Online vs Offline

[IronRose35]

I don't see, hear or speak well and have massive anxiety around people. I relate to the members of my own species irl if they're telling me what to do or I'm on my hands and knees with with my clothes off. I'm not equippied for conversation though, mentally or physically. My ears and vocal chords don't work right and my brain just isn't wired for it, so I do my chatting online, where I can reread and rewrite before I hit SEND and my dizzy head doesn't get in the way.

Thank you for sharing that. I think many people in these spaces relate more than they let on.

You're definitely not alone in finding real-life interactions overwhelming. Maybe that's why we're so drawn to platforms like Literotica, FetLife, and others.

 

[PleasureDaddy]

Sounds like you've been really lucky to find something that feels so fulfilling online, you know not everyone gets that. Have you ever thought about taking any of those relationships offline, or did you prefer to keep them in the virtual space?

I’ve met several partners. Unfortunately several if not most were long distance. And as adults, practical matters like kids and exs and houses and school districts start to get involved. It can get complicated. I’ve flown before to spend time with a lady friend. No regerts.

 

[IronRose35]

I’ve met several partners. Unfortunately several if not most were long distance. And as adults, practical matters like kids and exs and houses and school districts start to get involved. It can get complicated. I’ve flown before to spend time with a lady friend. No regerts.

You flew out for a lady and came back with zero regerts? Either she was amazing or you're very easy to please

Adult logistics really do be killing the vibe though.

 

[AprilTwenties]

Boo, my owner allows me to write up my shit so, I think, I have a certain freedom to correspond to people on here.

In the real world, most people know about my kink and being owned - hard not to when you hook for your owner - and, obviously, I love that...but writing/reacting and interacting with others on here is both fun and scary.

Opening myself up, y'know?

A x

 

[IARainman]

I would probably have to find her online. I did once and it was glorious

 

[IronRose35]

Boo, my owner allows me to write up my shit so, I think, I have a certain freedom to correspond to people on here.

In the real world, most people know about my kink and being owned - hard not to when you hook for your owner - and, obviously, I love that...but writing/reacting and interacting with others on here is both fun and scary.

Opening myself up, y'know?

A x

Good for you!
Does interacting online make facing your owner in real life feel even more intense? And what exactly are you afraid of?

 

[IronRose35]

I would probably have to find her online. I did once and it was glorious

Well I have to ask what made it so unforgettable even without the real-life physical side?

 

[Hugo_Agogo_UK]

Just something I've been thinking about lately, and I'd love to hear how others feel.

- Where do you feel most like yourself — online or offline?
- And where do you feel safer being that version of you?

In everyday life, I spend a lot of energy hiding certain parts of myself. Things I'm into, things I fantasize about, the kinky parts. I keep them tucked away because not everyone needs to know. But even online, I find myself doing a different kind of hiding. I have to be careful about what I share, who I trust, and how much people can find out about me.

For those of you who keep your kink life separate from your day-to-day life, here's something I've been wondering.

If money wasn't a problem, if nothing was holding you back, and you could actually be with whoever your kinky heart wanted… would you change your life to live it out fully?

Or do you prefer keeping it a secret, something just for you and the few people who really get it?

Just curious what this looks like for you.

I’ve been thinking about this too and what I’m really grateful for is the way online lets me share anonymously and slowly build up a trusting relationship to the point where I felt absolutely sure I wanted this person irl and if she would just fly in to London and say the word we’d fuck each other’s brains out.

I’m not a big person for kink but I love feeling affirmed and encouraged by a chance to look through the window into women’s thoughts and desires.

I did start irl relationships based on the encouragement of this and porn although I have stopped using porn in the way I did then.

 

[AprilTwenties]

Good for you!
Does interacting online make facing your owner in real life feel even more intense? And what exactly are you afraid of?

I think it does, boo....'cos I'm told that my opinion on things is whatever her's is.....and I take that on freely. What she says goes, y'know?

But what if my writing displeases her? That's both scary and enlightening. What if it matches her feelings? That's even more thrilling.

A x

 

[IARainman]

Well I have to ask what made it so unforgettable even without the real-life physical side?

Oh, we found each other online, I served her in person twice. I've had other online only connections and they're largely task oriented, but also sexual in some way. Not interested in a dynamic without a sexual component

 

[Maryyy_A]

I feel more like myself online - but even here, I hold back. If I could live it all out without fear or limits, I think I would. But I’d still keep some things private, just because they feel more powerful that way.

 

[SirSparky]

I feel more like myself online - but even here, I hold back. If I could live it all out without fear or limits, I think I would. But I’d still keep some things private, just because they feel more powerful that way.

Im the same. I wish i could live it all without fear and limits. Do you want to pm so we can talk about our fears and limits

 

[Primalex]

Just something I've been thinking about lately, and I'd love to hear how others feel.

- Where do you feel most like yourself — online or offline?
- And where do you feel safer being that version of you?

I think neither representation does me justice. And alienating random strangers on the Internet is of course safer than alienating your family, coworkers etc. Nothing special about that fact.

For those of you who keep your kink life separate from your day-to-day life, here's something I've been wondering.

If money wasn't a problem, if nothing was holding you back, and you could actually be with whoever your kinky heart wanted… would you change your life to live it out fully?

Or do you prefer keeping it a secret, something just for you and the few people who really get it?

I don't really get the question. None of my kinks require that random people know about it or a lot of money. Living a life with whoever my kinky heart would want would just mean living my normal life with a particular person with perfectly harmonized sexuality.

 

[fma20fma]

on line real time chat is difficult because of time zones. off line PM messages work better from my experience. if real time on line txt chat happens, the thrill is many fold. especially when it is romantic/kinky/vile/abusive and taboo or any other without any inhibitions and max thrill is the goal. much better if the guy chooses to show cam and get his high by the txt chat of the female partner.

 

[Hypocrites]

When all of a sudden the loneliness became overwhelming (long time illness with wife) and other family events revived long dormant... uh, "thoughts"; I took out an account here.

The feeling of connection, even over chat was what? Validating maybe? It was awesome to have talks like I used to here at home. I began to realize how many here were the same, just wanting human connection.

Then after 40 years I cheated. The connection was so deep and so fulfilling my guilt is not in that I did it, but how easily and completely happy I felt about it. I dusted the cobwebs off of my long forgotten dominant self and I too, have no "regerts".

 

[Easyvirtue]

Was definitely offline for a long time when my wife indulged me in my crossdressing fantasy for about 3 years
But after our child was born she insisted I stop! So my feeings don’t flip off like a switch so I’ve found wonderful accepting and people that even though I’m alone will indulge me my kinks!

 

[Tomburn]

Online is easier to share deep fantasies however I miss the connection in person when it’s all online

So I am quit new here I have a secret email address that after a erotic conversation I give out hoping they will email me and we can regularly communicate and swap pictures. Just seems more intimate to me. Is it wrong on here to give an email address?

 

[Hypocrites]

I'm not aware, as slightly less a noob, of any rules against it. For one thing, it'd be unenforceable and for another why would Lit care.

I use a gmail and when I am in talks with someone that we want to be independent of being on site at the same time, we go to Google Chat. Google's feeding everything to the NSA aside, the tools are valuable in safety. I can block a person and not even see their emails.

I do highly suggest that you spend some time in chat to get to know them first. Randomly handing it out on a single conversation will just lead to it becoming useless from all of the static.

 

[cascadiabound]

You are welcome to share any personal information with other people you want - just not on an open thread.

If you are concerned about privacy, there are end to end encrypted apps that are probably more secure than an email.

As always, divulge with care. People have been doxxed and worse after sharing contact info etc with a person they thought they could trust.

@Tomburn

 

[SirSparky]

Online is a lot safer .. especially if your doing taboo stuff

What taboo stuff have you been doing online. Pm me to discuss

 

[strawberryblondebeauty]

I would throw away my phone entirely and simply serve my queen (who I would have to find)

Love to see this

 

[Calistax]

Online, though I would like to blend it with my offline. I'm bolder online too, I look so unbothered offline, i have rbf.

 

[dz2681]

Online is a lot safer .. especially if your doing taboo stuff

Very curious about what taboo you’re into