Orgasms Without A Vibrator?

[kurvy1]

I am one of the lucky gals that are able to have as many orgasms as I'd like...but only while using a vibrator. I would really like to be able to orgasm without needing my toys. Has anyone been able to switch from only being able to orgasm with a vibrator to having one via just manual or oral stimulation? If so, I would be very interested in learning how you were able to accomplish this feat .

 

[rosebud_6]

do you have a partner? or are you enjoying these orgasms by yourself? i know i can orgasm lots of times aswell, but only when my partner brings me there.. i can't manage to have more than one on my own either. i think it might have something to do with the feel of his touch making me excited? more excited that i can get by myself? and he doesn't use the vibrator all the time either.

 

[kurvy1]

Masturbation

I have been married for 19 years (can't believe it's been that long), so yes, I have a partner, but I masturbate most often alone. I also play while he is watching, and love it when he touches me at that time. But I can definately cum lots of times by myself, so lack of parter is not an issue for me. I think I just need the intensity of a vibrator in order to get over that edge. Guess I'm just wondering if I can teach my body to orgasm with less stimulation???

 

[LoxxyLoxx]

Using my hands (and an active imagination, along with the stories on Lit) brings me to several orgasms almost every time I try.

 

[kurvy1]

Using my hands (and an active imagination, along with the stories on Lit) brings me to several orgasms almost every time I try.

I've definitely tried your method, and I have no problem getting hot and bothered LOL, but it just doesn't work with my hands (so far).

 

[rosebud_6]

have you tried other sex toys aswell? or just your vibrator?

how about watching sexy movies and getting your partner to do whatever they're doing on the screen at the time? and just keep going.. without the vibrator? just keep going and going and going?

 

[emap]

Hmmmm, besides what they have said, have you tried just relaxing and not worrying about cumming? Seriously, an orgasm isn't the end all be all so why not relax and enjoy the trip, you will get there before you know it.

Generally I believe the biggest problem women have with orgasms, well second biggest, is they want to get there and have one yesterday, they don't just stop and smell the roses so to speak. Their biggest problem? Well guys tend to do the same exact thing.

So next time you get with your husband, or start reading literotica, watching one of 'those' movies or whatever you do when you play with yourself, don't think about the orgasm, don't think about what your going to do for dinner, what your husband wants to do with your neighbor or anything else. Just relax, feel the sensation of your fingers and get into whatever your doing to help you enjoy your alone time, get into the story/movie/whatever and smell those roses. Your not sitting/laying there to have an orgasm, your there to enjoy yourself and get away from your life, enjoy the trip, not the destination.

 

[CorsetLvr]

I am one of the lucky gals that are able to have as many orgasms as I'd like...but only while using a vibrator. I would really like to be able to orgasm without needing my toys. Has anyone been able to switch from only being able to orgasm with a vibrator to having one via just manual or oral stimulation? If so, I would be very interested in learning how you were able to accomplish this feat .

If you have been using a vibe a lot (it sounds like it) it can cause you clit to have reduced sensitivity. The intenses vibration of a vibe desensitizes the nerves in the clitoris. This isn't necessarily permanent, but when you try to use something less intense, like a finger, it may not be enough to reach orgasm. If this is the case, you have three choices. 1. Stop using the vibe until sensitivity is restored. Basically, this is the cold turkey approach. 2. Forget it and just continue to hum along with your vibe. 3. Combine your vibe with other forms of play. For example, one of my favorites is using my egg vibe on my clit while having sex with a guy.

 

[brian_3132]

Using my hands (and an active imagination, along with the stories on Lit) brings me to several orgasms almost every time I try.

sounds like that would be fun to watch

 

[LoxxyLoxx]

sounds like that would be fun to watch

Well, it's certainly fun to be there in the center of activity

 

[littlebitshe]

If you have been using a vibe a lot (it sounds like it) it can cause you clit to have reduced sensitivity. The intenses vibration of a vibe desensitizes the nerves in the clitoris. This isn't necessarily permanent, but when you try to use something less intense, like a finger, it may not be enough to reach orgasm. If this is the case, you have three choices. 1. Stop using the vibe until sensitivity is restored. Basically, this is the cold turkey approach. 2. Forget it and just continue to hum along with your vibe. 3. Combine your vibe with other forms of play. For example, one of my favorites is using my egg vibe on my clit while having sex with a guy.

I definately think CorsetLvr is correct. Your best bet is to put away the vibe (don't cry... it's just for a little while ) And really explore your body. Explore yourself with your fingers, with a dildo, with your partner's tongue , or various other things.

There is plenty that you can do, but most importantly... be patient with yourself and enjoy the pleasure. I understand that maybe you have tried this, but it sounds like you get impatient because it takes longer without your vibe and your natural response is to grab for the Tried and True! If you are patient with yourself and just enjoy the sensation, you will eventually reach orgasm. It might take longer than normal... but it will be well worth it!!

Once you have achieved orgasm a few times with other types of stimulation, it is fine to use the vibe sometimes... I would not recommend using it all the time or you will likely be in the same situation that you are in now. I think it's much more fun to be able to orgasm in several different ways so I wish you the best in your exploration!

 

[theevilsea]

I can w/ a vibe and orally.
Also, just using my hands, it just takes a little more effort.

 

[SweetErika]

You might want to consider that you may just be one of those people who needs more stimulation than a hand or mouth can provide. Try what's been suggested here, but if they don't work for you, that's okay.

I'm one of those people to some extent. I can come from oral, manual and g-spot stimulation, but most of the time I need very intense, focused stimulation; I always have, and am sure I always will. I find taking frequent breaks and fantasizing (or reading a great story) during ANY kind of stimulation to be critical.

There's nothing wrong with me, nor is it a matter of being desensitized from the vibe - it's just the way my body happens to work. And, really, my best orgasms are with the right vibe along with other types of stimulation, so there's no reason for me to abandon my favorite vibes!

In addition to the suggestions you've been given already, you might try combining the vibe with other types of stimulation. For example, try getting as aroused as possible with oral, then using the vibe to get over the edge, and vice versa. With oral and other types of stimulation, you may need to take short breaks to re-set your nerves and make your body really want the orgasm. In time, you may find you need the vibe less and less. If you don't find that to be the case, just keep enjoying your vibe and the fantastic orgasms it gives you!

 

[ronaele2006]

Using a shower massage is fun too! Well, just exporing in the shower is fun.

 

[kurvy1]

Hmmmm, besides what they have said, have you tried just relaxing and not worrying about cumming? Seriously, an orgasm isn't the end all be all so why not relax and enjoy the trip, you will get there before you know it.

Generally I believe the biggest problem women have with orgasms, well second biggest, is they want to get there and have one yesterday, they don't just stop and smell the roses so to speak. Their biggest problem? Well guys tend to do the same exact thing.

So next time you get with your husband, or start reading literotica, watching one of 'those' movies or whatever you do when you play with yourself, don't think about the orgasm, don't think about what your going to do for dinner, what your husband wants to do with your neighbor or anything else. Just relax, feel the sensation of your fingers and get into whatever your doing to help you enjoy your alone time, get into the story/movie/whatever and smell those roses. Your not sitting/laying there to have an orgasm, your there to enjoy yourself and get away from your life, enjoy the trip, not the destination.

Thanks for your great insight emap...
I believe you may be right that I need to just relax and not be in a hurry... guess I'm just taking the easy road

 

[kurvy1]

If you have been using a vibe a lot (it sounds like it) it can cause you clit to have reduced sensitivity. The intenses vibration of a vibe desensitizes the nerves in the clitoris. This isn't necessarily permanent, but when you try to use something less intense, like a finger, it may not be enough to reach orgasm. If this is the case, you have three choices. 1. Stop using the vibe until sensitivity is restored. Basically, this is the cold turkey approach. 2. Forget it and just continue to hum along with your vibe. 3. Combine your vibe with other forms of play. For example, one of my favorites is using my egg vibe on my clit while having sex with a guy.

Hi CorsetLvr
I think you may have hit the mark with your insights... Guess I just have to decide if I have the patience to give the "cold turkey" approach a go. My husband and I often use the vibe with other forms of play with great success

 

[kurvy1]

Using a shower massage is fun too! Well, just exporing in the shower is fun.

I agree on both points!

 

[lindahotstuff]

Have yopu tried a nice hard cock to make you cum, or do you prefer masturbation? I love toys, but there is nothink like the real thing of a very hard and thick, but silky smooth cock deep inside.

 

[Whispurrrr]

Fingers have it!

I vote for fingers!! (on the hands of my loving partner)

 

[FeistyOrchid]

I definately think CorsetLvr is correct. Your best bet is to put away the vibe (don't cry... it's just for a little while ) And really explore your body. Explore yourself with your fingers, with a dildo, with your partner's tongue , or various other things.

There is plenty that you can do, but most importantly... be patient with yourself and enjoy the pleasure. I understand that maybe you have tried this, but it sounds like you get impatient because it takes longer without your vibe and your natural response is to grab for the Tried and True! If you are patient with yourself and just enjoy the sensation, you will eventually reach orgasm. It might take longer than normal... but it will be well worth it!!

Once you have achieved orgasm a few times with other types of stimulation, it is fine to use the vibe sometimes... I would not recommend using it all the time or you will likely be in the same situation that you are in now. I think it's much more fun to be able to orgasm in several different ways so I wish you the best in your exploration!

I agree with both CorsetLuvr & littlebitshe, put away the vibe. Also, it might help to: 1) Fantasize about whatever gets your motor going 2) Watching/listening/reading porn/erotica. Both of those seem to work for me. Best of luck

 

[luv2lick001]

Have yopu tried a nice hard cock to make you cum, or do you prefer masturbation? I love toys, but there is nothink like the real thing of a very hard and thick, but silky smooth cock deep inside.

Mmm Linda, it seems that you love cock, which is always nice.

 

[mayadevi]

I was honestly never able to cum either solo or with a partner until I was 29 - a combination of horrible self-esteem issues(see my response to the scars post) and religious hangups...I never even used a vibe until last year, and I am 40.

The first time I was able to cum was from a guy going down on me - it was dark and I knew he enjoyed taking his time so I could just relax and focus on what he was doing to me - after that first time for a long time the only way I could cum was from oral - I think this is the case with a lot of women. Manual stimulation, either my own or with a partner, has never done much for me.

I later was able to cum from me being on top during intercourse - the combination of having my G spot stimulated and rubbing my clit against his pubic bone makes for the best orgasms, especially if I am at an angle where he can suck my nipples at the same time - OMG....

Since discovering my BOB I have noticed some desensitization but like others have said it comes back if you don't use it for a while. Try doing Kegel exercises when you are approaching orgasm, it really makes it more intense and is even better(for both of you) if his cock is inside you.