Online vs Offline

[IronRose35]

I don't see, hear or speak well and have massive anxiety around people. I relate to the members of my own species irl if they're telling me what to do or I'm on my hands and knees with with my clothes off. I'm not equippied for conversation though, mentally or physically. My ears and vocal chords don't work right and my brain just isn't wired for it, so I do my chatting online, where I can reread and rewrite before I hit SEND and my dizzy head doesn't get in the way.

Thank you for sharing that. I think many people in these spaces relate more than they let on.

You're definitely not alone in finding real-life interactions overwhelming. Maybe that's why we're so drawn to platforms like Literotica, FetLife, and others.

 

[PleasureDaddy]

Sounds like you've been really lucky to find something that feels so fulfilling online, you know not everyone gets that. Have you ever thought about taking any of those relationships offline, or did you prefer to keep them in the virtual space?

I’ve met several partners. Unfortunately several if not most were long distance. And as adults, practical matters like kids and exs and houses and school districts start to get involved. It can get complicated. I’ve flown before to spend time with a lady friend. No regerts.

 

[IronRose35]

I’ve met several partners. Unfortunately several if not most were long distance. And as adults, practical matters like kids and exs and houses and school districts start to get involved. It can get complicated. I’ve flown before to spend time with a lady friend. No regerts.

You flew out for a lady and came back with zero regerts? Either she was amazing or you're very easy to please

Adult logistics really do be killing the vibe though.

 

[AprilTwenties]

Boo, my owner allows me to write up my shit so, I think, I have a certain freedom to correspond to people on here.

In the real world, most people know about my kink and being owned - hard not to when you hook for your owner - and, obviously, I love that...but writing/reacting and interacting with others on here is both fun and scary.

Opening myself up, y'know?

A x

 

[IARainman]

I would probably have to find her online. I did once and it was glorious

 

[IronRose35]

Boo, my owner allows me to write up my shit so, I think, I have a certain freedom to correspond to people on here.

In the real world, most people know about my kink and being owned - hard not to when you hook for your owner - and, obviously, I love that...but writing/reacting and interacting with others on here is both fun and scary.

Opening myself up, y'know?

A x

Good for you!
Does interacting online make facing your owner in real life feel even more intense? And what exactly are you afraid of?

 

[IronRose35]

I would probably have to find her online. I did once and it was glorious

Well I have to ask what made it so unforgettable even without the real-life physical side?

 

[Roleplay_Hugo_UK]

Just something I've been thinking about lately, and I'd love to hear how others feel.

- Where do you feel most like yourself — online or offline?
- And where do you feel safer being that version of you?

In everyday life, I spend a lot of energy hiding certain parts of myself. Things I'm into, things I fantasize about, the kinky parts. I keep them tucked away because not everyone needs to know. But even online, I find myself doing a different kind of hiding. I have to be careful about what I share, who I trust, and how much people can find out about me.

For those of you who keep your kink life separate from your day-to-day life, here's something I've been wondering.

If money wasn't a problem, if nothing was holding you back, and you could actually be with whoever your kinky heart wanted… would you change your life to live it out fully?

Or do you prefer keeping it a secret, something just for you and the few people who really get it?

Just curious what this looks like for you.

I’ve been thinking about this too and what I’m really grateful for is the way online lets me share anonymously and slowly build up a trusting relationship to the point where I felt absolutely sure I wanted this person irl and if she would just fly in to London and say the word we’d fuck each other’s brains out.

I’m not a big person for kink but I love feeling affirmed and encouraged by a chance to look through the window into women’s thoughts and desires.

I did start irl relationships based on the encouragement of this and porn although I have stopped using porn in the way I did then.

 

[AprilTwenties]

Good for you!
Does interacting online make facing your owner in real life feel even more intense? And what exactly are you afraid of?

I think it does, boo....'cos I'm told that my opinion on things is whatever her's is.....and I take that on freely. What she says goes, y'know?

But what if my writing displeases her? That's both scary and enlightening. What if it matches her feelings? That's even more thrilling.

A x

 

[IARainman]

Well I have to ask what made it so unforgettable even without the real-life physical side?

Oh, we found each other online, I served her in person twice. I've had other online only connections and they're largely task oriented, but also sexual in some way. Not interested in a dynamic without a sexual component

 

[Maryyy_A]

I feel more like myself online - but even here, I hold back. If I could live it all out without fear or limits, I think I would. But I’d still keep some things private, just because they feel more powerful that way.

 

[SirSparky]

I feel more like myself online - but even here, I hold back. If I could live it all out without fear or limits, I think I would. But I’d still keep some things private, just because they feel more powerful that way.

Im the same. I wish i could live it all without fear and limits. Do you want to pm so we can talk about our fears and limits

 

[Primalex]

Just something I've been thinking about lately, and I'd love to hear how others feel.

- Where do you feel most like yourself — online or offline?
- And where do you feel safer being that version of you?

I think neither representation does me justice. And alienating random strangers on the Internet is of course safer than alienating your family, coworkers etc. Nothing special about that fact.

For those of you who keep your kink life separate from your day-to-day life, here's something I've been wondering.

If money wasn't a problem, if nothing was holding you back, and you could actually be with whoever your kinky heart wanted… would you change your life to live it out fully?

Or do you prefer keeping it a secret, something just for you and the few people who really get it?

I don't really get the question. None of my kinks require that random people know about it or a lot of money. Living a life with whoever my kinky heart would want would just mean living my normal life with a particular person with perfectly harmonized sexuality.