online love - possible or not

[sexy-girl]

ive noticed on here how relationships have been formed from people that have met on here ... i think its amazing ... but is it really possible to say you love someone before you've met them


i guess ive seen both sides of the fence in that i met my girlfriend for real but the day after she had told me she loved me and we had our first physical love ... she was gone ... so we stayed in touch via internet and phones ... she visited lots too sometimes twice in a month so we also had real contact


i will agree that you can get a powerful closeness by talking to someone on the internet but with lisa it felt close and special because i had already met her and been pysical with her ... i guess if im honest i dont think you could have real love just by chatting with someone without ever being with them for real


anyway please discuss and i mean no offense if you do have an online only realationship ... and im willing to change my mind

 

[OUTSIDER]

online love - possible or not


In a word "yes" it happens every day.

 

[sexy-girl]

perhaps im going to make people angry with me but i think when you are chatting with someone online theres alot of gaps and you fill in the gaps that are missing yourself ... so you end up making the person be something she/he is not ... someone that you can "love"


i think meeting someone online can be a stepping stone before meeting them and then falling in love then but i dont think you can say you love someone until you've met them for real ... just my opinion

 

[Shy Tall Guy]

Most everything is possible, but for myself I think I would need to meet the person first. I could certainly be strongly attracted to a person, and form a freindship, but I would want to meet and spend some time with them. People can be quite different in person than online, or on the telephone.

STG

 

[Orlanth]

Well I was in love with a woman online. It didn't turn out, she was going to use me to get into the country, by marrying me, then she would live in Australia. Any way, she didn't loveme, I loved her. She was offline alot, only saw her for about 5 mins a day, if I was lucky. I know, the time zones, but for the first couple months she was online almost all the time. So that reltionship ended, I broke it off.
You can make it out that you a whole diffrent person to that you are in real life. You will only know the thing that the other person wants yoiu to know.
Also, nothing worse then meeting a man or womaan over the internet, leaving your wife/husband and your kids and flying accross the planet.... And have your online lover say "You're not what I wanted, go back" And that happens.

But, I also believe you can find love on the Internet, for exampe: look at Siren and woofy. They are happly in lov e and married. Also I, have foundsd love over the internet, and we have meet in real life.... So to answer your question sexy-girl: yes it can happen, it is very rare to find real love over the internet, but it is possable.

 

[lobito]

depends on a persons mind set I suppose.

I personally think it's possible, BUT, (there's always a but, isn't there?) for me it would have to be someone I've personally met, before I can say truthfully, "I LOVE YOU". Love & lust are certainly two different things...

 

[*bratcat*]

yes, sg...

 

[Aussie Worm]

Online love is very possible, but I don't think it gets real until you meet the person.

I was lucky that the person I met online was exactly who she said she was, flaws and all.

 

[Chuckus]

I would say anything is possible. Never say Never. You never ever know what is possible until you try or let it happen.

 

[sexy-girl]

i guess i believe love is an over used word

having said that like you say im sure when you meet online and feel something for someone its very possible to fall in love with them then

 

[Orlanth]

With me, I look for personalty and the mind over looks. If I am going to spend the rest of my life, or even part of it with some one, I want to get along with that person, and so forth... With me, looks aren't important.

 

[Desert Amazon]

 

[PacificBlue]

I'd have to say it is possible just for the fact that it's happened before and is likely to happen again. HOWEVER, (notice I didn't say but...*grin*) I think it's a risky enterprise. There are gaps with people you only know on the phone or online and your mind does tend to fill in the holes. Also...cybering with someone or having phonesex with someone leads to all sorts of unrealistic expectations when you finally do meet in person.

~PacificBlue~

 

[LadyDarkFire]

Definately possible. Happened to me.

 

[bluntforcemama]

The word "love" is overused. You might become insanely attracted to someone online, lusting after them, maybe you DO fall in love with them, but there can be a great difference between written words, and actions. So it might be possible, it might not. It really depends on the person, the mood, etc.

 

[shadowsource]

I know you all love me -

And I'm soooooo grateful. Anything is possible in electronic Amerika!

 

[Desert Amazon]

Re: I know you all love me -

 

[Juspar Emvan]

I agree with Desert Amazon, mostly. If there are other words for the degress/types of love, please share them. I want to use them.

I found a friend on-line, I found more when we met. And it has grown every day since.

 

[beckbabe]

I read this thread and my first reaction was to run. I know online love is popular, but to me it's very sad. Sexygirl, you ain't seen nothing yet if you haven't been to a "cyber wedding" of two people who've never met. Perhaps they're even really married to other people in real life, but that just doesn't seem to matter...their "soul mate" is online.

As far as it turning into a real life love affair, it's rare. More often it just turns into an affair. Most online love seems to be a cover for adultery. "I love you when you get me off."

"Meeting" someone online is like meeting them from behind a brick wall and tossing notes over. How can you truly know someone that way?

 

[sexy-girl]

Re: Re: I know you all love me -

Okay, it's a four letter word that starts with an "L" but it ain't love.

i thought loath was a five letter word ... hehe just kidding im so mean

 

[Desert Amazon]

 

[Dillinger]

Yes... I do believe its possible.

This is a true event - http://soiuser.hyperchat.com/aleister/Wedding.htm

and still how I think about things. (btw - in reading it, if you do, I'm Aleister)

 

[Simply Me]

Yes I believe love online is possible. I think that for it to be a real, lasting love, however, it takes a total honesty between the two people...what you look like, your personality, your moods, your beliefs etc. Only then can you begin to know the person... who they really are...and these are the things you fall in love with. I think there will always be some doubts though, about whether the other person is really who they seem to be...if who you fell in love with really exists, or is just an "ideal persona" projected by someone covering up their flaws. Eventually, there comes a time where you have to meet in person, to see if the chemistry that you feel online exists offline as well. Dragon and I were lucky, in that what we felt on here was just as real when we finally met in person. Hopefully, the worst that can happen, is that you get to meet your best friend, even if love doesn't happen for you.

 

[Nathon_88]

It's possible.

Saying that, it's hard to do. I've had one real long term relationship, and gotten dumped for a closer person.

Oh well. Life goes on, and as a friend constatly reminds me....

"It's darkest just before the sun rises."

 

[Guest]

Yes-possible!

I think online love is possible. I think relationships can be formed and sustained online.
Why do I think so? I met my husband in 1997 in a chat room. We continued chatting and emailing for a few months, and soon phone calls entered into the relationship. After 3 months, we met and spent the best week (to this day) of our lives. We lived over 400 miles apart and did the long distance thing for another 3 months before I moved to be with him. We married. I, truly, think that meeting online gave us such a solid foundation. Our relationship was based on hours of communication for months. It sped up the process, granted. We rushed a bit, but I have no regrets. He is my best friend and I did love him, before I met him. We did not have any idea of the other's appearance, but we were so pleasantly surprised when the attraction was present.
Hrm. Enough rambling for now.