Out of the blue.

[mig]

You're married or in a committed relationship.You have a good
sex life,on a daily or more frequent basis.

You have never considered sex with anyone else nor has this
ever been discussed by you and your partner.

Then your partner tells you he/she wants to have sex with
someone else.

What's your reaction.How do you cope.Can you cope?.

 

[Nobody Special's wife]

You have Pro and Cons to this

1. do you have children and could this affect them in any way

2. It could make your realinship stronger or it could destroy it


Its a tuff call but talk to you love one about it and go over pro and cons

Decide what your both comfortable with and what your not .. Gives examples if she wants another woman touching her man

That is like do you really want another man touching your woman??

YOur the only one who can come up with the answers

Just talk to her and get the feelings out there and then decide if you two can have another partner

 

[sabbathstorm]

I've actually been in this situation where I've told my partner that, but not in a way to hurt him. We were discussing fantasies and he asked me mine. I answered him honestly and initially he was slightly hurt. However, he knew it was something I'd never pursue without his approval. He knows I'm committed to him and would not do anything behind his back.

We never talked a lot about it initially but he did think about it. We gradually talked about over a long period of time until he felt comfortable with the idea. I didn't pressure him and was content with things in our relationship.

Communication is essential!

As NSW said, this can affect a relationship in a positive or negative way. It's not something to be considered lightly. Ask a lot of questions on how he/she would feel in the same situation.

 

[mig]

I hasten to add,no children involved and I'm not talking about me.

My partner and I are in total agreement about our reactions.

 

[Guest]

You're married or in a committed relationship.You have a good
sex life,on a daily or more frequent basis.

You have never considered sex with anyone else nor has this
ever been discussed by you and your partner.

Then your partner tells you he/she wants to have sex with
someone else.

What's your reaction.How do you cope.Can you cope?.

I've been here, and my experience is, when you add a third party or more into a relationship, someone usually gets hurt.

If you decide to go there.....be aware of the emotional damages that more than likely will occur.

Moon