Paying an escort vs seducing a new lover

[Disturbingimage]

Hey Lit, so i have wondered this for a while but 1st let me explain how i came to this question

9 months ago i started talking to a gorgeous sexy woman in a neighboring state. like pornstar status kind of hot and sexy that was way out of my league. blonde, blue eyes, 110 lbs, perky tits and an apple ass, just amazing. i never flirted sexually cuz i knew she got that from every guy so i kept my comments friendly. after talking for a few weeks and getting some pg-13ish pics sent to me , I mention needing vacation and she suggested i come see her. I'm like Hell Yeah! So the next week i drove 400 miles each way to her, got a hotel room, fuck her twice (came fast 1st time but like i said unbelievable hot) and then drove home. Spend about $250 on gas and hotel not to mentions 2 days away from home.

We talked for a couple months after but she eventually ghosted me ,only to later apologize and tell me just not into me like that.

Ok so my question is, minus the "paying for it" stigma and shame of not being able to just make women magically sleep with me if i'm looking. Would it not have been easier, cheaper, and more convenient to just get a gorgeous escort for an hour or 2? NOT A STREET HOOKER OR BAG HOE, but a real arm candy, jaw dropping once in lifetime kinda escort.
Felt like a lot of wasted time and energy for some sex just cuz she was hot when a local would have done the same and saved a lot of time.

What are your Thoughts Lit? Pay an escort or try play the game of seducing? Ladies opinions are welcome too.

 

[Tyreal123]

What you need to ask yourself is: What are you trying to achieve? If all you are looking for is to get off, an escort is the easiest way to achieve that. Seducing a new lover entails a potential emotional connection, and typically denotes something you intend to be more than a one night stand.

Some of the things you are saying are not adding up here- you mention that initially you were not even making sexual advances because you felt this woman was out of your league, but then your friendship heated up, and then cooled after experimentation determined that she felt you were compatible that way. Why is the time you spend with her considered "wasted" time? Would you consider time you spent with a male friend wasted time because your friendship ended (which it sounds like you still have a friendship with this woman, so you aren't even in that bad of a situation!)? Personally, I don't consider time spent with friends wasted time.

 

[SeeMeRolling]

Hey Lit, so i have wondered this for a while but 1st let me explain how i came to this question

9 months ago i started talking to a gorgeous sexy woman in a neighboring state. like pornstar status kind of hot and sexy that was way out of my league. blonde, blue eyes, 110 lbs, perky tits and an apple ass, just amazing. i never flirted sexually cuz i knew she got that from every guy so i kept my comments friendly. after talking for a few weeks and getting some pg-13ish pics sent to me , I mention needing vacation and she suggested i come see her. I'm like Hell Yeah! So the next week i drove 400 miles each way to her, got a hotel room, fuck her twice (came fast 1st time but like i said unbelievable hot) and then drove home. Spend about $250 on gas and hotel not to mentions 2 days away from home.

We talked for a couple months after but she eventually ghosted me ,only to later apologize and tell me just not into me like that.

Ok so my question is, minus the "paying for it" stigma and shame of not being able to just make women magically sleep with me if i'm looking. Would it not have been easier, cheaper, and more convenient to just get a gorgeous escort for an hour or 2? NOT A STREET HOOKER OR BAG HOE, but a real arm candy, jaw dropping once in lifetime kinda escort.
Felt like a lot of wasted time and energy for some sex just cuz she was hot when a local would have done the same and saved a lot of time.

What are your Thoughts Lit? Pay an escort or try play the game of seducing? Ladies opinions are welcome too.

All sex workers should be valued and respected for the work that they do. The dehumanizing of females sex workers that don’t appeal to your eyes is disgusting and reveals a lot about your character and who you are.

 

[Escierto]

All sex workers should be valued and respected for the work that they do. The dehumanizing of females sex workers that don’t appeal to your eyes is disgusting and reveals a lot about your character and who you are.

I saw that too and it bothered me. Like some people are disposable.

 

[SeeMeRolling]

I saw that too and it bothered me. Like some people are disposable.

The whole post is egotistical and arrogant. As he is the most important, and any interaction is a transaction.

Pathetic is the word that comes to mind.

 

[30bandits]

in the long run, it's cheaper to rent them in my opinion. like a leased car...get a new one all the time.

 

[MissMandy86]

I worked as an escort for a few years and guys that repeated with me I would make an effort to make it feel like a friendship. The more often they seen me the more effort i made
So you can get that relationship feeling .. if thats what your seeking .. tipping always help

 

[SeeMeRolling]

in the long run, it's cheaper to rent them in my opinion. like a leased car...get a new one all the time.

Yes because people are objects to “rent” and “lease like a car”. SMH.

 

[30bandits]

Yes because people are objects to “rent” and “lease like a car”. SMH.

i'm talking to the OP...mind your business.

 

[SeeMeRolling]

i'm talking to the OP...mind your business.

It’s a public forum. You want private send a PM.

When someone cheapens women into a transaction and an object, yeah... that’s my business.

 

[Escierto]

It’s a public forum. You want private send a PM.

When someone cheapens women into a transaction and an object, yeah... that’s my business.

Yes, indeed. One can talk about sex work without denigrating and demeaning the people involved. Respect.

 

[Disturbingimage]

misunderstanding

What i was saying was if your just tryin to get laid from a very good looking woman isn't easier to get an escort? i respect all women and what they choose to do is their choice, but have been propositioned multiple times and always said no, i don't pay for sex.
im a single man, and a widow in my 30's so yeah i'd like to get laid once in while without all the relationship stuff.
i came to this question after spending months talking to this friend that was hot and i knew i had no long term chance with.
of course i wanted sex but never thought it would happen so when she eventually said not gonna happen and ghosted me again i asked my self should i have just got an escort all the time ago. Figured Lit was good place to ask this, not get call all these names cuz i was curious. Damn people, just a question. arrogant and pathetic are pretty harsh to call someone asking a what if question. maybe y'all should look at your character.

 

[Disturbingimage]

in the long run, it's cheaper to rent them in my opinion. like a leased car...get a new one all the time.

haha, thanks. i didn't mean all the time i meant once. and i wouldn't call it renting someone that is demeaning but paying for their time is the truth of the transaction.

 

[SeeMeRolling]

What i was saying was if your just tryin to get laid from a very good looking woman isn't easier to get an escort? i respect all women and what they choose to do is their choice, but have been propositioned multiple times and always said no, i don't pay for sex.
im a single man, and a widow in my 30's so yeah i'd like to get laid once in while without all the relationship stuff.
i came to this question after spending months talking to this friend that was hot and i knew i had no long term chance with.
of course i wanted sex but never thought it would happen so when she eventually said not gonna happen and ghosted me again i asked my self should i have just got an escort all the time ago. Figured Lit was good place to ask this, not get call all these names cuz i was curious. Damn people, just a question. arrogant and pathetic are pretty harsh to call someone asking a what if question. maybe y'all should look at your character.

It is the names YOU called sex workers. It is the way in which you act that you deserve only the hottest. “Hottest” is in the eye of the beholder. But it seems you merely want someone who you think you can show off and is worthy enough to be with you. Even the attitude “I don’t pay for sex”.

I have found every interaction and time spent with a woman teaches me more about being a man and how to value relationships, however short.

Since it seems you are only looking to get a good time out of your “effort”, then yes. Buy the sex you want. At least that way up front everyone involved has the same expectations.

 

[MrMikelobe1952]

It is the names YOU called sex workers. It is the way in which you act that you deserve only the hottest. “Hottest” is in the eye of the beholder. But it seems you merely want someone who you think you can show off and is worthy enough to be with you. Even the attitude “I don’t pay for sex”.

I have found every interaction and time spent with a woman teaches me more about being a man and how to value relationships, however short.

Since it seems you are only looking to get a good time out of your “effort”, then yes. Buy the sex you want. At least that way up front everyone involved has the same expectations.

I shared your reaction upon reading his initial post.
Actually, there was nothing in that post to suggest that he actually regarded the woman he traveled to see as an actual human being. So, his attitude seems to go beyond sex workers.

However, I also find it noteworthy that the woman who has actually worked as a sex worker did not seem to be offended. Not sure what that means or why I am adding this comment. I suppose it accomplishes nothing, but these were just my thoughts going through this thread. Which is at least different from most.

 

[30bandits]

morality police on a porn site....

 

[MrMikelobe1952]

morality police on a porn site....

1. There is a difference between porn and erotica.
2. This is no about any small minded definition of morality. It is about treating people as human beings, with respect.
There are a lot of people here (pretty much all males) who are very frustrated at their inability to establish attract women. The main reason for that is that they do not see or treat women as human beings. So, this is about how to be a successful lover and enjoy more fucking and sucking.

 

[Escierto]

1. There is a difference between porn and erotica.
2. This is no about any small minded definition of morality. It is about treating people as human beings, with respect.
There are a lot of people here (pretty much all males) who are very frustrated at their inability to establish attract women. The main reason for that is that they do not see or treat women as human beings. So, this is about how to be a successful lover and enjoy more fucking and sucking.

Well said.

 

[SeeMeRolling]

morality police on a porn site....

I am not judging anyone’s morality. How we treat someone is about ethics.

Morally I could careless if someone paid a sex worker or not.

Ethically I care how someone is treated.

 

[30bandits]

I am not judging anyone’s morality. How we treat someone is about ethics.

Morally I could careless if someone paid a sex worker or not.

Ethically I care how someone is treated.

who is to say she is treated badly once with the customer?

 

[Disturbingimage]

I worked as an escort for a few years and guys that repeated with me I would make an effort to make it feel like a friendship. The more often they seen me the more effort i made
So you can get that relationship feeling .. if thats what your seeking .. tipping always help

Thank you for your input, i've been told before that its best to have a repeated experience with one person to build that as well. Never had to balls to go threw with it.
i mean no disrespect to any sex worker. but a woman selling herself for drug money on a corner is not the same as a classy escort with standards and hygiene setting up an appointment. if my message was miss worded, my apologize.

 

[SeeMeRolling]

who is to say she is treated badly once with the customer?

I was commenting on the “not a street hooker or bag hoe” from the OP.

 

[SeeMeRolling]

Thank you for your input, i've been told before that its best to have a repeated experience with one person to build that as well. Never had to balls to go threw with it.
i mean no disrespect to any sex worker. but a woman selling herself for drug money on a corner is not the same as a classy escort with standards and hygiene setting up an appointment. if my message was miss worded, my apologize.

And the assumptions just continue.

 

[Disturbingimage]

It is the names YOU called sex workers. It is the way in which you act that you deserve only the hottest. “Hottest” is in the eye of the beholder. But it seems you merely want someone who you think you can show off and is worthy enough to be with you. Even the attitude “I don’t pay for sex”.

I have found every interaction and time spent with a woman teaches me more about being a man and how to value relationships, however short.

Since it seems you are only looking to get a good time out of your “effort”, then yes. Buy the sex you want. At least that way up front everyone involved has the same expectations.

Dude seriously, you have no idea the interaction between me and that woman for months. i offered her and her kid the world but she picked a fucking tweaking meth dealer over me at the end so yeah im kinda like fuck that hoe but at the same time she was gorgeous and my real friend before that and i can admit that.
you have some seriously moral police issue that are not fit for a site like this.

 

[Disturbingimage]

And the assumptions just continue.

So obviously you have no idea about the real world. just stop dude you sounds so righteous and ignorant