it allows her to more closely replicate the dynamic of the doggie style position I've been raving about all these years.

But it definitely takes away some of the spontaneity as the damn contraption is bit like climbing in and out of a spider's web. And it takes all four of our hands to get the round base of the dildo into the mounting ring.

At times she says, "I'm just going to use the dildo on you tonight rather than the climb into the harness."

 

[kccasey]

what do you consider "high quality lube"? We have settled on coconut oil. works very well for us. When she deems me worthy of pegging.

 

[DrHappy]

..I think my wife like's the pegging harness b/c it allows her to more closely replicate the dynamic of the doggie style position I've been raving about all these years.

But it definitely takes away some of the spontaneity as the damn contraptions is bit like climbing in and out of a spider's web. And it takes all four of our hands to get the round base of the dildo into the mounting ring.

That looks fun. Have any of you tried any of the double-ended dildos that can be used with a harness? They look interesting and seem like they would provide more fun for the woman.

I think that the Feeldo was one of the first ones. I’ve seen complaints that they are too hard and stiff, and that some of the newer competitors are better. The Fuze Tango has gotten some good reviews.

 

[Goldenfinger]

what do you consider "high quality lube"? We have settled on coconut oil. works very well for us. When she deems me worthy of pegging.

We use coconut oil also, or just ky. The oil isn’t overly compatible with ours toys so we put condoms on as a barrier.

 

[LMWM321]

what do you consider "high quality lube"? We have settled on coconut oil. works very well for us. When she deems me worthy of pegging.

Sorry for slow reply… I didn’t see the question until I reread the thread. its called

“Good Clean Love Bionude”

Compatible with our toys and pH gets along well with my wife’s Flora. We’ve probably tried 15 different brands. Many of them irritated and others gummed up too quickly.

Probably use a third of a tube every time we have sex. .

 

[Lucien_Al]

We use this one



Liquid Gold 100% Natural Anal Lube
Liquid Gold Lube

Love the smoothness and seems to not get sticky. Do need to use quite a lot.

 

[Goldenfinger]

https://imgur.com/nk93Zbo

 

[Bluehands]

https://imgur.com/nk93Zbo

Vert sexy

 

[Richelieujuniour]

Not sure if I’d enjoy it, but I sure like watching clips of it— esp if the girl is into it (they really reveal so much of themselves)- how they’d like to be fucked and what they think oh men— or would do if they were one— whilst remaining women…)

I also don’t like the guy to be too obviously accustomed to being penetrated or obviously gay or bi— I am sure I’d moan if it happened to me (hell a nice deep finger no and then makes me moan), and the humiliation aspect does nothing for me— though I am sure for le a bit of physical insistance would be required.

Still,I’d be lying if I said I wouldn’t try it if the right woman was truly into the idea.

In fact, I’m goin to look on another pegging list here where I think I remember following a link that surprised le by how hot it made me and how quickly I blew my load.


Wish me luck (and feel free to help!)

 

[Mike302]

We used to use coconut oil, but now use Sliquid.

There are two viscosities available. Flavors, too, but we use plain.

There is NO flavor with the Plain and it's 100% natural so ingestion is perfectly fine. (we have a bottle for my ass and another for her for PIV)

 

[Mike302]

That's awesome of course..

..I think my wife like's the pegging harness b/c it allows her to more closely replicate the dynamic of the doggie style position I've been raving about all these years.

But it definitely takes away some of the spontaneity as the damn contraption is bit like climbing in and out of a spider's web. And it takes all four of our hands to get the round base of the dildo into the mounting ring.

At times she says, "I'm just going to use the dildo on you tonight rather than the climb into the harness."

Just leave the dong in the harness, ready to go, after cleaning from the last session.

Keeping the toys clean, charged, and ready is my responsibility. Lube, a glove, (Nitrile, to get a finger in me and open me up), towels, etc. are things I get out to prepare. We put the harness on together. It's already adjusted and all I have to do is fasten the clip / buckle. There is a "Bumper" we add to the harness with a vibrator in it we can both feel.

I take all of the work out of it, so she just gets to do the fun part.

Early on it's especially kinky, but now it's still kinky, but more routine...which is also kinky! And she only gets better at it.

 

[Hardguy6]

I swear, if my stepdaughter came out of the bedroom holding a strap on in her hand and called out my name, I don’t think I could get my clothes off fast enough