Online to Real Life

[CBHunter]

In the past eight years or so, I've met seven women online with whom I ended up having at least one sexual encounter in real life. One was from a site called The Flirting Shack, three from AdultFriendFinder, one from Fetlife/XHamster (she happened to be on both sites at the same time), one from here, and one from Craigslist. None of these involved any exchange of money, and the one from CL is ongoing. The women ranged in age from early thirties to mid sixties, and we got together in a variety of circumstances and settings.

I'm just curious about other peoples' experiences along those lines. What are your stories - success or horror - about translating online relationships to real-life ones with a sexual aspect? Feel free to ask for clarification or elaboration on my experiences as well...if you so wish.

 

[littlecordelera]

I tried online dating services years ago, including Ashley Madison, AFF, and some others. However, as a woman. I would get 1,000 messages of which only a handful came anywhere close to being the kind of person in which I had expressed an interest. Some guys outright lied, even going so far as to use fake pictures on their profiles. I did find a few good matches, but it took so much work I decided it wasn't worth it.

In the meantime, we joined the swing community, and meeting compatible people at clubs and parties is WAY easier than anything online. In fact, I have better luck meeting compatible people at restaurant bars than I ever did online.

As a result, I'll never use online dating again. It's just not worth the trouble.

 

[Melancholy_Baby]

I tried online dating services years ago, including Ashley Madison, AFF, and some others. However, as a woman. I would get 1,000 messages of which only a handful came anywhere close to being the kind of person in which I had expressed an interest. Some guys outright lied, even going so far as to use fake pictures on their profiles. I did find a few good matches, but it took so much work I decided it wasn't worth it.

In the meantime, we joined the swing community, and meeting compatible people at clubs and parties is WAY easier than anything online. In fact, I have better luck meeting compatible people at restaurant bars than I ever did online.

As a result, I'll never use online dating again. It's just not worth the trouble.

The lying is a problem, I agree. It's hard to weed out the bad ones, but it can be worth the trouble. It's the married ones who LIE that make it difficult.

 

[bone251]

I tried online dating services years ago, including Ashley Madison, AFF, and some others. However, as a woman. I would get 1,000 messages of which only a handful came anywhere close to being the kind of person in which I had expressed an interest. Some guys outright lied, even going so far as to use fake pictures on their profiles. I did find a few good matches, but it took so much work I decided it wasn't worth it.

In the meantime, we joined the swing community, and meeting compatible people at clubs and parties is WAY easier than anything online. In fact, I have better luck meeting compatible people at restaurant bars than I ever did online.

As a result, I'll never use online dating again. It's just not worth the trouble.

Ashley Madison seemed loaded with fake people and then the people there were fake.
Seeking Arrangements was nice for me. There were mostly young girls doing the sugar daddy thing with guy eating it up but I found several ladies with in 10 years of my age (at the time 53ish) that wanted a FWB. One girl that looked 50 that was 64 I meet was a lot of fun. Several 40-55 single ladies with kids that only wanted FWB when the kids were at the X's or something. The best part was the BSers could not keep up and were easily lost.

 

[Clem99]

I have never been good trying to meet partners in bars/clubs etc. but am much better with the written word. As a result, Craigslist has been my method of choice. I find that posting a detailed description of who I am and what I am looking for to be best. No ambiguity, you either like what you read or not.

I do get a fair number of responses - anything one sentence or less is not worth my time. I asked them to tell me about themselves and, if all the effort they put in is four words, they are clearly not what I want. I intentionally carry on a discussion, asking questions over several emails. If they can't respond thoughtfully with answers I like, good bye.

It does take some work to sift through the crap but, usually I find one good one that makes it worthwhile. Craigslist has yielded two fun evenings so far, haven't really tried any others.

 

[MrsKingky]

I've only met one so far but we have a fantastic connection and it's always been very easy between us. We still meet now and we emotionally support eachother, we've become very close friends.

I often get sent dick pics with messages of "so when are we going to meet" - sigh..

 

[CBHunter]

So far, the responses have pretty much confirmed what I've felt for quite some time. Finding sexual partners online is a lot like prospecting for gold. You have to be able to recognize what your looking for and you have to have the patience and perseverance to dig through a lot of dirt in order to find the few nuggets you really want.

 

[CBHunter]

Sounds like you've had some experience on both sides of the coin.

The lying is a problem, I agree. It's hard to weed out the bad ones, but it can be worth the trouble. It's the married ones who LIE that make it difficult.