orgasms

[MrsDeathlynx]

However, if at that instant, both male and female, (sorry, this is where my bias sets in), if both are aware that a new life is being created at that magnificent moment, then the emotional and psychological high, is beyond belief.

Not tearing you appart, just adding my opinion as a woman is has been trying to conceive for a year and a half now...

I personally have found that when I am the least conscious of why we are doing it I have a better orgasm, because I am not distracted by the thought and pressure of what my husband and I are trying to accomplish. I clear my mind and allow the sensations of my body to take over, embracing them without restraint.

I will touch more on topic, but right now am sleepy. Just wanted to add this in and am curious as to whether or not other females or even males agree or disagree.

 

[deathlynx]

Hmmm, What was the question? Sorry, distracted by all the great responses I forgot
Oh, right, orgasm...
I gotta side with Des, and concidering so far we're the only male perspectives I find this informative (of course we've been discovering we have an awful lot in common anyway)...Although I basically have to add a level to his thoughts...

Lack of Interest Orgasm: Yes, there are times when it's just a brief spurt and slight chemical increase...Sometimes I lost interest (though when that happens I usually just stop) but most often it's a question of just getting through it for some reason or another...

However, the reason for the orgasm causes much different sensations...
Manual (usually auto-manual falls into the above cat and this is a partner working on me): Entirely external...most of the sensation seems limited to my skin, in other words there's a lot of feeling tingles across my skin but very little goes deeper...The upside is that this seems to be the only orgasm that can be sustained indefinately...Also very capable of multiples with this technique...

Intercourse: Kinda wierd and hard to figure out for me, I'll admit...The thing is, I'm much too focussed on my partner's orgasm to notice much about my own...It goes deeper than manual, but is intricately linked to my partner's enjoyment...In other words, I almost never have an orgasm unless she is, either already or at the same time I do...I do know I simply cannot sustain this form of orgasm for very long...It could be because I'm in control and the male body tends to shut down fairly quickly...It also could just be that I shut down fairly quickly...Either way I can continue what I'm doing, and not always even shrink, but I never have a second one like this...

Oral: I'm still unsure whether men are so obsessed with blowjobs because it feels so great, because we get them so infrequently or simply because we don't have to put forth any effort...Maybe it's a combination of these? Regardless, the sensation fills the entire area between my hips...Pressure seems to build and build and it feels like an explosion...
Now, I'll answer (at least from my persppective) a question women might be asking...Why deep throat? There are two primary sensations that come when a woman (or man admitadely) goes to the base of the penis that don't even appear durring sex...the reason for this is because of jaws...Women are squishy between their legs (at least they're supposed to be) so it doesn't press as hard as upper and lower jaws combined do...

What are the actual sensations that this causes? Well, it drastically increases that percieved internal pressure...I know women can understand this part because there are nerve bundles beneath the skin around the clitoris which if you press and roll against it increases their orgasm...It's why Mrs tends to crush my head against her when I'm going down on her

The other thing that deep throating does is stretch the skin of the penis taut...very seldom a guy is truly at his maximum size...it's actually painful most of the time that happens...but when stretched taut you achieve the maximum surface area on the most sensitive part of the penis, the top 1/4 to 1/3 (the darker part)...

So, have I missed anything?

 

[amicus]

However, if at that instant, both male and female, (sorry, this is where my bias sets in), if both are aware that a new life is being created at that magnificent moment, then the emotional and psychological high, is beyond belief.

Not tearing you appart, just adding my opinion as a woman is has been trying to conceive for a year and a half now...

I personally have found that when I am the least conscious of why we are doing it I have a better orgasm, because I am not distracted by the thought and pressure of what my husband and I are trying to accomplish. I clear my mind and allow the sensations of my body to take over, embracing them without restraint.

I will touch more on topic, but right now am sleepy. Just wanted to add this in and am curious as to whether or not other females or even males agree or disagree.

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MrsDeathlynx...There are many ways to conduct a discussion on a public forum. For the most part, I attempt to do so impersonally and rhetorically. You have chosen to take a personal approach and that, of course is your right.

I will not offer an anecdotal event, nor even a fictional one to prove or amplify the point I attempted to make. I choose to let my thoughts stand on their own and will, from that standpoint, meet whatever challenge arises.

I cannot and will not even attempt to reply to your personal experience, which, after all, is known only to you.


regards...

amicus

 

[deathlynx]

MrsDeathlynx...There are many ways to conduct a discussion on a public forum. For the most part, I attempt to do so impersonally and rhetorically. You have chosen to take a personal approach and that, of course is your right.

Actually, in your initial post you freely admitted that you took the personal approach when you admitted to your bias...Of course, this is a topic which is entirely personal, unless you are exclusively discussing the physiological reactions to a purely biological event...

I cannot and will not even attempt to reply to your personal experience, which, after all, is known only to you.

Ooops, you just did

 

[amicus]

[QUOTE=deathlynx]Actually, in your initial post you freely admitted that you took the personal approach when you admitted to your bias...Of course, this is a topic which is entirely personal, unless you are exclusively discussing the physiological reactions to a purely biological event...

Ooops, you just did [/QUOTE]

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Ahhh...what's the point here, a pissing contest?

Forget it, not interested.

amicus...

 

[Guest]

Thanks Femininity for the thread, Sheherazade, you devil you, someone does as much research as I do about the things we write about, omg.


And of course, Fem's questions and 'Zade's magnificent reply are not the question at hand and that is....(drum roll) how we write about what we have learned and perhaps experienced, in ways that are (choose adjectives, adverbs and nouns) titilating to read.

The psychological and emotional were not touched upon much..."i know a lot has to do with the emotional and psychological stuff but how does that affect us to actually come differently?"

The 'kinky' (read 'fisting') and a dozen other fetishes, if you will, are not my province but, if I may offer an adjunctive...eh, ahem, (I went to the dictionary and adjunctive doesn't seem to be a word...oops..no, there it is.) anyway, offer a different direction for understanding what an 'orgasm' is and 'why' it is what it is.

Aside from everything else an orgasm is, it be very functional in a most natural way.

In addition to the superlative descriptions already offered, at the moment of maximum effort by the male, ejaculation, with the greatest size (it grows even larger at that moment) and penetration, and can spurt that semen a goodly distance towards or into the cervix, (opening of the Uterus) and at the same instant, if the participants are on the same page, the uterus itself expands, the cervix opens and essentially dips down and sups of the semen (sperm) offered up.

Ain't that neat?

Well, not exactly, ami.

Though true the uterus may tilt during different times in a woman's cycle, it doesn't magically adjust during a specific act of intercourse.

It is, however, the changing qualities in a woman's lubrication which allow the sperm to make that journey into the fallopian tubes to fertilize. The more "egg white" quality the juices, the better. Sperm swim up the strands.

Since nature doesn't give a damn about the pleasure of the participants and desires only to perpetuate the species, (grins), then the emotional and psychological well being of those involved is of little functional concern.

However...

However, if at that instant, both male and female, (sorry, this is where my bias sets in), if both are aware that a new life is being created at that magnificent moment, then the emotional and psychological high, is beyond belief.

I think when hubby and I were planning our family we shared this emotional high.

Of course, during sex, that pales a bit, as you are focused elsewhere. AND, since fertilization is not instantaneous with ejaculation or orgasm (the sperm must swim a bit) and could even happen three days later, actually, that moment isn't exact.

The earth does indeed move, the universe shudders.

Not to tout my own stories, but one of them, in the Billy series, I think, been a while, Molly, I think, experiencing her first uterine orgasm, and a smart little shit at that, suddenly recognizes 'what it is all about', and is somewhat emotionally overwhelmed at the epiphany.

So be it. Tear me apart, as usual, do the laugh and the dance and ridicule my rhetoric, you think I give a shit?

amicus...

I don't care, ami, truly. You've slapped at some of us often enough. I just hate to see you dispensing misinformation.

 

[Dar~]

*Intense groan*

Care to experiment???

 

[Chantilyvamp]

*quickly checks her cervix for a possible hinged scoop* Nope...thinks its just there

Sorry I know...don't poke the bear...its just the smartass in me keeps trying to escape.

I have so many different kinds of orgasms its rather hard to explain...they range from tiny little butterfly orgasms to multiple, see dark spots nearly pass out orgasms. Depend on what kind of sex and how i'm feeling before hand. Me in a manic rip clothes off and grab the paddle mode is guaranteed to set off the multiples.

 

[Selena_Kitt]

Here's a great overview of fertility, with little drawings and everything, that I happen to have bookmarked:

Fertility Physiology



I actually just "knew" when I conceived, all four times. Even the first time, when we were using condoms, a sponge, and I had just started the pill a week before... (the kid should have been born wearing armor!) I KNEW I was pregnant, even if it seemed impossible. It's hard to describe, but it was a very clear, intuitive sense... and yes, sort of like a high, floating feeling.

As for Ami's misinformation-- it's actually not. IF a woman is fertile (meaning, if you look at the photos in the link, she's ovulating and the cervix is more open, the mucus sperm-friendly) and orgasm for both parties occurs simultaneously OR if the woman orgasms soon after the male, the contractions of the orgasm itself serve to to push the cervix downward, dipping into that seminal pool, almost like it's "sucking up the sperm." They've actually filmed this (and how they did it is beyond me! Wacky scientist guys!)... kinda neat...

 

[Chantilyvamp]

Here's a great overview of fertility, with little drawings and everything, that I happen to have bookmarked:

Fertility Physiology



I actually just "knew" when I conceived, all four times. Even the first time, when we were using condoms, a sponge, and I had just started the pill a week before... (the kid should have been born wearing armor!) I KNEW I was pregnant, even if it seemed impossible. It's hard to describe, but it was a very clear, intuitive sense... and yes, sort of like a high, floating feeling.

As for Ami's misinformation-- it's actually not. IF a woman is fertile (meaning, if you look at the photos in the link, she's ovulating and the cervix is more open, the mucus sperm-friendly) and orgasm for both parties occurs simultaneously OR if the woman orgasms soon after the male, the contractions of the orgasm itself serve to to push the cervix downward, dipping into that seminal pool, almost like it's "sucking up the sperm." They've actually filmed this (and how they did it is beyond me! Wacky scientist guys!)... kinda neat...

*grins* I know but it still doesnt stop my blasted mind from wanting to make bob the builder jokes...

Thats rather cool that you just knew when you were pregnant. Me I had to go to the docs for being in pain and not being able to walk and found out I was one week pregant.

And you are right it is rather amazing...we had to watch a little video like that for the sex ed bit in a class I had to take. Want to watch some late teen/early 20's men hide their heads show them the inside of a womans body

 

[Selena_Kitt]

*grins* I know but it still doesnt stop my blasted mind from wanting to make bob the builder jokes...

Thats rather cool that you just knew when you were pregnant. Me I had to go to the docs for being in pain and not being able to walk and found out I was one week pregant.

And you are right it is rather amazing...we had to watch a little video like that for the sex ed bit in a class I had to take. Want to watch some late teen/early 20's men hide their heads show them the inside of a womans body

Bob the Builder! *snerk*

Here's a quote from about.com (what a source, eh? I don't know if it's better or worse than wiki )

"The physiology behind the female orgasm is simple. When a woman has an orgasm her cervix, the mouth of the uterus, contracts as the uterus moves. This causes the uterus to dip or bob into the vagina. If the male has already had an orgasm, then this area is rich in semen (sperm). This motion of the cervix will actually draw the semen into the cervix and uterus to aid in it's passage towards the ripe egg."

 

[angela146]

"The physiology behind the female orgasm is simple. When a woman has an orgasm her cervix, the mouth of the uterus, contracts as the uterus moves. This causes the uterus to dip or bob into the vagina. If the male has already had an orgasm, then this area is rich in semen (sperm). This motion of the cervix will actually draw the semen into the cervix and uterus to aid in it's passage towards the ripe egg."

Yup. That's part of the reason why men instinctively want a woman to have an orgasm during sex and it's part of the reason why women often fake it.

It's all part of the game of a woman trying to decide who (among her lovers) is going to be the father of her children and the men each trying to ensure their own shot at impregnating her.

 

[Stella_Omega]

Yup. That's part of the reason why men instinctively want a woman to have an orgasm during sex and it's part of the reason why women often fake it.

It's all part of the game of a woman trying to decide who (among her lovers) is going to be the father of her children and the men each trying to ensure their own shot at impregnating her.

When I think back on the hardest orgasms I've ever had, and who they came from overall, I'd say that I really REALLY wanted to have Christine's babies!

 

[scheherazade_79]

When I think back on the hardest orgasms I've ever had, and who they came from overall, I'd say that I really REALLY wanted to have Christine's babies!

*Thorntons chocolates spew!*

 

[scheherazade_79]

Ok, I have a different question:

What's everyone's take on g-spot orgasms?

 

[FatDino]

Ok, I have a different question:

What's everyone's take on g-spot orgasms?

No clue. Wait...I have one clue, reading Zade's latest blog.

 

[scheherazade_79]

No clue. Wait...I have one clue, reading Zade's latest blog.

That's why I asked. I want to know if my experiences tally with everyone else's

 

[FatDino]

That's why I asked. I want to know if my experiences tally with everyone else's

Doubt it, not everyone is such a screamer.

 

[Selena_Kitt]

That's why I asked. I want to know if my experiences tally with everyone else's

still looking for mine...

 

[Stella_Omega]

That's why I asked. I want to know if my experiences tally with everyone else's

Pm me the link?

From my personal experience, G-spot orgasms can go on forever.

I've never ejaculated though.

 

[CeriseNoire]

Ok, I have a different question:

What's everyone's take on g-spot orgasms?

I've been working on getting there lately. There was this guy one upon a time who could stimulate my g-spot with his eyes closed. It always left me completely dizzy though.

*runs off to read Zade's blog*

 

[Dr_Strabismus]

Pm me the link?

From my personal experience, G-spot orgasms can go on forever.

I've never ejaculated though.

The information above leads me to conclude that either

1) You're exaggerating
2) You're in the middle of an orgasm right now.

I'm going with 2) because it's more fun to imagine

 

[scheherazade_79]

Doubt it, not everyone is such a screamer.

Bitch!

And for the record, I'm not a screamer.

 

[scheherazade_79]

still looking for mine...

Keep looking... It's worth it!

 

[scheherazade_79]

Pm me the link?

From my personal experience, G-spot orgasms can go on forever.

I've never ejaculated though.

Done.