One dom with two subs

[SubmissiveDove5]

I was talking to Master online tonight and he suddenly asked me if I had read any stories about masters having two subs. I told him I had and he immediately asked me what I thought about it. I told him that I had a jealous side, but if it was something he wanted, I would accept it. He told me that she would be my best friend and share in the stressers of the day. I thought about it for a while, and I realized that it would be okay because of my need to make him happy. There are probably some things I can't do because of my disabilities. I want to do everything I can to please him, and if that includes having a second submissive, then I guess that's how it'll be. At the same time, I have a lot of feelings that controdict that statement. I don't know what to do! Will he still love me as much as he did if there's me and another woman? Who gets more attention, me, her or equal time for both of us? I'm feeling very unstable at the moment. Then he asked me what were good reasons to do this. I couldn't think of any at first. Then I sent him an email telling him that she could do the things I couldn't do so he would feel fullfilled. I'm just wondering if anyone has any other thoughts as to why this would be a good thing?

 

[NCShin]

it's late and i'm tired but i'll have a go.

To really answer this I think we'd need to know more about the relationship. Do you live with him? I gather not if you had to email him. Would she live with him? Would you both at some point?

If neither are living with him, then I think it might be a bit easier on you. You didn't say what your disability was, so it is hard to give an opinion based on that.

Speaking for myself only, I wouldn't want two submissives at the same time, unless it was a scene in itself. Depending on you, as the submissive, I might not want another submissive to fill in for things that you couldn't do. For one, it might make you feel second rate. Or, it may make her feel as though she's only there to do things you are unable to do.

I'd have to think that part of his thinking is to have the two of you with each other as well as with him. So if you like women, then maybe you'll enjoy it. Meet her, who knows, maybe you'll hit it off and love being able to submit with a friend.

 

[alonelygal]

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[SwtSouthrnSub]

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[catalina_francisco]

It sounds wonderful to say we want only that which fulfils our Dominants, with no thought or consideration as to how it will affect us ourselves....sometimes it works, sometimes it is idealistic, and sometimes it destroys someone within the arrangement. My only advice would be to read the threads, think carefully and realistically about everything it would mean, maybe talk to some who have had both positive and negative experiences, be honest with you and him, and don't feel it is your duty to agree to something if you honestly feel it will destroy you, unless you have made TPE agreement where you no longer have choice....though as he has asked you, I take it you haven't. It is a common fantasy of many Domionants, but from what I hear, it is the rare one who can make it work for all involved, and help it exist in an equal and caring atmosphere. The average relationship takes a lot of work, a poly one takes 10 times more. Hope it all works out well for you.

Catalina

 

[SubmissiveDove5]

My disabilities are not too major. I am blind and in a wheelchair. I'm not paralyzedhowever, I just have limited mobility. I told Master this when we first started conversing online, and he seemed to not have any problems with it. I would like to think he was thinking of me when he brought it up, but part of me started thinking that he was only thinking of himself. In one wway, I felt as though I may not be enough for him because of my possible inabilities, but if I've leanred anything, it would be that unselfishness is a large part of this lifestyle. I don't know if she would be living with us at some point. I have a feeling she would because Master said that she would help me with daily stressers. Never-the-less, it did make me feel like I may have some inadequacies.

 

[dragonlace]

I am in a poly relationship and at times it can be difficult but so rewarding at other times. The only bit of information that i can offer is to be open and honest and always communicate. There are times when its really really hard but through open and honest communication we have gotten through it. Its also really nice to have someone who understands exactly and that i can talk to in my sister sub. Before you go jumping into it i would be sure to talk about all the possibilities and any fears or hopes you have, that will also help.