Passive Aggressive Inquiries and Why They Suck

[sterlingclay]

Well put RR. I've seen several examples on lit, and at least one about me. I just let that one slide because it was none too mature and quite surprising. I let the offending individual sit alone in their thread without an answer from me. Seemed like the right thing to do.

 

[patient1]

Hey, doll.....like MY sig line?

Coulda used a cat smilie.

 

[Mia62]

Ironically, you are one of the premeire people I had in mind when writing up this thread.

Seeing as how you didn't point it directly at me...then aren't you guilty of the same thing?

My earlier thread today was pointed at way too many people to name...and I just wanted various people to stop and maybe look at their behaviour...changing it IF they wished...or not.

And, Silva....your sig line is wayyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy too long!!

 

[Lasher]

I say spill the beans or shut the fuck up. Yep, thats what I say.

I say it, too!

More bean spilling! Or maybe more shutting the fuck up.

Either way we win, lol.

 

[estevie]

I say it, too!

More bean spilling! Or maybe more shutting the fuck up.

Either way we win, lol.

Absolutely! I want to hear names and intimate details. If I can't have that, shut the fuck up about it!

*sigh*

I wish everybody was like us, Lasher.

 

[Lasher]

Absolutely! I want to hear names and intimate details. If I can't have that, shut the fuck up about it!

*sigh*

I wish everybody was like us, Lasher.

No shit, lol. I hate it when people dance around the real dirt. I come here to be entertained, not to try and decipher cryptic bullshit.

 

[Rambling Rose]

Seeing as how you didn't point it directly at me...then aren't you guilty of the same thing?

Nice try, but nope. I called you out before this flipped to the second page. The other person who helped prompt it was J.B., but I thought it was more obvious since I said something to the same effect on her thread about couples and low self esteem here:

https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?s=&threadid=148331&pagenumber=3

The others who I've noticed made such a low blip on the radar that I couldn't recall specific usernames, but you made a splash because you were the first person I noticed here who seemed to prefer that style and utlized it with abandon.

I've got no problems calling a spade a spade or just keeping my mouth shut. You should know that about me by now.

 

[Prince Romeo]

You know you are so right about that fingernail thing. I was cleaning my thumbnail yesterday and I couldn't believe the odor that was under it. You know, I think I had peeled an orange the night before.

 

[MissTaken]

Well, Rose, I tend to agree but there is another side tot eh coin.

The other day I began a thread askinga question about soemthing that perplexed and bothered me. I was accused of having some agenda for which I couldnt defend because I didnt know what the assumed agenda was.

It basically got messy from there.

Having read that thread and participated, it is a great example.

Sometimes, those questions surface and for whatever reason, oodles of people think there is a hidden agenda.

So, ya gotta watch both sides of this debate.
Sometimes, the question just is, othertimes, the question is a set up or a chance to garner attention by being self righteous and greater than thou.

Admittedly, I have done this on a few occasions, but it isn't standard posting style for me.

I prefer to not get into personal battles on the board or get involved in the "name this who did that stuff." I do read the shit, though!

 

[A Desert Rose]

So many people on this board (and incidentally, I find it to be mostly women who are guilty of this) have the habit of starting a thread asking opinions on one form of behaviour or another - all with the eyelash batting innocence of mere information gathering - when, in fact, what they really want to do is shame someone for their actions without naming names or handling it directly, either behind the scenes or right out in the open.

It is always transparent. All the "I wasn't talking about anyone specific" or "I'd really rather not embarrass this person" is a huge load of horseshit.

These posters don't really want to know what we think. What they want is for others to back them up so that they can sit smugly back in their comfy little computer chair, and know that whoever they intended to feel shamed or embarrassed or upset is now doing just that. And for all intents and purposes their hands look clean.

Well, I can smell the dirt under your nails from here and it stinks.

Absolutley. I could not agree with you more. And the best part is that nearly everyone recognizes this type of schtick and still either participates in it or encourages it.

Innuendo does not hold any credibilty with me and that is what those kinds of threads are about. It's like some silly whispering campaign.

My feelings are either have the balls to call a spade a spade or shut the fuck up and start a list thread about which lit'ster you want to fuck this week.

 

[Rambling Rose]

I watched mouse's thread descend into supposition and defensiveness. I think when asking a potentially explosive question, you have to be very careful with your wording and the tone you set if you want to keep it on track. Coming back in later and saying "I was only making a general comment" doesn't help douse the heat. A well written initial post should make it obvious that you are making a general comment and not a thinly veiled accusatory one.

Someone's history here also adds to the credibility, and whether that's fair or not, it's a fact. It gets slippery when perception is a qualifier because one person may have a totally different feel or impression of what they read than the next.

 

[J.B.]

Subtlety’s not your middle name is it?

 

[Rambling Rose]

Just as yours isn't Prudence.

 

[perks]

simon

 

[tortoise]

Word!

Schadenfreude bites.

 

[sunstruck]

Tortoise gains 20 points for use of the word schadenfreude.

Points can be traded in for get out of flaming free cards or given to others for the same purpose. Points can not be used to win arguments, but only to intimidate your opponents.

 

[Lancecastor]

So many people on this board (and incidentally, I find it to be mostly women who are guilty of this) have the habit of starting a thread asking opinions on one form of behaviour or another - all with the eyelash batting innocence of mere information gathering - when, in fact, what they really want to do is shame someone for their actions without naming names or handling it directly, either behind the scenes or right out in the open.

It is always transparent. All the "I wasn't talking about anyone specific" or "I'd really rather not embarrass this person" is a huge load of horseshit.

These posters don't really want to know what we think. What they want is for others to back them up so that they can sit smugly back in their comfy little computer chair, and know that whoever they intended to feel shamed or embarrassed or upset is now doing just that. And for all intents and purposes their hands look clean.

Well, I can smell the dirt under your nails from here and it stinks.

Lavender!

 

[lobito]

I think it's pretty funny watching those who "suspect" a thread or post is about them, and we have to watch them wiggle their way out of the 'sticky situation". They think they can justify themselves acting this way, but everyone knows their "style" by now, and knows their full of shit.

 

[Mia62]

Tortoise gains 20 points for use of the word schadenfreude.

Points can be traded in for get out of flaming free cards or given to others for the same purpose. Points can not be used to win arguments, but only to intimidate your opponents.

I believe that you should automatically get 1 million bonus points if you are able to use said "flamer's" own words against them in a return flame intimidation. Therefore I automatically have the lead as was clearly proven on page 1.

 

[perks]

seriously folks.

This board has history, and we read it.

If you make a thread that says "Do you think women cheating on their husbands is wrong" You're not only leading you're pointing fingers, and sooner or later in the thread we'll find out to whom you're referring.

Because that thread has been made 1.4 million times. There is no need to make another thread about infidelity unless you're pointing fingers.

<this was just an example, however I can see how people who write infidelity threads could think I'm referring to them specifically, thus my bout of passive aggressivism>

It exists, we read it. Own up to it or don't. But dont' pretend it doesn't exist.

 

[Rambling Rose]

Mia, the only lead you have is attached to the bit I placed between your teeth.

 

[Mia62]

Mia, the only lead you have is attached to the bit I placed between your teeth.

My only response to this is...huh???


Mind you, thank goodness for those on IMs cause it was just explained to me...but I still am not following along here.

 

[sunstruck]

I believe that you should automatically get 1 million bonus points if you are able to use said "flamer's" own words against them in a return flame intimidation. Therefore I automatically have the lead as was clearly proven on page 1.

Seems a tad high. I'll give you 50. Good for two removals of future Sunny anti Mia posts. But only because I am feeling generous.

 

[sunstruck]

Mia, the only lead you have is attached to the bit I placed between your teeth.

LMAO!

 

[Rambling Rose]

Somebody gets it.