On varying mileage

[SpectreT]

Okay, NOW I'm embarrassed.......

I didn't leave any of my quirks or fantasies in hiding from you Lit folks.

Everyone knows I like wearing certain articles of feminine attire (stockings, heels, long gloves; heck, I'd even like to try make-up, but my vanity and beard would make that..... ridiculous)

Everyone knows I've got no experience with, but am powerfully drawn to, canes and enemas.

Everyone knows I'm absolutely fascinated with the idea of "giving my ass" to a woman, especially since I've tried it twice and loved it both times.

All my embarrassing submissive-side fantasies are already out there. My domly-side fantasies..... well, they're pretty basic actually. Plain old B&D. Think "Stupid Pet Tricks" with bondage. Little games and tasks for my bound partner, and treats for getting it right, "corrections" for screwing up, is one. I'm something of a role-player type, so I'm used to concocting fantasies on the fly. makes it tough to have any deep, dark, hidden embarrasing fantasies.

 

[Quint]

Aha! Got one for you Quint. It's my particular quirk. I've always found magic and magicians particularly erotic (okay *excepting David Copperfield*)

The parts that always turned me on -- where the women were tied up, bound in boxes -- and then, well what ever nefarious deeds were perpetrated upon them -- were er, well, perpetrated upon them. Knives thrust into them, etc.

Now the derivation of how I realized this -- that info is saved the man who earns the privilege.

But I would think the man that goes for a bit of role play with me in this direction -- will be in for a night of passion he didn't know existed.

Perse

Perse, I totally understand this! (Incidentally, Hunny looks almost eerily like David Blaine. Purrr.) The edge of mystery, fear, danger....what's there not to fetishize? Plus the magicians are always in SUCH control of the situation...very calm and collected and self-assured. Very Domly qualities.

I'd be extremely interested to see how this played out in r/l for you! o)

 

[Quint]

Re: Re: On varying mileage

Quint, I understand how you feel. I believe I am the only man here who has ever posted about being submissive to other men. Yes, sometimes it feels like I'm hanging off a ledge all alone, but the forum has always responded with support.
I don't think you are as alone in your feelings about humiliation as you think you are. You are just more forthright about it then some other people are comfortable being.
It is something I find powerfully erotic myself, in the right circumstances, as either a Dom or sub.

I have also noticed that your perfect switchiness is pretty unique here, and I've always delighted in reading about it from you. You're actually introducing me to a very new kink in my life, which would of course only play out in erotic fiction....but hey, it's a fun new category for me to attempt!

Thank you for your words of reassurance. I feel like I'm in a support group. "Yes, my pseudonym is Quint, and I'm a humiliation slut." "Hi, Quint." o) I'm glad I started this thread, because it gave my hesitant side a solid burst of logic: I'm far and away not the only person on this forum with very specific and interesting desires. I guess that's why we're called deviants, yes?

 

[WillowPuss]

Mine ... it's pretty mainstream BDSM ...

bound, gagged and fisted
bound, gagged and flogged
bound, gagged and ...

well, you get the picture.


I admire all those who can do the humiliation bit. I can't

 

[Quint]

Re: Okay, NOW I'm embarrassed.......

My domly-side fantasies..... well, they're pretty basic actually. Plain old B&D. Think "Stupid Pet Tricks" with bondage. Little games and tasks for my bound partner, and treats for getting it right, "corrections" for screwing up, is one. I'm something of a role-player type, so I'm used to concocting fantasies on the fly. makes it tough to have any deep, dark, hidden embarrasing fantasies.

Now, when you're playing "Stupid Pet Tricks" with your partner, Spectre, do you usually hope they do well on the tasks you set them, or do you make the tasks almost impossible so you get to "correct" them? I really didn't know much about your kinks before this thread, and that includes your tendencies towards sadism, if such tendencies exist. Pardon the gentle probing...it doesn't hurt so much if you relax---oops! OOC! o)

I totally dig the roleplaying. Something I want to work much more with, and I too enjoy the improv style. Harder but much more genuine. Fun stuff.

 

[Quint]

Mine ... it's pretty mainstream BDSM ...

bound, gagged and fisted
bound, gagged and flogged
bound, gagged and ...

well, you get the picture.


I admire all those who can do the humiliation bit. I can't

I admire those who can push their pain limits to include fisting, Willow! I can't imagine the time and trust that has to go into that, and as such, fisting is pushing Hard Limit right now. It's one of the few that I believe I COULD bump down from hard limit, but right now? Certainly not. Many kudos to you who can.

Thank you for joining us and sharing your lusts. B&G sounds pretty damn good right now, actually...

 

[Persephone36]

Perse, I totally understand this! (Incidentally, Hunny looks almost eerily like David Blaine. Purrr.) The edge of mystery, fear, danger....what's there not to fetishize? Plus the magicians are always in SUCH control of the situation...very calm and collected and self-assured. Very Domly qualities.

I'd be extremely interested to see how this played out in r/l for you! o)

I wish it *would* play out in r/l for me. Not yet, maybe not for a long, long time.

I think part of it is not only the Dom qualities of the magician -- it's the ritualized attire. The fact that it's in front of an audience(exhibitionist side of me -- also I studied acting for 12 years, so the idea of being on stage, unprotected -- the audience blacked out because of the lights -- and the lights themselves revealing everything -- it's the total in being "exposed") And I think the traditional part of the female assistant being "hypnotized" -- so her will, her natural defenses are taken away. And yet -- she volunteers to be the assistant -- it's her job -- so in essence -- she *is* willing. She consents to what is going to be done to her -- even if she is under hypnosis (supposedly -- all part of the "act") Substitute "role play" for "act" and I think we got ourselves a winner, lol.

Wow, I just stripped the layers on that one! I think there are probably even more for me.

It's funny I admitted it here. I've never told anyone (er, except my therapist) about it. As much as I've wanted to -- it's sort of my most closeted fantasy. And I don't think I've ever really completely thought out why.

Wonder if the person I'd most like to see this will ever read it. Hmmm.

Wonder if *he* would "glare balefully" at me if I asked, lol.

Perse

 

[SpectreT]

Re: Re: Okay, NOW I'm embarrassed.......

Now, when you're playing "Stupid Pet Tricks" with your partner, Spectre, do you usually hope they do well on the tasks you set them, or do you make the tasks almost impossible so you get to "correct" them? I really didn't know much about your kinks before this thread, and that includes your tendencies towards sadism, if such tendencies exist. Pardon the gentle probing...it doesn't hurt so much if you relax---oops! OOC! o)

I totally dig the roleplaying. Something I want to work much more with, and I too enjoy the improv style. Harder but much more genuine. Fun stuff.

Tough to answer your question, especially since I'm in the middle (Hopefully nearer the end) of a LONG dry spell when it comes to actually playing with someone else, but the few chances I have had to play, it's usually been a build-up from easy to very unlikely tasks; we both know the outcome that way.

 

[James Blandings]

Re: Re: Re: On varying mileage

I have also noticed that your perfect switchiness is pretty unique here, and I've always delighted in reading about it from you. You're actually introducing me to a very new kink in my life, which would of course only play out in erotic fiction....but hey, it's a fun new category for me to attempt!

Thank you for your words of reassurance. I feel like I'm in a support group. "Yes, my pseudonym is Quint, and I'm a humiliation slut." "Hi, Quint." o) I'm glad I started this thread, because it gave my hesitant side a solid burst of logic: I'm far and away not the only person on this forum with very specific and interesting desires. I guess that's why we're called deviants, yes?

Thank you Quint. As I said just a little while ago in another thread, it is a pleasure to share in a small way in your journey.

 

[cymbidia]

I have to add to my list

Here's another of my out-of-the-mainstream sexual interests.

From Cirrus' Sex toys must be designed by men with penis envy, page 2, http://www.literotica.com/forum/showthread.php?postid=2663526#post2663526

Some of us like to see how much we can take. We need and crave and want and seek the burn, the stretch, the hot red searing pain/pleasure of being stretched open in a way that no real cock (at least not too many) could ever do.

We like big things.

Vaginas shrink. Kegels keep a vagina small and tight and in shape.

Meanwhile, in between sets of kegels, we sometimes feel our partners nudging our legs open and telling us to relax, to breathe, as the thing, the big gigantic thing, begins to open us, to fill us, to make us scream with red sensation.

"We're the ones who buy those penis-like monstrosities," she confesses cheerfully, "and there are more of us around then you might suspect."

I knew i'd forgotten one or two or so when i did my first posting tothis thread.

 

[Quint]

Cym, I used to think I was one of those women. I mean, all the fantasies pointed that way...being taken repeatedly by unrealistically well-hung men (or centaurs. But you get the idea). However, I've reevaluated my position on that just about every time I have sex. Average-sized dicks stretch. Repeated sex is painful. At the rate of one-fantastic-weekend-per-X-months that I'm going, there is no way I could ever become "used" to sex, let alone prepared to push myself into Big Fuckin Insertion mode.

Bloody LDR. o)

 

[monster666]

Oh boy, does this remind me of a story.

I was with a friend and his new girlfriend at a comedy club in Glastonbury that has since shut down, which doesn't really matter for the purposes of the story. Suffice it to say we were at a comedy club.

The headlining comedian was a comic magician. About five minutes into his act, he extracted a volunteer from the audience. Naturally, there was a man reluctantly giving up his beautiful date for the duration of the act, a woman about 25 years old with a pretty spectacular shape wearing a beige silk shirt and a thin cotton pair of pants and very obviously not wearing underwear or a bra. Well, it wasn't too obvious until she stepped into the spotlight and then - OMG - she may as well have be nude from the bottom of her belt down. She wasn't shaven clean, but you could see that she was very neatly trimmed and could count each short hair she left behind with no eyestrain whatsoever. She had everyone's attention, men and women alike.

Anyway, the comic was giving her instructions, but she was distracted, staring at the trunk full of props he kept behind him and not paying him any attention. But once he was aware that he'd lost her attention, he asked her if something was wrong. She answered, "Oh, I am sorry. I was looking at your box."

To which I blurted out loud enough for the whole establishment to hear "Oh, what a cooincidence!"

The whole place burst into laughter for what seemed like an eternity, and in the end, I don't know who was more embarrassed, her or myself.

Aha! Got one for you Quint. It's my particular quirk. I've always found magic and magicians particularly erotic (okay *excepting David Copperfield*)

The parts that always turned me on -- where the women were tied up, bound in boxes -- and then, well what ever nefarious deeds were perpetrated upon them -- were er, well, perpetrated upon them. Knives thrust into them, etc.

 

[Quint]

She answered, "Oh, I am sorry. I was looking at your box."

To which I blurted out loud enough for the whole establishment to hear "Oh, what a cooincidence!"

Booo! Hiss!




Encore! Encore!

 

[Parklife]

hey quint.. I'll come out and say that although it's difficult for me to come out and talk about and/or admit to, I have strong humiliation tendencies that have yet to be even explored as I haven't been able to bring them up.

I tend to not be into physical pain so perhaps this is my minds way of making up for it....

Just wanted to add my bit and let you know there's one more out there..

Park~

 

[Quint]

I understand totally, Park. My masochism, although definitely there (as proven by two weekends ago), is still in its cocoon. I can see this as a way of compensating for my low pain tolerance.

So, two nights ago, for no apparent reason, I had a watersports dream. The thing is, whenever I dream about something (and it's so often about something I'd never really thought of before!), I'm rather obsessed with the thought for awhile. So I brought the topic up to T. Or tried. I've found something that genuinely DOES embarrass me. Just admitting that I'm somewhat interested in it makes me cringe and get very quiet and evasive, even to T, who I SHOULD be able to trust my self-esteem with, considering I trust him with my life. I've moved past this edgy embarrassment in most of my kinks, so this is really throwing me.

And therein lies the appeal.

I love the notion that just making me talk about watersports will get me squirming on the border of serious humiliation. That's powerful stuff right there. It almost renders the actual action superfluous! o)

 

[Parklife]

"And therein lies the appeal.

I love the notion that just making me talk about watersports will get me squirming on the border of serious humiliation. That's powerful stuff right there. It almost renders the actual action superfluous! o)"


wow... I never really made that connection but now that I read your response and what you typed, it's like something clicks in my head and I scream "Exactly!!!"

that is the appeal... the pulling it out of me... the drawing out of those desires I don't quite feel comfortable about yet I of course somewhere inside me want to admit and free myself of...

such a powerful effect...

Thanks Quint... i feel like i've gain some deeper understanding of why I am the way I am..




Park~

 

[Persephone36]

She answered, "Oh, I am sorry. I was looking at your box."

To which I blurted out loud enough for the whole establishment to hear "Oh, what a cooincidence!"

The whole place burst into laughter for what seemed like an eternity, and in the end, I don't know who was more embarrassed, her or myself.

ROTFLOL!

I'm glad I inspired you to tell that story!

Nice to meet you Monster, btw, I've heard so many great things about you.

I'm Persephone -- please call me Perse.

(Or "hey you" works sometimes too.)

P.

 

[artful]

M666

ROTFLOL!

I'm glad I inspired you to tell that story!

Nice to meet you Monster, btw, I've heard so many great things about you.

I'm Persephone -- please call me Perse.

(Or "hey you" works sometimes too.)

P.

"Yeah,...just don't call her *toast* Monster,...the word is gonna hang with her for quite some time."