CurlyWurly
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Has anybody done this? What are your experiences?
Paying for sex - as a woman
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CurlyWurly
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That is exactly my thoughts - I think I will be liberating. Getting to select so crudely has it's merits too I imagine.
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VERY seriously thinking of. I posted an ad up and have had some responses. Just deciding whether to take that next step.
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It's difficult to really know where to go, I'm new to all this really. Not sure I trust a google search, but I guess it's how it's done.
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Isn't rather silly for a woman to pay for sex?
How about instead you go to a bar, find the hottest guy you find there, and say: Hey, let's have a one night stand!
Of course, this assumes you're reasonably attractive. That may be a big if.
How about instead you go to a bar, find the hottest guy you find there, and say: Hey, let's have a one night stand!
Of course, this assumes you're reasonably attractive. That may be a big if.
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I know I can go to a bar, but it's the idea of paying that appeals. It's a turn on and surely would make a good time more likely?
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When I used to travel extensively for work, all one really had to do was be waiting in the lobby of your hotel for someone they were meeting in business clothes with space to sit nearby and whoever was working that hotel would come and chat.
Fairly upscale hotels that got a lot of business traffic.
I never did it but they were usually pleasant enough young men that I would pass the time while waiting chatting with them until either my person showed up or a good prospect for them did.
Fairly upscale hotels that got a lot of business traffic.
I never did it but they were usually pleasant enough young men that I would pass the time while waiting chatting with them until either my person showed up or a good prospect for them did.
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Now that does sound like an interesting possibility. Of course, I don't need to travel, I could just visit a local hotel.
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Maybe drinks in the bar, if you aren't a guest they will might throw you out of the lobby thinking you are a hooker yourself
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I had a lap dance once, didn't pay or tip, it was a freebie at a con by a very attractive British soldier. He sang and danced pretty well too. Navy blue underpants, stadard issue apparently.
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Try going to a bar close to a college campus. Get dressed up to look like a cougar with money. Find something you like, chat him up a bit, then look at the time. Tell him, "sweetie, I have to be at work early, but I need to blow off some steam. Lets go to my/your place/hotel room and close the deal. I'll make it worth your while."
Have your way with him, call the shots, and decide if you want to leave the money on the dresser or slip it into his hand or underwear.
Also read a story a while back about a high priced call girl who would put a hundred dollar bill in her pussy and if the client could get it out with his tongue, he could keep it.
Have your way with him, call the shots, and decide if you want to leave the money on the dresser or slip it into his hand or underwear.
Also read a story a while back about a high priced call girl who would put a hundred dollar bill in her pussy and if the client could get it out with his tongue, he could keep it.
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Have you seen the series "Hung" on HBO? It's about a guy, a gym teacher, who turns gigolo after a one night stand with this woman who is awed by his huge penis, and convinces him she should be his pimp. He needs money, so he agrees.
If I were going to pay for it, I'd want to make sure it had better be damn good, no wham bam thank you ma'am! I don't know how you would vette that before hand, do gigolos come with recommendations?
From my somewhat limited experience, there's usually no problem finding men to have sex with. Maybe you could find someone compatible, then do it like a role play...you meet him somewhere, you chat him up, proposition him and offer to take him to a hotel and pay him to fuck you...but it's someone you know already, you know? I don't know if that would be as naughtily exciting to you though.
If I were going to pay for it, I'd want to make sure it had better be damn good, no wham bam thank you ma'am! I don't know how you would vette that before hand, do gigolos come with recommendations?
From my somewhat limited experience, there's usually no problem finding men to have sex with. Maybe you could find someone compatible, then do it like a role play...you meet him somewhere, you chat him up, proposition him and offer to take him to a hotel and pay him to fuck you...but it's someone you know already, you know? I don't know if that would be as naughtily exciting to you though.
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I tried to google for male escorts and I got back gay.
Tried again with straight male escort and i got first off the company that is doing Hung. Course they are quick to say the escort will pay attention to you, give you conversation and be protection and they are not selling sex. May or may not be bullshit on the sex, I mean we are talking about guys here, but honestly you may want to stick with the classified or personal ad.
Not to say it is impossible to get a male escort from an actual company, there were a few on the first page of results. Heck you may find a good one that is more like a standard gal escort site where sex is basically spelled out as happening. Just male escorts probably are not cheap, I mean beyond what some gals charge where they don't really do anything but fuck him.
Oddest thing, but the male escort site was talking about how charming and intelligent the man you hire will be. Female escorts on the other hand talk about how eager she is to show up at your house and dance or give a massage.
Tried again with straight male escort and i got first off the company that is doing Hung. Course they are quick to say the escort will pay attention to you, give you conversation and be protection and they are not selling sex. May or may not be bullshit on the sex, I mean we are talking about guys here, but honestly you may want to stick with the classified or personal ad.
Not to say it is impossible to get a male escort from an actual company, there were a few on the first page of results. Heck you may find a good one that is more like a standard gal escort site where sex is basically spelled out as happening. Just male escorts probably are not cheap, I mean beyond what some gals charge where they don't really do anything but fuck him.
Oddest thing, but the male escort site was talking about how charming and intelligent the man you hire will be. Female escorts on the other hand talk about how eager she is to show up at your house and dance or give a massage.
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Women are likely to pay for sex in-kind, but I wont bet that many women pay cash for sex. Maybe a tip.
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have hired once
I'd like to know as well if any ladies have done it successfully or how they have gone about it.
I have had one experience and got 'taken' royally. I think I have posted to another thread at some point on this.
So everyone will probably think what a dumb girl when I tell it…..this happened in Las Vegas when I hired a dancer (really a male prostitute, but of course they call them dancers). I was traveling alone at the time and did not want to hire a prostitute for the whole deal (b/c safety etc and just never done anything like that yada yada), but they are advertised as dancers and are through a service of course and are probably as close to safe a situation as gonna be in that “market” and I figured I will be paying so I’ll request what I want which is a male to sexually and seductively dance with me and for me, and to strip. I am naive of course thought 'he' whoever came would act like Richard Gere and just do what I ask with a smile. Well the guy that came wasn’t my type looks wise at all and he was all about the game of trying to get more $$$ from me than what I already was paying the service ($150.00 for an hour of dancing {supposedly}). Well I gave in and coughed up a some more money (not a massive amt. But enough wasted we’ll say). The guy knew I was stupid and a novice obviously at hiring anyone and hardly danced, kept trying to get me to discuss other ventures, I said I wasn’t interested, I wanted what I wanted then I asked for a massage…didn’t really get that either he hardly rubbed my back and left in what was probably a ½ hr. I didn’t even get a full hr that I supposedly paid for, in any manner. I was SOOOO disappointed and pissed off at myself for wasting the money and for not being more of my assertive self, but I wasn’t at my highest confidence level. I told some of my friends about it and it’s always a joke now if we waste money on something we say well at least “we didn’t get nothing for $250.00”
I'd like to know as well if any ladies have done it successfully or how they have gone about it.
I have had one experience and got 'taken' royally. I think I have posted to another thread at some point on this.
So everyone will probably think what a dumb girl when I tell it…..this happened in Las Vegas when I hired a dancer (really a male prostitute, but of course they call them dancers). I was traveling alone at the time and did not want to hire a prostitute for the whole deal (b/c safety etc and just never done anything like that yada yada), but they are advertised as dancers and are through a service of course and are probably as close to safe a situation as gonna be in that “market” and I figured I will be paying so I’ll request what I want which is a male to sexually and seductively dance with me and for me, and to strip. I am naive of course thought 'he' whoever came would act like Richard Gere and just do what I ask with a smile. Well the guy that came wasn’t my type looks wise at all and he was all about the game of trying to get more $$$ from me than what I already was paying the service ($150.00 for an hour of dancing {supposedly}). Well I gave in and coughed up a some more money (not a massive amt. But enough wasted we’ll say). The guy knew I was stupid and a novice obviously at hiring anyone and hardly danced, kept trying to get me to discuss other ventures, I said I wasn’t interested, I wanted what I wanted then I asked for a massage…didn’t really get that either he hardly rubbed my back and left in what was probably a ½ hr. I didn’t even get a full hr that I supposedly paid for, in any manner. I was SOOOO disappointed and pissed off at myself for wasting the money and for not being more of my assertive self, but I wasn’t at my highest confidence level. I told some of my friends about it and it’s always a joke now if we waste money on something we say well at least “we didn’t get nothing for $250.00”
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smh.........
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that really does suck...but all I could think about after you said that he wasn't your type was whether you looked like Gob from Arrested Development in his "Hot Cops" outfit...lol
As I guy, I find it hard to understand why a woman would want to pay for sex unless it has something to do with wanting to subjugate a guy and be in control. ("I'm paying, do what I tell you.") I've always sort of "envied" women in that if they are reasonably attractive and reasonably intelligent with a decent personality, they can probably seduce any man they set their sights on.
The only other reason I could think of for a woman to pay for sex is that she would want zero, or near zero, chance that he would follow up and make a pest of himself after "you had your way with him". Many guys would perhaps want to keep seeing a woman with whom they had some good sex rather than just accepting that it was just a one time thing. They seem to expect women to accept this, but it could be a blow (no pun intended) to the ego of some guys that it was just one and done as directed by the woman.
I'd be curious to know what the motivation would be for a woman paying for it if she didn't have to. I've never paid for sex in my many years on this earth and wouldn't consider it but I wonder about the motivation from a woman's side. It's always seemed to me that women could just go out and get laid if they wanted to by just letting it be known that it was what they wanted.
The only other reason I could think of for a woman to pay for sex is that she would want zero, or near zero, chance that he would follow up and make a pest of himself after "you had your way with him". Many guys would perhaps want to keep seeing a woman with whom they had some good sex rather than just accepting that it was just a one time thing. They seem to expect women to accept this, but it could be a blow (no pun intended) to the ego of some guys that it was just one and done as directed by the woman.
I'd be curious to know what the motivation would be for a woman paying for it if she didn't have to. I've never paid for sex in my many years on this earth and wouldn't consider it but I wonder about the motivation from a woman's side. It's always seemed to me that women could just go out and get laid if they wanted to by just letting it be known that it was what they wanted.
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why do men pay for sex; chicks got same reasons
The post asking why women would want to pay for sex demonstrates a good bit of male bias and some stereotypical thoughts that are part exactly of why there are women who may want to pay for sex. When the question is posed it just seems all so obvious to me as a female why us women could want to pay for yet I realize to males maybe not so clear because there is such differences in how society thinks and has taught us all to think.
I kind of shared in my post previous what went on for me in a situation of wanting to try out the fantasy really, in as safe as could be allowed for environment, so the thoughts I share following are not necessarily applicable to me. But they seem to me and come to my mind as I read some follow up on this thread as very easy and obvious reasons that do not have anything to do with subjugating a male or controlling anyone, they are just like a man’s reasons by and large. And at the front here let me say I am just giving some thoughts on the specific question ‘why would women want to pay’ not discussing any right or wrong choices, infidelity, moral questions, honesty among partners etc etc for anybody men or women, just some thoughts on “why”
Some of the reasons a woman would pay for sex are the exact same as why a man would (and of course there are many men and women alike who would not ever for any reason just as stated).
**Convenience (want to have sex and don’t want to take the time with all the finding out are you on the same page, looking for someone, flirting, etc)
**Men and women have feelings that come into play with sexual connections and men no more want to be just viewed as just a physical person than do women (if that’s not what they are expecting); so to be in a situation like mentioned in the post where two parties hit it but the guy doesn’t get that its just for sexual gratification happens just as easily as to women who don’t understand there are NSA; no one deserves to be hurt so if its purely for sexual enjoyment men or women may want to pay; not so often do men or women easily find an exact match on feelings when coming together unless you take time to get to know
**Long time without and simply need sexual gratification and no time or means for all the hunting up a sexual partner who is on the same page; or too busy in life; or away from significant other too much; all same reasons as men
**Someone wants a particular physique type to be sexual with (older guy young girl; same maybe older woman wants younger man); in sex for hire you’re picking that not working to find it; same reason a guy would
**maybe not getting sexual gratification from a significant other for whatever reason and do not want to end their involvement or commitment but need sexual release/affection and seek it from a source that they perceive would not jeopardize their commitment; same reasons a man might pay
**maybe there are fetishes/fantasies/desires whatever a partner won’t go for or there’s no partner to play them out with; again same reasons a man might pay to play
** Mention is made that if a woman is reasonably attractive, reasonably intelligent, reasonably personable etc…well just like there are men who may not be Ken dolls but they want to enjoy the company of a Barbie doll there are women who ain’t Barbies but want the company of Ken doll. And on top of that the stereotypical difference between men and women here plays an additional role…can be an unattractive man by a lot of folks standards (I can’t make the judgement on what’s unattractive fat/skinny, bald/hairy, tall/short that’s in the eyes of the beholders etc) but he is getting it on or connecting with a Barbie doll maybe because of money, or community stature, stability or some other cause but though people may see and question how’d he get her they don’t really judge him or criticize it’s more of a ‘that’s cool’ attitude. The converse doesn’t happen as easily for a female. Aging, life’s trials on the body etc, lack of commercialized beauty, scars, even handicaps maybe aren’t as forgiving for women in the public’s standard as they are for males. Let’s say she’s not so attractive first off she doesn’t get anyone wanting her period sexually perhaps even then if by chance she draws a partner because of the same reasons mentioned before that a guy does, community stature or money or stability etc that connection is judged more and somehow seen as not as acceptable or cool. So a lady in that circumstance has just as much desire or need but may not want the stereotypical notions of friends or family or community about?
**Want sexual release without all the effort of a relationship; same as a man
** A) Women are not as physically strong as men and B) statistically more sexual predators and violent offenders are males…….
so women have to be more diligent or aware in connecting with strangers and putting themselves in what can be an incredibly compromising, dangerous and/or life threatening situation given the potential of what if the person I’ve gotten with is such…. a predator or violent offender. Using an escort service or clear pay circumstance doesn’t alleviate that potential completely but lessens it some versus picking up a total stranger.
**Yeah anyone paying for something expects the provider to A) have some proficiency and B) provide the service in the way the buyer seeks…so no different with sex for hire; I would imagine the sexual worker’s needs/desire/wants aren’t particularly getting met in their encounters but they are being paid to provide for the buyer’s needs getting met; same reason a man might hire sex and its not about controlling the other party (well sometimes it might be but not necessarily) but about hiring someone to be what you want need them to be and do in that moment/time/place as a paying customer and they are being paid and thus willing and prepared to offer that service so its definitely about the needs of the buyer from the sexual side. If two people just hook up even with direct understanding of NSA they are both wanting what they want in a circumstance a pay for sex scenario is just that the buyer is seeking and the provider is selling/serving. Also just because someone is a professional sex worker doesn’t mean they are particularly proficient in those skills but the likelihood is there that there is attention to those skills and trust me just because a lady might be able to connect with a man for sex easier if she tries maybe than men on the hunt, doesn’t mean a hill of beans that the guys she gets with have any skill at being a good sexual partner and even when in a relationship doesn’t mean he’s meeting her needs/desires; soooo may not be a right perception that the sex worker is going to be good at ‘whatever’ but that perception is there for men and women who may be in a not gratifying place with a partner or no partner; so again same reasons either men or women might pay for it
Well those are just some thoughts and there are probably others but again seems obvious women may have a need or want to purchase sexual services for the same reasons any male may. Just food for thought.
The post asking why women would want to pay for sex demonstrates a good bit of male bias and some stereotypical thoughts that are part exactly of why there are women who may want to pay for sex. When the question is posed it just seems all so obvious to me as a female why us women could want to pay for yet I realize to males maybe not so clear because there is such differences in how society thinks and has taught us all to think.
I kind of shared in my post previous what went on for me in a situation of wanting to try out the fantasy really, in as safe as could be allowed for environment, so the thoughts I share following are not necessarily applicable to me. But they seem to me and come to my mind as I read some follow up on this thread as very easy and obvious reasons that do not have anything to do with subjugating a male or controlling anyone, they are just like a man’s reasons by and large. And at the front here let me say I am just giving some thoughts on the specific question ‘why would women want to pay’ not discussing any right or wrong choices, infidelity, moral questions, honesty among partners etc etc for anybody men or women, just some thoughts on “why”
Some of the reasons a woman would pay for sex are the exact same as why a man would (and of course there are many men and women alike who would not ever for any reason just as stated).
**Convenience (want to have sex and don’t want to take the time with all the finding out are you on the same page, looking for someone, flirting, etc)
**Men and women have feelings that come into play with sexual connections and men no more want to be just viewed as just a physical person than do women (if that’s not what they are expecting); so to be in a situation like mentioned in the post where two parties hit it but the guy doesn’t get that its just for sexual gratification happens just as easily as to women who don’t understand there are NSA; no one deserves to be hurt so if its purely for sexual enjoyment men or women may want to pay; not so often do men or women easily find an exact match on feelings when coming together unless you take time to get to know
**Long time without and simply need sexual gratification and no time or means for all the hunting up a sexual partner who is on the same page; or too busy in life; or away from significant other too much; all same reasons as men
**Someone wants a particular physique type to be sexual with (older guy young girl; same maybe older woman wants younger man); in sex for hire you’re picking that not working to find it; same reason a guy would
**maybe not getting sexual gratification from a significant other for whatever reason and do not want to end their involvement or commitment but need sexual release/affection and seek it from a source that they perceive would not jeopardize their commitment; same reasons a man might pay
**maybe there are fetishes/fantasies/desires whatever a partner won’t go for or there’s no partner to play them out with; again same reasons a man might pay to play
** Mention is made that if a woman is reasonably attractive, reasonably intelligent, reasonably personable etc…well just like there are men who may not be Ken dolls but they want to enjoy the company of a Barbie doll there are women who ain’t Barbies but want the company of Ken doll. And on top of that the stereotypical difference between men and women here plays an additional role…can be an unattractive man by a lot of folks standards (I can’t make the judgement on what’s unattractive fat/skinny, bald/hairy, tall/short that’s in the eyes of the beholders etc) but he is getting it on or connecting with a Barbie doll maybe because of money, or community stature, stability or some other cause but though people may see and question how’d he get her they don’t really judge him or criticize it’s more of a ‘that’s cool’ attitude. The converse doesn’t happen as easily for a female. Aging, life’s trials on the body etc, lack of commercialized beauty, scars, even handicaps maybe aren’t as forgiving for women in the public’s standard as they are for males. Let’s say she’s not so attractive first off she doesn’t get anyone wanting her period sexually perhaps even then if by chance she draws a partner because of the same reasons mentioned before that a guy does, community stature or money or stability etc that connection is judged more and somehow seen as not as acceptable or cool. So a lady in that circumstance has just as much desire or need but may not want the stereotypical notions of friends or family or community about?
**Want sexual release without all the effort of a relationship; same as a man
** A) Women are not as physically strong as men and B) statistically more sexual predators and violent offenders are males…….
so women have to be more diligent or aware in connecting with strangers and putting themselves in what can be an incredibly compromising, dangerous and/or life threatening situation given the potential of what if the person I’ve gotten with is such…. a predator or violent offender. Using an escort service or clear pay circumstance doesn’t alleviate that potential completely but lessens it some versus picking up a total stranger.
**Yeah anyone paying for something expects the provider to A) have some proficiency and B) provide the service in the way the buyer seeks…so no different with sex for hire; I would imagine the sexual worker’s needs/desire/wants aren’t particularly getting met in their encounters but they are being paid to provide for the buyer’s needs getting met; same reason a man might hire sex and its not about controlling the other party (well sometimes it might be but not necessarily) but about hiring someone to be what you want need them to be and do in that moment/time/place as a paying customer and they are being paid and thus willing and prepared to offer that service so its definitely about the needs of the buyer from the sexual side. If two people just hook up even with direct understanding of NSA they are both wanting what they want in a circumstance a pay for sex scenario is just that the buyer is seeking and the provider is selling/serving. Also just because someone is a professional sex worker doesn’t mean they are particularly proficient in those skills but the likelihood is there that there is attention to those skills and trust me just because a lady might be able to connect with a man for sex easier if she tries maybe than men on the hunt, doesn’t mean a hill of beans that the guys she gets with have any skill at being a good sexual partner and even when in a relationship doesn’t mean he’s meeting her needs/desires; soooo may not be a right perception that the sex worker is going to be good at ‘whatever’ but that perception is there for men and women who may be in a not gratifying place with a partner or no partner; so again same reasons either men or women might pay for it
Well those are just some thoughts and there are probably others but again seems obvious women may have a need or want to purchase sexual services for the same reasons any male may. Just food for thought.
